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"How can I get more hot ladies to message me?" don’t get rude  | |||
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"How can I get more hot ladies to message me? don’t get rude "I do try but it's my best filter for compatibility  | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies?" Don't say you live in Mayfair | |||
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"This is completely non-judgemental it’s just something I’ve never understood myself. For those of you that are into being humiliated, can you describe how it works for you and if you need any after care to ensure it doesn’t affect you long term ? " No I just turn up for work | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies? Don't say you live in Mayfair " I ain't saying she's a gold digger.. | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies? Don't say you live in Mayfair I ain't saying she's a gold digger.. " Say it. Say the next line  | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies? Don't say you live in Mayfair I ain't saying she's a gold digger.. Say it. Say the next line "But she ain't messin with no broke pickle | |||
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"This is completely non-judgemental it’s just something I’ve never understood myself. For those of you that are into being humiliated, can you describe how it works for you and if you need any after care to ensure it doesn’t affect you long term ? " Know it varies from person to person. It's not something I do at all very often. But for me personally it's a space where I can break down and cry in a safe environment. I'm too good at bottling stuff up and trying to get on with life. But it's existing not living. Breaking down and having a good cry is cathartic to me, and allows me to put my big girl pants on and get shit done. | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies? Don't say you live in Mayfair I ain't saying she's a gold digger.. Say it. Say the next line
But she ain't messin with no broke pickle "
SAY THE WORD YOU WANT TO SAY.
I WILL SAY IT WITH YOU.
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"This is completely non-judgemental it’s just something I’ve never understood myself. For those of you that are into being humiliated, can you describe how it works for you and if you need any after care to ensure it doesn’t affect you long term ? Know it varies from person to person. It's not something I do at all very often. But for me personally it's a space where I can break down and cry in a safe environment. I'm too good at bottling stuff up and trying to get on with life. But it's existing not living. Breaking down and having a good cry is cathartic to me, and allows me to put my big girl pants on and get shit done. " I love this explanation, thanks so much. Always love learning what works for other people and why | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies? Don't say you live in Mayfair " He's built a couple of hotels and is raking it in  | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies? Don't say you live in Mayfair He's built a couple of hotels and is raking it in "Hope he does Fab rates | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies?" Stop being sassy AF  | |||
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"People use the term "unicorn" on here. Apart from a mythical creature what does it mean?" A rare thing to find. I am described as a unicorn as I am a single female. | |||
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"Ok so when you say you are looking for a few ethical non monogamy based fwb. Honestly how many do you think is a good number to have. " Good question!! Beat me to it. I'd say there's no right or wrong answer to that as long as you're not over committing time and creating issues with existing partners/FWB's. Some manage it brilliantly. | |||
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" how can i top up my tan with out getting so bloody hot!! "Baste yourself in gravy???.lol | |||
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"Is pineapple a really good topping on a pizza? " It is when combined with something that counters the sweetness. Pineapple, sweetcorn and olive pizza? Get out. Pineapple, jalapeño and anchovy pizza? Fuck yes. | |||
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"Is pineapple a really good topping on a pizza? It is when combined with something that counters the sweetness. Pineapple, sweetcorn and olive pizza? Get out. Pineapple, jalapeño and anchovy pizza? Fuck yes." Swap the anchovies for chilli beef and 'In'.....  | |||
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"Ok so when you say you are looking for a few ethical non monogamy based fwb. Honestly how many do you think is a good number to have. " It tends to be determined by the relationships you have. When you have to compromise time you actively want to spend with one of your partners to meet someone new, probably time to cancel that date and stop looking. I can feel saturated at one. And I can feel like I have time to date at four. Depending on the individual connections | |||
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"Is pineapple a really good topping on a pizza? It is when combined with something that counters the sweetness. Pineapple, sweetcorn and olive pizza? Get out. Pineapple, jalapeño and anchovy pizza? Fuck yes." Good thinking, I imagine pineapple with a spicy chorizo may also work well too. | |||
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"Is pineapple a really good topping on a pizza? It is when combined with something that counters the sweetness. Pineapple, sweetcorn and olive pizza? Get out. Pineapple, jalapeño and anchovy pizza? Fuck yes. Swap the anchovies for chilli beef and 'In'..... "Make it chorizo? | |||
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"Is pineapple a really good topping on a pizza? It is when combined with something that counters the sweetness. Pineapple, sweetcorn and olive pizza? Get out. Pineapple, jalapeño and anchovy pizza? Fuck yes. Swap the anchovies for chilli beef and 'In'.....
