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"In certain professions " Can I ask why only in certain professions? | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C" What would not be a good reason | |||
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"Totally. I had to take 3 months off once. Noone died."  | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason" Faking it for an easy time off. C | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C" Is that mental health? | |||
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"In certain professions " Poor mental health doesn't care what you do for a living. | |||
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"It’s not for me to comment as everyone deals different. Whenever I’ve had issues I’ve preferred to be at work as it’s a distraction being in the house is torture when depression/mental health playing up" I'd have preferred to be at work amd not thinking about what was going on when I was signed off for it. But I would not have been capable of performing my job to a satisfactory standard at that point. My job doesn't put anyone's life at risk granted, but it's even more important for those whose jobs do. | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C" Would you do that? | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C" sometimes people fake something to actually hide what is going on - the GP will tell you that as the patient is about to leave the room that is when they will tell you what is actually wrong. | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C" That’s not a mental health reason then, is it? That’s faking it. | |||
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"Depends. Is it often? Mental health issues are very common these days. However, personally, I'd take it on a case to case basis. Are they doing anything to help themselves and avoid time off work or are they not? Are they taking medication. Is there other things i need to know as an employer that may help with that? My experience is this. If you aren't pro active in resolving the problem. It will never get better. Counselling and a healthy lifestyle are very important. That said, mental health is a big umbrella for lots of crap. So one size doesn't always fit all. If an employee were to show a will to resolve their problems and is pro active at it. I would assist as much as i could. If they don't, then there will be no change. As an employer i need to count on my employees. So if they are becoming an issue with no resolution in sight or even on the cards. I'd let HR do their thing according to legislation. " what would HR do? I feel like if you’re diagnosed with a mental health condition and you let your employer know, they can’t fire you *because* of that? | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss " Wow! That's the kind of attitude that stops people speaking up and results in worse situations. | |||
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"Depends. Is it often? Mental health issues are very common these days. However, personally, I'd take it on a case to case basis. Are they doing anything to help themselves and avoid time off work or are they not? Are they taking medication. Is there other things i need to know as an employer that may help with that? My experience is this. If you aren't pro active in resolving the problem. It will never get better. Counselling and a healthy lifestyle are very important. That said, mental health is a big umbrella for lots of crap. So one size doesn't always fit all. If an employee were to show a will to resolve their problems and is pro active at it. I would assist as much as i could. If they don't, then there will be no change. As an employer i need to count on my employees. So if they are becoming an issue with no resolution in sight or even on the cards. I'd let HR do their thing according to legislation. what would HR do? I feel like if you’re diagnosed with a mental health condition and you let your employer know, they can’t fire you *because* of that? " I don't think it's a total get out of jail card. Not sure but I'd suspect there is a time limit to how long an employee can be off or how many periods of absence they could have in a given period of time. Long term sick regulations etc. I do think it is reasonable for an employer to be able to dismiss someone if they aren't there most of the time. Not an HR expert obviously  | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss " Obviously you need to educate yourself Mr. The bloody economy will never be more important than human life. | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss " Interesting. I do hope you don't work yourself to the point of burnout and breakdown. That wouldn't do the economy any good at all. | |||
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"Depends. Is it often? Mental health issues are very common these days. However, personally, I'd take it on a case to case basis. Are they doing anything to help themselves and avoid time off work or are they not? Are they taking medication. Is there other things i need to know as an employer that may help with that? My experience is this. If you aren't pro active in resolving the problem. It will never get better. Counselling and a healthy lifestyle are very important. That said, mental health is a big umbrella for lots of crap. So one size doesn't always fit all. If an employee were to show a will to resolve their problems and is pro active at it. I would assist as much as i could. If they don't, then there will be no change. As an employer i need to count on my employees. So if they are becoming an issue with no resolution in sight or even on the cards. I'd let HR do their thing according to legislation. what would HR do? I feel like if you’re diagnosed with a mental health condition and you let your employer know, they can’t fire you *because* of that? " Legally,people with mental health issues have the same protection as those with physical illnesses. This means that the company's sickness policy will also apply. In fact, it's part of the employer's duty of care to look after your welfare. | |||
