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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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Some people seem to frown upon married people being on here who are playing away.
I’m interested in knowing if there are any other married people on Fab who are here looking for a discreet affair.
I find people who are married tend to have a better connection and greater understanding of each others situation..
Would love to connect with likeminded individuals and perhaps hear about your experiences on fab.
Are you married and playing away? Do you find that you have to keep it a secret on here or like me do you prefer to be honest about it and hope to find someone likeminded?
And please if you want to be rude and negative about someone seeking an discreet affair please dont respond lol genuine people only please  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"There are a lot of married people on fab whose partners don't know.
In general women are treated better than men in that respect but not always"
From my experience so fat I would have to agree.. men are treated as dogs and women as ‘having fun’ or ‘bored’. As a man I find the more forthright you are about your situation and what you’re looking for we tend to get more criticism for it.. However I have met a few married women who are more understanding and can relate, this is what makes it easier I’d say |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 25 weeks ago
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"I think “genuine” is not exactly the word I’d use in such context.
I sense a touch of re judgement perhaps?
Do you feel somehow judged?"
Not at all. But I do sense an element of criticism. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I think “genuine” is not exactly the word I’d use in such context.
I sense a touch of re judgement perhaps?
Do you feel somehow judged?
Not at all. But I do sense an element of criticism."
Surely criticism entails an element of judging?
I cheat at Wordle btw. |
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There's so many sites for married people to fuck about, using one that's for swinging which is about openess and honesty and good communication I find a little odd cheating is none of that, it's sly, sneaky & disrespectful never mind the hurt it causes.
I'm sure on the many threads you can find others that enjoy hurting people.
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I am married and we swing together and apart. We are very comfortable with this and enjoy what we do. I totally understand this is not for all but we do. If others don’t like that is of course fine and don’t have to meet us or me. Don’t abuse others though if all happy do this. It does happen on here sadly and why my wife can’t be bothered with the hassle she gets on here. She now sticks to parties and her contact friends |
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By *rpeggioCouple 25 weeks ago
Baughurst |
"I think “genuine” is not exactly the word I’d use in such context.
I sense a touch of re judgement perhaps?"
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Not really. It's a fact. If you say that you are genuine by being here upfront that you are cheating but not genuine with your wife by hiding it from her, then you are only partially genuine, part-time genuine, selective genuine, so not fully genuine. No judgement here. It's simply that you are not genuine, only and maybe when it's convenient to you. |
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By *ML49Man 25 weeks ago
Burnley |
"There are a lot of married people on fab whose partners don't know.
In general women are treated better than men in that respect but not always"
How do you know they are cheating unless they tell you? |
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If being honest, there's only been a handful I've not really had connection with. The fun was good and laughs were had but it's a very small minority. Married or single, I don't think it matters about your status. People are either writhing around or it's a bit more perfunctory. |
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It makes sense that two people who are both cheating will have a greater mutual understanding of each other's situation.
It doesn't make sense to post about cheating on a swingers site and not expect some push back. |
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"There are a lot of married people on fab whose partners don't know.
In general women are treated better than men in that respect but not always
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How do you know they are cheating unless they tell you? "
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Because the women mention their marital statuses on their profiles without any compunction; because they will unwittingly mention it on threads and on rare occasions they will also create threads and shoehorn that fact or indirectly infer it.
Either way, men are lambasted and women are fêted (comparatively speaking). Rightly or wrongly. |
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If they are honest about being attached which where we live most aren't and depends on so many factors regarding the relationship ? and some say it's not swinging it's cheating though and we wouldn't play with a attached person either male or female and we did once without knowing they were ...xxx  |
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Yeah. I think that a lot of people will lambast you for this and with good reason.
Swinging is about trust, communication, honesty and respect. Which of these things are you showing your partner?
If you’re capable of lying to the person that you vowed to love then how can anyone trust you?
If your partner is making you so unhappy that you want to cheat, then why not just leave them, give them the honesty that you claim to give and then you can fuck whoever you want. |
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By *TG3Man 25 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"Some people seem to frown upon married people being on here who are playing away.
I’m interested in knowing if there are any other married people on Fab who are here looking for a discreet affair.
I find people who are married tend to have a better connection and greater understanding of each others situation..
Would love to connect with likeminded individuals and perhaps hear about your experiences on fab.
