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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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Chatting to a girl finally and the replys are slow, you just know she's replying to others at the same time, dont get me wrong she can msg who she wants, but comon have some decency to engage with me , one to one , then move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"Reading your post it’s like you are new here.
But 9 months is long enough to figure this site out."
Oh I figured it out months ago , im just saying , I would engage in chat one to one |
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"Reading your post it’s like you are new here.
But 9 months is long enough to figure this site out.
Oh I figured it out months ago , im just saying , I would engage in chat one to one "
You are probably not interesting enough to keep her attention tbh. Just being honest. |
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By *TG3Man 39 weeks ago
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"Chatting to a girl finally and the replys are slow, you just know she's replying to others at the same time, dont get me wrong she can msg who she wants, but comon have some decency to engage with me , one to one , then move on "
lol hey its life here women are popular and guys not so, you'll lose the woman you're chatting to if you get pissed off about things you don't know for sure, make what you say interesting and don't worry about the rest if she likes you you'll get a meet  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"If you're worried about multiple chats .. how are you going to cope with multiple playmates? "
As I said in op.im not worried im old enough to understand I just think it's polite to have a conversation one to one ,then move on |
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I talk to more than one person at a time on messages.
I do the same in real life. Like at parties & work and stuff.
It’s more disrespectful to ignore others.
And massively disrespectful to expect me to. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
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No she not the only one , |
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
No she not the only one , "
You’re talking with other women? |
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By *errocaWoman 39 weeks ago
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
No she not the only one , "
So it's not polite for her to talk to others, but it's ok for you to? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
No she not the only one ,
You’re talking with other women? "
Not at the same time no , |
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
No she not the only one ,
You’re talking with other women? "
I think this is the point where the thread goes from bad to worse  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Greatest tip I can give
Send a message delete the send message that way you don’t know if it’s read unread
If she doesn’t reply back don’t message till she does
and move on to the next conversation with someone else |
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OP - chill!
This kind of talk would be a huge red flag for me.
If you're already thinking she's not paying you enough attention and you've not even met how are you going to be after?
We all have lives, speak to a number of people and sometimes are just pre occupied.
Relax and go with the flow
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"Chatting to a girl finally and the replys are slow, you just know she's replying to others at the same time, dont get me wrong she can msg who she wants, but comon have some decency to engage with me , one to one , then move on "
I sometimes take days to reply to messages, don't assume she is ignoring you to message others.
Maybe she's not in the right mindset? Maybe she gets distracted? I dunno. All I know is if a guy takes umpbridge with me because I am not messaging quick enough for his liking then it's cya
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
No she not the only one ,
You’re talking with other women?
Not at the same time no , "
So you want her to stop any conversations with other men, to give you her undivided attention?
You have come to the conclusion that she is chatting to others because she’s slow to reply?
I think you are on the wrong site, and she may not even be talking to others, she might just not feel like chatting. Whatever it is she has her reasons and doesn’t owe you anything. |
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
No she not the only one ,
You’re talking with other women?
Not at the same time no ,
So you want her to stop any conversations with other men, to give you her undivided attention?
You have come to the conclusion that she is chatting to others because she’s slow to reply?
I think you are on the wrong site, and she may not even be talking to others, she might just not feel like chatting. Whatever it is she has her reasons and doesn’t owe you anything.
Ok mum.ffs jesus "
She's not wrong.
Unfortunately, you come across extremely entitled and potentially controlling.
It's perfectly normal to have conversations with more than one person at a time, regardless of the platform.
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"Chatting to a girl finally and the replys are slow, you just know she's replying to others at the same time, dont get me wrong she can msg who she wants, but comon have some decency to engage with me , one to one , then move on "
Swinging as a whole isn't really a "one to one" thing on general. |
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"Chatting to a girl finally and the replys are slow, you just know she's replying to others at the same time, dont get me wrong she can msg who she wants, but comon have some decency to engage with me , one to one , then move on "
Entitlement and neediness is so fucking hot n sexy.....
Mr |
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I can’t believe she’s not devoting all her time to a fella on a fuck site she hasn’t met yet!
Ungrateful bugger! After op has shown her all that attention. It’s almost as if women have a choice eh? Who knew! |
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By *TG3Man 39 weeks ago
Dorchester |
When i first joined i too felt like this i chatted to a woman i got on really well with, we chatted everyday and we met but it got to me the time it took her to reply i lost that friend, so live with it or leave the lifestyle its the only advice i have experience to give |
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Maybe, and here me out here, maybe play the game a little too. No one likes someone who seems to be constantly refreshing the app, and replies within 30 seconds of sending a message.
