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I have discovered my intuition is very good......I can usuallytell after the first conversation if someone is not being truthful about something. But then I am in sales, it is my job to get to the truth, by asking questions the other person doesn't even know they are answering....
Occassionally someone slips under the radar and I am even more gutted when that happens.. |
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"I have discovered my intuition is very good......I can usuallytell after the first conversation if someone is not being truthful about something. But then I am in sales, it is my job to get to the truth, by asking questions the other person doesn't even know they are answering....
Occassionally someone slips under the radar and I am even more gutted when that happens.."
yes when thay slip under its a bit of a shock I am gutted too ... as think I new people .  |
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"I have discovered my intuition is very good......I can usuallytell after the first conversation if someone is not being truthful about something. But then I am in sales, it is my job to get to the truth, by asking questions the other person doesn't even know they are answering....
Occassionally someone slips under the radar and I am even more gutted when that happens.. yes when thay slip under its a bit of a shock I am gutted too ... as think I new people . "
we think we are good judges of characters..but in truth the people who slip under the radar are usually very good at doing it. Don;t berate yourself too much for it, just try to make sure you don't make the same mistake again.... |
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"I have discovered my intuition is very good......I can usuallytell after the first conversation if someone is not being truthful about something. But then I am in sales, it is my job to get to the truth, by asking questions the other person doesn't even know they are answering....
Occassionally someone slips under the radar and I am even more gutted when that happens.. yes when thay slip under its a bit of a shock I am gutted too ... as think I new people .
we think we are good judges of characters..but in truth the people who slip under the radar are usually very good at doing it. Don;t berate yourself too much for it, just try to make sure you don't make the same mistake again...."
Your right live and learn. xxxxxxx  |
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I don't think anyone slips through the radar...sometimes we take a chance, sometimes it pays off and you meet someone really special, sometimes it goes tits up...either way I enjoy getting ready for a meet, the excitement...the antisipation......
I don't think i've had a meet that did'nt turn me on in some way....  |
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"I have discovered my intuition is very good......I can usuallytell after the first conversation if someone is not being truthful about something. But then I am in sales, it is my job to get to the truth, by asking questions the other person doesn't even know they are answering....
Occassionally someone slips under the radar and I am even more gutted when that happens.. yes when thay slip under its a bit of a shock I am gutted too ... as think I new people .
we think we are good judges of characters..but in truth the people who slip under the radar are usually very good at doing it. Don;t berate yourself too much for it, just try to make sure you don't make the same mistake again....Your right live and learn. xxxxxxx "
so have you found anyone you like at the moment? |
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My problem is when I don't go with my gut feeling, for what ever reason and not only in swinging I do get caught out but my gut is usually right but I ignore it |
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"My problem is when I don't go with my gut feeling, for what ever reason and not only in swinging I do get caught out but my gut is usually right but I ignore it "
just not let me down a lot my gutt feelings ..and when it has about people it knocks me for six as I trust people. |
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It is very tempting to adopt a persona for a one off meet, lets face it we all have many aspects to create our day to day character. I seldom behave the same way at work to when I am on holiday and almost never the same as when we are in a swinging club  so it's quite easy to bring one of those aspects to the front for a single meet.
If there are to be subsequent meets then more of the real people come forward. |
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"My problem is when I don't go with my gut feeling, for what ever reason and not only in swinging I do get caught out but my gut is usually right but I ignore it just not let me down a lot my gutt feelings ..and when it has about people it knocks me for six as I trust people. "
At the time I'm annoyed but I'd rather be let down from time to time than not let anyone new in my life, people will let you down  |
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"It is very tempting to adopt a persona for a one off meet, lets face it we all have many aspects to create our day to day character. I seldom behave the same way at work to when I am on holiday and almost never the same as when we are in a swinging club so it's quite easy to bring one of those aspects to the front for a single meet.
If there are to be subsequent meets then more of the real people come forward. "
well I like to think I am same person.. I am a bit of a open book my mum say a mug , lol |
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"It is very tempting to adopt a persona for a one off meet, lets face it we all have many aspects to create our day to day character. I seldom behave the same way at work to when I am on holiday and almost never the same as when we are in a swinging club so it's quite easy to bring one of those aspects to the front for a single meet.
If there are to be subsequent meets then more of the real people come forward. well I like to think I am same person.. I am a bit of a open book my mum say a mug , lol"
well you seem a lovely woman Jo and I wouldn't say your a mug shame on your mother for saying that but we all make mistakes in life all we can do is learn from them as life it self is a gamble. |
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"If there are to be subsequent meets then more of the real people come forward. well I like to think I am same person.. I am a bit of a open book my mum say a mug , lol"
Hmmm J is more consistent than I am, perhaps it's a life of changes that causes it, one day I could be in a board meeting with CEO's etc, then next under the suspended floor with half a dozen squadies tracing cables. The same persona just wouldn't work Even now as a semi-retired person I have my sawdust covered workshop to play in, and then put on a suit and tie for a meeting with customers or retail outlets. Latest project is a book and the number of different people you have to interact with to get published is staggering. |
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"If there are to be subsequent meets then more of the real people come forward. well I like to think I am same person.. I am a bit of a open book my mum say a mug , lol
Hmmm J is more consistent than I am, perhaps it's a life of changes that causes it, one day I could be in a board meeting with CEO's etc, then next under the suspended floor with half a dozen squadies tracing cables. The same persona just wouldn't work Even now as a semi-retired person I have my sawdust covered workshop to play in, and then put on a suit and tie for a meeting with customers or retail outlets. Latest project is a book and the number of different people you have to interact with to get published is staggering."
