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By *elloWoman 32 weeks ago
alpha centauri |
"What can I do to be more attractive on here or in clubs? "
Talk to people, especially in clubs don't be afraid to approach people and introduce yourself, don't be part of the wanking dead, join in discussions. |
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"What can I do to be more attractive on here or in clubs?
What has been your experience of clubs so far?
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Only been to one so far, BGHS, and had a great time chatting with folk there but nothing progressed.
I’ve never been one for hookups but I want to experience stuff casually! |
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"Talk and chat to people on here but it takes time to build a connection with people xx"
I’m just so aware of how many men message women and couples. How to stand out, when just being myself wouldn’t! |
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By *elloWoman 32 weeks ago
alpha centauri |
"Talk and chat to people on here but it takes time to build a connection with people xx
I’m just so aware of how many men message women and couples. How to stand out, when just being myself wouldn’t!"
What stands out to 1 woman won't be what stands out to the next woman. Woman can be complicated people and we like to mix it up a little. Half the time we don't even know what we want  |
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By *a LunaWoman 32 weeks ago
South Wales |
Be nonchalant about sex.
Men who are overly consumed with trying to get their balls emptied are a bit of a turn off.
Relax. Have fun. See how it goes. If you get a shag, yippee! But if you don’t it’s no big deal… |
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"Be nonchalant about sex.
Men who are overly consumed with trying to get their balls emptied are a bit of a turn off.
Relax. Have fun. See how it goes. If you get a shag, yippee! But if you don’t it’s no big deal…"
Yeah I think you’re spot on there. Still hard to make connections on here without the first message doing much. But thanks for the reminder heh. |
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In my opinion, first and foremost, put your cock away! Do have some pics in your friends only section, but not in your "for everyone" one. You wouldn't approach a woman or a couple in a bar/pub/club with your cock in your hand, would you?
As others have said, 3 weeks is absolutely nothing in the world of Fab.
Also, when going to a club, don't expect sex every time you go, treat it as a bonus rather than main course.
Last but not least, on the topic of BGHS- it's a predominantly naturist place, staff make sure you are aware of it before you get in. The chances of play happening are not as high as in "traditional" swingers clubs. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"What can I do to be more attractive on here or in clubs? "
Mate….dont change to satisfy others….just be you….someone will see what you offer when you’re just yourself!! |
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"In my opinion, first and foremost, put your cock away! Do have some pics in your friends only section, but not in your "for everyone" one. You wouldn't approach a woman or a couple in a bar/pub/club with your cock in your hand, would you?
As others have said, 3 weeks is absolutely nothing in the world of Fab.
Also, when going to a club, don't expect sex every time you go, treat it as a bonus rather than main course.
Last but not least, on the topic of BGHS- it's a predominantly naturist place, staff make sure you are aware of it before you get in. The chances of play happening are not as high as in "traditional" swingers clubs. "
Yeah fair point. I will do as you recommend!
Not keen on having my face in pics though but can find something in the middle heh |
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"Be nonchalant about sex.
Men who are overly consumed with trying to get their balls emptied are a bit of a turn off.
Relax. Have fun. See how it goes. If you get a shag, yippee! But if you don’t it’s no big deal…"
this |
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"In my opinion, first and foremost, put your cock away! Do have some pics in your friends only section, but not in your "for everyone" one. You wouldn't approach a woman or a couple in a bar/pub/club with your cock in your hand, would you?
As others have said, 3 weeks is absolutely nothing in the world of Fab.
Also, when going to a club, don't expect sex every time you go, treat it as a bonus rather than main course.
Last but not least, on the topic of BGHS- it's a predominantly naturist place, staff make sure you are aware of it before you get in. The chances of play happening are not as high as in "traditional" swingers clubs.
Yeah fair point. I will do as you recommend!
Not keen on having my face in pics though but can find something in the middle heh"
You don't need to have your face pic on here, I'm sure you can find some photos that do leave something to the imagination but are enough of a tease. |
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OP - just do your own thing. My advice is to stop asking for advice and just put what makes you feel good out there. If it doesn’t work then think about why that is and change it.
