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What do you look for most looks or personality
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Looks typically is what is noticed first but to sustain an interest or intrigue, there has to be an interest in their personality too. Can’t have one without the other. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Got to be a physical attraction and also got to be fun, friendly, not into fake people at all and has got to be plenty lf laughter too.
Both are definitely important.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"Looks typically is what is noticed first but to sustain an interest or intrigue, there has to be an interest in their personality too. Can’t have one without the other. "
Well at least your honest huni
Me personally I don’t really mine looks but I do look for beautiful eyes on a woman |
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By *riel13Woman 24 weeks ago
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I don't like that, even though I am initially attracted to someones face... It's not necessarily down to "good looks" so, if you mean attraction... To answer your question... It is both with equal measure... One is no good without the other |
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I'm sapiosexual, so a person's intelligence floats my boat.
I'm ambivalent to looks / clothing / makeup in day to day life. I prefer "au natural".
In a "club" environment with patrons where there is a dress-code, or where I am asking a sub to wear something particular, that's different. |
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Looks usually catch my eye first but need a winning.personally to keep my interest.
There are some with a winning personality and they get more attractive the more you get to know them.
It also works in reverse they could be a looker but if they have an ugly personality that attraction fades. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Manners go a longer way than a hard bod and "personality".
I like men who hold open doors for me, dress up for supper and are intelligent.
They're worth an entire platoon of horny 30-somethings still living with Mammy. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"The look catches my attention....the personality keeps it x
^this"
Also… their personality can catch my attention and they soon become absolutely perfect in every way.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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Personality.
Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.
How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? |
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"Personality.
Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.
How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? "
or the ones that just put hi  |
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"Personality.
Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.
How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi "
Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Personality.
Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.
How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi
Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation "
lol
I get it but there’s not a lot one can do with “hi”!
For me it shows lack of imagination, stupidity or they can’t be arsed, so why bother as I think I’ll be bored. |
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"I'm sapiosexual, so a person's intelligence floats my boat.
I'm ambivalent to looks / clothing / makeup in day to day life. I prefer "au natural".
In a "club" environment with patrons where there is a dress-code, or where I am asking a sub to wear something particular, that's different."
Interesting. I wonder if this is similar to power. I find nearly all female bosses at my work attractive. This could be intelligence or power or both. Looks dint seem to come into it (although, as I'm not blind, they help) |
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"Personality.
Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.
How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi
Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation
lol
I get it but there’s not a lot one can do with “hi”!
For me it shows lack of imagination, stupidity or they can’t be arsed, so why bother as I think I’ll be bored. "
Oh totally! If it’s simply “hi” then I probably wouldn’t bother either. But if they add just a few more words I will attempt to start up a proper conversation - Mrs |
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Instantaneously, looks and then personality.
Over time personality and then looks take second place.
Would I be attracted to a fantastic personality with average looks .... YES
Would I be attracted to a fantastic looker with a shit personality...... NO |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.
And that’s how it’s always worked "
A guy that can be honest!!
Personality is important, but unless I find them physically attractive, it ain't happening.
Both. I need both equally. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.
And that’s how it’s always worked
A guy that can be honest!!
Personality is important, but unless I find them physically attractive, it ain't happening.
Both. I need both equally. "
attraction is complicated, but as always the questions in here are very basic leaving answers shallow.
I have to think she’s pretty, people begin to look very ugly when you see they’re not so good looking when they’re personality or attitude stinks.
If she’s already okay, she becomes the most desirable object of sexual beauty when she makes me laugh engages me and starts to give me something I didn’t think I needed.
It’s that type of thing.
And then there’s more, but that’s it, I’m a nutshell. |
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Mostly personality, physical attraction is obviously the starting point, as that's all you have to start with, but an interesting mind is way more attractive to me, personally. Great conversation and things in common are way more important to me. |
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I am going to sound shallow here, I go for looks first, I have to be physically attracted to a person to want to have the sex with them, if they happen to be funny, witty etc that just a bonus and probably the reason why I have shagged my fairshare of knobheads over the years lol. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Personality.
Looks may get your initial attention but lack of personality; I’m out.
