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Do you perfect a few "nice nicey" messages along the "hi, how are you" route before whoever your're chatting to/you propose your interest in taking things further or do you prefer to receive a message from someone who straight of the bat sets their stall out and go from there?
Probably a much easier way of wording all that but you'll get the gist 
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"So we're not talking about splatting ones member on someone's lady garden?  "
I think that we're talking more along the lines of "Hi OP, that's a very nice shopping basket you have, do you do your own basket weaving, I've got a fascinating story about an incident when I was gathering some willow twigs..." versus "Hi OP, nice tits, fancy a shag?". |
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I Brazilian wax poetic
So hypothetic
-ally I don't wanna beat around the bush.
Uh, I like people to get straight to the point.
If they just wanna bang, the sooner they tell me the sooner we can get the rejection out of the way and waste less of everyone's time  |
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By *eliWoman 26 weeks ago
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I like the nicey nicey messages. I like talking to someone, getting to know them. I don't have sexual desires/urges for someone straight away.
Is that weird? Possibly. I think I'd prefer people to talk to me however they want to, would normally and then it's a good indication of compatibility. |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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I like to start messages with ‘hi’ even though it seems people hate those, but how else do you start a message to a stranger!
When I receive them, I like the ones that are direct so we all know where we stand |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"So we're not talking about splatting ones member on someone's lady garden?
I think that we're talking more along the lines of "Hi OP, that's a very nice shopping basket you have, do you do your own basket weaving, I've got a fascinating story about an incident when I was gathering some willow twigs..." versus "Hi OP, nice tits, fancy a shag?"."
Ohhh, I can tell you are a slick talker. Better keep my guard up  |
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I'm awkward small talk bores me, it just makes me irritable but sex talk immediately puts me off.
I kinda need an in-between a little nicety getting to know someone then decide what we do from there. |
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By (user no longer on site) 26 weeks ago
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"Nice bores me.
Explicit makes me puke a up a little.
Something in-between please.
Not in between. I feel like actual human interaction is off in the opposite direction to both of them."
Actual human interaction? I'm not sure I'd like that. |
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"Nice bores me.
Explicit makes me puke a up a little.
Something in-between please.
Not in between. I feel like actual human interaction is off in the opposite direction to both of them.
Actual human interaction? I'm not sure I'd like that. "
That's fair. We're very different people. Or at least have very different versions of misanthropy.
But it always astounds me how many people think that nicey nicey or straight up wank fodder are the only ways to speak to women. |
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"Do you perfect a few "nice nicey" messages along the "hi, how are you" route before whoever your're chatting to/you propose your interest in taking things further or do you prefer to receive a message from someone who straight of the bat sets their stall out and go from there?
Probably a much easier way of wording all that but you'll get the gist
S x"
I prefer neither 
Having a conversation albeit online like a human being rather than a sex toy is always a good place to start for me |
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By *eliWoman 26 weeks ago
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"Nice bores me.
Explicit makes me puke a up a little.
Something in-between please.
Not in between. I feel like actual human interaction is off in the opposite direction to both of them.
Actual human interaction? I'm not sure I'd like that.
That's fair. We're very different people. Or at least have very different versions of misanthropy.
But it always astounds me how many people think that nicey nicey or straight up wank fodder are the only ways to speak to women."
I took nicey nicey to not be gushing with compliments but more... not saying I want to fuck you and the only reason I'm messaging you is because my balls are full and I'm hoping you'll say yes.
Maybe I've misinterpreted the Op... if I have I'm saying neither and I just want people to talk to me without lies, crap or nonsense. |
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"I like the nicey nicey messages. I like talking to someone, getting to know them. I don't have sexual desires/urges for someone straight away.
Is that weird? Possibly. I think I'd prefer people to talk to me however they want to, would normally and then it's a good indication of compatibility. "
Probably puts you on the demisexual spectrum. I am too. |
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By *eliWoman 26 weeks ago
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"I like the nicey nicey messages. I like talking to someone, getting to know them. I don't have sexual desires/urges for someone straight away.
Is that weird? Possibly. I think I'd prefer people to talk to me however they want to, would normally and then it's a good indication of compatibility.
Probably puts you on the demisexual spectrum. I am too."
Oh I really like that you've called it a spectrum. Much like any sexuality it's a spectrum isn't it? And yes, I think I am.
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I Prefer nice messages and getting to know someone.
Any graphic descriptions of what they'd want to do or requests to meet in a first message, are deleted.
I don't know them, so it's unappealing to me. |
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"Straight off the bat. If I’ve not bummed the said lady within 5 messages then I block and report as being fake for wasting my time. "
Fucks sake Rex.
How am I supposed to compose effective missives of lust while my hands are covered in love from the prep stage already? |
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I think it depends on the vibes you get from their profile.
If I like them, and they seem action-oriented, my message will be more up-tempo.
If they seem a little diffident, I'll be softer in the approach.
If they seem intriguing, I'll focus on that.
At all times I'm being "me", but accentuating the bits of me that appear to intersect with parts of them.
And if not enough intersects anyway, I don't see much point in messaging. |
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By *ayndeeCouple 26 weeks ago
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We enjoy messages that are funny and entertaining, that pique our interest, that show someone has taken the time to read our profile.
We feel you need to build up a rapport before you go any further.
A quick hi, FAF, doesn't appeal at all. You wouldn't start a conversation in a pub like that, so why do it on here. |
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"So we're not talking about splatting ones member on someone's lady garden?
I think that we're talking more along the lines of "Hi OP, that's a very nice shopping basket you have, do you do your own basket weaving, I've got a fascinating story about an incident when I was gathering some willow twigs..." versus "Hi OP, nice tits, fancy a shag?".
Ohhh, I can tell you are a slick talker. Better keep my guard up "
Hi HK, nice tits, fancy a shag? |
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