"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?"
I think really it’s when liking yourself becomes loving yourself and the arrogance that can come with it. |
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?"
I think that's near impossible to answer.
If you were away for a long weekend at some sort of conference and the other 50 guests had extremely low self-esteem, you could come across as liking yourself too much because, in that context, it could be extremely uncomfortable for them.
Two months later, you're at a conference full of Donald Trump levels of over-confidence, and you'd be perceived as a wet blanket.
So there has to be some level of it being contextual to those around you.
And that's not even scratching the surface of such a hard question to answer.
Sorry - can't really help. |
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"Nah, always struggle with that self confidence stuff,  "
Self confidence and self liking are subtly different I think.
I think liking yourself is about being able to forgive yourself for your failings.
It’s a fine balance though. |
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By *eliWoman 31 weeks ago
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I do quite like me. I don't think there's such a thing as "too much".
Perhaps when it veers in to believing you're better than everyone and your behaviour to others is... less than desirable. How that looks though? It can vary. |
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?
I think really it’s when liking yourself becomes loving yourself and the arrogance that can come with it. "
I see. I really struggle with understanding this because for me loving oneself is something to be aimed for and arrogance is a completely different thing.
A bit like putting your own oxygen mask on first, if you don't love yourself how are you going to understand how to love someone else or believe that anyone else will love you? |
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?
I think that's near impossible to answer.
If you were away for a long weekend at some sort of conference and the other 50 guests had extremely low self-esteem, you could come across as liking yourself too much because, in that context, it could be extremely uncomfortable for them.
Two months later, you're at a conference full of Donald Trump levels of over-confidence, and you'd be perceived as a wet blanket.
So there has to be some level of it being contextual to those around you.
And that's not even scratching the surface of such a hard question to answer.
Sorry - can't really help. "
Yeah, that makes sense. It is a hard question and I don't know the answer |
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"Nah, always struggle with that self confidence stuff,
Self confidence and self liking are subtly different I think.
I think liking yourself is about being able to forgive yourself for your failings.
It’s a fine balance though. "
Still ! Most days it's a struggle
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?
I think really it’s when liking yourself becomes loving yourself and the arrogance that can come with it.
I see. I really struggle with understanding this because for me loving oneself is something to be aimed for and arrogance is a completely different thing.
A bit like putting your own oxygen mask on first, if you don't love yourself how are you going to understand how to love someone else or believe that anyone else will love you?"
You’ve actually put that better than I have.  |
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Thanks Fiddles, I like you too.
As for myself, I generally do like me. I'm pretty nice and helpful. But when I'm tired I know I can be a grumpy bitch. I don't like myself so much then, but I do understand and accept myself. |
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?
I think really it’s when liking yourself becomes loving yourself and the arrogance that can come with it.
I see. I really struggle with understanding this because for me loving oneself is something to be aimed for and arrogance is a completely different thing.
A bit like putting your own oxygen mask on first, if you don't love yourself how are you going to understand how to love someone else or believe that anyone else will love you?"
I’m not sure that I agree with this sentiment. Just because someone doesn’t love themselves, it doesn’t mean that they can’t love another. They might not understand why someone loves them, it’s about having the faith that they do love them that matters.
The belief that you have to love yourself first is a bit odd to me |
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?
I think really it’s when liking yourself becomes loving yourself and the arrogance that can come with it.
I see. I really struggle with understanding this because for me loving oneself is something to be aimed for and arrogance is a completely different thing.
A bit like putting your own oxygen mask on first, if you don't love yourself how are you going to understand how to love someone else or believe that anyone else will love you?
You’ve actually put that better than I have. "
We're all flawed. I suppose that accepting your flaws and liking/loving yourself despite them and loving yourself because you believe you have no flaws is arrogance. It's quite interesting that a few answers are based around liking their bodies rather than personalities  |
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?
I think really it’s when liking yourself becomes loving yourself and the arrogance that can come with it.
I see. I really struggle with understanding this because for me loving oneself is something to be aimed for and arrogance is a completely different thing.
