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Do you go to the pub solo?
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I have only done if I knew or say someone had said they used public house on evening they had said go in there. So would go in hope of meeting up. I have never gone into a public house if did not know anyone. Yet for roughly twenty plus years worked away from home in UK and Europe. If away would use the hotel bar etc. Yes go out to somewhere if invited. |
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It doesn't cause me any apprehension, but I don't do it very often.
It's been a while since I've found a pub that has that kind of atmosphere here, pubs sort of changed after the smoking ban and many closed down or became family restaurants.
I found an awesome bar in Reno but it's a bit of a trek.
An Irish fried told me Galway still has great pubs, maybe I'll move there one day. |
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I regularly go to my fave pub alone. Granted, its not a crazy busy one! I go out to eat alone & holiday alone. If I want to chat, I can start up a convo with other folk. Otherwise, I take a book with me & read that. Either way, it's liberating x |
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"I'd go to a pub alone and do sometimes but I don't think I'd go to a bar alone
What’s the difference between a pub and a bar?"
A pub is comfy & laid back. A bar is more formal/evening type of vibe...?
I'd not go to a bar solo, either. But mainly 'cos I don't drink  |
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"I'd go to a pub alone and do sometimes but I don't think I'd go to a bar alone
What’s the difference between a pub and a bar?"
I'd say a pub offers food? A bar generally just serves drinks and snacks? |
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Always, I've met the absolute best people over the last month just be venturing out in Newcastle City Centre, oddly I always gravitate towards swingers or Fab folks..?
I think we all stand out by a country mile.. Or I maybe wrong here?  |
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"Always, I've met the absolute best people over the last month just be venturing out in Newcastle City Centre, oddly I always gravitate towards swingers or Fab folks..?
I think we all stand out by a country mile.. Or I maybe wrong here? "
I love Newcastle for stopping off for a bevvie on my home from work once a week or so! Never met any swingers though
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"I'd go to a pub alone and do sometimes but I don't think I'd go to a bar alone"
I think I’m similar to this. I find it much easier to do so when I’m away from my home city though I do still feel self conscious. Trying to get out of my comfort zone though! 
Seeing guys in the pub by themselves is quite normal but not ladies so much |
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"I'd go to a pub alone and do sometimes but I don't think I'd go to a bar alone
I think I’m similar to this. I find it much easier to do so when I’m away from my home city though I do still feel self conscious. Trying to get out of my comfort zone though!
Seeing guys in the pub by themselves is quite normal but not ladies so much"
I fell into the habit of popping into the Spoons opposite the bus station on my commute home quite frequently for months (shitty weather conditions, and they have toilets! ). Started off feeling a little blah, as I was literally going in to kill waiting time, and paying 60p for an orange and soda water But got to the point the bar staff recognised me, knew my daft little order, and would gravitate towards me with a smile on their face (because I'm sober/not a PITA), and have a bit chit chat as others were getting rowdy I was also firmly working my way through their back stock of scampi fries, that apparently nobody else bought |
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"I'd go to a pub alone and do sometimes but I don't think I'd go to a bar alone
I think I’m similar to this. I find it much easier to do so when I’m away from my home city though I do still feel self conscious. Trying to get out of my comfort zone though!
Seeing guys in the pub by themselves is quite normal but not ladies so much
I fell into the habit of popping into the Spoons opposite the bus station on my commute home quite frequently for months (shitty weather conditions, and they have toilets! ). Started off feeling a little blah, as I was literally going in to kill waiting time, and paying 60p for an orange and soda water But got to the point the bar staff recognised me, knew my daft little order, and would gravitate towards me with a smile on their face (because I'm sober/not a PITA), and have a bit chit chat as others were getting rowdy I was also firmly working my way through their back stock of scampi fries, that apparently nobody else bought "
Fuck all I can think about now is those crispy wee pillows of fishyness, love them |
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"Personally I think drinking on your own is not a good thing in general
Some of us like rum but don't like people.
