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So hard to arrange MMF vs MFF
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
My experience over the last eight years here with various partners, fuck buddies, FWB’s has always been finding reliable , respectful guys to join is real hard work , but relatively easy to find a second woman to join.
Maybe someone will surprise me !? |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up |
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I have found it the other way trying to find another woman is so hard I have given up and changed my status to straight.
With men it's so much easier to arrange a MMF or MFM. MMF being the easiest of all. X |
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up"
ah right I only put my letters in that order because apparently it means that there not bi but would still meet/play I didn’t even know this until last week & it was on a thread  |
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up"
Agreed the place is choc full of fakes and fantasists we get messed around so much. |
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A physically attractive couple who know how to approach appropriately and clearly get across what they want and what they offer?
Considerably rarer than the supposed unicorns themselves.
So, if you present yourselves well to appropriate women who find you physically attractive as a couple, most women here are so tired of lazy bullshit from couples they're much more likely to be actively engaged and interested from the outset with the unbelievable rarity.
There are a lot less women than men here looking for fantasy and wank fodder, so you're less likely to deal with flakes and cancellations.
At least that sounds like reasonable logic to me  |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I have found it the other way trying to find another woman is so hard I have given up and changed my status to straight.
With men it's so much easier to arrange a MMF or MFM. MMF being the easiest of all. X"
You might find it easier asking your male friends to intro one of their existing female friends.
I think actually it’s easier when you’re basing yourself at a hotel for a while and so you can just arrange interview people in the bar each evening. I would say the time spent chatting on FAB WhatsApp is a complete waste of time
Better they just turn up to meet and have a drink in the hotel ball, most will not, which tells you everything you need to know
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up
Agreed the place is choc full of fakes and fantasists we get messed around so much. "
people are so unreliable and organise things they cant deliver on - the place if full of time wasters and yep as you say, fakes and fantasists. Its really hard doing due diligence, even verifications and older profile - its a nightmare.
but there are some very lovely people on here - finding them is the issue |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
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There are a lot less women than men here looking for fantasy and wank fodder, so you're less likely to deal with flakes and cancellations.
At least that sounds like reasonable logic to me "
I think that is spot on. Women on fab are super reliable, consistent and generally frank & honest about what they want /don’t want |
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up ah right I only put my letters in that order because apparently it means that there not bi but would still meet/play I didn’t even know this until last week & it was on a thread "
This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf |
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"I have found it the other way trying to find another woman is so hard I have given up and changed my status to straight.
With men it's so much easier to arrange a MMF or MFM. MMF being the easiest of all. X
You might find it easier asking your male friends to intro one of their existing female friends.
I think actually it’s easier when you’re basing yourself at a hotel for a while and so you can just arrange interview people in the bar each evening. I would say the time spent chatting on FAB WhatsApp is a complete waste of time
Better they just turn up to meet and have a drink in the hotel ball, most will not, which tells you everything you need to know
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First of all I value my safety so would never have a meeting in a hotel.
The odd occasions that I have had a meeting involving me and another woman, it has been by mutual fuck buddys.
I do agree that you get a better judgement of a person by chatting face to face then endless messages. |
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up ah right I only put my letters in that order because apparently it means that there not bi but would still meet/play I didn’t even know this until last week & it was on a thread
This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf"
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This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf
ok thank you for correcting me "
You didn't need to be corrected MMF is very often (and I'd say mostly) regarded as the men interacting with each other (ie bi).
MFM is a 3sum with a woman in the middle MMF is bi.
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This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf
ok thank you for correcting me
You didn't need to be corrected MMF is very often (and I'd say mostly) regarded as the men interacting with each other (ie bi).
MFM is a 3sum with a woman in the middle MMF is bi.
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"All relatively easy if you have the right connections and contacts. Can see the struggle though if your looking for new people for mmf. "
I tend to not keep in touch with guys from here, Generally cheaters. |
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"All relatively easy if you have the right connections and contacts. Can see the struggle though if your looking for new people for mmf.
I tend to not keep in touch with guys from here, Generally cheaters. "
This is so true and from a sexual health perspective makes it very difficult |
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"It’s the MFTVTVFMFFMM we’ve struggled with.
It’s just so hard to find compatible hotel rooms.