Make it chorizo?"A good shout.  | |||
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" how can i top up my tan with out getting so bloody hot!! "hide underneath me | |||
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"Ok so when you say you are looking for a few ethical non monogamy based fwb. Honestly how many do you think is a good number to have. It tends to be determined by the relationships you have. When you have to compromise time you actively want to spend with one of your partners to meet someone new, probably time to cancel that date and stop looking. I can feel saturated at one. And I can feel like I have time to date at four. Depending on the individual connections "So saying have a few that for many good reasosn can normally only see about once a month. And then a couple more local fwb that I can we can see each other a bit more frequently around our schulded doesn't sound like to much then. I'm never cancelling one for another. They know I plan my child free time how i wish and actually normally arrange time with my firends 1st and my fwb after. | |||
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"I swear it’s a serious question: do women enjoy the taste of cum, as much as I enjoy cumming in their mouth? Tried my own once, was not impressed. Been with various girls, some loved it some hated it. " I am a big fan of cum in my throat. But the taste can vary between people and diets and health. Sometimes it's great, sometimes it's gross. | |||
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" how can i top up my tan with out getting so bloody hot!! "Buy it in a bottle  | |||
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"I'll never quite grasp why people want to have sex with people they don't value enough to have an actual relationship with. Like, have a wank. It's less effort and probably more satisfying all round." I'm slowly err coming round to this thought lol | |||
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"I swear it’s a serious question: do women enjoy the taste of cum, as much as I enjoy cumming in their mouth? Tried my own once, was not impressed. Been with various girls, some loved it some hated it. " It doesn't all taste the same, shock horror. Sometimes, it can make you feel sick to your stomach. Just recalling it, I'm feeling queasy 
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"What I've always wanted to know is - We all drive on the left hand side of the road in this country don't we? So why do we even need the right hand side of the road? " Overtaking tractors | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do?" There's no such distinction for me. | |||
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"I'll never quite grasp why people want to have sex with people they don't value enough to have an actual relationship with. Like, have a wank. It's less effort and probably more satisfying all round." Sex lasts longer and is a more all round enjoyable experience than the quick 30 seconds I need to get myself off. I can appreciate someone's company for a short period whilst also realising that I just don't want to get into any kind of ongoing relationship with them | |||
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"What I've always wanted to know is - We all drive on the left hand side of the road in this country don't we? So why do we even need the right hand side of the road? Overtaking tractors" Or avoiding potholes or loose geese. | |||
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"How rigid are you in what you seek on here" Stiff. | |||
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"I swear it’s a serious question: do women enjoy the taste of cum, as much as I enjoy cumming in their mouth? Tried my own once, was not impressed. Been with various girls, some loved it some hated it. It doesn't all taste the same, shock horror. Sometimes, it can make you feel sick to your stomach. Just recalling it, I'm feeling queasy
But other times I just can't get enough "Was told mine tasted of coffee once and was
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies?" Where’s the tepid or cold water women? | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do?" They definitely feel different. They’re not the only 2 types I have though. They all have their uniqueness | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? There's no such distinction for me. " Interesting | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? They definitely feel different. They’re not the only 2 types I have though. They all have their uniqueness " Also interesting | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do?" They all vary individually to be honest. Clitoral tend to feel higher pitched and quicker to reach and less intense on average. But, I have had some very deep and intense clitoral ones too | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do?" Put your face there and I'll show you..... ha ha ha | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? Put your face there and I'll show you..... ha ha ha " Will I get a full debrief and theoretical analysis? | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? They all vary individually to be honest. Clitoral tend to feel higher pitched and quicker to reach and less intense on average. But, I have had some very deep and intense clitoral ones too "Do you have a preference or is it very much in the moment based on your needs? | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? They all vary individually to be honest. Clitoral tend to feel higher pitched and quicker to reach and less intense on average. But, I have had some very deep and intense clitoral ones too
Do you have a preference or is it very much in the moment based on your needs? "All my favourite everythings are always in flux. I probably tend more towards anal orgasms as a preference, but it does often vary. | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? Put your face there and I'll show you..... ha ha ha Will I get a full debrief and theoretical analysis? "Of course! Vaginal - multiple orgasms and more intense/deep feeling Clitoral - faster to achieve and can satisfy an urge when needed quickly | |||
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"Is pineapple a really good topping on a pizza? " no - never - its so wrong!! | |||
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"I swear it’s a serious question: do women enjoy the taste of cum, as much as I enjoy cumming in their mouth? Tried my own once, was not impressed. Been with various girls, some loved it some hated it. It doesn't all taste the same, shock horror. Sometimes, it can make you feel sick to your stomach. Just recalling it, I'm feeling queasy
But other times I just can't get enough
Was told mine tasted of coffee once and was
Try not to have coffee before things now "I have been told the same, and yes I do drink shit loads of coffee | |||
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"Am I past it? I feel so frigging old sometimes. When should someone like me be hanging up her suspenders and buying thermal socks instead?" About a nano second before your last breath leaves your body. | |||
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"I swear it’s a serious question: do women enjoy the taste of cum, as much as I enjoy cumming in their mouth? Tried my own once, was not impressed. Been with various girls, some loved it some hated it. I am a big fan of cum in my throat. But the taste can vary between people and diets and health. Sometimes it's great, sometimes it's gross." Yes I agree it tastes different depending on diet and health. And I've found that if men have had the snip. It's much nicer experience | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? Put your face there and I'll show you..... ha ha ha Will I get a full debrief and theoretical analysis?
