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Which messages to bother opening ?
Couples, ladies (and maybe even some gents) get a lot of message traffic… so I was wondering how you decide which ones to open, which to just delete and which ones to just ignore?
I assume you can’t open every single one and decide from the content?
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By *ing00Man 23 weeks ago
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They get a crystal on a string.
Then they dangle over each unopened post and if it swings clockwise... Open the mail. Anticlockwise... Don't open.
Then they do the test again, but this time using the crystal  |
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By *a LunaWoman 23 weeks ago
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"They get a crystal on a string.
Then they dangle over each unopened post and if it swings clockwise... Open the mail. Anticlockwise... Don't open.
Then they do the test again, but this time using the crystal "
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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If the person sending the message has a blank profile pic, a dick profile pic or a single male profile who has a profile pic that is mostly a woman get deleted unread usually.
Will probably open any of the rest, unless we can see it's low effort from the preview.
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I have decent filters so don't get a gazillion messages. I am lazy about going through them though, so they do tend to build up.
I delete any that open with graphic sexual content. If the bit on preview is "wanna drain my balls over them tits" then the message isn't getting any better from there.
Others I tend to read the message and look at profiles, but I'll open "hi" before I delete when I look at the profile and it says "fill in later". I can't be arsed dragging information out of people to see if we're a decent fit any more. I do read the messages though, all one word of them. |
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I open all of my messages because, relatively speaking, my inbox isn't insurmountable compared to the women on here.
Which ones I reply to is an entirely different matter - pussy photos (yes it happens) are given a "no thank you" before being discarded; unimaginative 'blag one liners' are given a wide berth; the remaining are treated with a modicum of graciousness and civility.
If they're bonk-worthy I'll open those messages too. |
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Bir harder now they have taken the header away, I hardly bother to open any messages now.
Depends what the first couple of lines say, usually I open the ones who say "love your profile" and then go on about wanting to meet me, so sometimes I answer with "did you read my profile". |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I don't open a message until I've read the profile. If they are my type I open the message. If its a bad message, I delete it. Only time that changes is when a guy demands a reply or tells me what to do with his message, then I do the opposite |
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"I open all of my messages because, relatively speaking, my inbox isn't insurmountable compared to the women on here.
Which ones I reply to is an entirely different matter - pussy photos (yes it happens) are given a "no thank you" before being discarded; unimaginative 'blag one liners' are given a wide berth; the remaining are treated with a modicum of graciousness and civility.
If they're bonk-worthy I'll open those messages too."
You get pussy pics  |
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"I open them all unless I can see from the preview that it's someone tossing their fap fodder.
Fap fodder? "
You know. Those obviously written one handed while they project some bland fantasy on you. |
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"I open them all unless I can see from the preview that it's someone tossing their fap fodder.
Fap fodder?
You know. Those obviously written one handed while they project some bland fantasy on you."
Something like,
Hey,
Vuivv jouyvb bklu jjiuyv kigv
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"I open them all unless I can see from the preview that it's someone tossing their fap fodder.
Fap fodder?
You know. Those obviously written one handed while they project some bland fantasy on you."
I didn’t know… but now I do  |
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"We don't really get many messages maybe 3/4 a week... so our inbox is normally quite clear for us to open & reply every message
Why do I find this hard to believe  unfortunately for us that is us being entirely honest... its very thin around us with what we are mainly looking for so messages from interested people are extremely rare and getting even rarer these days  the only messages we tend to get now are from forum threads "
Your not a million miles from me  |
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If they start with "meet now", "u accom", "hnh", "u drive" get left.
If its just "hi/hey" will have a look and profile and have a chat. Usually a good start if they can have a chat as if meeting face to face. |
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If it looks remotely interesting I will check look at the profile pic, if that doesn’t put me off then I’ll check their profile out and if that still hasn’t put me off then I’ll open the message… then I’m usually put off by the content so delete anyway |
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"If it looks remotely interesting I will check look at the profile pic, if that doesn’t put me off then I’ll check their profile out and if that still hasn’t put me off then I’ll open the message… then I’m usually put off by the content so delete anyway "
I'll get me coat. |
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"I read them all, but once read I either reply or think “ dickhead “ there’s no in between.
The mr
Do you use the bum scratching finger, also as the clicker finger? "
No I don’t thumb my arsehole, also complicates the angle of the sniff.
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i open them all and pretty much reply to them all - once! if its a shit message or cock pic, its a thanks but no then delete any further messages. delete ones where they just respond with an emoji after a message -
i actually emptied it today - this morning from the 30 over night and then just cleared another 60 and now have 10 in there  - its never ending and i have filters on - and if anyone says they dont get a reply - write something different - 60 message 'hi hows your day' yea - copy paste
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Process of elimination. I first delete messages from anyone without a profile pic.
Next is any message that's overly explicit. Yes, you can tell without opening the message.
Then delete messages from users with the name daddy or Dom saves both our time.
Then from what's left I'll open one if it seems ok and I like the look of their profile pic.
This is only when I have filters down for certain forum threads. Otherwise not many come through  |
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If can read it in its entirety without opening it, I don't open it.
If its “hey, hi, wot u up to” I don’t open it.
If i can see “you’s “ I don’t open it.
Other than that, i’ll open it.
I’d like to think I’m worth putting more than one word in a message, if you’re going to send one why not make it like its taken more than 2 seconds.
We do if we send one. |
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" i open them all and pretty much reply to them all - once! if its a shit message or cock pic, its a thanks but no then delete any further messages. delete ones where they just respond with an emoji after a message -
i actually emptied it today - this morning from the 30 over night and then just cleared another 60 and now have 10 in there - its never ending and i have filters on - and if anyone says they dont get a reply - write something different - 60 message 'hi hows your day' yea - copy paste
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But your filter is ‘not looking for single guys’ so are those messages from couples and ladies? |
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"Process of elimination. I first delete messages from anyone without a profile pic.
Next is any message that's overly explicit. Yes, you can tell without opening the message.
Then delete messages from users with the name daddy or Dom saves both our time.
Then from what's left I'll open one if it seems ok and I like the look of their profile pic.
This is only when I have filters down for certain forum threads. Otherwise not many come through "
The power of the filters |
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