Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.
I know it's our biggest limiting factor.
How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want? |
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Let's reply from the perspective of when we were living the lifestyle (can't now as we aren't swinging anymore).
Before I started working in a hotel and doing shift work, attending clubs used to be really easy for us but most Friday or Saturday nights once I started shift work, I would be working til 11.
Meeting anyone was kinda easier I guess as I either had a morning or afternoon free x |
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"Lack of time, due to kids, friends, family etc without even considering time for us.
We would put a gig we want to go to before anything from here tbh. "
So going to a gig with some gig type people from here would be a great use of time  |
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Makes it worse if people waste your time, don't show up, cancel last minute or ghost you. I don't get lots of time to myself, I don't have time for a relationship as such, so this has to be a tight run ship to get my fun. Add into this mother nature's surprise visits and I am pretty sure my patience is thread bare, with time issues! |
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"Lack of time, due to kids, friends, family etc without even considering time for us.
We would put a gig we want to go to before anything from here tbh.
So going to a gig with some gig type people from here would be a great use of time "
This I could definitely get on board with |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.
I know it's our biggest limiting factor.
How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?"
I have one free evening every 6 months.
I'm currently planning for 2030 around October if anyone is free? |
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"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.
I know it's our biggest limiting factor.
How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?"
It's THE limiting factor, along with its cousin, lack of childcare in the evenings (or any time). |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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Having young kids and virtually no sitters, makes arranging anything super difficult if it involves both of us.
Any free time we do manage to get is usually used up spending time with each other or friends. It’s tough. |
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As I said in the other thread, this isn't a lifestyle choice for me. It's only a hobby.
I don't invest a lot of time in fab or fab related activities and there are many more things that are greater priorities.
I haven't met anyone new in 4 years, haven't been to a social in 18 months and overlapping work schedules leave very little time or energy to even meet with friends.
I could make time if illness and other issues hadn't completely destroyed my mojo so a lot of my time poverty is down to lack of motivation and being physically unable to meet the way I would like to |
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By *ee69Man 33 weeks ago
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A find that folk who are more affluent and have time can enjoy and do better so to speak , or they appear too anyway, I find the scene pretty middle class tbh
Will prob upset folk by say that , just my experience off it , a few different folk tho, am pretty new on this site but did the club thing before and was totally out off place lol compared to everyone else lol , a like it here for a nosey but do better on other sites , to go back to your question tho , time is money , so would certainly help having more free time |
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We are very time poor and as such don’t mess about with socials or chatting on here or other platforms.
We learnt very quickly how much time can be wasted so now, almost exclusively, we meet in clubs. We’ll arrange to not exclusively (we’re not dating) meet a few people at a club on a night we are going. If we all click, great, if not, great.
We’re straight with this from the start and it works well for us.
Xx |
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By *ee69Man 33 weeks ago
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"We are very time poor and as such don’t mess about with socials or chatting on here or other platforms.
We learnt very quickly how much time can be wasted so now, almost exclusively, we meet in clubs. We’ll arrange to not exclusively (we’re not dating) meet a few people at a club on a night we are going. If we all click, great, if not, great.
We’re straight with this from the start and it works well for us.
Xx"
A find any interaction online weather in the scene or dating , hook up etc is mainly time consuming and with its probs lol , glad the club scene works for you though , unfortunately it’s just no for me |
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By *ee69Man 33 weeks ago
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"I have loads of time, just lack of childcare is the limiting factor for meets.
I won't be meeting until sleepovers are a thing. That's still years away! I don't think I'm missing out though. "
Sure you will make up for it Mrs , no want to cause offence or annoy you but your stunning by way , happy fabing |
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"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.
I know it's our biggest limiting factor.
How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?"
Time wise I’m pretty unhindered outside of work as I’m single and don’t have kids. Occasional things clash but that’s not a problem to work around.
However I realise and appreciate it’s not the same for everyone else, especially for couples or if they have kids so I try to be as flexible as possible and work around what limited times they are free to chat/ meet. Then if meeting with them, I try my best to make sure that time together is special and memorable as I appreciate it take a lot for them to arrange a meet x |
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"We are very time poor and as such don’t mess about with socials or chatting on here or other platforms.
We learnt very quickly how much time can be wasted so now, almost exclusively, we meet in clubs. We’ll arrange to not exclusively (we’re not dating) meet a few people at a club on a night we are going. If we all click, great, if not, great.
We’re straight with this from the start and it works well for us.
Xx"
That's exactly why we are club swingers. We can make clubs fit into our calendar without having to work around others and without risk. However the difficulty happens when we meet people in a club and we all want to arrange something out side of the club. The list of people we're planning to meet again with is growing faster than we can organise the meets |
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By *luefire2Couple 33 weeks ago
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I work shifts, which can be starting as early as 4.45am or finishing as late as 1.30am. I only get about one in four weekends off too. So this makes "normal" Weekend meets really difficult. We try and work around it as much as we can.
Mrs R |
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"I work shifts, which can be starting as early as 4.45am or finishing as late as 1.30am. I only get about one in four weekends off too. So this makes "normal" Weekend meets really difficult. We try and work around it as much as we can.
Mrs R"
That's very similar for me (Mr). Very similar shifts and 1 out of every 3 Saturdays off when I get a long weekend. To be if I'm working an early shift on a Saturday I'm free in the evening. But with the earliest start 3.30am as you'll know lasting till the early hours of the following morning is an effort. Then add into the mix we are both single parents and family life is demanding onto of work. However life you guys we do the best we can. There are on some weeks we're both off the same day mid week. Or we have time in morning/afternoon. However the rest of the world doesn't follow the same awkward but fixed shift rotation. Luckily our favourite Club is not too far away and open 6 days a week (daytime and evening) so it at least gives us some options. |
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"A lot of us have young children at some stage I was a single mother.
You have to fit things in when you can. Then they grow up and you have plenty more time to enjoy swinging"
We're both single parents. Mrs Misfits are older and she was nearly home a dry when I met her. But then I brought a 2 and 5 year old (at the time) into the equation. Many years down the line but still many more till we get that independence.
Ironically it's being a single parent that partly brought me to fab. It gave me opportunities for causal personal and physical connections that worked around my kids. Especially because so many single mums on here who understood my restrictions and more willing and able to work with them. And it's through fab we met. |
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The kids are my priority and take up a decent chunk of my time but outside of that I am _very_ lucky in that I can generally structure my calendar to suit me. That freedom to set my own time is liberating and I do protect it quite strongly. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Inspired by another thread looking at money needed to enjoy the scene. It got me thinking about arguably a far more valuable commodity in the lifestyle, free time.
I know it's our biggest limiting factor.
How does the availability of free time affect your enjoyment and opportunities? Is it a serious limiting factor or are free and unhindered to enjoy the lifestyle whenever you want?
I have one free evening every 6 months.
I'm currently planning for 2030 around October if anyone is free? "
I should finally meet the age filter standards you've set, by then.
Unless you +1 them as each year goes by. |
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