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"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...
Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "
A bit presumptuous I think. A bit jarring too, they might be horny as a rutting rhino at their end but that doesn’t mean I am. |
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"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...
Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "
I don't know.
Send me a message and let's see what happens   |
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By *hoirCouple 25 weeks ago
Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds |
"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...
Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "
If involves a lot of money and my bank account, or a large case, then I am turned on and vair interested.
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By *lfa RomeoMan 25 weeks ago
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"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...
Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "
Send me a message sparkle and I'll let you know  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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The way our bio sort reads, in my head anyways, could be interpreted by some to describe to us their dirtiest thoughts that potentially involve either one, or both of us.
We don't mind anyone describe in detail about what they want to happen, it can show how they like to fuck and it's got to show more imagination that "hi, I would rag your misses" etc
Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right  |
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Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right "
I was gonna mention this caveat before; there’s a fair few profiles that have said they enjoy that sort of first contact (I guess it’s a good sounding board when choosing who to reply to as well). |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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I like to show a little effort, share a flattering thought or two. But I don’t think a long list of intentions is necessarily the snappiest intro. Folks are busy, after all. Am I wrong? |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?  "
In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste  |
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"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?
In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste "
omg  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I’ll let you know if it happens
I always imagine these questions of first messages relate more to women. "
Hence the reason I cannot answer.
But if there was food involved…..  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?
In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste omg "
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"Usually it's clearly a cut and paste job so then it's a polite no thank you. How would you know it was cut and paste though, does the paste oooze out around edges?
In some cases I’d imagine it’s not always paste omg
*puke*"
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Probably a instant block. Maybe a response asking which part of 'only seeking women ' they were to ignorant to understand, before blocking them.
(The only time I've received this type of message is from men) |
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"The way our bio sort reads, in my head anyways, could be interpreted by some to describe to us their dirtiest thoughts that potentially involve either one, or both of us.
We don't mind anyone describe in detail about what they want to happen, it can show how they like to fuck and it's got to show more imagination that "hi, I would rag your misses" etc
Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right "
RIP your inbox |
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The profile says "I have no interest in your self indulgent wank fodder stories being vomited into my inbox."
So anyone who opens with that to me is a straight no, block, or delete depending on what they're actually saying and my mood at the time  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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When I had in my bio my likes and dislikes, they were VERY clear that I was dominant and not submissive, so when I had guys in my DMs telling me they were going to dom me and make me their sub, they got an instant block; because if you can’t read a bio for 20 seconds, I doubt you’re going to listen to me irl |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable."
Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????  |
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"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.
Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach???? "
Moaning because they don't understand why they can't get a meet. |
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"it's a no from us.
a polite conversation opener and getting to know each other a bit is more our flow.
interesting to read other's opinions though as it's usually a quandary as to what to put"
read the profile go from their |
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unfortunately some profiles don't really give much away.
and what they do doesn't lend it's self to a good opener......unless you're diving in with the "we wanna do this, that and the next thing" type messages |
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This is a very good point, I think it works for some people and doesn’t for others
I tried funny opening messages I’ve tried straight to the point and I’ve tried polite messages, I’ve tried ever combination of all of them nothing works
I think it’s a combination of great opening message tailor made for them/her and also your photos |
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"unfortunately some profiles don't really give much away.
and what they do doesn't lend it's self to a good opener......unless you're diving in with the "we wanna do this, that and the next thing" type messages"
Well if theirs not much to go on and you're still interested with nothing much to go on just ask what they are into or strike up a conversation about where they live the weather anything to try and find out whether you would get on, agreed some guys just don't lend themselves to this site, they see it as a sex site with like thinking people but its not, we all require different things from it. |
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"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.
Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach???? "
Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message |
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Dislike, total turn off.
Some randomer that hasn't even seen my face that knows nothing about me describing what he'd like to do to me just shouts desperation & any holes a goal.
(And yes He because I've never had a woman do it!) |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.
Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????
Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message "
That’s partly the point-how else do you approach virtual strangers WITHOUT some kind of basic pleasantry-and how can somebody say something individual IF YOU DON’T KNOW THEM.
I’m not surprised men get short shrift when they respond to a profile with photos-legs akimbo,details of a woman’s genitalia that belong in a medical text-indicating casual ‘it could be you’ uncomplicated sex -and the moment the guy bites the bullet & ratchets up his language & approach to the visual images he’s seeing HE GETS BLOCKED.