How many females block or delete gorgeous guys who struggle to engage beyond “what u up 2” or such nonsense? or the ones that just put hi
Lol! This!!!! Although…I do give it a couple messages (or I would of never met my Mr in the first place) as it gives me maybe 3 to start a good conversation
lol
I get it but there’s not a lot one can do with “hi”!
For me it shows lack of imagination, stupidity or they can’t be arsed, so why bother as I think I’ll be bored.
Oh totally! If it’s simply “hi” then I probably wouldn’t bother either. But if they add just a few more words I will attempt to start up a proper conversation - Mrs"
Absolutely. Couldn’t agree more |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.
And that’s how it’s always worked
A guy that can be honest!!
Personality is important, but unless I find them physically attractive, it ain't happening.
Both. I need both equally.
attraction is complicated, but as always the questions in here are very basic leaving answers shallow.
I have to think she’s pretty, people begin to look very ugly when you see they’re not so good looking when they’re personality or attitude stinks.
If she’s already okay, she becomes the most desirable object of sexual beauty when she makes me laugh engages me and starts to give me something I didn’t think I needed.
It’s that type of thing.
And then there’s more, but that’s it, I’m a nutshell. "
It isn't shallow to want sex with someone you find attractive. |
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Looks first... there has to be a physical attraction but there still has to be a mental attraction too if we are looking for a play mate 
That being said if we are being honest we have had one or two one night stands that was just for pure fucking so that was just all about physical attraction |
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"Let’s be honest - If I don’t think they look attractive, I’m not attracted.
And that’s how it’s always worked "
Yep. I might grow to like your personality over time, but that's unlikely to be the case for physical appearance.
I'm trying to think of someone whose personality grew on me so much that I began to fancy them despite not finding them physically attractive and I can't think of anyone. For me that's the difference between a friend and more...
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For a "one night, thanks and never see you again but wasn't it amazing?", 75% looks, 25% their vibe.
For anything with a view to seeing them again, they have to be highly attractive to me physically and charismatically.
Why give your best time to someone unsatisfying? You don't get that time back.
High charisma and low looks = friendzone. High looks and low charisma = thanks and wish you well zone.
They have to be pretty high on both for me to invest time in them.
I hope they'd apply the same to me.
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Nobody can maintain a long term relationship on looks alone. There needs to be a meeting of the minds and personal attraction. Besides looks change and the person whose physical beauty dazzled you thirty years ago is going to be beautiful on a different way today. That's when the physical and personality become inseparable |
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"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person "
As my wife says
Also needs to be straight playing
Eyes/eye contact
Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates
Also not narrow minded as in looks 2 many concentrate on a man's body and parts there's more to a man than just his junk look beyond a 6 pack and body type as my wife has amazing eyes and truly sexy being a bbw she's very aware of her size and it puts her of what people think angsieties play a large part for many
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"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person
As my wife says
Also needs to be straight playing
Eyes/eye contact
Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates
Also not narrow minded as in looks 2 many concentrate on a man's body and parts there's more to a man than just his junk look beyond a 6 pack and body type as my wife has amazing eyes and truly sexy being a bbw she's very aware of her size and it puts her of what people think angsieties play a large part for many
Male "
Sorry op think I killed the thread  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 24 weeks ago
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"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person
As my wife says
Also needs to be straight playing
Eyes/eye contact
Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates
Also not narrow minded as in looks 2 many concentrate on a man's body and parts there's more to a man than just his junk look beyond a 6 pack and body type as my wife has amazing eyes and truly sexy being a bbw she's very aware of her size and it puts her of what people think angsieties play a large part for many
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Sorry op think I killed the thread "
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By (user no longer on site) OP 24 weeks ago
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"Has to be personality for me as need to be able to connect with the person
As my wife says
Also needs to be straight playing
Eyes/eye contact
Not a lier as so many can't be. Honest so makes it hard to become true friends the right play mates
Also not narrow minded as in looks 2 many concentrate on a man's body and parts there's more to a man than just his junk look beyond a 6 pack and body type as my wife has amazing eyes and truly sexy being a bbw she's very aware of her size and it puts her of what people think angsieties play a large part for many
Male
Sorry op think I killed the thread "
lol it’s cool |
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