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I'd say 90% of my friends are female. Some are married, some aren't, I regularly have breakfast, lunch or a coffee with them alone and its been that way for years! Feel like a gay best friend sometimes but to answer your question, yes I think it's possible. But, it is very easy to overstep the mark too. |
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I don’t know. I always thought everyone could, and I do think some can. I don’t think I can. I can have male friends on quite a shallow level. Going out, group get togethers, pleasant conversations without any real depth etc but I have never been able to sustain a really deep friendship with a man without sex being an element. I’m not sure why.
I’m not straight and I can manage to sustain very very healthy and deep friendship with women, including other bisexual/gay women, without sex being present. Weird one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Great film one of my favourites.
One of my best friends is a woman and I have never wanted to have sex with her or she with me. "
I think, as I’ve watched the film more and more over the years (it’s my favourite and comfort) I understand it to be true when there is sexual attraction. As in the film, the sex eventually gets in the way. If your friends with people you have no sexual interest in, of course you can be friends but I don’t think the film really covers that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Harry and sally were wrong."
If they were so wrong, why do they end up together? Why did sex ruin their friendship? Why are they the best on screen couple in history? Why aren’t YOU wrong?  |
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"Harry and sally were wrong.
If they were so wrong, why do they end up together? Why did sex ruin their friendship? Why are they the best on screen couple in history? Why aren’t YOU wrong? "
Because I have friendships with men wh8ch don't end up in sex. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Harry and sally were wrong.
If they were so wrong, why do they end up together? Why did sex ruin their friendship? Why are they the best on screen couple in history? Why aren’t YOU wrong?
Because I have friendships with men wh8ch don't end up in sex. "
do you or them want to have sex with each other? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Harry and sally were wrong.
If they were so wrong, why do they end up together? Why did sex ruin their friendship? Why are they the best on screen couple in history? Why aren’t YOU wrong?
Because I have friendships with men wh8ch don't end up in sex. do you or them want to have sex with each other? "
Because that’s the point I think is made. But clearly but I think that’s the point of the film |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Harry and sally were wrong.
If they were so wrong, why do they end up together? Why did sex ruin their friendship? Why are they the best on screen couple in history? Why aren’t YOU wrong?
Because I have friendships with men wh8ch don't end up in sex. do you or them want to have sex with each other?
Because that’s the point I think is made. But clearly but I think that’s the point of the film"
that and love built in friendship is the most beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Women cant be the hardest people to get along with so why on earth id want one as a friend is beyond me lol i dont feel like i could ever be friends with a woman without theyre ever been any sexual interest. The mr by the way |
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"Or does the sex party always get in the way?
Think I’m going to watch that tonight "
I'm just friends with loads of guys..... and sex doesn't get in the way... we are just friends and they see me as one of the lads.
Cali |
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By *rBobbMan 29 weeks ago
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"Or does the sex party always get in the way?
Think I’m going to watch that tonight I'm just friends with loads of guys..... and sex doesn't get in the way... we are just friends and they see me as one of the lads.
Cali"
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I think its possible. But there will always be some attraction on someones part at some point. "
Exactly this they can be friends and may always just be friends but at some point along the line one half of the friendship will have stronger feelings some will act upon it others won’t just my opinion! |
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"Harry and sally were wrong.
If they were so wrong, why do they end up together? Why did sex ruin their friendship? Why are they the best on screen couple in history? Why aren’t YOU wrong?
Because I have friendships with men wh8ch don't end up in sex. do you or them want to have sex with each other? "
It's never come up. I have even shared a bed with one male friend. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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As someone currently sitting in the garden of one of my best friends having a drink...who as it happens to be female.
Yes...they can be friends.
I don't sexualise my friends |
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I think you can be friends, openly discuss that you are attracted to each other and remain friends, whether you decide to fuck each other, or not.
