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How’s your experience of fab?
So often you see ‘can’t get a meet’ or ‘guys have no respect’ or ‘I’m leaving because of ….’
So I was wondering … are you enjoying the experience? Is it working out for you? Is it what you expected?
Maybe even tips & pointers from those who are ‘doing well’ for those that are ‘losing faith’
What do you think ?
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It’s an awful site promoting free sex before marriage or even sharing your partner’s with others!!
Having multiple sexual encounters is nothing short of a sin and everyone who is involved in this hedonistic lifestyle should hand their heads in shame!!
The forum is filled with lewd talk and asking to see each other’s private parts!!
Why I am here? To save as many souls as possible and show them the errors of their ways.
I am arranging private meetings to teach them how to remain on the right path  |
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I am enjoying the friendly interaction… I’ve been to a few socials and I really, really enjoy meeting new people, hearing their stories and how they found Fab etc. I find it fascinating.
But on the non-vanilla side, Fab has been the least fruitful of all my time here lately. I get chatting to lots of people, but either the attraction/chemistry is not there, or it’s distance or a number of other obstacles. I am also looking for a repeat of 2019 where i met not one, or two, but three wonderful men and things went on for nearly 5 years! I am very aware that might never happen again but the bar was set so high that I may be missing out… don’t know.
But all in all, I always enjoy my Fab experience. Wouldn’t be here if I didn’t.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"It’s an awful site promoting free sex before marriage or even sharing your partner’s with others!!
Having multiple sexual encounters is nothing short of a sin and everyone who is involved in this hedonistic lifestyle should hand their heads in shame!!
The forum is filled with lewd talk and asking to see each other’s private parts!!
Why I am here? To save as many souls as possible and show them the errors of their ways.
I am arranging private meetings to teach them how to remain on the right path "
Praise the lord! |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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I rarely use Fab to meet now, instead do what I did last night when I get a rare night free, head to a club and have fun there instead. Had an epic time yesterday and the whole thing was entirely unrelated to anything FabSwingers.
Much less hassle in organising and going through a painful process of trying to find and agree meets on here.
Nowadays it’s just about the forums really on here. Just to pass some time, so Fab works just how I want it to now tbh.
If I was actively looking for meets on here I’d put a lot more effort in and probably end up frustrated at the lack of progress tbh! |
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I've been on fab about a year and half now and I've always enjoyed it.
I think what works is effort. Fab requires a level of understanding in how things work. That means understanding how to make a good profile, how to make yourself visible in update feeds and on the forum/cams, how to cultivate connections through messaging and how to conduct yourself in person at clubs and social events.
And most importantly how the swinging/ENM lifestyle works (and varies) for the people involved.
Then there's the question of understanding clearly what we are looking for and being able to articulate it and having a clear path forward to achieving what you want.
I don't think it matters what that is. Could be a hook up, FWB, or just making friends in the forum. Having personal clarity is very important.
Lastly, fab isn't for everyone. Just like dating apps are not for everyone. So if you've tried your best and it's still not working... |
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I've been here since 2016 and it has never been a lifestyle choice.
It is just a hobby and as such I dip in and out and I'm as successful as I want to be.
I've never seen it as a competition so numbers and ratios are irrelevant and I haven't sent an introductory message since January 2020.
I comment on the forums when I feel like it and let my forum engagement and my pics and bio say all I want to say.
Therefore fab is going exactly as I want it to go.
I can't and won't give tips because then people wouldn't be true to themselves. |
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I like it. Admittedly I have low expectations from it, I see it as social media first with an element of hook up and that works for me. The forums are entertaining and sometimes very informative, full of interesting people who have broadened my world view I’ve had fun meets from here, even met people who could become friends. |
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How’s your experience of fab?
It's good.
So often you see ‘can’t get a meet’ or ‘guys have no respect’ or ‘I’m leaving because of ….’
So I was wondering … are you enjoying the experience?
Absolutely.
Is it working out for you?
As far as meeting (online) some seriously sexy people. Absolutely.
Is it what you expected?
I don't have one. Without expectation there cannot be disappointment (that one's free)
Maybe even tips & pointers from those who are ‘doing well’ for those that are ‘losing faith'
Be yourself, don't be contentious. People are drawn to authenticity. Don't log in expecting people to drop everything they are doing in order to meet you.
Use it to make friends. Friends who have the same wants and needs and aren't afraid to openly say "I'd happily stick my **** in your ****"
What do you think ?
Great thread op. Makes a change for someone to ask for an opinion. Rather than starting a thread giving one. Also, a thread that helps.