Men may get blocked because of boring messages but women show an equal lack of imagination by show ALL their glory and complain when they get the messages & the approaches they do! |
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Being that this is a swinging site I expect that it's part of it. Especially if they have read my profile
I do think most of the time they have put very little effort into it, so it's far too polite that it's boring. |
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"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.
Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????
Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message
That’s partly the point-how else do you approach virtual strangers WITHOUT some kind of basic pleasantry-and how can somebody say something individual IF YOU DON’T KNOW THEM.
I’m not surprised men get short shrift when they respond to a profile with photos-legs akimbo,details of a woman’s genitalia that belong in a medical text-indicating casual ‘it could be you’ uncomplicated sex -and the moment the guy bites the bullet & ratchets up his language & approach to the visual images he’s seeing HE GETS BLOCKED.
Men may get blocked because of boring messages but women show an equal lack of imagination by show ALL their glory and complain when they get the messages & the approaches they do!"
That's what profiles are for. To give you something to actually connect over.
If legs akimbo and no textual content is enough to get you going, then if you fit their preferences shoot your shot the way that makes sense to you in the context.
If someone tells you how they do or don't want to he approached and you decide to ignore that, then it's no surprise there's not a positive response. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...
Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "
Wouldn't be interested. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"The way our bio sort reads, in my head anyways, could be interpreted by some to describe to us their dirtiest thoughts that potentially involve either one, or both of us.
We don't mind anyone describe in detail about what they want to happen, it can show how they like to fuck and it's got to show more imagination that "hi, I would rag your misses" etc
Obviously this is isn't saying it's ok for anyone else, but it is for us, when done right
RIP your inbox "
Actually since we've rewrote our bio to what it is now, you probably would not be surprised if has not changed how people try to message the same one liners along with the unwanted friends request. |
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"If you receive a first message describing what the sender wants to do to you in detail...
Are you impressed, turned on or just not interested? "
Almost always completely uninterested, and the sender shou6be able to work that out from our profile. |
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"Dislike, total turn off.
Some randomer that hasn't even seen my face that knows nothing about me describing what he'd like to do to me just shouts desperation & any holes a goal.
(And yes He because I've never had a woman do it!)"
Exactly this.
It’s all very one sided
“This is what **I** want. You are just a blow up doll in my fantasy” |
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"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.
Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????
Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message
That’s partly the point-how else do you approach virtual strangers WITHOUT some kind of basic pleasantry-and how can somebody say something individual IF YOU DON’T KNOW THEM.
I’m not surprised men get short shrift when they respond to a profile with photos-legs akimbo,details of a woman’s genitalia that belong in a medical text-indicating casual ‘it could be you’ uncomplicated sex -and the moment the guy bites the bullet & ratchets up his language & approach to the visual images he’s seeing HE GETS BLOCKED.
Men may get blocked because of boring messages but women show an equal lack of imagination by show ALL their glory and complain when they get the messages & the approaches they do!"
If you genuinely cannot find a middle ground between boring, lack of effort “hi” and filth.
If you absolutely seriously think that what you just said was in any way ok..
Let me do you a favour. Find the delete profile button and use it. |
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It all depends.
Aimless chit chat "how are you, what you been up to" is all well and good but most of the tone sparkles into absolutely nothing. At least if someone is upfront, or at least makes it quite clear they want to meet in the first message, it doesn't sometimes feel quite as much as a waste of time going through pleasantries to find out there's no interest or compatibility.
As the Mrs of the profile I get quite a lot of these messages aimed at me - whilst he's fine with it, it also shows who actually bothers to read our profile and find out what we're looking for and who just hopes I'll find their message such a turn on I'll be round theirs dropping my knickers asap.
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well when it comes with the obligatory cock pic and request for my face pic (unless they have seen me in chat) - then i read, laugh and reply that the cock sending it is far bigger and im not impressed - ill ignore them then |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Really dislike those. Make me feel very uncomfortable.
Graphic messages(understandably)get a block,vanilla ‘Hi’ messages get a block so where does that leave the person making the approach????
Hopefully realising that if they don't have anything interesting and specific to the individual to say they may as well save the hassle and not message "
How could I be specific if I don’t know them?If a woman’s profile contains nude & explicit photographs of themselves they can’t want anybody approaching them to know anything about them and if you DO pay compliments about her & what you find attractive about her appearance then that doesn’t necessarily lead anywhere either. |
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