Of course!
Vaginal - multiple orgasms and more intense/deep feeling
Clitoral - faster to achieve and can satisfy an urge when needed quickly
"Let’s do both and have a tea and biscuit break | |||
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" how can i top up my tan with out getting so bloody hot!!
Buy it in a bottle " got some, was hoping for a less yellow effect | |||
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"What it is that women who like facials like about it? " I love to watch a partner touch himself and get lost in his pleasure. Having a facial means I'm up close while watching. I like the eroticism of his release, the smell of it, the feel of it on my skin and the visual of it - visual evidence of his arousal and his passion. I love a man holding my head or my jaw to make sure I'm in the right position for optimum coverage - one hand on me while the other strokes to completion. Just keep it out of my eyes (and ideally not in my hair either). If your aim isn't good then cum on my tits instead, it's almost as much of a turn-on for me. | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? Put your face there and I'll show you..... ha ha ha Will I get a full debrief and theoretical analysis?
Of course!
Vaginal - multiple orgasms and more intense/deep feeling
Clitoral - faster to achieve and can satisfy an urge when needed quickly
Let’s do both and have a tea and biscuit break "You know where to find me, come on over. | |||
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"People who have or have had sex in clubs - do you find a club atmosphere sexy? Does the sound of others not put you off? If you're a person who has sex with men - would you have sex with them after they've had sex with another? How much of a connection do you need to have sex in a club? Are there people you'd have sex with in a club that you wouldn't dream of meeting away from a club? That's a lot of questions I know. " Not particularly. I’ve only had sex in a club once. It all felt a little clinical, if that makes sense? It wasn’t awful, but I probably would have enjoyed myself more had It been in a proper bed. I’m not sure if I’d be in a hurry to do it again. I don’t think I’d be keen on having sex with someone who I know already has with someone else (unless it was a threesome/foursome situation) I still need that little spark before I think about having sex with someone. I think it may be a little easier to establish that at a club, having that face to face interaction than it is on here. Having said that, though, the person I had sex with was someone I had been chatting to on here for a long time and we happened to be there on the same night, so maybe I cheated a little | |||
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"How do vagina and clitoral orgasms vary in build up and release? If they do? Put your face there and I'll show you..... ha ha ha Will I get a full debrief and theoretical analysis?
Of course!