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Been on here a long while, and had a long term relationship through here as well, so it has ben successful.
Havent looked for a meet on here for ages, so just tend to dip in and out and have the odd perv. Find im more into the BDSM lifestyle now, so tend to spend more time on those sites instead. |
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i loving the socials, and even got into organising a couple.
no expectations, liking the forums, do chat a lot in the chat rooms too. Meets are hard to organise and often people bottle out - so thats a pain, but those i have met are lovely people |
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By *mf123Man 21 weeks ago
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How ever i wish it to be if i want to remove the girls knickers again im pretty confident its only a couple messages away but less n less i find myself here i think iv grown out of it as nice as a good days shagging would be its not even nearly a priority i had my fill proved myself to myself and now im happily retired from it all saved me needing a new hip in old age i suppose |
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My experience of Fab has been nothing but p+sitive. Any notions around "...not getting a meet" or "...wanting to leave this place!" have never manifested for me. So yes, it's working out for me - the socials, the forums and the 'meets' and all similar dalliances with women.
Tips...? I usually only offer them via PM. I prefer not to divulge within these four walls. |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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Nice thighs op!
No complaints here, been on and off for numerous years, I dip in and out.
Love the social side, and have made good friends, best tip have no expectations and just have fun. |
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Been here ten years this year, various profiles but I always come back.
I never came here to change my life, just a bit of fun but I found a husband and life has changed because of fab, one that I wouldn't change for the world.
It's had its bad bits (more so in the last year or so) but I've come out the other side of it now.
I don't use fab to meet anymore, I've retired my vagina to other men for the foreseeable, I'm here really just for group socials and the forums now, I like the lifestyle too much x |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 21 weeks ago
East Northamptonshire |
I’ve only been here 7 months & for the 1st 3 months I just read reviews, the forums & profiles & took in as much information as I could, trying to ignore the inbox bombardment.
I’m really lucky, I’ve only had good social meetings on here, great nights at Jaydees, talked to some great guys, and hooked up with the 1st guy I added to my hotlist, who lives in the next village!
I take it for what it is, fun, if it isn’t fun, I’ll occupy my mind with something else |
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Fab has always been good to me. I never had a cancellation or a no show and no abuse. I used to attend socials and had some amazing one on one's as well as group fun. In 2020 I decided to hang my swinging boots up after doing it all my adult life. So now I'm just here for the forums |
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"I am enjoying the friendly interaction… I’ve been to a few socials and I really, really enjoy meeting new people, hearing their stories and how they found Fab etc. I find it fascinating.
But on the non-vanilla side, Fab has been the least fruitful of all my time here lately. I get chatting to lots of people, but either the attraction/chemistry is not there, or it’s distance or a number of other obstacles. I am also looking for a repeat of 2019 where i met not one, or two, but three wonderful men and things went on for nearly 5 years! I am very aware that might never happen again but the bar was set so high that I may be missing out… don’t know.
But all in all, I always enjoy my Fab experience. Wouldn’t be here if I didn’t. "
A positive ..good to hear |
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"I rarely use Fab to meet now, instead do what I did last night when I get a rare night free, head to a club and have fun there instead. Had an epic time yesterday and the whole thing was entirely unrelated to anything FabSwingers.
Much less hassle in organising and going through a painful process of trying to find and agree meets on here.
Nowadays it’s just about the forums really on here. Just to pass some time, so Fab works just how I want it to now tbh.
If I was actively looking for meets on here I’d put a lot more effort in and probably end up frustrated at the lack of progress tbh!"
Do clubs tend to be open most days then?  |
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"I've been on fab about a year and half now and I've always enjoyed it.
I think what works is effort. Fab requires a level of understanding in how things work. That means understanding how to make a good profile, how to make yourself visible in update feeds and on the forum/cams, how to cultivate connections through messaging and how to conduct yourself in person at clubs and social events.
And most importantly how the swinging/ENM lifestyle works (and varies) for the people involved.
Then there's the question of understanding clearly what we are looking for and being able to articulate it and having a clear path forward to achieving what you want.
I don't think it matters what that is. Could be a hook up, FWB, or just making friends in the forum. Having personal clarity is very important.
Lastly, fab isn't for everyone. Just like dating apps are not for everyone. So if you've tried your best and it's still not working..."
Mix it up …sounds like a good approach |
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"I've been here since 2016 and it has never been a lifestyle choice.
It is just a hobby and as such I dip in and out and I'm as successful as I want to be.
I've never seen it as a competition so numbers and ratios are irrelevant and I haven't sent an introductory message since January 2020.
I comment on the forums when I feel like it and let my forum engagement and my pics and bio say all I want to say.
