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Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
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Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place. |
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By *a LunaWoman 32 weeks ago
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place."
This. And utilise the filters. Just looking for women? Block men from contacting you. |
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place."
I've already done it, I didn't think to hide it immediately I was just surprised to see messages to an empty profile it's all locked down now.
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By *elloWoman 32 weeks ago
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs "
Its a full time job lol. I cleared my inbox Saturday and I've now got almost 400 unread messages, then you read in the forums about how rude people think it is not to reply to every message  I would rather spend my time in the forums. And I don't do message filters because I might want to chat with a fellow forumite . A female friend of mine didn't even last 1 day on this site for she got overwhelmed and left |
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place.
This. And utilise the filters. Just looking for women? Block men from contacting you."
All done, I just didn't get to that part before the messages, literally 3 mins or so these guys are quick.
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs "
I set my filters as soon as I set it up and made sure I didn't show on who's looked at me...even so, before I got them on had messages slip through...plus I'm apparently snooty and unapproachable...  |
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs
Its a full time job lol. I cleared my inbox Saturday and I've now got almost 400 unread messages, then you read in the forums about how rude people think it is not to reply to every message I would rather spend my time in the forums. And I don't do message filters because I might want to chat with a fellow forumite . A female friend of mine didn't even last 1 day on this site for she got overwhelmed and left"
I'm not surprised it can be overwhelming - I was quite surprised how quick people jumped to a blank profile with no pics.
I've got all my filters in place now.
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place.
This. And utilise the filters. Just looking for women? Block men from contacting you.
All done, I just didn't get to that part before the messages, literally 3 mins or so these guys are quick.
Mrs "
Thirsty n quick
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By *mmaleiaWoman 32 weeks ago
Trowbridge |
I sat on my profile for 2 months, no pic, no bio, it was relentless, bulk deleted, didn’t really become active til 3rd month in, luckily I have thick skin, so sat it out, I almost deleted, I’m not gunna lie |
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place.
This. And utilise the filters. Just looking for women? Block men from contacting you."
I had to delete the reply, it was a step too far, even for me   |
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It gets easier after a few years.
Your fresh blood for the thristy gents.
Set very tight message filters, maybe 1 public pic, some private pics. Short bio.
When sending a message to another female, add more info/pics.
Mass delete will be your friend.
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"It gets easier after a few years.
Your fresh blood for the thristy gents.
Set very tight message filters, maybe 1 public pic, some private pics. Short bio.
When sending a message to another female, add more info/pics.
Mass delete will be your friend.
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This is exactly why I don't bother messaging anymore. It's mad. |
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By *a LunaWoman 32 weeks ago
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place.
This. And utilise the filters. Just looking for women? Block men from contacting you.
I had to delete the reply, it was a step too far, even for me "
Strewth, it must have been bad  |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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Delete button works wonders, ignoring the fantasists and giving priority to those profiles that have made an effort to read your profile and undergone a thought process in sending an enticing message. |
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I've got a little system going now as I delete and return fairly often.
- Hide profile immediately
- Don't click anything on "looking for" so I don't appear on any searches
- Maybe faff with the age ranges to stop further search appearances
- Message filters implemented
- Unhide profile
Then I can do my own searching in a leisurely fashion, which just means pissing about on the forum and occasionally messaging someone who seems interesting. |
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By *pril555Woman 32 weeks ago
Devon EX area |
I was so overwhelmed for the first couple of weeks and very nearly came back off again as was trying to be polite and reply, even to say no thanks!
It was so intense, and naively not what I was expecting when I joined!! Lol |
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"I don't suppose anyone would know why my verifications aren't showing to accept at all on that profile?
Mrs "
Depends who theu are from, if it's from a profile thats filtered out from contacting then it won't show
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"I don't suppose anyone would know why my verifications aren't showing to accept at all on that profile?
Mrs
It sometimes does that for me. If you log out and back in it should work "
Amazing thank you I've got one come through.
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"My first message when I rejoined was
"Hello beautiful"
I hadn't put a single photo up.
The message filters are my friend"
Same, but my first message said he loved my profile as it was so interesting, I hadn't filled one in 
Filters are the best. |
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"I don't suppose anyone would know why my verifications aren't showing to accept at all on that profile?
Mrs
Depends who theu are from, if it's from a profile thats filtered out from contacting then it won't show
Tinder"
I didn't realise this, this was my issue I've had to drop my filters again.
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"I was so overwhelmed for the first couple of weeks and very nearly came back off again as was trying to be polite and reply, even to say no thanks!
It was so intense, and naively not what I was expecting when I joined!! Lol"
I'm not surprised I literally took 3/4 mins setting it up & had messages before I got to the filters part.
It does seem a little overwhelming.
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By *ornycougaWoman 32 weeks ago
Wherever I lay my hat |
"I don't suppose anyone would know why my verifications aren't showing to accept at all on that profile?