When you have a partner, who fancies your friend in that situation, but your friend isn't attracted to her - that makes for some interesting conversations. |
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By *hoirCouple 29 weeks ago
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I wonder how many of the friendships are unrequited attraction on one side, with the desire to be around that person holding some back from admitting it.
If anyone understands what I mean I salute you, cos I've lost it
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Yes one of my best friends was a guy.
We did loads together. Sadly he moved to Ireland and we are still friends via Facebook. He's married now with two teenagers.
Definetly nothing sexual between us |
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By *929Man 29 weeks ago
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"I wonder how many of the friendships are unrequited attraction on one side, with the desire to be around that person holding some back from admitting it.
If anyone understands what I mean I salute you, cos I've lost it
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Probably at least 95% of the men in that situation, women seem perfectly capable of being friends with a bloke and nowt else, most men not so much |
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By *929Man 29 weeks ago
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"Think it depends on the person. Being 100% honest I have absolutely zero desire to spend time with any female that I’m not romantically involved with so for me personally it’s no.
How come? "
Just no interest in ever doing so, the rare time I socialise it’s with the male friends I’ve known my whole life |
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If I am around another human then the overwhelming majority of my time is spent in the company of females - I generally find women easier to talk to than men and I can be friends with a woman without wanting to fuck her. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Harry and sally were wrong.
If they were so wrong, why do they end up together? Why did sex ruin their friendship? Why are they the best on screen couple in history? Why aren’t YOU wrong?
Because I have friendships with men wh8ch don't end up in sex. do you or them want to have sex with each other?
It's never come up. I have even shared a bed with one male friend. "
then that’s not what I meant |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Ok, Pickle, i think the consensus is you just fancy everybody but the rest of us can have platonic friends of the opposite sex  "
I have friends that are women. But I don’t want to have sex with them. Could I be friends with someone I want to have sex with? Idk.
I don’t fancy everyone btw. There’s plenty of people I have no interest in  |
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"Ok, Pickle, i think the consensus is you just fancy everybody but the rest of us can have platonic friends of the opposite sex I have friends that are women. But I don’t want to have sex with them. Could I be friends with someone I want to have sex with? Idk.
I don’t fancy everyone btw. There’s plenty of people I have no interest in "
This is pretty much me. I was told here I probably need some counselling. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Yeah, I think it's definitely possible. You can definitely be on the same wavelength about many topics and not find them sexually attractive and vice versa. I think know sex will never be on the cards helps you focus on building that friendship  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Ok, Pickle, i think the consensus is you just fancy everybody but the rest of us can have platonic friends of the opposite sex I have friends that are women. But I don’t want to have sex with them. Could I be friends with someone I want to have sex with? Idk.
I don’t fancy everyone btw. There’s plenty of people I have no interest in
This is pretty much me. I was told here I probably need some counselling."
oh I definitely need counselling |
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"Ok, Pickle, i think the consensus is you just fancy everybody but the rest of us can have platonic friends of the opposite sex I have friends that are women. But I don’t want to have sex with them. Could I be friends with someone I want to have sex with? Idk.
I don’t fancy everyone btw. There’s plenty of people I have no interest in
This is pretty much me. I was told here I probably need some counselling. oh I definitely need counselling "
We should go halves |
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"Look at it like this.
You are friends if you fuck you can still be friends if you want to call it something else you still were friends before then so it's all good.
Special fwiends
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I was just about to put this. Spooky. Fwends |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 29 weeks ago
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"Ok, Pickle, i think the consensus is you just fancy everybody but the rest of us can have platonic friends of the opposite sex I have friends that are women. But I don’t want to have sex with them. Could I be friends with someone I want to have sex with? Idk.
I don’t fancy everyone btw. There’s plenty of people I have no interest in
This is pretty much me. I was told here I probably need some counselling. oh I definitely need counselling
We should go halves "
Shared session or two separate 30 minute sessions |
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Ps. Sex doesn’t get in the way. 
