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By *mmaleiaWoman 23 weeks ago
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"A lady can cum several times.. where as I can usually manage ony 2 times in a session suits allways good to let a lady cum first
Can all women really cum several times?"
I have done, but it rarely happens |
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Because my young Sirrah, it is the height of chivalry and devilish gentlemanship when it comes/cums to the prioritisation of the opposite sex...in the bedchamber.
In the game of love and conquest coming last is every lothario's desire.
We love to please and we are pleased to love. |
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"Because my young Sirrah, it is the height of chivalry and devilish gentlemanship when it comes/cums to the prioritisation of the opposite sex...in the bedchamber.
In the game of love and conquest coming last is every lothario's desire.
We love to please and we are pleased to love. "
I prefer a grand finale with Ride of the Valkyries at full volume.
There's nothing like the smell of victory first thing in the morning. |
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"Because my young Sirrah, it is the height of chivalry and devilish gentlemanship when it comes/cums to the prioritisation of the opposite sex...in the bedchamber.
In the game of love and conquest coming last is every lothario's desire.
We love to please and we are pleased to love.
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I prefer a grand finale with Ride of the Valkyries at full volume.
There's nothing like the smell of victory first thing in the morning."
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How could I forget the 'Valkyries? Thank you my dear friend. xx |
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I often see posts/bios, written by men that say the woman always cums first and her pleasure is the priority.
Why?"
Because they expect them to stand more of a chance with the women if they sounded selfish?? Maybe…..  |
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"Because my young Sirrah, it is the height of chivalry and devilish gentlemanship when it comes/cums to the prioritisation of the opposite sex...in the bedchamber.
In the game of love and conquest coming last is every lothario's desire.
We love to please and we are pleased to love.
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I prefer a grand finale with Ride of the Valkyries at full volume.
There's nothing like the smell of victory first thing in the morning.
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How could I forget the 'Valkyries? Thank you my dear friend. xx"
The Valkyrie would insist on cumming first, after all they’ve got a ride to be getting on with.
I goddamn love the smell of napalm in the morning. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well."
They normally fall asleep during. |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during. "
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It puts me off, many women struggle to orgasm it's fact, so does that mean they'll just keep going until the end of time? Sometimes it's nice to finish second and bask in the afternoon cum tiredness without having to carry on performing.
You guys cum and it's done, we cum and you want more and more, it can be nice to lay back and relax after a good orgasm.
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed"
That’s what I poke them in the back with. They think it’s my cock  |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed"
Ooh that's new I haven't tried that is it good? |
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"Because my young Sirrah, it is the height of chivalry and devilish gentlemanship when it comes/cums to the prioritisation of the opposite sex...in the bedchamber.
In the game of love and conquest coming last is every lothario's desire.
We love to please and we are pleased to love.
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I prefer a grand finale with Ride of the Valkyries at full volume.
There's nothing like the smell of victory first thing in the morning.
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How could I forget the 'Valkyries? Thank you my dear friend. xx
The Valkyrie would insist on cumming first, after all they’ve got a ride to be getting on with.
I goddamn love the smell of napalm in the morning. "
It's so true and it's important to grease that pole no one needs friction burns.
Kudos for getting the reference!  |
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I once had a partner that would peak in a climax and just stay there. We never found an end to it. I could just wear myself out. I was a bit younger (alot younger) and I have to say I felt a bit unmanned that I couldn't get her over the edge.
So maybe it's not all bravado? Is it possible there's something there in notions of masculinity and achievement. |
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I like it when she cums first (and repeatedly) because I love the way a lady tightens as she has an orgasm. I find that a real turn on and several of those is much better than me cumming and then having to wait a while to recharge. |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed
That’s what I poke them in the back with. They think it’s my cock "
Because your sex is electric? |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed
Ooh that's new I haven't tried that is it good? "
Try it and see  |
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"I like it when she cums first (and repeatedly) because I love the way a lady tightens as she has an orgasm. I find that a real turn on and several of those is much better than me cumming and then having to wait a while to recharge."
