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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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Am I right to be annoyed at a so called friend, who adds an ex on social media after the breakup?
Told him to get your own and stop staring my porridge! |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"Am I right to be annoyed at a so called friend, who adds an ex on social media after the breakup?
Told him to get your own and stop staring my porridge! "
Yeah this ‘mate’ is not a mate. Fuck his mum instead lol |
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You are right! I did the same, a ‘mate’ tired to add my ex on Fb**k a week after we split begat he didn’t realise was we were still chatting so I knew exact what was going on. The next conversation I had with him was quite funny, squirm first if it justice. That was ; years ago, not spoken to him since. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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Not about that, so called mate, never met my ex. Just saw us through social media and now that we are no longer together, decided to reach out to her. Not the first time either. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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I would assume this brake up just happened
But can I ask op you joined fab 5 months ago so were you in the realship when you joined
If not then you been broke up for 5 months maybe more
Sounds to me like your still hung up on them / want them back
Because seems like you have a problem with her date a mate as such |
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"Not about that, so called mate, never met my ex. Just saw us through social media and now that we are no longer together, decided to reach out to her. Not the first time either. "
Is it that you don't want your ex being involved with someone you know? |
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"Am I right to be annoyed at a so called friend, who adds an ex on social media after the breakup?
Told him to get your own and stop staring my porridge! "
If she’s your ex then there won’t be any of your porridge to stir, will there. 
I wouldn’t consider anyone who thought they could tell me who I could and couldn’t associate with on social media, any kind of friend |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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Agree with the black and white, but my account has been hidden inactive whilst I gave it a try.
My issue is... Regardless of what I was doing and my and partners world. Said friend has zero problem with reaching out to people in my life. Snake! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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They are world's apart and would never have met without the window of social media.
My issue, is about my own standards and may be projecting. But I would never add a friends ex. |
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"Agree with the black and white, but my account has been hidden inactive whilst I gave it a try.
My issue is... Regardless of what I was doing and my and partners world. Said friend has zero problem with reaching out to people in my life. Snake! "
But still posting pictures? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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Love the devils advocate. How it's not about my or ex world and what we did.
The question is would you add a friends ex knowing they had broke up?
Or could you look me in the face and justify? |
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"Love the devils advocate. How it's not about my or ex world and what we did.
The question is would you add a friends ex knowing they had broke up?
Or could you look me in the face and justify? "
I would be unlikely to add a friends ex I social media immediately after they broke up. However, after some time had passed I'd consider it. After all nobody owns their exes or their friends |
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"Love the devils advocate. How it's not about my or ex world and what we did.
The question is would you add a friends ex knowing they had broke up?
Or could you look me in the face and justify? "
Why does he have to justify his social media friends to you.
She’s your ex, get over it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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Oh absolutely, I have removed said friend from social as. Tbh, I world have reached out to me first.. Not real friend.
Anyway what ex does is ex's business, not mine. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"Love the devils advocate. How it's not about my or ex world and what we did.
The question is would you add a friends ex knowing they had broke up?
Or could you look me in the face and justify? "
Well that depends first off I would speak to you about it then I would evaluate
If sed person is right for me if sed person was right for me and it was someone that I could see myself being happy with the rest off my life then yes sorry
That’s your problem and if your trying to stand in the way off my happiness then that’s your problem and issues
You talk about your friend being a snake but your also suppressing your own “friends” happiness
That friend could be lonely at night
They could cry when you aren’t around and seek someone to spend they life with anyone standing in my way at a chance at that will get cut out my life simple as |
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"Oh absolutely, I have removed said friend from social as. Tbh, I world have reached out to me first.. Not real friend.
Anyway what ex does is ex's business, not mine. "
So you'd speak to someone's ex before adding them on social media? Is this a sort of man code thing?
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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Answering your question: if he wanted to be my friend and wish the best for me. He would know the limits of friendship.
Will wait for his reply if he is man enough, other than that. Bye bye to both.. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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I think I would be a bit pissed off too if I'm honest.
If they weren't friends when you were together, then I'd wonder why they are friends now.
Maybe he likes your sloppy seconds  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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No man code thing, but I would understand how important our friendship was and if me adding their ex would break the friendship.
No mancode or human code just integrity. |
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"No man code thing, but I would understand how important our friendship was and if me adding their ex would break the friendship.
No mancode or human code just integrity. "
I'm a bit out of the loop on these things but does adding someone on social media indicate romantic interest?