A bit like putting your own oxygen mask on first, if you don't love yourself how are you going to understand how to love someone else or believe that anyone else will love you?
You’ve actually put that better than I have.
We're all flawed. I suppose that accepting your flaws and liking/loving yourself despite them and loving yourself because you believe you have no flaws is arrogance. It's quite interesting that a few answers are based around liking their bodies rather than personalities "
I’m definitely talking personality and core self, I’m fairly confident that I have a lovely if not enormous penis. |
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"This really is a serious question on my behalf. What does liking yourself 'too much' look like?
I think really it’s when liking yourself becomes loving yourself and the arrogance that can come with it.
I see. I really struggle with understanding this because for me loving oneself is something to be aimed for and arrogance is a completely different thing.
A bit like putting your own oxygen mask on first, if you don't love yourself how are you going to understand how to love someone else or believe that anyone else will love you?
I’m not sure that I agree with this sentiment. Just because someone doesn’t love themselves, it doesn’t mean that they can’t love another. They might not understand why someone loves them, it’s about having the faith that they do love them that matters.
The belief that you have to love yourself first is a bit odd to me"
I can agree with a lot of what you say but I do think that not liking or loving yourself puts barriers in the way of loving people |
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By *edeWoman 31 weeks ago
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I've been thinking how to answer this because the honest answer is No I don't. Not at all. But I also know I'm not a terrible person. I will put my everything into making sure the people around me are happy, often to my own detriment. This is obviously not great but a hard habit to break.
I do get the 'you have to love yourself first' thing to an extent because self hate ruins confidence and then can often affect the relationship. I would hope though, the people I care for know how much I love them no matter what I say about myself  |
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"I've been thinking how to answer this because the honest answer is No I don't. Not at all. But I also know I'm not a terrible person. I will put my everything into making sure the people around me are happy, often to my own detriment. This is obviously not great but a hard habit to break.
I do get the 'you have to love yourself first' thing to an extent because self hate ruins confidence and then can often affect the relationship. I would hope though, the people I care for know how much I love them no matter what I say about myself "
I’m sure those you love feel the same about you and probably disagree with you’re own view of yourself.
We all have things that we’d change about ourselves, sometimes we can, sometimes you can’t, but identifying our own misgivings about ourselves is a great quality, and if you can be at peace with those then we can learn to like ourselves.
I hope that makes sense. |
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"Thanks Fiddles, I like you too.
As for myself, I generally do like me. I'm pretty nice and helpful. But when I'm tired I know I can be a grumpy bitch. I don't like myself so much then, but I do understand and accept myself."
And you make great Rocky Road. |
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Do I like myself? Yes, I'm bloody brilliant. In theory.
Do I talk to myself in a horrible fashion that I would never allow anyone else to use? Yes.
Am I very glad that other people don't see me the way I see myself? God yes.
I have myriad fantastic aspects, but they're overlaid with a fine dusting of the grotesque and absurd. |
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"Do I like myself? Yes, I'm bloody brilliant. In theory.
Do I talk to myself in a horrible fashion that I would never allow anyone else to use? Yes.
Am I very glad that other people don't see me the way I see myself? God yes.
I have myriad fantastic aspects, but they're overlaid with a fine dusting of the grotesque and absurd."
The question is, does that fine dusting affect how you feel.
Although googly eyes make up for most character flaws. |
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"Do I like myself? Yes, I'm bloody brilliant. In theory.
Do I talk to myself in a horrible fashion that I would never allow anyone else to use? Yes.
Am I very glad that other people don't see me the way I see myself? God yes.
I have myriad fantastic aspects, but they're overlaid with a fine dusting of the grotesque and absurd.
The question is, does that fine dusting affect how you feel.
Although googly eyes make up for most character flaws. "
It must have some impact but its impossible for me to know how much impact it has.
If I wasn't me I would want to be my mate for sure. I wouldn't want to sleep with me, but I'd certainly want to be around me and spend time in my company. |
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It's tricky I have a love hate relationship with myself at the moment it's the latter but I'm working on it, although I'm not getting far everything I try and do to improve things goes tits up.
On the upside I like my tits & green eyes.
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