1. Many people will look at your profile before responding to a message. Is it selling you as best as you can?
2. Consider the content of your messages
3. Clubs and socials - as long as you behave like a decent human being and ask for one, guaranteed verification. (Which isn't the be all and end all, but it's a start) |
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"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"
This site isn't easy for us men. (Its not easy for women but, in almost entirely the opposite way!)
I'd say, seek advice on your profile and get involved in the forums, just like you're doing. |
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As you are now aware, there are a lot of single men on here. Look at your own two sentence profile bio. Do you feel it reflects you and what you offer and seek ? If you were a single woman browsing, would you choose you ? |
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"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"
Your profile is your shop window OP.
Ask yourself. If you were a woman would you reply to your profile. If the answer is no then change it accordingly. Loads of threads on advice as to what kind of things to put.
That being said, be you, be honest always  and enjoy yourself. Loads of socials available and the forum is a great place to chat  |
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"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"
The size of your penis and muscles, is much less important than your personality to most ladies.
Most women will look at profiles before responding to messages. Think of it as your shop window.
As it stands there's very little text to entice potential meets to "come inside" and get to know you.
A variety of photos, most not showing your cock is also a good idea.
If you like the social side of things, get to socials and clubs too, don't just rely on Fab. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
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Up to now , thanks for all the replies , help and advice . It has certainly given me things to think about , especially the quality of my profile . I’m just going to have to get past my writers block and use my imagination a bit more . Again thanks xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 26 weeks ago
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Yes , again I admit to my bio being poor . I am only just realising I am a person worth meeting after many setbacks in my life . So putting ‘ me ‘ into words is still a little difficult. |
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"Yes , again I admit to my bio being poor . I am only just realising I am a person worth meeting after many setbacks in my life . So putting ‘ me ‘ into words is still a little difficult. "
The bit that says looking to find what I have missed out on, makes it all about you and your needs being satisfied. |
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By *_bywaterMan 26 weeks ago
salisbury and Chester |
Some really helpful advice here.
Bio needs some work, and some “normal” pictures are a good start.
Before messaging someone, read their profile. They will have put effort into it, so reciprocate by writing a decent message that reflects what they are looking for.
It will take a lot of messages to make a break through and find someone you enjoy chatting with. Then a meet may occur.
Women have the yellow wall of unread messages in their inbox, men have the same in the sent… patience pays off. |
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"As a single guy , not particularly well endowed I’m finding it hard to get involved in the swinging scene . Any advise is more than welcome. Thanks"
get yourself at some of the social meets in areas of choice .. often its easier to ease in that way with a few social meets, get some chats/veris and confidence |
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Many women don't care about your size op, some will and they won't be for you.
Most do look for a well written profile that gives them some info about what you're into and offering.
So maybe make sure your profile is the best it can be. |
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By *TG3Man 26 weeks ago
Dorchester |
Your profile is your advert here and you have 8 out of 9 pics featuring your penis, i think you may struggle you're treating the site like its a sex site, i don't know how you message but the problem here is as in life you have to treat women with respect become friends then you get a meet. Who knows what you'll do with the info gleaned from here but you'll get some great tips, use it and maybe you'll have luck.  |
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"Yes , again I admit to my bio being poor . I am only just realising I am a person worth meeting after many setbacks in my life . So putting ‘ me ‘ into words is still a little difficult. "
No need for a life story... Just a little bit about you, what you're looking for and what you have to offer. |
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If you think your cock isn't your best feature, maybe don't show it off in every pic. One or two should more than suffice if you feel you need to show it off.
Some good advice above, all the best OP |
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By *ACOLCouple 26 weeks ago
limerick |
Perhaps a revamp of your profile?
Inwould keep public pics PGish with a hint of teasing and maybe keepnthe more spicy or nude in your Friends only section.
Maybe share pics of what you like doing...as a single you are swimming in a big single pond, so you will need to stand out by maybe showing your interest.
Also your bio - newly single, might not be stable and might want to fuck everything under the sun, which brings drama. So yeah maybe re think the bio.
Socials will get you more meets than even here!
Good luck OP.
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