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"Answering your question: if he wanted to be my friend and wish the best for me. He would know the limits of friendship.
Will wait for his reply if he is man enough, other than that. Bye bye to both.. "
Saying bye to both is the best outcome. Not your monkey, not your circus |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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Someone I worked with years ago, but either way...
Anyway I was coming here and having an open discussion, rather than washing manche my head.
Yes it's an offload, rather vocalise than internalise. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"Someone I worked with years ago, but either way...
Anyway I was coming here and having an open discussion, rather than washing manche my head.
Yes it's an offload, rather vocalise than internalise. "
Ok wow well you really blown it out off propeshon then not like it’s a best friend or anything
I reframe form saying with i really think here op as your head best just remove them both and move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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It's been a journey since the break up, I feel like I can see the light at the end of the tunnel. Six stages of grief and all that. But yes certain events, actions trigger a relapse which this did.
So action has been taken, by removing so called friend and I will carry on my me journey.
Thank you, for your I put much appreciated. |
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"Someone I worked with years ago, but either way...
Anyway I was coming here and having an open discussion, rather than washing manche my head.
Yes it's an offload, rather vocalise than internalise. "
I think it's a good thing you're getting it out of your head because it seems to me you're massively over thinking this.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 32 weeks ago
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As they say the worst place you can be is in your own head.
It's a paradigm, my preception right now, perhaps I will look back in the future and realise friend has done me a favour. Bth it's not the first time.
So removal is a necessity step. |
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"Someone I worked with years ago, but either way...
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In my dictionary that sounds more like an acquaintance that a friend, but either way this story surely shows me why I wouldn't touch social media with a bargepole. |
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By *a LunaWoman 32 weeks ago
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What’s done is done. But remember, she didn’t have to accept his friend request either so if you’re mad at him are you mad at her too?
And sometimes folk just add folk because it adds to their numbers and makes them look good. Doesn’t mean owt.
Anyway, Chin up, chest up and move on. Look forwards not backwards. |
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Looks like there are various ways forward.
Kiss and make up with ex.
Kiss and make up with snake.
Kiss and make up with neither.
Move on.
Give up social media.
Find someone new and don't tell any anyone in case that goes wrong as well. |
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"Looks like there are various ways forward.
Kiss and make up with ex.
Kiss and make up with snake.
Kiss and make up with neither.
Move on.
Give up social media.
Find someone new and don't tell any anyone in case that goes wrong as well."
Trouple and get ex to peg him |
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I don’t get this whole “don’t touch my ex” thing. She is an adult and can make her own mind up as to who she sees and who she doesn’t. Stop trying to control her life and let her do what/who she wants.
If it winds you up that much then I would suggest you deal with those issues on your own time and leave her to get on with her thing. |
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"Am I right to be annoyed at a so called friend, who adds an ex on social media after the breakup?
Told him to get your own and stop staring my porridge! "
I thought you were on about boot collection |
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"I don’t get this whole “don’t touch my ex” thing. She is an adult and can make her own mind up as to who she sees and who she doesn’t. Stop trying to control her life and let her do what/who she wants.
If it winds you up that much then I would suggest you deal with those issues on your own time and leave her to get on with her thing."
I try and go with ‘no longer my problem’ |
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By *bi HaiveMan 31 weeks ago
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"I don’t get this whole “don’t touch my ex” thing. She is an adult and can make her own mind up as to who she sees and who she doesn’t. Stop trying to control her life and let her do what/who she wants.
If it winds you up that much then I would suggest you deal with those issues on your own time and leave her to get on with her thing.
I try and go with ‘no longer my problem’"
100% agree. An ex is an ex. You lose all rights to have any input on their future life, actions, who they engage with etc.
Likewise friends. Sure, a very close friend would probably speak to you before making any contact with a previous partner, but a casual acquaintance or someone not particularly close has no requirement to seek permission to do anything or contact anyone else.
There's no rules to be stuck to. People are free to live their lives how they wish. |
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OP I’m with you on this, I’d be upset too. You already know that they’re adults that can do what they want but it doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck. When you come out of a relationship you’re really vulnerable and it’s hard not to take things like this really personal.
Hope in time it gets better! |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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"Not about that, so called mate, never met my ex. Just saw us through social media and now that we are no longer together, decided to reach out to her. Not the first time either. "
He can't have been a close friend if he never met your ex in person,reads as if the mates more an acquaintance rather than a mate and if that's the case then I don't see what the problem would be. |
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