Mrs
Depends who theu are from, if it's from a profile thats filtered out from contacting then it won't show
Tinder"
This can't be true. I had a veri showing from someone outside my filters |
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"I remember when I first joined and was absolutely inundated. Filters are definitely the way forward but not I just have all single men blocked. "
I actually have no filters up at all. I just ignore the mails I don’t want to read |
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By *lder.Woman 32 weeks ago
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Those first few keen buggers that slip through as you are frantically pressing buttons to make yourself dissapear really annoy me, and I am usually quite passive. I have in the past replied crossly to them and demanded to know which bit of a blank profile is beautiful or amazing or whatever fake compliment dribbles from them. And then realise they can then message forevermore then.
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs "
Ignore it or bulk delete. The friends message box is brilliant for keeping up with those you want to. I just keep forgetting it exists |
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"I remember when I first joined and was absolutely inundated. Filters are definitely the way forward but not I just have all single men blocked.
I actually have no filters up at all. I just ignore the mails I don’t want to read "
but don't you have to read at least a title to knock you want to ignore it. That must be time consuming. |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place.
This. And utilise the filters. Just looking for women? Block men from contacting you."
Because you can't moan about how shit men are on the forums if you do that! |
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs
Ignore it or bulk delete. The friends message box is brilliant for keeping up with those you want to. I just keep forgetting it exists "
Use your filters I've found it a lot easier with filters up  |
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As soon as the profile is made, you are told that you are the most beautiful person to have ever been on earth. The opposite of the adjectives received when you decline interest or don't respond to dozens of messages within a nanosecond |
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"I remember when I first joined and was absolutely inundated. Filters are definitely the way forward but not I just have all single men blocked.
I actually have no filters up at all. I just ignore the mails I don’t want to read but don't you have to read at least a title to knock you want to ignore it. That must be time consuming."
Only when I can be arsed
The ones I like jump off the page tbh. And the immediate bin quickly ones do that too |
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By (user no longer on site) 32 weeks ago
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I've done fab various ways. And it's pretty easy to control the messages.
If you don't want the hundreds of crude messages:
Don't have topless/naked pics
Don't proclaim to be the best at anything
Don't list what you like
Use the filters. If you aren't in the mood for messages, block all men.
I'm not saying you have to do that I'm saying it works if you just want the odd decent message.
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By *bi HaiveMan 32 weeks ago
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"I don't suppose anyone would know why my verifications aren't showing to accept at all on that profile?
Mrs
Depends who theu are from, if it's from a profile thats filtered out from contacting then it won't show
Tinder
This can't be true. I had a veri showing from someone outside my filters"
If you've exchanged messages with them then veris are fine.
If someone who would be filtered outvfrom trying to message you tries to leave a veri it won't go through. You need to PM them first to enable it.
It's happened to me a few times after club/social events.  |
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"I don't suppose anyone would know why my verifications aren't showing to accept at all on that profile?
Mrs
Depends who theu are from, if it's from a profile thats filtered out from contacting then it won't show
Tinder
This can't be true. I had a veri showing from someone outside my filters
If you've exchanged messages with them then veris are fine.
If someone who would be filtered outvfrom trying to message you tries to leave a veri it won't go through. You need to PM them first to enable it.
It's happened to me a few times after club/social events. "
I find it only changes when I’ve changed my filters, then the veri will display and will stay there even when I change the filters back  |
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By *nnCeeWoman 32 weeks ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
"My first message when I rejoined was
"Hello beautiful"
I hadn't put a single photo up.
The message filters are my friend"
But that black head outline on white.... ooouuuffft!!!  |
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"Why don’t you create the profile, instantly hide it and then fill it in behind the scenes. Wait a few days for the newbie factor to wear off and then open it up? I bet you will get a lot less “new meat” syndrome taking place.
This. And utilise the filters. Just looking for women? Block men from contacting you.
Because you can't moan about how shit men are on the forums if you do that!"
Or the profile was already made and in the two minutes it took me to get to the message filters there was "hi beautiful" etc in the inbox of a profile with no photos.
Don't need to moan about how shit men are they manage showing that all on their own.
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"I've done fab various ways. And it's pretty easy to control the messages.
If you don't want the hundreds of crude messages:
Don't have topless/naked pics
Don't proclaim to be the best at anything
Don't list what you like
Use the filters. If you aren't in the mood for messages, block all men.
I'm not saying you have to do that I'm saying it works if you just want the odd decent message.
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Thanks I think I've kept my profile short and too the point, maybe you could take a look for me.
Filters are up I did it quickly I was just surprised how many people would message a blank profile.
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welcome to the mad house - i keep my filters on mainly- to get a veri from someone you can message or even wink them and then they can contact you.
I still get 100's a day with filters, sometimes its just best to hit the mass delete and start again - its a full time job going through them. and most just say hi for ever!!!
and if you take your filters off and forget to put them on - its mad then too.
 somedays i just ignore everything |
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We’ve had a couple of friends just leave on day one due to being overwhelmed.
C probably should set up her own profile to meet ladies by herself but she’s already had a single profile and remembers how relentless it is.