Is there nothing else to do in the dwell time? |
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there..."
Sometimes, I feel this pressure for me to orgasm first makes it counterintuitive to orgasm full stop. Which can take the fun out of sex itself. |
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"I like it when she cums first (and repeatedly) because I love the way a lady tightens as she has an orgasm. I find that a real turn on and several of those is much better than me cumming and then having to wait a while to recharge.
Is there nothing else to do in the dwell time?"
Why put in unneeded dwell time if it is not the thing that really turns me on? |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Once I cum I just want to relax, think it's an evolutionary thing, I always please the woman first, then get my way with her after wards, then we can relax together and cuddle |
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"Women have multiple orgasms often in quick succession , I have 1-3 the whole night so I’m hanging on to it as long as possible 
I cannot remember the last time I came first."
Some women* |
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Because they think it's the right thing to say.
Women are individuals as are men. Mutual pleasure is the aim however that looks.
Anyone who is hell bent on making me cum first will be disappointed. If a guy insists that's what he wants surely that's for his pleasure not mine |
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"Once I cum I just want to relax, think it's an evolutionary thing, I always please the woman first, then get my way with her after wards, then we can relax together and cuddle "
We like to relax after cumming too. |
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"Women have multiple orgasms often in quick succession , I have 1-3 the whole night so I’m hanging on to it as long as possible
I cannot remember the last time I came first."
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...I shall remind you: it was last year, during that Charity Wankathon. |
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"Women have multiple orgasms often in quick succession , I have 1-3 the whole night so I’m hanging on to it as long as possible
I cannot remember the last time I came first.
Some women* "
What I mean is the biology is clearly different. It’s very very for a guy to just carry on having sex after has climaxed and have more orgasms.
Sure there are women don’t do this, just like there are women who never or very rarely orgasm through sex & guys who find it very difficult to reach orgasm through oral or penetration even, but they are exceptions. On the whole women have several orgasms in one session, and guys have only one. |
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It's a very outdated view, and some women probably fake a orgasm just to make the man feel better as for some reason some men see it as a failure if they fail to make her cum.
It's somehow by some men seen as a badge of honour and the more times he can make her cum the bigger the badge.
I've had the most incredible sex without Cumming and it's never made me feel like the last hour or 2 was a complete waste of my time.
All women are different,
Some women can only cum once as they just get to sensitive while overs can cum multiple times some women need cliforis stimulation others don't.
I enjoy myself just as much watching the man cum he don't have to think he's less than because I don't cum.
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They think by saying that it’s going to guarantee them unlimited access to all the vag!
Given that a lot of women (myself included) struggle to cum the first time and even more so when there’s pressure added, the statement is pretty useless. |
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"They think by saying that it’s going to guarantee them unlimited access to all the vag!
Given that a lot of women (myself included) struggle to cum the first time and even more so when there’s pressure added, the statement is pretty useless. "
YEY!!! YOUR BACK!!! |
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"They think by saying that it’s going to guarantee them unlimited access to all the vag!
Given that a lot of women (myself included) struggle to cum the first time and even more so when there’s pressure added, the statement is pretty useless.
YEY!!! YOUR BACK!!!"
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"They think by saying that it’s going to guarantee them unlimited access to all the vag!
Given that a lot of women (myself included) struggle to cum the first time and even more so when there’s pressure added, the statement is pretty useless.
YEY!!! YOUR BACK!!!"
For now! |
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"They think by saying that it’s going to guarantee them unlimited access to all the vag!
Given that a lot of women (myself included) struggle to cum the first time and even more so when there’s pressure added, the statement is pretty useless.
YEY!!! YOUR BACK!!!
For now! "
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed
Ooh that's new I haven't tried that is it good?