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" "Health is wealth I once had and absence from work of 18 months due to my mental health. I wasn't rushing back for anyone. I was not returning to work until my mental health was balanced | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C Would you do that?" I'm a terrible liar so no. I have known friends to fake it for a day off a football or an extra day drinking. C | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C Would you do that? I'm a terrible liar so no. I have known friends to fake it for a day off a football or an extra day drinking. C" They faked depression or what? for one day off? | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C Would you do that? I'm a terrible liar so no. I have known friends to fake it for a day off a football or an extra day drinking. C They faked depression or what? for one day off?" Panic attacks, suicidal ideation, family drama, depressive episodes or "just having a low day" I've seen it plenty of times working in fast food and those are just the short term ones. Seen plenty of people play awful long term versions. P | |||
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"Yes of course it's a fair reason to be off, just like any circumstance or condition that causes someone to feel unfit to work. To everyone saying "so long as it's not being faked," how do you respond to colleagues or employees who cite physical health reasons for absence? Is it "now, Egbert, are you REALLY projectile vomiting every 20mins, or could you just hold it all in and finish that urgent report?" After all, I'm not aware of employers who ask for empirical proof of such things? Why are mental health issues seen differently? Mr. Pickle, sending you so much "Generally speaking those that do fake it tend to brag about it in some way or another and they then make it difficult for those who are actually suffering from mental health issues, because then employers don't know who to believe. I worked a shift once where 12 people called in sick with various physical or mental ailments, it crippled the workforce for the day. We all pulled double duty and from the sheer volume we knew something was up. It came out the next day they all went to a pool and trampoline party because of the sunshine. That was the worst one but it happened very frequently we picked up the slack from those that couldn't be bothered. I ended up burning out at that job because I was a reliable person - I haven't been able to work since due to mental health difficulties (oh the irony) P | |||
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"Ill health is ill health. Mental and physical health are inextricably linked. Mrs TMN x" I have always felt physical health was a more acceptable reason to take break from work than mental. But both should be accepted | |||
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"Depends. Is it often? Mental health issues are very common these days. However, personally, I'd take it on a case to case basis. Are they doing anything to help themselves and avoid time off work or are they not? Are they taking medication. Is there other things i need to know as an employer that may help with that? My experience is this. If you aren't pro active in resolving the problem. It will never get better. Counselling and a healthy lifestyle are very important. That said, mental health is a big umbrella for lots of crap. So one size doesn't always fit all. If an employee were to show a will to resolve their problems and is pro active at it. I would assist as much as i could. If they don't, then there will be no change. As an employer i need to count on my employees. So if they are becoming an issue with no resolution in sight or even on the cards. I'd let HR do their thing according to legislation. what would HR do? I feel like if you’re diagnosed with a mental health condition and you let your employer know, they can’t fire you *because* of that? " Not because of your mental health diagnosis but because of the impact it has on your ability to attend work providing they have exhausted all reasonable adjustments etc. Work is a business and they need you to be able to provide regular and effective service. If your attendance is impacted enough for any medical reasons then they can manage people out provided they do so lawfully. In my line of work we have very high mental health issues and provide a series of interventions and support but there has to come a time when these are no longer viable and you have to consider if a return to full duties is possible. If not then dismissal is likely. Evie | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss " Clearly haven't dealt with mental health issues, lucky you. | |||
