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Recent polls state most under 40's do not have a funeral plan in place, nor payed for?
Will your family be paying for your demise, or hoying you in a wheelie bin? Current basic costs for a funeral are nearly 4k!...are you paying, or expecting your council to pick up the cost? |
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By *zeroMan 23 weeks ago
Glasgow |
I haven't got a funeral plan. Hopefully it's no time soon but I've told my family I want a no frills as less money as possible and they can have a reception/celebration themselves.
Part of me is considering donating myself to medical science. |
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It's not a conversation I can have with my daughters, after losing their mum it's too upsetting for them.
I'm quite happy to just donate my body to medical science it's all taken car of then.
I'd rather they keep the money and go on holiday with it or something.
When the ashes are returned plant a tree and put me in the roots or thrown me in the Mersey, whatever really. |
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I will probably go in beside my mum and dad ( much to my mums dismay). The plot holds 3 so be a shame to waste it. A few drinks and sandwiches after for friends and family and playing music from my playlist is the plan. Shouldn't cost too much and I have money put by to cover the cost. I did want a white whicker coffin covered in sunflowers but that will probably change to a cardboard box. |
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"It's not a conversation I can have with my daughters, after losing their mum it's too upsetting for them.
I'm quite happy to just donate my body to medical science it's all taken car of then.
I'd rather they keep the money and go on holiday with it or something.
When the ashes are returned plant a tree and put me in the roots or thrown me in the Mersey, whatever really."
Have you signed up though? I did this as an official for my exs partners mum. But you need to sign up beforehand. Legit in any death situation you really do need to sign up beforehand! |
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By *929Man 23 weeks ago
newcastle |
I’ve just told my sons to dig the next drive they do after my death a bit deeper than usual and put me in there.
Failing that I plan on leaving them a good inheritance they can just pay it out of that |
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"It's not a conversation I can have with my daughters, after losing their mum it's too upsetting for them.
I'm quite happy to just donate my body to medical science it's all taken car of then.
I'd rather they keep the money and go on holiday with it or something.
When the ashes are returned plant a tree and put me in the roots or thrown me in the Mersey, whatever really.
Have you signed up though? I did this as an official for my exs partners mum. But you need to sign up beforehand. Legit in any death situation you really do need to sign up beforehand! "
I was about to a few years ago and then things got in the way. Thank you for reminding me, it actually drifted out of my awareness and I do want to get it sorted. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I have 'willed' or 'in trusted' enough funds and property to my kids to keep them financially sound after I have gone.
Therefore my death doesnt phase nor worry me, especiallyafter my past 'near misses.'
I am confident that I can slip away now contented that they are all sorted and looked after. |
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I’m going to do the direct cremation thing, family know the sort of party I want once the ashes are sent back.
I do have a kind of sick sense of humour at times, so I want them to make party bags for everyone, in it will be an envelope with my picture on and some of the ashes in it  |
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There's enough to bury me
There will always be enough to bury me
I intend on spending everything else though and giving anything left over to an animal rescue
The property will go at some point too - again to be enjoyed or gifted
I have no children
My nieces are taken care of in my sisters will
I look after them now too - why should they wait til I'm dead? |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"The issue is that even for a no frills funeral you're looking at about 3-4k... Most folk ignore this. So at some point someone will have to pay? Living family top of the list "
You can get a 'direct funeral' for less than 2k though I know that wouldn't suit everyone, a basic traditional one is available for 3k. It's worth preparing and pre paying as its only going to get more expensive. I'm a proper ray of sunshine aren't I  |
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Pfft, you know I haven't even thought about it much. But I probably should. I've had to fork out thousands for three family members funerals in the last 5 years and it's a lot of stress during an already very stressful time. I should know better really. I'll definitely start something, even just a tenner a week into savings and hopefully I don't die for a very long time. |
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You can organise with local hospital to take your body free of charge and still have a wake , leave a couple hundred pounds in your will to buy drinks.
Funerals are the ultimate scam targeting grieving or vulnerable old people and guilt tripping them |
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"Pfft, you know I haven't even thought about it much. But I probably should. I've had to fork out thousands for three family members funerals in the last 5 years and it's a lot of stress during an already very stressful time. I should know better really. I'll definitely start something, even just a tenner a week into savings and hopefully I don't die for a very long time. "
I'm this! My mam is paid for! I literally ring a number, they do all the 'thing'. I provide the wake... I'm currently. I die.. Child stuffs me in wheelie bin  |
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"It's not a conversation I can have with my daughters, after losing their mum it's too upsetting for them.