It's fine to treat messages like email. If your connection with someone evolves so that you both feel like taking your chat to a more dynamic messaging app, them so be it, but giving a hint of neediness or desperation won't lead to that. |
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"Reading your post it’s like you are new here.
But 9 months is long enough to figure this site out.
Oh I figured it out months ago , im just saying , I would engage in chat one to one
You are probably not interesting enough to keep her attention tbh. Just being honest."
Oh that was mean |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"She’s more than likely talking to a lot of people or busy. It’s a swingers site and people have lives. You just gotta charge it to the game
Can someone tell pickle I think I used it right "
You did use it right. Well done. |
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Wait.
So, if I reply to someone, I have to just not respond to anyone else until that conversation has run it's course, regardless of how long it takes them to reply?
Well, that seems a really inefficient system for fucking multiple people  |
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"Reading your post it’s like you are new here.
But 9 months is long enough to figure this site out.
Oh I figured it out months ago , im just saying , I would engage in chat one to one
You are probably not interesting enough to keep her attention tbh. Just being honest.Oh that was mean "
True though 
Much like those who think women should reply to every message from every person  |
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"She’s more than likely talking to a lot of people or busy. It’s a swingers site and people have lives. You just gotta charge it to the game
Can someone tell pickle I think I used it right
You did use it right. Well done. "
What a happy little win for me! |
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Now I'm just probably becoming aware OP I'm doing this all wrong.
See when my lady friend was at hellfire the other week and I text her around 23:45 and didn't hear back from her till 02:30 because she was taking cock, sucking cock enjoying socialising I could of been aggrieved? Nay, I had the right to be aggrieved because she hadn't missed all the evening finishing our conversation?
I have been so short sighted these years and can see where my patriarchal sense of entitlement should be taking me. Just wondering is your tag line on your profile "make swinging great again?"  |
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"If you're worried about multiple chats .. how are you going to cope with multiple playmates?
As I said in op.im not worried im old enough to understand I just think it's polite to have a conversation one to one ,then move on "
she's replying albeit slowly and your complaining ... I wouldn't even expect my partner to only be talking to me .. let alone someone on fab.
Are you on about replies via here ? |
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Geez even on “vanilla” dating sites/apps I/whoever will likely be talking to more than one person!
Just cos it says she’s online doesn’t mean she’s messaging.
As others have said I suspect maybe swinging really isn’t the right option for you.
This would really put me off someone.
I read and reply to messages when it suits ME! I’m often on the forums, sorting photos, chatting with platonic fab friends about social arrangements…
If a potential meet was getting annoyed about me not replying immediately or giving him “one to one” attention they’d be blocked! |
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"Typos!
I suspect that this woman is the only one you’re talking to and you are over invested in her; but if you were getting more positive responses from other women you wouldn’t be posting this.
No she not the only one ,
You’re talking with other women?
I think this is the point where the thread goes from bad to worse "
I’m getting my popcorn this looks like it’s going to be funny |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Op. We have this thing in grain dinners called a gut feeling.
Online communication is difficult, but it’s easy to read if someone is interested in you are not.
Also, the excitement might just waiver too, as it’s difficult to keep up if you’re not making plans. 
Welcome to Fab, OP |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 39 weeks ago
Trowbridge |
I could be chatting to somebody, looking at the forums, by the time I get to my inbox, there’s about 10 more messages in it, most of those I delete, but I still deal with them until I get to the conversation I was having, sometimes I can’t be arsed to deal with my inbox, so I don’t venture there at all when I’m in here, so it could be days before I look |
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By *ob rodMan 39 weeks ago
lancaster |
Whilst I get your point and not great being on the receiving end
It’s just o ok art and parcel of online chatting
The alternative it chat one at a time but that gives the impression your ignoring people who have messaged you whilst you chat to others
I can be slow to reply as normally having a browse or doing something else at the same time |
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"Chatting to a girl finally and the replys are slow, you just know she's replying to others at the same time, dont get me wrong she can msg who she wants, but comon have some decency to engage with me , one to one , then move on "
I suspect if she knew you wanted her to prioritise you over other people and things in her life, the conversation would end pretty quickly. That's pretty entitled.
If you want to talk about common decency, have the common decency to let her use Fab the way it works for her and not revolve it around you. |
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.. but she can read 