Are you married and playing away? Do you find that you have to keep it a secret on here or like me do you prefer to be honest about it and hope to find someone likeminded?
And please if you want to be rude and negative about someone seeking an discreet affair please dont respond lol genuine people only please "
what am i thinking if we are like minded?  |
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Swinging is about adding extra fun to a relationship with both halves of the couple knowing about it and being happy to share.
There should be no sneaking around, cheating and swinging don't mix well and being honest about it with people other than your partner doesn't make it acceptable. |
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Whilst I appreciate that relationships can be very complex, your terminology of 'playing away' isn't really doing you any favours. I don't think it's something to glorify or diminish the significance of.
I don't appreciate betrayal of trust, however I do find that what qualifies as cheating is quite subjective and at times for some can be quite a transient definition to suit their personal circumstances.
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""Having an affair" and "swinging" are two very different things, OP.
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An affair is worse as it implies they is something from a connection / relationship.
Some people may engage in swinging to add variety into their sex lives or due to their curiosity. |
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By *hrimper36Couple 25 weeks ago
Central France dept 36 |
The green arrow tells a much more honest story than some poster alluded too and the gulf between cheating and swinging at times can be
enormous but you genuinely have fun either cheating or swinging which ever one sits better in your lifestyle.
T |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"The green arrow tells a much more honest story than some poster alluded too and the gulf between cheating and swinging at times can be
enormous but you genuinely have fun either cheating or swinging which ever one sits better in your lifestyle.
T"
I've green arrowed and confused  is he married? Is he not? What didn't he feel was good enough in the multiple previous threads about married people? |
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By *hrimper36Couple 25 weeks ago
Central France dept 36 |
"The green arrow tells a much more honest story than some poster alluded too and the gulf between cheating and swinging at times can be
enormous but you genuinely have fun either cheating or swinging which ever one sits better in your lifestyle.
T
I've green arrowed and confused is he married? Is he not? What didn't he feel was good enough in the multiple previous threads about married people?"
Sometimes you just need a peek at the green arrow to make sense of a thread.!!!!!
T |
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"Some people seem to frown upon married people being on here who are playing away.
I’m interested in knowing if there are any other married people on Fab who are here looking for a discreet affair.
I find people who are married tend to have a better connection and greater understanding of each others situation..
Would love to connect with likeminded individuals and perhaps hear about your experiences on fab.
Are you married and playing away? Do you find that you have to keep it a secret on here or like me do you prefer to be honest about it and hope to find someone likeminded?
And please if you want to be rude and negative about someone seeking an discreet affair please dont respond lol genuine people only please "
Genuine question - how do you plan to meet someone regularly and not end up standing them up sometimes or leave them hanging around if you're late?
By the nature of the act, you can't guarantee that you will always be available when you say you will - if your unsuspecting partner's plans change that would have a knock on effect to the person you're meeting. You could then end up treating the other person like a cum dump if your time is limited, even if you don't mean to.
This is the issue I now have with meeting married men, happened to me a few too many times and I won't be squeezed in between work and getting home for their tea. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"There's so many sites for married people to fuck about
Mrs
Please provide details 
Mumsnet"
I got lambasted by Mumsnet in Bristol. I may have got a 'Hooters' into one of their shopping centres, and all hell broke loose.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"There's so many sites for married people to fuck about
Mrs
Please provide details
Mumsnet
I got lambasted by Mumsnet in Bristol. I may have got a 'Hooters' into one of their shopping centres, and all hell broke loose. "
Moral of the story - don't cross Mumsnet, they are merciless (actually they managed to get it closed down!) |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"What free cheat sites are out there? Maybe married people should be directed to them by admin if not swinging..."
I'd like to know (asking for my married friend) |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"What free cheat sites are out there? Maybe married people should be directed to them by admin if not swinging...
Behave
There are a heck of a lot of people here who don't swing either "
I suppose it depends on the size of the breasts (and whether they are encased by a bra) and whether the dick is constrained by budgie smugglers or its owner has boxers or goes commando  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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""Having an affair" and "swinging" are two very different things, OP.
... quite agree!"
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This .... what people do outside of their marriages is their own business but if you are not going to be honest to your spouse at least please be honest with those you wish to meet with.