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"Depends. Is it often? Mental health issues are very common these days. However, personally, I'd take it on a case to case basis. Are they doing anything to help themselves and avoid time off work or are they not? Are they taking medication. Is there other things i need to know as an employer that may help with that? My experience is this. If you aren't pro active in resolving the problem. It will never get better. Counselling and a healthy lifestyle are very important. That said, mental health is a big umbrella for lots of crap. So one size doesn't always fit all. If an employee were to show a will to resolve their problems and is pro active at it. I would assist as much as i could. If they don't, then there will be no change. As an employer i need to count on my employees. So if they are becoming an issue with no resolution in sight or even on the cards. I'd let HR do their thing according to legislation. what would HR do? I feel like if you’re diagnosed with a mental health condition and you let your employer know, they can’t fire you *because* of that? Not because of your mental health diagnosis but because of the impact it has on your ability to attend work providing they have exhausted all reasonable adjustments etc. Work is a business and they need you to be able to provide regular and effective service. If your attendance is impacted enough for any medical reasons then they can manage people out provided they do so lawfully. In my line of work we have very high mental health issues and provide a series of interventions and support but there has to come a time when these are no longer viable and you have to consider if a return to full duties is possible. If not then dismissal is likely. Evie "  | |||
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"Yes, absolutely but sometimes it depends on the reason for some I guess? Being at work might be the only coping mechanism to keep them going? I know when my first marriage ended and I got signed off from work as I was coping looking after people for a living when I couldn't look after myself was a huge relief but on the flip side of that, I was still living in the same house as my ex so it was kinda counter productive, so I had a meeting with my manager who agreed for me to go to another department, I went from a carer to housekeeper, I still saw the residents but I didn't have to work so closely with them and they really helped being able to get out the house for six hours a day away from what was causing my depression." That said, I can feel myself slipping back into a dark place currently and that is due to my job, I absolutely love it but we have a manager there is causing everyone a ton of problems, apparently it's being dealt with but I have anxiety at the best of times and work was one of those places I could escape too, put my work face on and I'm a different person, I can feel there slipping away each day, I've had a welfare meeting a few months ago about the way I was feeling but it's just getting worse and worse with this manager, I'm staying in bed alot of the time when I'm not at work, I used to be someone who would get to work early (I do when she's not on shift) but when she's there I physically have to stop myself getting dressed until moments before I walk out the door because i know if i got there early when shes on, ill be even worse state. Sorry for the ramble | |||
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"As with physical health there are degrees of mental health. It's not a one size fits all issue. Many different conditions, so it's not yes/no answer. I used to be an employer and it's strange how some people's mental health improves just as the sick pay ends. Some people "swing the lead" with physical and mental conditions. It's always been the case." it can be hard on work colleges if someone is often off sick for whatever reason & they are expected obliged to pick up extra work | |||
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"The bigger question should be why does work dominate our lives in such a way that is all that we do, it’s all people are, literally what’s your name and what do you do for a living? How many conversations have you had where this is the introduction, not do you have children, have you traveled, are you educated, work is not an achievement, it’s a sacrifice of your time for money and it has skewed society into thinking if you are on the ladder then that’s better because now you can own or look like you own nicer things when in reality you are giving your time and in time knowledge on the job to line your bosses pockets or worse still a shareholder who doesn’t give a monkeys about you doesn’t even know your name your situation anything they are just in a position to invest in the company you work for and now they own you, you think that’s a bit extreme ? Then look at it this way I’m an investor in the company I work for, not told anyone this but I own shares, every year I get a dividend which is essentially my portion of profit, in that dividend is a report of what’s happened and what’s planned, at no point does this correlate to what I do as a lowly employee, they will talk about values, people, like we are assets but when I arrive at work every day it’s get the job done regardless of how hard it is. When you go to a funeral, someone will read out what you did for a living, where you worked like it’s important, it is not, in your heart you know this, so why wouldn’t you take time out for you, your mental health, because the company you work for, do not give a shit in the long run, your manager might care, but does his manager and so on? " Depends what you do. Some people dedicate their lives to helping other & solving problems for the world, enen in a small way , and they happen to get paid for it. The fool is the person who hates their job and carries on doing it. | |||