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I love rum and maybe some people but what I mean is drinking on your own isn't a good habit to form |
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"Personally I think drinking on your own is not a good thing in general
Some of us like rum but don't like people.
I love rum and maybe some people but what I mean is drinking on your own isn't a good habit to form "
But...see above.
I'm not giving up rum and I aren't gonna become sociable.
There's worse habits. |
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"Personally I think drinking on your own is not a good thing in general
Some of us like rum but don't like people.
I love rum and maybe some people but what I mean is drinking on your own isn't a good habit to form
But...see above.
I'm not giving up rum and I aren't gonna become sociable.
There's worse habits. "
difficult you are |
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"Personally I think drinking on your own is not a good thing in general
Some of us like rum but don't like people.
I love rum and maybe some people but what I mean is drinking on your own isn't a good habit to form
But...see above.
I'm not giving up rum and I aren't gonna become sociable.
There's worse habits. difficult you are "
Rather that than be easy |
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"Personally I think drinking on your own is not a good thing in general
Some of us like rum but don't like people.
I love rum and maybe some people but what I mean is drinking on your own isn't a good habit to form
But...see above.
I'm not giving up rum and I aren't gonna become sociable.
There's worse habits. difficult you are
Rather that than be easy "
well nothing good ever comes easy does it |
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"for me i like company when going to the pub,, female company
There goes your invitation for pie and pint ,,, you know i would have a pint with you mb "
Oh thanks, anytime. Pie too or tapas or a selection of meze |
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Traveled the world working with no more than a week in one place and always ventured to a local drinking establishment from Tapai to Rio. Language is often a problem although being a native English speaker is a great advantage.
I’ve had some very interesting evenings. |
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"Always, I've met the absolute best people over the last month just be venturing out in Newcastle City Centre, oddly I always gravitate towards swingers or Fab folks..? Newcastle possibly the best city in the uk!! I can go out drinking in the town on my own easily but I have had awkward occasions when an ex will come into the same bar with a bloke and I'm standing there like Billy no mates. Never a good feeling.
I think we all stand out by a country mile.. Or I maybe wrong here?
I love Newcastle for stopping off for a bevvie on my home from work once a week or so! Never met any swingers though
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Yes it does not bother me going to a pub/bar by myself.
It’s good to people watch…
Although I did feel conscious when I went to Croatia and went out for dinner in an open aired bar. I guess with everyone around me not speaking English and there were several large groups, all having a laugh, it felt quite a lonely experience.
K
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I don't go alone or with anyone. It's a building full of people who are mostly drug*ed up on booze to some degree and I don't want to be around people who enjoy that. |
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I'm not a massive pub person (only teetotallers drink less than me), but I've always been very comfortable going to a pub, nightclub (hell...it's a disco damn it! And I love my discos!) on my own, dancing like a nutter with water mostly, making friends, holidays, coffee shops, swinger clubs/parties etc on my own.
I prefer it. Simpler time management.
I think it's easier if you're a 6ft1 male than a 5ft something female - the idiots don't fancy their chances against height and strength, whereas women are easier targets for idiots, so group/attending with another provides more safety.
But yes - I love things on my own, including rare visits to pubs. |
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Happy to go and enjoy a couple of quiet pints alone (happy in my own company). I also just like taking in the atmosphere and people watching.
However the whole solo social thing is not in my comfort zone. I have to be in the mood with my social battery charged and make what for me is a big effort. However over the years it's a skill I've developed (I don't think its a skill to most people, just natural). So a difficult as it is sometimes in the right mood and atmosphere I do strike up conversations with strangers and make new freinds. I think for me the biggest milestone in this solo social pursuit is when I started going to swinger clubs solo. If I can do that I can do anything. However it's not easy for me and I have to be in the mood.
