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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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It can be one of many things to a bland profile, a poor opening message or having no pics!!
For me….i find that no matter how amazing the profile or the opening message….if they don’t fancy you….you won’t get anything back!! |
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The odds are stacked against you: there are far more singleton men trawling this site than women (and couples). Your message will be one of hundreds in their inbox and most women typically look at the profile first before even opening the message itself...assuming they feel inclined to do so.
If they manage to look at your profile I suspect they won't be enamoured: you have a blank profile photo, no publicly viewable images and basic profile text.
How do you feel that you and your profile stands out compared to your peers? What is unique about you or your profile that will pique the interest of the person/s you are messaging...? |
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There are a lot more men than other demographics on this site.
Why should people meet you, rather than someone else? Don't tell me in the forum - answer it on your profile. And add some pictures, it helps. (It doesn't have to be a picture of your face. It also doesn't have to be a picture of your dick. It can be literally anything else) |
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Your header makes me think you are looking for men as it says males so I would be confused by that if you messaged me.
Read what everyone else has said and see if any of that applies to you 
Also re-read your profile and see if it makes sense to someone reading it for the first time. |
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It's essential to have realistic expectations if you are a man here. If you're not going to clubs, you're going to have to have patience and luck, on top of hard graft.
Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. So most messages won't get a reply. |
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"You gotta remember, women and couples get spammed with numerous messages from guys on a daily basis
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Spammed in what way?"
24 hrs of allowing single males to message me resulted in over 500 messages. Thats spam. |
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Agree with a few on here that hour profile just doesnt jump out. Unless you are super hot you need to put the eork into having a great profile! Artistic pics, an interesting and inviting bio.
Also what messages are you sending? The basic 'hi how are you doing' just wont cut it. Again you have to be creative.
I see poor profiles as lazy. Lazy profile, lazy lover imo |
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By *TG3Man 31 weeks ago
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"Hi have been using this site since January and sent loads of messages but don't seem to get alot of responses and when I do they say that there not interested what am I doing wrong"
Your profile is your advert one pic for them to look at and you're interested in sex, not much to go on as i guess most of us are, the thing is you're up against many other guys and you don't stand out and its a snap decision they look and exclude you in seconds. We don't know how you message so can't advise you on that. Will you take any advice who knows. Good luck either way  |
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"Agree with a few on here that hour profile just doesnt jump out. Unless you are super hot you need to put the eork into having a great profile! Artistic pics, an interesting and inviting bio.
Also what messages are you sending? The basic 'hi how are you doing' just wont cut it. Again you have to be creative.
I see poor profiles as lazy. Lazy profile, lazy lover imo "
Does sloppy typing indicate sloppy vulva?
I'm sure that many hope so! |
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"You gotta remember, women and couples get spammed with numerous messages from guys on a daily basis
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Spammed in what way?
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24 hrs of allowing single males to message me resulted in over 500 messages. Thats spam. "
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I disagree. You lowered your drawbridge by allowing single males to message you. Those messages were "solicited" and there was a reasonable expectation that single males would message you based on your profile criteria at that moment in time, irrespective of whether they read your profile or not.
I'm not party to your messages (obviously) and there's every possibility that some/all of those messages to you were 'unimaginative'. There are more men on here than woman and as a consequence the volume of messages is 'reasonably' expected. |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"Hi have been using this site since January and sent loads of messages but don't seem to get alot of responses and when I do they say that there not interested what am I doing wrong"
1 picture, profile sounds desperate but doesn't say much about your character. |
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Like someone else has said, couples and women get sometimes hundreds of mails from the "single men" category daily. In most cases just to get your email read is a plus, never mind replied to.
Unfortunately there is so many single men profiles on here compared to couples and women you're just one fish in an ocean of thousands. If there's nothing in your profile to make someone intrigued to message you back they won't do. Add to that there seems to be more couples who look for another female to join, not man, and your chances are even slimmer. |
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"sort your profile out - make it more snappy and 'about and eager to please' makes you sound like a puppy 
^^^^^^^^^^ they said it all puppies just poop n piss and make you smile "
Not when you got 7 of them!  |
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