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"The bigger question should be why does work dominate our lives in such a way that is all that we do, it’s all people are, literally what’s your name and what do you do for a living? How many conversations have you had where this is the introduction, not do you have children, have you traveled, are you educated, work is not an achievement, it’s a sacrifice of your time for money and it has skewed society into thinking if you are on the ladder then that’s better because now you can own or look like you own nicer things when in reality you are giving your time and in time knowledge on the job to line your bosses pockets or worse still a shareholder who doesn’t give a monkeys about you doesn’t even know your name your situation anything they are just in a position to invest in the company you work for and now they own you, you think that’s a bit extreme ? Then look at it this way I’m an investor in the company I work for, not told anyone this but I own shares, every year I get a dividend which is essentially my portion of profit, in that dividend is a report of what’s happened and what’s planned, at no point does this correlate to what I do as a lowly employee, they will talk about values, people, like we are assets but when I arrive at work every day it’s get the job done regardless of how hard it is. When you go to a funeral, someone will read out what you did for a living, where you worked like it’s important, it is not, in your heart you know this, so why wouldn’t you take time out for you, your mental health, because the company you work for, do not give a shit in the long run, your manager might care, but does his manager and so on? " My feeling on work is that for the sake of profit, most jobs have become unnecessarily difficult and a strain on our physical and mental capacity to enjoy our lives. But- work is important. Just that the conditions we currently work in aren’t healthy. | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss Clearly haven't dealt with mental health issues, lucky you." I beg to differ I’ve had mental break downs in the past the job I do which is highly stressed and safety oriented requires me to stop work in that instance However I got on with counselling and after six sessions I was back better than ever | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss Clearly haven't dealt with mental health issues, lucky you. I beg to differ I’ve had mental break downs in the past the job I do which is highly stressed and safety oriented requires me to stop work in that instance However I got on with counselling and after six sessions I was back better than ever " So you have had time off work due to MH issues, yet still begrudge that right to others? | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss " This comes from so.eone who has never had mental health issues. | |||
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"Yes. I managed a practice for many years. Introduced a mental health policy. If you were struggling with your mental health we provided an assessment through our HR team. This assessment could then be used if you required support from your GP. Our team building days also had elements of mindfulness and relaxation techniques which were always really well received. The amount of sick days taken due to mental health was minimal - if you listen, understand, support and talk you're half way there. S xxx " | |||
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" "I used to say no. However, this last year has been torturous for my mental health and am only just beginning to find my way back. I’ve barely missed a days work but, when I have been there, I’ve just wanted to curl up and die some days. I grew up in a world where it was a case of “pull your socks up and look the world in the eye”. I’ve come to realise that life, and health is not that simple | |||
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"Absolute weapon plus you may as well delete your profile as you never gonna get a meet why do we have weapons like this"  WTF?! | |||
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"Moronic question. Of course it is." It isn’t moronic. And some people’s answers have shown that. | |||
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"I don’t need to clarify my position on this btw. " we know missionary is king | |||
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"Moronic question. Of course it is." Rude | |||
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"1 million percent. 2 tradesmen commit suicide everyday in this country. If I feel I need some time away. A walk on the beach. Or just a day sat watching netflix. Not doing, just existing. I'll take that over total burnout." That's an awful statistic  | |||
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"1 million percent. 2 tradesmen commit suicide everyday in this country. If I feel I need some time away. A walk on the beach. Or just a day sat watching netflix. Not doing, just existing. I'll take that over total burnout. That's an awful statistic "Absolutely. Unfortunately we seem behind the curve on discussing our emotional health. Blokey, blokes on site very rarely speak of their troubles. | |||
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"I don’t need to clarify my position on this btw. we know missionary is king "That is my favourite position yes | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss Clearly haven't dealt with mental health issues, lucky you. I beg to differ I’ve had mental break downs in the past the job I do which is highly stressed and safety oriented requires me to stop work in that instance However I got on with counselling and after six sessions I was back better than ever So you have had time off work due to MH issues, yet still begrudge that right to others?" It’s not a right it’s a need I do not begruge others I have my own ethic to deal with it and get on with it | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C" People with genuine mental health challenges don't fake it. They fake being OK. | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss " Bro really said "but muh economy" 
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C People with genuine mental health challenges don't fake it. They fake being OK." Your words right there have made me cry. That's what I do, say I'm OK but inside I'm screaming | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C People with genuine mental health challenges don't fake it. They fake being OK. Your words right there have made me cry. That's what I do, say I'm OK but inside I'm screaming " Sending hugs Saying I'm OK is my standard response as most people don't want to know the truth | |||