I'm quite happy to just donate my body to medical science it's all taken car of then.
I'd rather they keep the money and go on holiday with it or something.
When the ashes are returned plant a tree and put me in the roots or thrown me in the Mersey, whatever really."
Oi ..... we don't want your pale bloated crab bitten corpse mixing with our jelly fish......... get dumped in the Thames like everything else |
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My funeral has been paid for for a couple of years now.
Pure Cremation.
I chose everything and my daughters won't have to lift a finger.
Plus with me planning it early it cost a fraction of what people pay now and it will never go up |
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"Pfft, you know I haven't even thought about it much. But I probably should. I've had to fork out thousands for three family members funerals in the last 5 years and it's a lot of stress during an already very stressful time. I should know better really. I'll definitely start something, even just a tenner a week into savings and hopefully I don't die for a very long time.
I'm this! My mam is paid for! I literally ring a number, they do all the 'thing'. I provide the wake... I'm currently. I die.. Child stuffs me in wheelie bin "
Is that general waste or recycling?  |
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By *ib.Man 23 weeks ago
Hampshire |
"My funeral has been paid for for a couple of years now.
Pure Cremation.
I chose everything and my daughters won't have to lift a finger.
Plus with me planning it early it cost a fraction of what people pay now and it will never go up"
Both my folks have done the same. I'll think about it in a few years. |
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"My funeral has been paid for for a couple of years now.
Pure Cremation.
I chose everything and my daughters won't have to lift a finger.
Plus with me planning it early it cost a fraction of what people pay now and it will never go up"
I was just looking at pure cremation, It looks to be the next cheapest option to the hospital disposal route.
Anybody who dies without leaving some kind of plan for their love ones it’s pretty selfish in my view
I’ve had to deal with a few dead people and it’s a nightmare there’s a real pressure to ‘do the right thing’ and spent thousands on polished hardwood and all that nonesense.
Funeral directors of the worst kind of salespeople |
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No plan yet, aside that our funeral costs can be paid from our Estate, which if we both die tomorrow, there's plenty to go at.
If only one of us dies, it's a credit card jobbo or something from the budget range. I quite fancy the sort where they plant a tree from your remains. But theres not many places you can do it. Otherwise, a cardboard coffin will suffice. It's just going to be burned and it seems an awful waste of good wood. |
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By *929Man 23 weeks ago
newcastle |
My mam after my dad died started paying so much a month for her funeral only 9 years later realising it was payable for life and cancelled it so payed for fuck all. All I know is if she dies I’m not paying the cunt |
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By *a LunaWoman 23 weeks ago
South Wales |
When I turn 50 I’ll start paying into plan. I want either a natural burial or one of those drive by funerals where they take you off to be cremated and then drop the ashes back to the family. No service. No fuss.
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"I have no family..but I've instructed the neighbours to place my corpse on the roof of the house to be picked about by the crows.. magpies and jackdaws I always feed..  "
So your local council will be paying to cremate you then? As you've no plans to pay for your own demise? |
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"It's not a conversation I can have with my daughters, after losing their mum it's too upsetting for them.
I'm quite happy to just donate my body to medical science it's all taken car of then.
I'd rather they keep the money and go on holiday with it or something.
When the ashes are returned plant a tree and put me in the roots or thrown me in the Mersey, whatever really.
Oi ..... we don't want your pale bloated crab bitten corpse mixing with our jelly fish......... get dumped in the Thames like everything else"
thanks Granny. It would be an honour to throw your ashes in the Mersey. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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Medical education is the way forward. It really is the best way of letting the doctors of tomorrow learn.
There are certain prerequisites for medical education/science,including weight. And there I'd a time limit between dying and getting the body preserved prior to use. So make sure you look into it properly, let your next of kin know your plans.
Your family will ultimately get your remains back a few years down the line, and the university covers costs.
There is also a lovely memorial service where medical students can meet the families of people that donated to med education. It's a very humbling service to attend.
It's such a good thing to do, so thank you! |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I'm not worried. Family know what i want. There's money for it and has been for a long time. I add to it because obviously prices go up.
Access to the account and my plans have been given to a family member that will help my kids plan |
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I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect  |
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By *agatoXXXMan 23 weeks ago
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I have donated my body to Glasgow University. So far, they haven't contested my will. I have specified no death announcents in the paper, and after they are done with my leftovers, a simple cremation with no services. I don't care what happens to the ashes. |
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By *agatoXXXMan 23 weeks ago
Gone and completely forgotten. |
"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect "
I always think about the cremation in "The Crow Road". I've not been to one like that so far. |
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect "
I am uninsurable for life insurance and also critical illness cover  |
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I hope nobody minds me mentioning this.
