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Do people get bored of you?
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My social battery runs out, I've only just learnt that's a thing, so now I'm just honest, probably a bit too honest, I was out with some friends recently and they were going from shop to shop (I'm more of "I know what I need and leave" kinda person) and I was probably be a bit rude when someone mentioned I looked bored, I said "I was bored four hours ago". Oddly enough I've not been invited out again lol.
Thing is, I'm not very "fun" so people probably do get bored of me very quickly, I'm also not great at two way conversations, I am trying to overcome it and ask more questions x |
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Do people get bored of me?
Yes.
Do I get bored of people first?
Probably more often than they get bored of me, but it's close.
It's also more "irritated into wanting to be somewhere else" than bored though.
Boredom is a bit passive, irritation has a bit more activity associated with it. |
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I wouldn't really be friends with someone I found boring. I'm sure there are people who are bored of me but they wouldn't have a prominent place in my life anyway so it doesn't have any impact on how I feel. |
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I have a natural fascination with people so it's rare that I get bored. Although occasionally it happens. I was having a really enjoyable conversation with someone last year and then she switched onto talking about her hamster for about month. I wondered if this was just a strategy to get rid of me, but no she just talked incessantly about her furry critter friend. I renamed her hamster-lady in my WhatsApp. No one from fab (disclaimer), those other sites are weird , stay on fab folk.
I'm sure some people get bored with me. I think more often it's that they lose patience though. I have a tendency to go AWOL and need time to myself. I need to be poked for attention sometimes and that's not everyone's MO. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 31 weeks ago
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I don't think I get bored of people.
I have over the years maybe got bored of conversations at times, through nobody's fault, just that they've reached a point where it's for whatever reason ground to a halt or it's too much effort on my part to keep it going. So I call a halt to them, reduce contact and leave it a while before returning, to give both sides times to refresh.
I wouldn't engage long term with anyone I thought was boring but it's natural for conversations to have peaks and troughs. Nothing wrong with that. |
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To answer the question seriously.....
I wouldn't really know if people get bored of me because they don't often willingly volunteer such information, and I'm not great at reading people. Some will and some won't, just as I find some people's conversation uninteresting and other's wonderfully entertaining.
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This is like one of those are you good in bed questions that noone would tell you if you weren't. I do sometimes get bored of people either because there's not a good connection or if its run its course. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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A bit of both, probably, I don’t know.
I’m not sure if I get bored or if I just get fed up of socialising with them for a while, which probably gives off the impression that I’m not interested, meaning they get bored and move on.
I think I’m the problem. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 31 weeks ago
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"This is like one of those are you good in bed questions that noone would tell you if you weren't. I do sometimes get bored of people either because there's not a good connection or if it’s run its course."
I’m not good in bed and people get bored of me and lose interest quickly.
There. Lisan al Gaib. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 31 weeks ago
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I don’t think you have to be boring for people to get bored of you. I don’t think they have to even find you boring. We sometimes get bored at a lack of connection, a lack of interest, an unlikelihood of meeting after trying a lot, they’re too busy and so communication is inconsistent, communication is one sided etc etc. all reasons I’ve got bored of people and I’m sure reasons people have got bored of me. Let’s be real, it’s not gonna be my personality that bores them is it   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 31 weeks ago
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"I get bored very fast if I see them too often and we do the same things/routines. But I’ve kept it going with people here for many years too, it’s down to effort. "
I think connection too. Sometimes you’re happier just doing nothing with people. Sometimes you get bored of just doing nothing with people. |
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By *929Man 31 weeks ago
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I’m not sure I don’t go and see people or socialise much unless it’s some sort of occasion so I assume they don’t get the chance to get bored
I can get bored of people easy though my mother bores me to death if she stays longer than 20 minutes, I hate people in my house and find myself just hoping they leave soon if anyone visits. |
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On here probably they do as meets don't happen as quickly as they would like.
In real life possibly as have a limited range of topics that I can talk about.
And especially since I dropped out of the local kink scene have a lot less in common with people used to talk to |
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