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"Depends on the mental health reason. C What would not be a good reason Faking it for an easy time off. C People with genuine mental health challenges don't fake it. They fake being OK. Your words right there have made me cry. That's what I do, say I'm OK but inside I'm screaming " I hear you. It's OK to not be OK. If you do one thing, Google "mental health support", there's a lot of helplines and free resources on the Internet. Be kind to yourself. | |||
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"Too many fakers. There are mental health victims and bone idle buggers who need to pull themselves together....." Victims? | |||
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"Many people with mental health issues come across as strong ..capable..always the driver in situations/ relationships...always ready to listen to others etc ... Problem is their likely running on empty without realising it ..Next step burnout. People need time off ..but underlying these days there's little help and mental.health services run down ...it's bad enough young people can't access them but if your mature god help you ! " Often told I’d been ‘strong for too long’, not sharing what was going on and things like that. Easily said but a lot of truth in having someone that you can share things with and a friend group that understands. | |||
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"In certain professions " Absolutely. imagine a train/tube driver seeing someone take their life on the line. That's gruesome and totally understandable.... There are only a handful of individuals that have gone through the horror and been willing to talk it through with the press, Dave Goodwin is one of those people. The 63-year-old worked the railways in the late 80’s and was involved in eight railway incidents. He has recently spoken to Plymouth Live, where he explained the horror of those experiences, and the effect it had and still has on his life- Four decades later. “It’s a shame for the driver, it’s a shame for his family, if he’s got kids, his kids will see the difference in him, his wife will. When you’re married like I was – I’m divorced now – it’s a big impact on your family, on the train driver’s family. It doesn’t just affect the driver.” “It alters your attitude, your behaviour. It’s frightening and you don’t know what is happening to yourself. It can cause a lot of rows, they don’t know what is going on with you until you see a doctor. Then you get told that you’ve got severe chronic PTSD, and that makes you feel terrible all because someone was selfish doing that – they shouldn’t do it.” “I know that times are desperate, desperate people do that, but there is help out there, please talk to someone.” Taken from Voice of London 2019 | |||
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"The bigger question should be why does work dominate our lives in such a way that is all that we do, it’s all people are, literally what’s your name and what do you do for a living? How many conversations have you had where this is the introduction, not do you have children, have you traveled, are you educated, work is not an achievement, it’s a sacrifice of your time for money and it has skewed society into thinking if you are on the ladder then that’s better because now you can own or look like you own nicer things when in reality you are giving your time and in time knowledge on the job to line your bosses pockets or worse still a shareholder who doesn’t give a monkeys about you doesn’t even know your name your situation anything they are just in a position to invest in the company you work for and now they own you, you think that’s a bit extreme ? Then look at it this way I’m an investor in the company I work for, not told anyone this but I own shares, every year I get a dividend which is essentially my portion of profit, in that dividend is a report of what’s happened and what’s planned, at no point does this correlate to what I do as a lowly employee, they will talk about values, people, like we are assets but when I arrive at work every day it’s get the job done regardless of how hard it is. When you go to a funeral, someone will read out what you did for a living, where you worked like it’s important, it is not, in your heart you know this, so why wouldn’t you take time out for you, your mental health, because the company you work for, do not give a shit in the long run, your manager might care, but does his manager and so on? " Agree Health and happiness are the most important things. Work for me is now just a means to an end. I have allowed work to impact my mental health in the past and I will not do it again. Do the minimum work required for the maximum benefit, get paid, enjoy my time with my loved ones. The majority of employers don’t give a shit about their staff. We are just numbers and would be replaced within a couple of weeks without a second thought. | |||
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"What kills more men under 45 years old ever year, more than cancer, heart conditions, diabetes, and accidents? We all know the answer. Asking it is ok to be off work with mental health problems is like asking is it ok if I don’t stand in front of this oncoming bus? It is always ok to remove yourself from harms way, to a place of safety. Even if that place is somewhere in your own head. "
I guess it sometimes feels like it’s taken less seriously. Even if you put it in your application, tell your employer, do all the things you should be doing, it still feels like when it happens, it’s bad that you’re off. We can’t help it but feel guilty.
