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A female domestic abuser and real housewife from Chesire who took control of his money, bombarded him with abusive messages, physically assaulted him, made him eat toothpaste, separated him from family and friends, controlled his online accounts, sleep on the floor with no duvet, keep all his possessions in the garage and he lost 4 stone in weight, has got a suspended sentence. Would a man of been treated equally by the beak,? It's all over the news |
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If your statements are accurate then domestic abuse is a crime and the law should not discriminate.
Social stigma around men being victims of abuse does have an impact on people's perceptions and often men face disbelief or ridicule, which inhibits their likelihood of reporting. These issues also exacerbate feelings of shame, which can be a cause of depression and suicidal ideation.
Where abuse has been traumatising, not being believed is often a trigger that can cause further psychological distress.
The underreporting contributes to a skewed reflection of the extent of the issue for men and this means there are less services available, making the process of them reaching out for support even more challenging.
There are solutions more worthy of attention than using the issue as ammunition in gender wars. There are lots of women's support charities with decades of knowledge regarding advocacy and counselling who could be a source of support for those men affected. It would be better in my view to collaborate than compete. |
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There is a lack of empathy in general regarding domestic abuse towards men. Even female family members often ignore the signs or even ignore what their sons tell them. Until this changes I don't think much will change unfortunately.
I think if what you say is accurate this person should have done time. It's really difficult to get convictions so the case must have been severe.
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"And I agree with Hansoffate there's no need to make it a gender war. More energy should be put into sorting the issue rather than waste time on comparisons. "
I was going to make the same comment. The case was hopefully tried on it's own merits and particular circumstances.
This shouldn't be used to start a gender war......... if they were both women or both men , what would the shit stirrers do then ? |
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"And I agree with Hansoffate there's no need to make it a gender war. More energy should be put into sorting the issue rather than waste time on comparisons.
I was going to make the same comment. The case was hopefully tried on it's own merits and particular circumstances.
This shouldn't be used to start a gender war......... if they were both women or both men , what would the shit stirrers do then ?"
Agreed. I don't know the case, but if the judge actively said the crime merited a jail sentence but they were not giving one because she was a woman, then that's plainly wrong.
If, however, the judge decided a custodial sentence wasn't necessary on the facts of the case, that's the judicial process in action. You can disagree but it's up to judges to decide on appropriate sentences. |
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Isn't there a shortage of prison places resulting in the powers that be asking to that the numbers of people being jailed is reduced? Maybe that's partly the reason along with the judge having heard all the evidence and making their decision based on that.
Or the judge got it wrong and she should be in prison.
I don't know |
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"And I agree with Hansoffate there's no need to make it a gender war. More energy should be put into sorting the issue rather than waste time on comparisons.
I was going to make the same comment. The case was hopefully tried on it's own merits and particular circumstances.
This shouldn't be used to start a gender war......... if they were both women or both men , what would the shit stirrers do then ?
Agreed. I don't know the case, but if the judge actively said the crime merited a jail sentence but they were not giving one because she was a woman, then that's plainly wrong.
If, however, the judge decided a custodial sentence wasn't necessary on the facts of the case, that's the judicial process in action. You can disagree but it's up to judges to decide on appropriate sentences."
She’s been given a custodial sentence. It has been suspended. |
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"There is a lack of empathy in general regarding domestic abuse towards men. Even female family members often ignore the signs or even ignore what their sons tell them. Until this changes I don't think much will change unfortunately.
I think if what you say is accurate this person should have done time. It's really difficult to get convictions so the case must have been severe.
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It's more deadly when it's f on m as women are more like to use things instead of their fists. |
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Good grief, poor man. What a horrific ordeal.
She should of been banged up. As for having children I hope SS step in, they have also been living alongside that abuse. Childhood trauma at its worst.
Disgusting human being.
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"There is a lack of empathy in general regarding domestic abuse towards men. Even female family members often ignore the signs or even ignore what their sons tell them. Until this changes I don't think much will change unfortunately.
I think if what you say is accurate this person should have done time. It's really difficult to get convictions so the case must have been severe.
It's more deadly when it's f on m as women are more like to use things instead of their fists."
2022/23 more deaths were as a result of suicide following abuse rather than intimate partner homicide. And that is only the suicides that have been attributed to domestic abuse.
Gender wars and stereotyping really doesn't help domestic abuse victims of any gender. How do these old fashioned tropes help anyone? How do they help victims? |
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"A female domestic abuser and real housewife from Chesire who took control of his money, bombarded him with abusive messages, physically assaulted him, made him eat toothpaste, separated him from family and friends, controlled his online accounts, sleep on the floor with no duvet, keep all his possessions in the garage and he lost 4 stone in weight, has got a suspended sentence. Would a man of been treated equally by the beak,? It's all over the news"
Can you please post a link to the actual story? |
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"And I agree with Hansoffate there's no need to make it a gender war. More energy should be put into sorting the issue rather than waste time on comparisons.
I was going to make the same comment. The case was hopefully tried on it's own merits and particular circumstances.
This shouldn't be used to start a gender war......... if they were both women or both men , what would the shit stirrers do then ?
Agreed. I don't know the case, but if the judge actively said the crime merited a jail sentence but they were not giving one because she was a woman, then that's plainly wrong.
If, however, the judge decided a custodial sentence wasn't necessary on the facts of the case, that's the judicial process in action. You can disagree but it's up to judges to decide on appropriate sentences.
She’s been given a custodial sentence. It has been suspended."
So she's not in custody |
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"And I agree with Hansoffate there's no need to make it a gender war. More energy should be put into sorting the issue rather than waste time on comparisons.
I was going to make the same comment. The case was hopefully tried on it's own merits and particular circumstances.
This shouldn't be used to start a gender war......... if they were both women or both men , what would the shit stirrers do then ?
Agreed. I don't know the case, but if the judge actively said the crime merited a jail sentence but they were not giving one because she was a woman, then that's plainly wrong.
If, however, the judge decided a custodial sentence wasn't necessary on the facts of the case, that's the judicial process in action. You can disagree but it's up to judges to decide on appropriate sentences.
She’s been given a custodial sentence. It has been suspended.
So she's not in custody "
No. She has been let off as long as she keeps her nose clean.. |
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"And I agree with Hansoffate there's no need to make it a gender war. More energy should be put into sorting the issue rather than waste time on comparisons.
I was going to make the same comment. The case was hopefully tried on it's own merits and particular circumstances.
This shouldn't be used to start a gender war......... if they were both women or both men , what would the shit stirrers do then ?
Agreed. I don't know the case, but if the judge actively said the crime merited a jail sentence but they were not giving one because she was a woman, then that's plainly wrong.
If, however, the judge decided a custodial sentence wasn't necessary on the facts of the case, that's the judicial process in action. You can disagree but it's up to judges to decide on appropriate sentences.
She’s been given a custodial sentence. It has been suspended.
So she's not in custody
No. She has been let off as long as she keeps her nose clean.."
Let off?
Conviction and a suspended sentence. That’s not being let off |
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