Therefore fab is going exactly as I want it to go.
I can't and won't give tips because then people wouldn't be true to themselves. "
That’s good last point… be yourself… |
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"I've always been very very successful so here are my tips for those that are losing faith.....
1. Be exactly like me
What else can I say .....? 
I'm not even going to charge for that"
Free!!!! From the success story… grab it while you can folks … |
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"How’s your experience of fab?
It's good.
So often you see ‘can’t get a meet’ or ‘guys have no respect’ or ‘I’m leaving because of ….’
So I was wondering … are you enjoying the experience?
Absolutely.
Is it working out for you?
As far as meeting (online) some seriously sexy people. Absolutely.
Is it what you expected?
I don't have one. Without expectation there cannot be disappointment (that one's free)
Maybe even tips & pointers from those who are ‘doing well’ for those that are ‘losing faith'
Be yourself, don't be contentious. People are drawn to authenticity. Don't log in expecting people to drop everything they are doing in order to meet you.
Use it to make friends. Friends who have the same wants and needs and aren't afraid to openly say "I'd happily stick my **** in your ****"
What do you think ?
Great thread op. Makes a change for someone to ask for an opinion. Rather than starting a thread giving one. Also, a thread that helps.
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Sometimes (rarely) I have thoughts that come across helpful |
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"Nice thighs op!
No complaints here, been on and off for numerous years, I dip in and out.
Love the social side, and have made good friends, best tip have no expectations and just have fun. "
Why thank you very much for saying 
So it seems socials have come up a lot..maybe an in person meet with like minded group could be the answer to not losing faith |
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"I’ve only been here 7 months & for the 1st 3 months I just read reviews, the forums & profiles & took in as much information as I could, trying to ignore the inbox bombardment.
I’m really lucky, I’ve only had good social meetings on here, great nights at Jaydees, talked to some great guys, and hooked up with the 1st guy I added to my hotlist, who lives in the next village!
I take it for what it is, fun, if it isn’t fun, I’ll occupy my mind with something else "
Did your research … great thinking … worked it out first before getting ‘lost in all the mail’ |
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I’ve been here for 5 years now, coming and going in that time.
It’s mostly good, when it’s not I take a step back and will be gone for months at a time until I feel like joining again.
I don’t find it easy meeting people here, despite what many think it’s like for women, so sometimes it can be frustrating.
That said, it serves a purpose more than anywhere else that I can think of. |
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By (user no longer on site) 21 weeks ago
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"I rarely use Fab to meet now, instead do what I did last night when I get a rare night free, head to a club and have fun there instead. Had an epic time yesterday and the whole thing was entirely unrelated to anything FabSwingers.
Much less hassle in organising and going through a painful process of trying to find and agree meets on here.
Nowadays it’s just about the forums really on here. Just to pass some time, so Fab works just how I want it to now tbh.
If I was actively looking for meets on here I’d put a lot more effort in and probably end up frustrated at the lack of progress tbh!
Do clubs tend to be open most days then? "
Kestrel Spa / AbFabs do  |
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"I rarely use Fab to meet now, instead do what I did last night when I get a rare night free, head to a club and have fun there instead. Had an epic time yesterday and the whole thing was entirely unrelated to anything FabSwingers.
Much less hassle in organising and going through a painful process of trying to find and agree meets on here.
Nowadays it’s just about the forums really on here. Just to pass some time, so Fab works just how I want it to now tbh.
If I was actively looking for meets on here I’d put a lot more effort in and probably end up frustrated at the lack of progress tbh!
Do clubs tend to be open most days then?
Kestrel Spa / AbFabs do "
Ooo maybe i need to see how close these places are. |
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By *.R.MMan 21 weeks ago
Norfolk |
I’ve been on and off here few several years now (I think around 8) pre Covid times it was a great place both the forums and locally and in that time I’ve met some truly wonderful people. After Covid things changed I think there was a massive influx of people and dare I say mainly men and the whole mood changed. The forums became less fun and locals just became a bit more nasty etc . I’m not saying everyone is like it but the nicer ones are just more scarse there are still some here. I just wish it was like it was but as they say things never stay the same. I’d still like to be proved wrong. |
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I agree with the have no expectations.
My experience is mainly good, my filters are tight I don't get hassle from those I don't want to meet, women are lovely it's great.
On the couples profile we've met some amazing people, made some great friends and had some great sex.
I chat to people as friends if more comes of it then great if not I've made a friend it's all good. Your approach and mindset will be what makes or breaks your fab experience. |
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It's a bit of fun. I've met some lovely people - in both friendly & carnal situations.