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I adore going Into a pub alone and people watching, however I do take a book, to stop people Inviting themselves into my space, or worse asking me to join them as they feel sorry for me, being on my own  |
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"I adore going Into a pub alone and people watching, however I do take a book, to stop people Inviting themselves into my space, or worse asking me to join them as they feel sorry for me, being on my own "
And I was just going to buy you a cider.  |
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"I do it all the time. I go out and watch a band or two. But being taller than most and with a tendency to lurk at the back with my resting bitch face. I do get some people assuming I'm a bouncer or police officer. "
At least you have the courtesy to stand at the back! Being 5'3", I always used to be surrounded by tall folk at gigs & can't see x |
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"Personally I think drinking on your own is not a good thing in general"
It all depends though, no? I mean going to a bar on your tod to get shitfaced, is very different to having a pint, or a soft drink. If I'm hanging about for over 40mins on my commute home I'd rather sit in a bar/pub and have a drink/access to their loos vs sitting on the train platform. |
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I enjoy going out on my own, it sort forces you to put yourself out there and get chatting.
I've met some awesome people and had great experiences over the years.
I'm not an overly shy fella either which helps. |
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Locally, I'll pop in if there is a sports game I want to see. Other times tend to be if im out of town, usually for a gig.
Generally the price of pint is the same as a pack of 4 in the supermarket so opt to just drink at home |
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"Personally I think drinking on your own is not a good thing in general
Some of us like rum but don't like people.
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If only they sold rum with a free penis attached, that'd solve a lot of your problems wouldn't it?
Maybe one for dragons den  |
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Generally ill only head to the pub on my own if I'm meeting someone there. There are no 'local' type pubs anywhere near, and I couldn't think of anything worse than getting to the pub and finding I can't get a seat anywhere while surrounded by loud music and people trying to talk over it. If it were a nice peaceful environment to relax in, I'd be there in a heartbeat. |
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"Generally ill only head to the pub on my own if I'm meeting someone there. There are no 'local' type pubs anywhere near, and I couldn't think of anything worse than getting to the pub and finding I can't get a seat anywhere while surrounded by loud music and people trying to talk over it. If it were a nice peaceful environment to relax in, I'd be there in a heartbeat. "
A good old-fashioned pub. |
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Similar to others; when abroad for work I’ll venture out for an apéro alone to relax. Also never hit on, It’s the price to pay for a bitchy resting face I guess! |
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"Generally ill only head to the pub on my own if I'm meeting someone there. There are no 'local' type pubs anywhere near, and I couldn't think of anything worse than getting to the pub and finding I can't get a seat anywhere while surrounded by loud music and people trying to talk over it. If it were a nice peaceful environment to relax in, I'd be there in a heartbeat.
A good old-fashioned pub. "
Where have they all gone...  |
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"Generally ill only head to the pub on my own if I'm meeting someone there. There are no 'local' type pubs anywhere near, and I couldn't think of anything worse than getting to the pub and finding I can't get a seat anywhere while surrounded by loud music and people trying to talk over it. If it were a nice peaceful environment to relax in, I'd be there in a heartbeat.
A good old-fashioned pub.
Where have they all gone... "
There's a few near me.
Just saying |
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"Generally ill only head to the pub on my own if I'm meeting someone there. There are no 'local' type pubs anywhere near, and I couldn't think of anything worse than getting to the pub and finding I can't get a seat anywhere while surrounded by loud music and people trying to talk over it. If it were a nice peaceful environment to relax in, I'd be there in a heartbeat. "
No music, one armed bandits or duke boxes in my local. Just an excellent selection of beers and friendly customers v |
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"Generally ill only head to the pub on my own if I'm meeting someone there. There are no 'local' type pubs anywhere near, and I couldn't think of anything worse than getting to the pub and finding I can't get a seat anywhere while surrounded by loud music and people trying to talk over it. If it were a nice peaceful environment to relax in, I'd be there in a heartbeat.
A good old-fashioned pub.
Where have they all gone... "
They're out of fashion, the youngsters drink less and like me prefer other locations for socialising. I prefer a nice couch in a coffee shop. |
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