yes but deep down its still you ... you just have to play action man now and again .. it like that show on tv today I am going to be mmmmm But no tall stories just you. xx |
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lol definitely me, tall stories require an organised mind and good memory, I don't have either of those things 
Though I do notice a difference in vocabulary depending on my clothing.
As a complete guess I would say J can be assessed by the second or third meet with only peripheral parts of her character unknown, where I would need to meet quite often and in different circumstances for me to be fully revealed.
Still me, but come to my workshop and there is dirty clothes, glue covered fingers and when the chisel or band saw slips some words that would never be heard elsewhere that persona has never been to a club  |
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I met my wife through swinging, came as quite a shock because neither of us knew we were on here,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,doooooooooooooooooo |
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dont think you should realy trust anyone on the internet how ever nice they seem because you dont know them.
my sister comes across as one of the sweetest nicest person you could wish to meet, where as i am quiet and people could say not as nice.
you dont know a person until you live with them though and people who know my sister properly would be quite surprised at what she is realy like.
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It's a shame when people who you thought were totally genuine slip up and forget something they've told you previously and put a total different spin on a subject matter and give you an opposite answer.. Always make me think what other porkies are they saying.. Hence why meeting with them stops..
Some might say a bit harsh... Tough!! |
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"Not much gets by mewell you must be a wise woman xxx I was fooled and it hurt me and I am learning x not to take everyone at face value."
weve all had the wool pulled over our eyes at some time or other i as much as everyone else thats why you learn from your mistakes. At 48 i think im a damn sight wiser than i was when i was 18 but not as wise as i will be when im 68
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"Not much gets by mewell you must be a wise woman xxx I was fooled and it hurt me and I am learning x not to take everyone at face value.weve all had the wool pulled over our eyes at some time or other i as much as everyone else thats why you learn from your mistakes. At 48 i think im a damn sight wiser than i was when i was 18 but not as wise as i will be when im 68"
you are a wise woman xxx you are and your right ... we live and lean until we die x
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"Not much gets by mewell you must be a wise woman xxx I was fooled and it hurt me and I am learning x not to take everyone at face value."
Jo - never take anyone at face value in this world. It's a very sad thing to say, but I assume people are blaggers, liars - call it what you will - until proved otherwise. It's like anything else - the longer you do it, the more wise you become. But it's not wisdom. Just the result of making mistakes, getting burned and - hopefully - learning from those mistakes and not making them again... Also helps - and it is one thing for which I will be eternally grateful - if you have one or two good mentors when you start out in this world. I was lucky. Not everyone is..... |
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"Not much gets by mewell you must be a wise woman xxx I was fooled and it hurt me and I am learning x not to take everyone at face value.
Jo - never take anyone at face value in this world. It's a very sad thing to say, but I assume people are blaggers, liars - call it what you will - until proved otherwise. It's like anything else - the longer you do it, the more wise you become. But it's not wisdom. Just the result of making mistakes, getting burned and - hopefully - learning from those mistakes and not making them again... Also helps - and it is one thing for which I will be eternally grateful - if you have one or two good mentors when you start out in this world. I was lucky. Not everyone is..... "
see I always see best in people .. and maybe its my own fault ,, x need to harden up , xxx |
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"Not much gets by mewell you must be a wise woman xxx I was fooled and it hurt me and I am learning x not to take everyone at face value.
Jo - never take anyone at face value in this world. It's a very sad thing to say, but I assume people are blaggers, liars - call it what you will - until proved otherwise. It's like anything else - the longer you do it, the more wise you become. But it's not wisdom. Just the result of making mistakes, getting burned and - hopefully - learning from those mistakes and not making them again... Also helps - and it is one thing for which I will be eternally grateful - if you have one or two good mentors when you start out in this world. I was lucky. Not everyone is..... see I always see best in people .. and maybe its my own fault ,, x need to harden up , xxx"
Not harden up. Learn and file away each experience - good and/or bad - and next time something similar pops up, you'll spot it before it has chance to hurt you. |
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"I have discovered my intuition is very good......I can usuallytell after the first conversation if someone is not being truthful about something. But then I am in sales, it is my job to get to the truth, by asking questions the other person doesn't even know they are answering....
Occassionally someone slips under the radar and I am even more gutted when that happens.. yes when thay slip under its a bit of a shock I am gutted too ... as think I new people .
we think we are good judges of characters..but in truth the people who slip under the radar are usually very good at doing it. Don;t berate yourself too much for it, just try to make sure you don't make the same mistake again...."
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