If you are sure that you would like to leave your body to medical science.
Would you please sign up to organ donation
It is an opt out policy now but so many go unused due to family etc not knowing your preference.
You can go online @ organ donation nhs to register your preference
On a personal note , I would greatly appreciate it, as I’m listed for double lung transplant, no joy this last 7 months, but forever positive and hopeful it will happen .
Thank you x |
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
I always think about the cremation in "The Crow Road". I've not been to one like that so far. "
That would liven things up no doubt x |
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
I am uninsurable for life insurance and also critical illness cover "
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By *agatoXXXMan 23 weeks ago
Gone and completely forgotten. |
"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
I always think about the cremation in "The Crow Road". I've not been to one like that so far.
That would liven things up no doubt x"
If I wasn't going as a bag of bones, I'd have my pockets filled with Lithium batteries. |
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
I always think about the cremation in "The Crow Road". I've not been to one like that so far.
That would liven things up no doubt x
If I wasn't going as a bag of bones, I'd have my pockets filled with Lithium batteries."
What about popping corn? |
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"I hope nobody minds me mentioning this.
If you are sure that you would like to leave your body to medical science.
Would you please sign up to organ donation
It is an opt out policy now but so many go unused due to family etc not knowing your preference.
You can go online @ organ donation nhs to register your preference
On a personal note , I would greatly appreciate it, as I’m listed for double lung transplant, no joy this last 7 months, but forever positive and hopeful it will happen .
Thank you x "
We have recently done this as a close family member died in hospital and was on the doner register but sadly donor organs are only available if the person died in hospital |
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By *agatoXXXMan 23 weeks ago
Gone and completely forgotten. |
"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
I always think about the cremation in "The Crow Road". I've not been to one like that so far.
That would liven things up no doubt x
If I wasn't going as a bag of bones, I'd have my pockets filled with Lithium batteries.
What about popping corn? "
Not explosive enough!
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I do not fear death, it is only the end of this particular body 
P.S. the council can pay for my cremation and scattering, they got enough out of me over the years |
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"I hope nobody minds me mentioning this.
If you are sure that you would like to leave your body to medical science.
Would you please sign up to organ donation
It is an opt out policy now but so many go unused due to family etc not knowing your preference.
You can go online @ organ donation nhs to register your preference
On a personal note , I would greatly appreciate it, as I’m listed for double lung transplant, no joy this last 7 months, but forever positive and hopeful it will happen .
Thank you x
We have recently done this as a close family member died in hospital and was on the doner register but sadly donor organs are only available if the person died in hospital"
Thank you for signing up, it is very precarious and so many conditions need to be met before organs are considered for transplant. Also the sad fact that someone has to die to save a life. X |
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"I do not fear death, it is only the end of this particular body
P.S. the council can pay for my cremation and scattering, they got enough out of me over the years "
They'll enquire of your next of kin if they can pay |
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"I do not fear death, it is only the end of this particular body
P.S. the council can pay for my cremation and scattering, they got enough out of me over the years
They'll enquire of your next of kin if they can pay "
NoK are not required to or responsible for paying for anyone's funeral. They can ask, but you can say no even if you are a multi millionaire.
Just the same as councils cannot expect or require NoK/Attorneys to pay for the care of their relatives, but it doesn't stop them asking or expecting it. |
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"I hope nobody minds me mentioning this.
If you are sure that you would like to leave your body to medical science.
Would you please sign up to organ donation
It is an opt out policy now but so many go unused due to family etc not knowing your preference.
You can go online @ organ donation nhs to register your preference
On a personal note , I would greatly appreciate it, as I’m listed for double lung transplant, no joy this last 7 months, but forever positive and hopeful it will happen .
Thank you x
We have recently done this as a close family member died in hospital and was on the doner register but sadly donor organs are only available if the person died in hospital
Thank you for signing up, it is very precarious and so many conditions need to be met before organs are considered for transplant. Also the sad fact that someone has to die to save a life. X"
Apologies I’m sorry for your loss to. X |
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"I do not fear death, it is only the end of this particular body
P.S. the council can pay for my cremation and scattering, they got enough out of me over the years
They'll enquire of your next of kin if they can pay
NoK are not required to or responsible for paying for anyone's funeral. They can ask, but you can say no even if you are a multi millionaire.