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"The bigger question should be why does work dominate our lives in such a way that is all that we do, it’s all people are, literally what’s your name and what do you do for a living? How many conversations have you had where this is the introduction, not do you have children, have you traveled, are you educated, work is not an achievement, it’s a sacrifice of your time for money and it has skewed society into thinking if you are on the ladder then that’s better because now you can own or look like you own nicer things when in reality you are giving your time and in time knowledge on the job to line your bosses pockets or worse still a shareholder who doesn’t give a monkeys about you doesn’t even know your name your situation anything they are just in a position to invest in the company you work for and now they own you, you think that’s a bit extreme ? Then look at it this way I’m an investor in the company I work for, not told anyone this but I own shares, every year I get a dividend which is essentially my portion of profit, in that dividend is a report of what’s happened and what’s planned, at no point does this correlate to what I do as a lowly employee, they will talk about values, people, like we are assets but when I arrive at work every day it’s get the job done regardless of how hard it is. When you go to a funeral, someone will read out what you did for a living, where you worked like it’s important, it is not, in your heart you know this, so why wouldn’t you take time out for you, your mental health, because the company you work for, do not give a shit in the long run, your manager might care, but does his manager and so on? Agree Health and happiness are the most important things. Work for me is now just a means to an end. I have allowed work to impact my mental health in the past and I will not do it again. Do the minimum work required for the maximum benefit, get paid, enjoy my time with my loved ones. The majority of employers don’t give a shit about their staff. We are just numbers and would be replaced within a couple of weeks without a second thought. "So, how long have you been working for Asda then? | |||
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"In certain professions Absolutely. imagine a train/tube driver seeing someone take their life on the line. That's gruesome and totally understandable.... There are only a handful of individuals that have gone through the horror and been willing to talk it through with the press, Dave Goodwin is one of those people. The 63-year-old worked the railways in the late 80’s and was involved in eight railway incidents. He has recently spoken to Plymouth Live, where he explained the horror of those experiences, and the effect it had and still has on his life- Four decades later. “It’s a shame for the driver, it’s a shame for his family, if he’s got kids, his kids will see the difference in him, his wife will. When you’re married like I was – I’m divorced now – it’s a big impact on your family, on the train driver’s family. It doesn’t just affect the driver.” “It alters your attitude, your behaviour. It’s frightening and you don’t know what is happening to yourself. It can cause a lot of rows, they don’t know what is going on with you until you see a doctor. Then you get told that you’ve got severe chronic PTSD, and that makes you feel terrible all because someone was selfish doing that – they shouldn’t do it.” “I know that times are desperate, desperate people do that, but there is help out there, please talk to someone.” Taken from Voice of London 2019 " The impact on the driver is one reason I would try and avoid that method, even if it's one of the easier ones. | |||
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"Poor mental health is. Brain overload can cause many physical problems. Stress, anxiety, depression, mania, bi polar, and any other issues that come under the umbrella term mental health are as serious and important as heart problems, broken bones, musculoskeletal problems, burst appendix, gallbladder removal etc etc etc, and should be taken as seriously. " | |||
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"Absolute weapon plus you may as well delete your profile as you never gonna get a meet why do we have weapons like this" Back in the twilight of my youth, the word "weapon" was appropriated to mean someone who was particularly good at something. E.g. "did you see how far he threw that? Dude's an absolute weapon." I'm going to use that meaning of the word. Mr Pickle is particularly good at lots of things. I find it sad how someone would use a negative connotation to that suggest someone who discloses mental health issues is better off deleting their profile [themselves??] and that no-one would want to meet them. Mr Pickle is one of the most meetable people on this infernal thing. | |||
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"What kills more men under 45 years old ever year, more than cancer, heart conditions, diabetes, and accidents? We all know the answer. Asking it is ok to be off work with mental health problems is like asking is it ok if I don’t stand in front of this oncoming bus? It is always ok to remove yourself from harms way, to a place of safety. Even if that place is somewhere in your own head.