YMCA is your best bet
I’m doing the dance in my head now!
Which one are you?"
You flirting?
(The builder obvs… nothing ghay about that) |
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"It’s the MFTVTVFMFFMM we’ve struggled with.
It’s just so hard to find compatible hotel rooms.
YMCA is your best bet
I’m doing the dance in my head now!
Which one are you?
You flirting?
(The builder obvs… nothing ghay about that)"
I'm always flirting, you hunk. Great choice |
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"It’s the MFTVTVFMFFMM we’ve struggled with.
It’s just so hard to find compatible hotel rooms.
YMCA is your best bet
I’m doing the dance in my head now!
Which one are you?
You flirting?
(The builder obvs… nothing ghay about that)
I'm always flirting, you hunk. Great choice "
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By *na64Woman 23 weeks ago
Manchester |
It took me ages to set up a MFM (whole reason I joined the site). Over a year.
But when it finally did happen it was a guy asking his mate to come over on a whim.
The amount of men who just bottle it, don’t show, or after all is said and done, pronounce they just prefer you and them was unbelievable .
Think the real unicorns here are men comfortable playing around other men.
Onto my next hurdle, finding a couple who both want to play |
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"It’s the MFTVTVFMFFMM we’ve struggled with.
It’s just so hard to find compatible hotel rooms.
YMCA is your best bet
I’m doing the dance in my head now!
Which one are you?
You flirting?
(The builder obvs… nothing ghay about that)
I'm always flirting, you hunk. Great choice
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Let me see that magic whip, Indiana Bones |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"My experience over the last eight years here with various partners, fuck buddies, FWB’s has always been finding reliable , respectful guys to join is real hard work , but relatively easy to find a second woman to join.
Maybe someone will surprise me !? "
Who’s the lucky girl?  |
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I think it depends on other factors, in my experience anyway.
The kind of threesome you are looking for, is it about intimacy, regular meets or one-offs. If it does entail some intimacy I think the M-F balance does shift in the direction you suggest. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"It took me ages to set up a MFM (whole reason I joined the site). Over a year.
But when it finally did happen it was a guy asking his mate to come over on a whim.
The amount of men who just bottle it, don’t show, or after all is said and done, pronounce they just prefer you and them was unbelievable .
Think the real unicorns here are men comfortable playing around other men.
Onto my next hurdle, finding a couple who both want to play "
So true, my own non fab friends join group chats get all excited then bottle it.
I’ve done it here in the past when I could meet , interview and choose for her. It’s just a lot of effort getting to the good ones
I’m absolutely fine around cock, even if it’s bigger than mine! I just don’t want to suck one |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
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This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf
ok thank you for correcting me
You didn't need to be corrected MMF is very often (and I'd say mostly) regarded as the men interacting with each other (ie bi).
MFM is a 3sum with a woman in the middle MMF is bi.
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I’d never assume anything whether it’s mmf MMF mFm or fMM or MfM , the only meaning they have is what the person reading them assumes |
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Even though finding threesomes was my original reason for joining Fab, I’ve never tried to be the one searching for people and doing the organising. That’s always struck me as a hiding to nothing, coming from a male profile.
All my Fab-based threesomes have come from a couple (or a single woman with a friend) contacting me and asking if I’m interested.
Not sure what I’d try to learn from that though. Maybe, OP, if you tried setting up a couple profile with your friend, it’d be easier to find the right guy that way? I dunno. Maybe not. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up ah right I only put my letters in that order because apparently it means that there not bi but would still meet/play I didn’t even know this until last week & it was on a thread
This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf ok thank you for correcting me "
Sorry, but I'm with Amber on this one. In the 6 years I've been on and off here and the numerous threesomes I've had with two men..MMF is two bi guys playing with each other and including the woman; whereas MFM is generally two straight guys both pleasuring the woman. But I guess everyone has their own definitions  |
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"It took me ages to set up a MFM (whole reason I joined the site). Over a year.
But when it finally did happen it was a guy asking his mate to come over on a whim.
The amount of men who just bottle it, don’t show, or after all is said and done, pronounce they just prefer you and them was unbelievable .
Think the real unicorns here are men comfortable playing around other men.