Try it and see "
Dearest Em, if you were any more stimulating I fear the question of who came first could be blown clear out of the window. |
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By *lueLotusWoman 23 weeks ago
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"I once had a partner that would peak in a climax and just stay there. We never found an end to it. I could just wear myself out. I was a bit younger (alot younger) and I have to say I felt a bit unmanned that I couldn't get her over the edge.
So maybe it's not all bravado? Is it possible there's something there in notions of masculinity and achievement."
This reminds me of a Margaret cho sketch about lesbians having to call it. |
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By *eliWoman 23 weeks ago
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I often see posts/bios, written by men that say the woman always cums first and her pleasure is the priority.
Why?"
Because it sounds nice doesn't it? Makes a woman think he won't shoot and leave, or that's what they think.
It's ridiculously easy for me to come many, many times so I don't think it's that reassuring really. Nor impressive if someone can make me come a few times before they decide that's their cue to come - you've not suddenly unlocked some hidden orgasms in me, I've been doing that for many years.
There's far too much emphasis on orgasms, on saying the right thing. Don't be a dick before, during or after. That's all I want. |
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By *essTTWoman 23 weeks ago
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They think it's what women want to hear. It's up there with the men who think telling a woman they will make them squirt is enticing.
When in reality not all women can orgasm and not all women can squirt, so when men write things like that it can make some women feel intimidated as they think they are expected to have multiple orgasms while squirting like a garden hose |
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I often see posts/bios, written by men that say the woman always cums first and her pleasure is the priority.
Why?
Because it sounds nice doesn't it? Makes a woman think he won't shoot and leave, or that's what they think.
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It always reads as a little obsequious to me. |
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By *og-ManMan 23 weeks ago
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For me my partner is very orgasmic and so orgasms a few times well before any penetrative sex anyway
Me... fall asleep within mins of my first orgasm but wake up refreshed and ready to go again anyway so its better I cum second |
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By *lueLotusWoman 23 weeks ago
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I'm multi orgasmic but for me it's like loads of little earthquakes sometimes I don't even bother mentioning it as I'm just enjoying the feels but if a guy is making it his goal to make me cum that's pressure I don't want and can be off putting. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"A lady can cum several times.. where as I can usually manage ony 2 times in a session suits allways good to let a lady cum first
Can all women really cum several times?"
All depends on how good the man is as I know a huge amount of woman who never cum they fake it |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"If I could cum first... I probably would every so often. I take fucking ages sometimes though and sometimes not at all so she always has cum first 99% of the time
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I feel you on this one mate I’m the same it annoys me like hell sometimes |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed
That’s what I poke them in the back with. They think it’s my cock
Because your sex is electric?"
That’s better than I could have come up with. 
*hi 5 |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed"
What? Only one?  |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed
Ooh that's new I haven't tried that is it good?
Try it and see
Dearest Em, if you were any more stimulating I fear the question of who came first could be blown clear out of the window. "
I fear the reality of me is far less exciting |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed
That’s what I poke them in the back with. They think it’s my cock
Because your sex is electric?
That’s better than I could have come up with.
*hi 5"
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"They think by saying that it’s going to guarantee them unlimited access to all the vag!
Given that a lot of women (myself included) struggle to cum the first time and even more so when there’s pressure added, the statement is pretty useless. "
Yey hello you! Good to see you back. |
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"It's ridiculously easy for me to come many, many times so I don't think it's that reassuring really. Nor impressive if someone can make me come a few times before they decide that's their cue to come - you've not suddenly unlocked some hidden orgasms in me, I've been doing that for many years."
Preach, Meli.
I’ve had partners who are orgasming by the time I’ve first touched their nipples. I’m not going to take that as a signal that it’s now my turn.  |
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Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
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"Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
Miss S x"
Does sex have to stop just because a dudes cum?
Sure, grab a glass of water. But it doesn't have to stop.
I've had some hotel meets that have gone on for hours. Not constant clearly. But there's been an element of sexual play involved. |
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"Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
Miss S x"
Reason number 2 |
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"A lady can cum several times.. where as I can usually manage ony 2 times in a session suits allways good to let a lady cum first
Can all women really cum several times?"