If you want to enjoy Fabs then you need to be consistent through everything and having a profile that is made up by other people just means that if you actually meet and people find you are nothing like your profile then they are going to walk at that point. |
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By *elloWoman 32 weeks ago
alpha centauri |
"Okay, asides from the Shrek idea… who’s got suggestions for kinds of photos? Preferably non face and non dick. I don’t have the best of physiques, working on it!"
Grey boxers, chest down on a bed with white bed linen, head facing away from the camera. Take photo in black and white. Maybe with curtains half opened allowing a shaft of light to shine across your torso.  . Or something like that (that was a rather detailed response, I guess I know what I'm horny for at the moment) |
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Truth of the matter is that this site is so old there's little to prove that we aren't all just bots
You are better as a single male just going to clubs and talking to people see where it goes, get some verifications and don't post 200 dic pics
I've just returned lost my old account and honestly the treatment to a single guy messaging people are shocking and made me seriously consider bothering
Real life meets over this any day of the week |
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By *bi HaiveMan 32 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"Be yourself, everyone else is taken. "
This. 100%
There's no point trying to pretend to be anyone else, change yourself to suit others or attempt some drastic personality change.
Just be you. We can't be all things to all people and you'll never be everyone's cup of tea.
Just get out and about, at clubs and look for organised group social events. Nothing helps you get your personality across better than those and face to face is a great way to meet others and network.
And be patient. It takes time. |
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"Okay, asides from the Shrek idea… who’s got suggestions for kinds of photos? Preferably non face and non dick. I don’t have the best of physiques, working on it!
Grey boxers, chest down on a bed with white bed linen, head facing away from the camera. Take photo in black and white. Maybe with curtains half opened allowing a shaft of light to shine across your torso. . Or something like that (that was a rather detailed response, I guess I know what I'm horny for at the moment) "
I might need to hire you as my photographer for that one! |
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"Okay, asides from the Shrek idea… who’s got suggestions for kinds of photos? Preferably non face and non dick. I don’t have the best of physiques, working on it!
Grey boxers, chest down on a bed with white bed linen, head facing away from the camera. Take photo in black and white. Maybe with curtains half opened allowing a shaft of light to shine across your torso. . Or something like that (that was a rather detailed response, I guess I know what I'm horny for at the moment) "
It's always good to know what you want. Especially when horny.
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By *edeWoman 31 weeks ago
the abyss |
"Be yourself, everyone else is taken.
Unless you can be a dragon, then always be a dragon
My name in previous internet incarnations was Happiness Dragon 
J"
My dad used to call me The Dragon when my son was little. They even got me a Dragon Tamer tea one year  |
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"Be yourself, everyone else is taken.
Unless you can be a dragon, then always be a dragon
My name in previous internet incarnations was Happiness Dragon
J
My dad used to call me The Dragon when my son was little. They even got me a Dragon Tamer tea one year "
I have a meme I need to send you 
J |
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Add more if you to the bio it’s rather generic just now.
Pics - your only options aren’t face or cock! Frankly if you haven’t the imagination to see that I’d be sceptical of you having a decent imagination for sex. Use your pics to not only show your physique, but also dress sense, hint at your job maybe, sense of humour/playfulness…
Check out other guys pics for ideas, I’m personally partial to a guy suited and booted esp in military dress uniform 
I’m also a sucker for a geek.
But some women like the sportswear look, some like a diy/trade look, a bit rough and ready - whatever aligns authentically with who you are.
As previous posters have said you can only be you, don’t pretend to be what you are not. That way you will be more likely to find people you are compatible with. |
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By *ounmacCouple 31 weeks ago
Market Harborough |
Go with the flow, non pushy. Just be yourself.
A good personality shines through on here. 
Pics wise, my attention is grabbed when there’s a little mysteriousness about pics. Abit of class. Shirt/tie/suit always makes me weak at the knees
The main thing is just be you! Those that are for you won’t pass you by
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"What can I do to be more attractive on here or in clubs?
Talk to people, especially in clubs don't be afraid to approach people and introduce yourself, don't be part of the wanking dead, join in discussions."
The Wanking Dead  |
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"What can I do to be more attractive on here or in clubs?
Talk to people, especially in clubs don't be afraid to approach people and introduce yourself, don't be part of the wanking dead, join in discussions.
The Wanking Dead "
I’ve been to a thing where there was actually a wall of guys doing just that watching the action on a bed. It’s very odd. Autocorrect changed that to ‘off’ probably correct |
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