I guess it sometimes feels like it’s taken less seriously. Even if you put it in your application, tell your employer, do all the things you should be doing, it still feels like when it happens, it’s bad that you’re off. We can’t help it but feel guilty.
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"Absolute weapon plus you may as well delete your profile as you never gonna get a meet why do we have weapons like this" Right here. Attitudes like this, exactly like this, are top of the "why don't people open up about their mental health" list. One day, when you're sat in front of your GP, and falling apart, be thankfull he doesn't tell you to fuck of and call you a weapon. | |||
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"Absolute weapon plus you may as well delete your profile as you never gonna get a meet why do we have weapons like this Right here. Attitudes like this, exactly like this, are top of the "why don't people open up about their mental health" list. One day, when you're sat in front of your GP, and falling apart, be thankfull he doesn't tell you to fuck of and call you a weapon." | |||
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"It absolutely is, yes. A bigger question is, is it your workplace, work colleagues or job responsibilities that are making you ill. In which case you need a very open chat with your manager to get things to improve Unfortunately many people work in SME's that can't afford to loose the resource, so you may find yourself under more pressure. Anyone suffering with MH needs to identify what makes them happy (ie gardening, exercising, painting) and do that as much as possible, whenever possible, to fill their soul - the theory being this gives you the resilience to get through your week /stress of working. Writing 5 positive things each day, along with grounding and meditation /mindfulness are also great techniques for building resilience. Remember to be kind to yourself, choose to be happy and 'let go' of anything negative. Don't ruminate, it's just a vicious downward spiral and mqke sure you are eating well, getting sunshine (a gentle walk?) and plenty of good quality sleep" | |||
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"No get on with it it’s just slacking which is ruining the economy Just worked 7days straight averaging 9hours a day loving the fact I have 2days off bliss " Possibly the worst advice if seen on the internet in ages ! Taking time off for mental health issues is not detrimental to the economy. For a start the majority of the workforce very recently had some time off and we all managed. Taking a week or two off now could very much save you from completely burning out and having to take months off later down the line. Just to add if I averaged 9 hours a day I could easily work 7 days straight. | |||
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"Absolutely, it’s just the same as someone whose broken a leg or had major surgery just because there are no physical or visible symptoms doesn’t mean it isn’t there " The NHS is good at fixing a damaged heart: but lousy at fixing a broken heart. Public sympathy is about the same, but it will take decades to equalise. | |||
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"Some people just need to man up and get on with it " Some people really don't know what they are talking about and better saying NOTHING at all!! | |||
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"It absolutely is. Some people will take the piss but those people would find a physical illness if they had to. On balance having mental health days would be a net benefit to any company" There are some that are very good at it, but sadly few and far between! | |||
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"It absolutely is. Some people will take the piss but those people would find a physical illness if they had to. On balance having mental health days would be a net benefit to any company There are some that are very good at it, but sadly few and far between! "It will get better over time | |||
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