These days I just use it to get kicks outta folk fabbing my boobs. If a nice chap comes along, chats and doesn't disappear, it's a bonus  |
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"It's a bit of fun. I've met some lovely people - in both friendly & carnal situations.
These days I just use it to get kicks outta folk fabbing my boobs. If a nice chap comes along, chats and doesn't disappear, it's a bonus "
You have boobs on your profile ..I hadn’t noticed ..I’ll be right back |
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"I agree with the have no expectations.
My experience is mainly good, my filters are tight I don't get hassle from those I don't want to meet, women are lovely it's great.
On the couples profile we've met some amazing people, made some great friends and had some great sex.
I chat to people as friends if more comes of it then great if not I've made a friend it's all good. Your approach and mindset will be what makes or breaks your fab experience."
Mindset…. Don’t get too drawn into what should be and maybe think of what it might / could be …. And just enjoy the journey |
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Our FAB experience has been great - we’ve met some amazing people, had amazing sex, become friends with people we’d have never have met with.
But you have to put effort in, FAB only provides the tools - we go to socials, clubs, parties, all arranged from FAB, we add new pics, spruce our profile up and we do feel we see the benefit of that.
I think the old adage, you get out what you put in is apt for FAB.
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"It’s an awful site promoting free sex before marriage or even sharing your partner’s with others!!
Having multiple sexual encounters is nothing short of a sin and everyone who is involved in this hedonistic lifestyle should hand their heads in shame!!
The forum is filled with lewd talk and asking to see each other’s private parts!!
Why I am here? To save as many souls as possible and show them the errors of their ways.
I am arranging private meetings to teach them how to remain on the right path
Praise the lord!"
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Honestly, I don't think about success. Sometimes I talk to people. Sometimes that becomes more than texting, sometimes we meet, sometimes it becomes sexual, sometimes it doesn't.
I don't think that analysing it in anyway increases the probability of the outcome, if anything I'd say it has the opposite effect.
Sure I get some enjoyment out of it or I wouldn't be here. There's other things I can do with my time. Hell there's about 10 books I want to read and ask many TV series I've wanted to watch. I keep putting off learning Spanish to be here and I am probably going to be living there half of next year. Must be something about you lot that I like. It's not like this is the only forum out there. |
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By *ookie46Woman 21 weeks ago
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I think the game changer for me was going to organised group socials. I went to my first one around 8 months after joining and never looked back
Some of the best people in my life I met them at socials |
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"Our FAB experience has been great - we’ve met some amazing people, had amazing sex, become friends with people we’d have never have met with.
But you have to put effort in, FAB only provides the tools - we go to socials, clubs, parties, all arranged from FAB, we add new pics, spruce our profile up and we do feel we see the benefit of that.
I think the old adage, you get out what you put in is apt for FAB.
K
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Certainly …effort keeps cropping up…. So it’s clear to see.
I think someone mentioned earlier about refreshing things to keep it interesting
And socials seem key too |
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"I think the game changer for me was going to organised group socials. I went to my first one around 8 months after joining and never looked back
Some of the best people in my life I met them at socials "
Socials ..socials …socials…. That’s why I am hearing so I’m guessing there’s a pattern |
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It's been very interesting and intriguing.
Plenty of chats with some lovely people but rarely do any chats progress to even discussing anything more. There is a good community especially here in the forums and it does seem people genuinely want to help others.
We've not had a physical meet yet, either as a couple or exploring our fantasy.
I do wish to some degree people were more understanding not everyone can "go to club meets" which seems to be a huge thing on here. It seems to some if you don't do club meets you shouldn't be on here.
As the female half, I was expecting to get most of "the attention" just because of the nature of this site and the reputation of some on here, and it really has been eye opening how many people think your're easy or will just meet for a fuck because your're on a swinging site. Yes, I do post some "provoacti pictures" but it's clear in our profile what our dynamic is and it's actually quite sad how little effort some people go to that they think you'll suddenly be dropping knickers for them.
We've also had some abuse and been called "fake" because we won't meet people - or certainly not for sex first meet anyway.
Overall, it's OK. I guess maybe if we were club goers and happy to fuck anyone at a moment's notice it'd be very enjoyable, but seeing as we're neither..... ok seems the right phrase.
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I pretty much love everything about this website, it's certainly helped me broaden my horizons
To date I've met some cool and amazing people via organised socials, parties and meets.
And of the people I've connected with, they couldn't be nicer or more welcoming if they tried.
I'm going to the York social in a couple of weeks, so if anyone else from here is going please come on over and say hi.
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