Just the same as councils cannot expect or require NoK/Attorneys to pay for the care of their relatives, but it doesn't stop them asking or expecting it. "
No, they can't expect. But they can ask... Very sad if someone who can afford will see you getting a council cremation  |
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"No, I'm worth more dead than I am alive at present.
They can just stick me in a wicker basket and put me in the woodlands burial site not far from where I live.
That'll do "
That's circa 7k...have you paid for this upfront? |
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"I do not fear death, it is only the end of this particular body
P.S. the council can pay for my cremation and scattering, they got enough out of me over the years
They'll enquire of your next of kin if they can pay
NoK are not required to or responsible for paying for anyone's funeral. They can ask, but you can say no even if you are a multi millionaire.
Just the same as councils cannot expect or require NoK/Attorneys to pay for the care of their relatives, but it doesn't stop them asking or expecting it.
No, they can't expect. But they can ask... Very sad if someone who can afford will see you getting a council cremation "
Being biologically related to someone does not mean you have anything to do with them, and potentially for very good reason.
People's Estate should be funding funerals before they pay out to any beneficiaries. It's mainly people who don't have anything or enough to leave behind, who will finish up needing the Council to pay. |
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I'm in the process of sorting a plan, I can't handle the thought my boys or Rubik having to worry about paying for my funeral, I've even written stuff about my life for my boys so when they need/want to say something at my funeral they have all they need.
I even have my spot that I want to be scattered on, I had a still born brother born in the late 60s and he has been alone for long enough, plus I'll be near by grandparents. I wanted to be buried for the longest time but after moving so many times, not really having roots and not really having close family, I thought what was the point?
I used to be afraid of death but after witnessing so many in my old line of work, I am no longer afraid.
My parents are all paid for, all their paperwork is in a 80s porn mag, so when I need a laugh the most, I have that, my sister sorted hers recently too and I'm trying to get my brother (they don't have any real significant other) to sort his but his mindset is "I'm dead, doesn't bother me" so if he goes and I can't afford it, he will be having the cheapest possible, we aren't really close and he has more than enough money to sort himself out, I know it sounds harsh but why should I fork out thousands that I don't have?. |
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By *oo..Woman 23 weeks ago
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"No, I'm worth more dead than I am alive at present.
They can just stick me in a wicker basket and put me in the woodlands burial site not far from where I live.
That'll do
That's circa 7k...have you paid for this upfront? "
Wouldn't need too, after my death it gets paid straight over to the listed people. Paperworks done |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect "
Some of my sisters ashes went up in a firework as per her request! X
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
Some of my sisters ashes went up in a firework as per her request! X
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Ah I bet it was beautiful  xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
Some of my sisters ashes went up in a firework as per her request! X
Ah I bet it was beautiful xx"
Just like her
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"I have life insurance, I need to go through it again to make sure all is still ok
I've told my kids I don't want a funeral, I just want to disappear off alone to be dealt with. Last thing I want is for my kids to sit in a cold Crematorium looking at a box...
I've told them to let me go and they go off and do something awesome
My eldest has said he wants to put my ashes in a firework. I think that would be perfect
Some of my sisters ashes went up in a firework as per her request! X
Ah I bet it was beautiful xx
Just like her
X "
No doubt about it, so sorry for your loss |
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Just a thought, to people saying that their funeral can be paid for from their estate/will, the funeral directors will be producing a bill shortly after job completion and will want paying, it may well take several months or longer before probate is granted and someone can access funds to pay bills.
I had to pay for someone’s funeral in order to avoid late payment penalties and then got paid back out of the estate many months later. |
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"It's not a conversation I can have with my daughters, after losing their mum it's too upsetting for them.
I'm quite happy to just donate my body to medical science it's all taken car of then.
I'd rather they keep the money and go on holiday with it or something.
When the ashes are returned plant a tree and put me in the roots or thrown me in the Mersey, whatever really.
Have you signed up though? I did this as an official for my exs partners mum. But you need to sign up beforehand. Legit in any death situation you really do need to sign up beforehand! "
My mother in law had made all the arrangements for her body to be donated to medical science, and it was her dying wish which she has discussed with me and her son. But her daughter went against those wishes and had her cremated before we could intervene. Very sad. I have since felt that I would like to donate my own body to medical science, but I don’t know how my children and remaining family would feel and I think that once I am gone it is most important that they make the choice of what helps them to deal with it best. |
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