Not all, some can, some can't. I'm lucky, have been described in one of my veris from couple's profile as an "orgasm machine" lol. |
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"Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
Miss S x
Does sex have to stop just because a dudes cum?
Sure, grab a glass of water. But it doesn't have to stop.
I've had some hotel meets that have gone on for hours. Not constant clearly. But there's been an element of sexual play involved."
I was close to mentioning multiple sessions but didn't.
I suppose not everyone can just have a glass of water and go again
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"Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
Miss S x
Reason number 2 "
Most likely yes
Miss S x |
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"Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
Miss S x
Does sex have to stop just because a dudes cum?
Sure, grab a glass of water. But it doesn't have to stop.
I've had some hotel meets that have gone on for hours. Not constant clearly. But there's been an element of sexual play involved."
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A glass of sparkling water no doubt! |
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"Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
Miss S x
Does sex have to stop just because a dudes cum?
Sure, grab a glass of water. But it doesn't have to stop.
I've had some hotel meets that have gone on for hours. Not constant clearly. But there's been an element of sexual play involved..
A glass of sparkling water no doubt! "
You've ruined it for me forever. |
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"Well maybe because when the male finishes that's usually the end so it makes sense for the woman to cum first?
They are probably only stating all that on their profile to 1. Because that's what they truly want to do or 2. So they can get into lots of panties
Miss S x
Does sex have to stop just because a dudes cum?
Sure, grab a glass of water. But it doesn't have to stop.
I've had some hotel meets that have gone on for hours. Not constant clearly. But there's been an element of sexual play involved..
A glass of sparkling water no doubt!
You've ruined it for me forever."
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there..."
This. Alll the time this!! |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed"
Now your talking, preparing my sleep mask and earplugs |
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"It's written because there's a stereotype that men will just cum and roll over with no concern for the woman.
This is bollox really and sure there's women who do that to men as well.
They normally fall asleep during.
Keep a cattle prod beside the bed
Ooh that's new I haven't tried that is it good?
Try it and see
Dearest Em, if you were any more stimulating I fear the question of who came first could be blown clear out of the window.
I fear the reality of me is far less exciting "
And I fear I'd fall for your charms...
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there..."
I didn't buy the cinema ticket to just watch the trailers. |
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there...
I didn't buy the cinema ticket to just watch the trailers."
Yea, I want to watch the whole film, not just see the ending |
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"Because my young Sirrah, it is the height of chivalry and devilish gentlemanship when it comes/cums to the prioritisation of the opposite sex...in the bedchamber.
In the game of love and conquest coming last is every lothario's desire.
We love to please and we are pleased to love. "
That's creepy |
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there...
I didn't buy the cinema ticket to just watch the trailers.
Yea, I want to watch the whole film, not just see the ending "
The end is the good part |
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there...
I didn't buy the cinema ticket to just watch the trailers."
Sometimes the trailers are the best part though.
Dune 2 was disappointing. Avatar 2 - just no. Wish I'd waited for them to come free with Prime now, I could have stayed in my pyjamas. |
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there...
I didn't buy the cinema ticket to just watch the trailers.
Yea, I want to watch the whole film, not just see the ending
The end is the good part"
Not always. Sometimes a big anti climax. |
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"The thing is who cares, so much emphasis is put on trying to achieve an orgasm or who cums first. What about the journey there and all the other lovely stuff getting there...
I didn't buy the cinema ticket to just watch the trailers.
Yea, I want to watch the whole film, not just see the ending
The end is the good part"
But it doesn't need to be the only good part though. |
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I often see posts/bios, written by men that say the woman always cums first and her pleasure is the priority.
Why?
Women tend to require a lot more attention than men or something like that. "
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then I’ll do my best to cum 1st. But that means putting her in some kinky positions that will probably make her cum 1st! 