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Is it internalised fatphobia?
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"I figure if people aren’t attracted they don’t contact me so I don’t think more about it than that. " I’m talking about you and your views on yourself and others. | |||
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"Do you believe that, even if you’re healthy, having a bit of pudge or a tum is unattractive or undesirable? Do you think fat is unattractive? Why? Media? Family? Something else?" Nope. I haven't been in a gym for decades. I only realise I've been eating too much when my jeans are tighter than normal. It fluctuates. Zero shits given. | |||
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On others i like it, within reason.
Miss S x | |||
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The pics I uploaded on 21/9/21, 5/12/22, 22/1/23, 26/1/23 were all taken in 2020 & where I'd want to get back to.
I was slimmer in 2018 & 2019 but too slim for my liking. | |||
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"I'm in the very curvy department and I love every inch of me. I'm not everyone's idea of dessert and that's ok. We all have different tastes and there's nothing wrong with that. The media does a great job of making larger bodies feel awful and that we are all unhealthy. I drown that out and do the best to enjoy my life and be a good human being to others! Self love is super important ??
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"I figure if people aren’t attracted they don’t contact me so I don’t think more about it than that. I’m talking about you and your views on yourself and others. " But other peoples views are what form our own. None of us are immune to this.I get called fat, much more often I get called thicc. I could walk around hating myself or I can embrace my shape as something sone like some don’t. It confuses me when gym buffed guys are messaging me I think they’ve got the wrong profile. So I’m certainly not immune to questioning myself. But I won’t stand here and beat myself up. Not today or any day. | |||
"I'm in the very curvy department and I love every inch of me. I'm not everyone's idea of dessert and that's ok. We all have different tastes and there's nothing wrong with that. The media does a great job of making larger bodies feel awful and that we are all unhealthy. I drown that out and do the best to enjoy my life and be a good human being to others! Self love is super important ??
"Love this and wish i could do the same. | |||
"I figure if people aren’t attracted they don’t contact me so I don’t think more about it than that. I’m talking about you and your views on yourself and others. But other peoples views are what form our own. None of us are immune to this.I get called fat, much more often I get called thicc. I could walk around hating myself or I can embrace my shape as something sone like some don’t. It confuses me when gym buffed guys are messaging me I think they’ve got the wrong profile. So I’m certainly not immune to questioning myself. But I won’t stand here and beat myself up. Not today or any day. " Not today or any day | |||
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"Do you believe that, even if you’re healthy, having a bit of pudge or a tum is unattractive or undesirable? Do you think fat is unattractive? Why? Media? Family? Something else?" Yeah. I don't like my fatness. I feel less attractive as a fat person, generally. I feel society judges me negatively for being fat and even more so as a wheelchair user. Lots of people might assume my mobility impairment is because I am fat, but it's totally unrelated. I mainly try to avoid thinking about my chub though, and plough on regardless. Clearly, some people (at least one person!) finds me attractive enough, so that's okay. | |||
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"Depends which fat you are. Fat birds, I do find some attractive depends on the face. Fat mess, not a fucking chance. The mr " Is it possible to explain some of the difference between fat mess and not? | |||
"Fat is physically unattractive. I say that as a tubby self-loathing nonlard-arse who loves his food and loathes exercise, healthy eating and effort. But there are plenty of other redeeming qualities (and I'll quietly announce, plenty of people) that find attractiveness in non-physical ways that trumps my distorted notion of what's appealing to all. Won't change my views about myself though." You can't state that first sentence as an outright fact. Fat isn't physically attractive to you is right for you but not for everyone and your second sentence implies you're projecting. I'm fat, I am sure some have fucked me just to get their dick wet but hey....I was horny so a win for both of us. I also know there is a huge number of people who find bigger bodies very attractive. I organised one of the most popular BBW nights on here for a number of years. They can't all have been thirsty or desperate. Evie | |||
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"Depends which fat you are. Fat birds, I do find some attractive depends on the face. Fat mess, not a fucking chance. The mr " Hot damn... I'm a fat bird and a fat mess ... | |||
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"Do you believe that, even if you’re healthy, having a bit of pudge or a tum is unattractive or undesirable? Do you think fat is unattractive? Why? Media? Family? Something else?" For me it’s a health thing. If I have a spare tyre, I know my body fat level is way too high and that exposes me to unnecessary risks. Losing a few lbs takes a bit of discipline, and I’m ok again. Nothing to do with the media. | |||
"I should’ve kept this one in the drafts of my brain. " Nah it's a good question, and one I've been pondering most of the day. Just not put them into some form of order. | |||
"I should’ve kept this one in the drafts of my brain. Nah it's a good question, and one I've been pondering most of the day. Just not put them into some form of order. " It came into my head and I just thought I wonder what others think. But I dunno | |||
"I should’ve kept this one in the drafts of my brain. Nah it's a good question, and one I've been pondering most of the day. Just not put them into some form of order. It came into my head and I just thought I wonder what others think. But I dunno" It's frying my brain a smidgen, trying to unpick things. But I can't quite answer the OP, which is unusual for me | |||
I have tried to change the way I view myself, but just can't. x | |||
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"For other people, nope. For myself, I think I definitely suffer with a level of fatphobia, probably parents and work. Going from a size UK6-8 to a 14 has been horrific and I'm battling to get to what I deem acceptable for myself. Silly really because I think bigger ladies are beautiful, I just don't like it on myself. Maybe more body dysmorphia than fatphobic? " I think this too. I don't think I'm ever going to like what I see in the mirror because I think we see it worse than it actually is.
My first boyfriend used to make snide comments about my weight when I was already struggling with eating disorders and was sickeningly thin which is probably why, but even when I was skeletal everywhere else, my stomach was still squishy. | |||