I can’t believe people, well guys, can be that thirsty. They must refresh the who’s joined page regularly.
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"I remember when I first joined and was absolutely inundated. Filters are definitely the way forward but not I just have all single men blocked.
I actually have no filters up at all. I just ignore the mails I don’t want to read "
I did try this for a while, but was starting to dread looking at my inbox. Full of dick pics or gross requests. Then I would get the typical repeat messages ‘not your type?’ ‘Rude. You could at least say thanks but no thanks’ as soon as their message had been deleted. |
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"We’ve had a couple of friends just leave on day one due to being overwhelmed.
C probably should set up her own profile to meet ladies by herself but she’s already had a single profile and remembers how relentless it is.
I can’t believe people, well guys, can be that thirsty. They must refresh the who’s joined page regularly.
K"
I'm not surprised, I'm guessing a lot of newbies don't know about message filters either to start it can be very overwhelming.
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"I remember when I first joined and was absolutely inundated. Filters are definitely the way forward but not I just have all single men blocked.
I actually have no filters up at all. I just ignore the mails I don’t want to read
I did try this for a while, but was starting to dread looking at my inbox. Full of dick pics or gross requests. Then I would get the typical repeat messages ‘not your type?’ ‘Rude. You could at least say thanks but no thanks’ as soon as their message had been deleted. "
I agree, same for me.
Or, even worse, offering money.
“Didn’t want fuck for free so how about £50 in your wallet?” or something similar.
Fucking gross. Filters all the way.
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs "
Wow, really? Someone messaged you saying that? FF sake, why do they do it other than to make everyone else’s life harder and miserable. It certainly isn’t going make a good impression to the woman receiving those messages and it only fuels the already negative outlook people already have about single guys profiles. It really is so depressing at times x |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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As someone who deletes and rejoins this site a lot I use the filter button before I "go live". I get the same messages from the same people time and time again. Like they are poised waiting to click their copy and paste message to any new female. Most are vile too so obviously they don't get anywhere with them. |
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"As someone who deletes and rejoins this site a lot I use the filter button before I "go live". I get the same messages from the same people time and time again. Like they are poised waiting to click their copy and paste message to any new female. Most are vile too so obviously they don't get anywhere with them. "
I honestly don't know what some think they'll gain with the types of messages sent.
I locked my profile down quickly - well I thought I was quick just not quick enough but all is good now.
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I've never had this problem.... When I'm at home. It's a bit of a dead spot here. Joys of living on an island!
But if I go somewhere like Bournemouth or Cardiff, it's manic. I couldn't cope with that all the time. My filters would be much stricter. |
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I must just be unattractive because my inbox isnt that chaotic even when my profile is open
I keep my filters quite strict, I rarely upload new pics or put up a status. All that attracts attention so I presume that helps, my block list is also huge. |
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs
Its a full time job lol. I cleared my inbox Saturday and I've now got almost 400 unread messages, then you read in the forums about how rude people think it is not to reply to every message I would rather spend my time in the forums. And I don't do message filters because I might want to chat with a fellow forumite . A female friend of mine didn't even last 1 day on this site for she got overwhelmed and left
I'm not surprised it can be overwhelming - I was quite surprised how quick people jumped to a blank profile with no pics.
I've got all my filters in place now.
Mrs "
Proof that the men will pretty much shag anything thread is kind of true really isn't it. You can have a completely blank profile on here and still men offering it their services. |
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"Ladies, how do you do it?
I've literally set up my singles profile & before I had chance to even upload a profile pic and set my message preferences I already had messages from men, like look new meat! There wasn't even a photo & clearly stated meeting women only.
My message block list is done now but my goodness how do you ladies cope with your inboxes?
Mrs
Its a full time job lol. I cleared my inbox Saturday and I've now got almost 400 unread messages, then you read in the forums about how rude people think it is not to reply to every message I would rather spend my time in the forums. And I don't do message filters because I might want to chat with a fellow forumite . A female friend of mine didn't even last 1 day on this site for she got overwhelmed and left
I'm not surprised it can be overwhelming - I was quite surprised how quick people jumped to a blank profile with no pics.
I've got all my filters in place now.
Mrs
Proof that the men will pretty much shag anything thread is kind of true really isn't it. You can have a completely blank profile on here and still men offering it their services."
Yeah some men do like to compliment a blank profile I had _ello beautiful before I had any pics, it's fully locked down now.
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A friend of mine set a profile up, same as you op but she was getting messages with "you are so beautiful" literally no pictures! I mean she was but that's beside the point.
I've 189 unread, I don't get half as many as some ladies, probably because of my profile wording, so those are ones that decide not to read it and just message. |
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"A friend of mine set a profile up, same as you op but she was getting messages with "you are so beautiful" literally no pictures! I mean she was but that's beside the point.
I've 189 unread, I don't get half as many as some ladies, probably because of my profile wording, so those are ones that decide not to read it and just message."
It's crazy, some will compliment a blank profile surely it just shows them as wanting anything and not in a good light.
I can't ever imagine it working.
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