Some people are not comfortable swinging with those seeking an affair. That needs to be respected. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"If a woman wants to secretly meet outside of her marriage that’s fine with me "
How about if she wants to meet inside of her marriage? You'll give her a pass? |
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Attached myself and disclosed that on my profile.
I didn’t do that disclosure at first but I later thought it wound be a good idea to let people I was meeting up with to know about my situation before rather than after any thing happens.
That way they could make their own decision prior to meeting rather than been mislead about anything.
I Need to be Uber discreet and would like to meet with new friends who also find themselves in the same situation and have a respect for the situation that we put ourselves in.
Also I like to put some distance between myself and my fab friends.
I remember meeting a married older woman when I was a younger who told me not to shit on your own doorstep.
Wise words indeed that have always stuck with me  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Some people seem to frown upon married people being on here who are playing away.
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And please if you want to be rude and negative about someone seeking a discreet affair please dont respond lol …."
You’ve posted this publicly, so everyone has s as free license to respond. …. LOL! …..
I don’t necessarily frown upon it, cheating has been going on since year dot. But there was a time where people keep that fucking quiet, as not to insult their partner. But it seems to be that because you’re online and you don’t think your partner is going to see it you can shout it from the rooftop of how sexy you must be to have somebody at home, trusting you, cooking for you probably, thinking that you are at work (probably) whilst you’re fucking around behind their back.
But hey I guess they can’t, and won’t respond to a shitty thread like this aswell,… unless they do read it because they are on here too, because sometimes what goes around comes around. Or at least I fucking hope so. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Some people seem to frown upon married people being on here who are playing away.
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And please if you want to be rude and negative about someone seeking a discreet affair please dont respond lol ….
You’ve posted this publicly, so everyone has s as free license to respond. …. LOL! …..
I don’t necessarily frown upon it, cheating has been going on since year dot. But there was a time where people keep that fucking quiet, as not to insult their partner. But it seems to be that because you’re online and you don’t think your partner is going to see it you can shout it from the rooftop of how sexy you must be to have somebody at home, trusting you, cooking for you probably, thinking that you are at work (probably) whilst you’re fucking around behind their back.
But hey I guess they can’t, and won’t respond to a shitty thread like this aswell,… unless they do read it because they are on here too, because sometimes what goes around comes around. Or at least I fucking hope so. "
Sorry. …^ lol.  |
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By *B69Woman 25 weeks ago
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Majority of messages I get from men is they find meeting a married woman more of a turn on. There’s also a lot of men in swinging couples that state on their profiles they won’t meet separately or without their partners consent msg asking for a discreet meet. I’m not saying what is right or wrong but just putting it out there my experience on here.
Please block away, I’m not here for hecklers |
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"Majority of messages I get from men is they find meeting a married woman more of a turn on. There’s also a lot of men in swinging couples that state on their profiles they won’t meet separately or without their partners consent msg asking for a discreet meet. I’m not saying what is right or wrong but just putting it out there my experience on here.
Please block away, I’m not here for hecklers "
Love your photos x |
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Just goes to show that women have more morals than men
I take offence at this blatant sexism.
Plenty of cheating women here."
She only said more morals, not that they were good morals or even that they abide by them. |
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Just goes to show that women have more morals than men
I take offence at this blatant sexism.
Plenty of cheating women here."
Women don't get slated nearly as much as men for cheating on fab. That said, I've yet to see a woman make a thread looking for sympathy about it. |
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Just goes to show that women have more morals than men
I take offence at this blatant sexism.
Plenty of cheating women here."
Yes there probably are though they don't tend to start threads about doing so |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Genuine question - how do you plan to meet someone regularly and not end up standing them up sometimes or leave them hanging around if you're late?
By the nature of the act, you can't guarantee that you will always be available when you say you will - if your unsuspecting partner's plans change that would have a knock on effect to the person you're meeting. You could then end up treating the other person like a cum dump if your time is limited, even if you don't mean to.
This is the issue I now have with meeting married men, happened to me a few too many times and I won't be squeezed in between work and getting home for their tea."
Totally agree. I won't be treated like a sex worker squeezed in for a quick fuck a go, showering before leaving so wife won't smell the sex on them (yes had that one happen .... he was totally busted) ...
I prefer genuinely single men who have flexibility to meet when I am free in evenings and weekends |
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