Onto my next hurdle, finding a couple who both want to play
So true, my own non fab friends join group chats get all excited then bottle it.
I’ve done it here in the past when I could meet , interview and choose for her. It’s just a lot of effort getting to the good ones
I’m absolutely fine around cock, even if it’s bigger than mine! I just don’t want to suck one "
It's is very true, well at least in my experience anyway. It gave me a laugh reading that.
I've had some great threesomes with bi-men though too. Ironically, mostly not from fab, over the years. |
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By *rHotNotts OP Man 23 weeks ago
Dubai & Nottingham |
"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up ah right I only put my letters in that order because apparently it means that there not bi but would still meet/play I didn’t even know this until last week & it was on a thread
This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf ok thank you for correcting me
Sorry, but I'm with Amber on this one. In the 6 years I've been on and off here and the numerous threesomes I've had with two men..MMF is two bi guys playing with each other and including the woman; whereas MFM is generally two straight guys both pleasuring the woman. But I guess everyone has their own definitions "
No generally not, as there are no official definitions. Putting letters in different orders doesn’t mean you’re gay or anything |
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We’ve found it easier to meet ladies as some gents can’t seem to recall they have a partner until we are a few days into a chat or can’t walk the walk.
Ladies are much more straight forward to converse with for sure and they don’t think with their groin area first - they like to get to know you.
Can’t believe the amount of times we start a chat group and a guy thinks sending cocks are necessary 
Not man bashing btw as we’ve found some diamonds in the rough.
I think once you’ve established people are on your level and us theirs, both are as good as each other.
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up ah right I only put my letters in that order because apparently it means that there not bi but would still meet/play I didn’t even know this until last week & it was on a thread
This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf ok thank you for correcting me
Sorry, but I'm with Amber on this one. In the 6 years I've been on and off here and the numerous threesomes I've had with two men..MMF is two bi guys playing with each other and including the woman; whereas MFM is generally two straight guys both pleasuring the woman. But I guess everyone has their own definitions
No generally not, as there are no official definitions. Putting letters in different orders doesn’t mean you’re gay or anything"
Which is why I said "everyone has their own definitions" |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I’m not really putting the letters in order to be honest , two or more guys and one girl, everthing else we discussed and figured out later.
From the guys I have met on here and played with in groups they generally don’t have many preferences for row row is expected of them they will go with the flow so that isn’t the issue.
The main issue is fakes and fantasists first pretend to want it but then bottle it, And second reliability and respectfulness of those who are prepared to turn up ah right I only put my letters in that order because apparently it means that there not bi but would still meet/play I didn’t even know this until last week & it was on a thread
This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf ok thank you for correcting me
Sorry, but I'm with Amber on this one. In the 6 years I've been on and off here and the numerous threesomes I've had with two men..MMF is two bi guys playing with each other and including the woman; whereas MFM is generally two straight guys both pleasuring the woman. But I guess everyone has their own definitions
No generally not, as there are no official definitions. Putting letters in different orders doesn’t mean you’re gay or anything"
if many people see mmf as being bi, then if you have been saying you want an mmf you may have been putting off some guys?
Where do you normally get the Fs for your FFM? |
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"My experience over the last eight years here with various partners, fuck buddies, FWB’s has always been finding reliable , respectful guys to join is real hard work , but relatively easy to find a second woman to join.
Maybe someone will surprise me !? "
My experience over the last 11 years here has been the Polar opposite. Finding a second woman to join me and various partners for fmf has been nigh-on impossible. Mfm threesomes are easy to arrange, and while they have their appeal, and can be a lot of fun, it would be nice to share fmf more than once a decade lol…. |
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This old chestnut again, mmf isn't bi, that would be a bi-mmf
ok thank you for correcting me
You didn't need to be corrected MMF is very often (and I'd say mostly) regarded as the men interacting with each other (ie bi).
MFM is a 3sum with a woman in the middle MMF is bi.
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Well a tad late to the mmf wording bus but my fav is when straight couples contact me for mmf but I say you're straight and I get blocked.women are my first love but I enjoy a little playfulness.Straight profiles who play bi on the quiet should own their shit and are flakier than a certain choccy bar.fabs really a place to be open and honest,much more fun that way lol. |
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