Vaginal - multiple orgasms and more intense/deep feeling
Clitoral - faster to achieve and can satisfy an urge when needed quickly
Let’s do both and have a tea and biscuit break
You know where to find me, come on over. " | |||
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"Why does it seem I’m invisible and unwanted by any female walking this planet "Aww I don't think you are. You're not invisible. I think you'll find the right woman who'll notice you. | |||
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"People who have or have had sex in clubs - do you find a club atmosphere sexy? Does the sound of others not put you off? If you're a person who has sex with men - would you have sex with them after they've had sex with another? How much of a connection do you need to have sex in a club? Are there people you'd have sex with in a club that you wouldn't dream of meeting away from a club? That's a lot of questions I know. " I wonder many of the same things. I’m not really even a kiss someone after they’ve just kissed someone else kinda guy | |||
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"I swear it’s a serious question: do women enjoy the taste of cum, as much as I enjoy cumming in their mouth? Tried my own once, was not impressed. Been with various girls, some loved it some hated it. It doesn't all taste the same, shock horror. Sometimes, it can make you feel sick to your stomach. Just recalling it, I'm feeling queasy
But other times I just can't get enough
Was told mine tasted of coffee once and was
Try not to have coffee before things now I have been told the same, and yes I do drink shit loads of coffee"I drink less than I used to, but need a reliable opinion on the matter | |||
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"What it is that women who like facials like about it? I love to watch a partner touch himself and get lost in his pleasure. Having a facial means I'm up close while watching. I like the eroticism of his release, the smell of it, the feel of it on my skin and the visual of it - visual evidence of his arousal and his passion. I love a man holding my head or my jaw to make sure I'm in the right position for optimum coverage - one hand on me while the other strokes to completion. Just keep it out of my eyes (and ideally not in my hair either). If your aim isn't good then cum on my tits instead, it's almost as much of a turn-on for me." Thanks CS, I've not thought about it that way. | |||
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"…but been afraid to ask… This is the thread for you! A non-judgmental space to chuck in any questions about sex, swinging relationships, whatever you’re into which draws you to fab. I’m not answering all the questions, btw. I’m hoping we can help each other out with answers too
Mrs TMN x"Soooo, you know how, you meet someone and you have a connection and things start to get a little more heated and charged. You’re both into one another. When is it the right time to tell them you don’t care either way if someone puts the milk or boiled water in first when making a cuppa and I don’t see what all the fuss is about? At times it feels like a worse confession to make then that time David Cameron had to go home to his wife and say….. “yeh it was me, I put my old tallywacker in a pork’s chops for shit and giggles at Uni. Anyway how’s everyone else’s day been?” Please help? x | |||
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"What does it feel like to have your penis inside someone else? Where is the best sensation felt when you are inside? Tip of the penis,middle or base? Can you describe what it feels like to a non penis owner. "As well as a woman making it feel bigger than I can, there’s the warm feeling and if she grips it,it’s like wow kind of all of it feels something | |||
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"What does it feel like to have your penis inside someone else? Where is the best sensation felt when you are inside? Tip of the penis,middle or base? Can you describe what it feels like to a non penis owner. "It feels amazing. There's the sensation on the helmet as you first enter and soft flesh opens for you, but it "brushes" and tingles. Then there's a kind of "closing" onto the top of the shaft, and as you go in deeper the shaft is massaged. When you stop at the base, fully in, there's a pressure at the base, on your balls, and into the lower part of tummy, and as you pull out all the "lubricious friction" is repeated in reverse...particularly if the helmet partly comes out because there's a "stroke" as it exits you and touches air again. That's in a pussy. I'll let others explain mouth and ass xxx | |||
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"I love my wife but we are not in a sexual relationship. She is the only female I have ever been with and do wonder what it would be like to be with another female just once. I'm not even thinking full sex maybe just play and oral. Is it wrong of me to feel like this. I'm not looking for a bit on the side or an affair. Just a one off really. Again is this wrong she does not know I feel like this " It's not wrong to feel like it but in my opinion it would be wrong to act on it without her knowledge. Does she think you're happy to live in a platonic relationship? | |||
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"I love my wife but we are not in a sexual relationship. She is the only female I have ever been with and do wonder what it would be like to be with another female just once. I'm not even thinking full sex maybe just play and oral. Is it wrong of me to feel like this. I'm not looking for a bit on the side or an affair. Just a one off really. Again is this wrong she does not know I feel like this It's not wrong to feel like it but in my opinion it would be wrong to act on it without her knowledge. Does she think you're happy to live in a platonic relationship?" Yes she does. I love her and I think it would hurt if I told her I feel like this ?? | |||
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"I love my wife but we are not in a sexual relationship. She is the only female I have ever been with and do wonder what it would be like to be with another female just once. I'm not even thinking full sex maybe just play and oral. Is it wrong of me to feel like this. I'm not looking for a bit on the side or an affair. Just a one off really. Again is this wrong she does not know I feel like this It's not wrong to feel like it but in my opinion it would be wrong to act on it without her knowledge. Does she think you're happy to live in a platonic relationship? Yes she does. I love her and I think it would hurt if I told her I feel like this ??" I see. Best of luck to you both | |||
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"Why does it seem I’m invisible and unwanted by any female walking this planet
Aww I don't think you are. You're not invisible. I think you'll find the right woman who'll notice you. "Thanks lovely your optimism is outstanding | |||
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got some, was hoping for a less yellow effect"For an alternative non-yellow option, you could try a tin of Ronseal deep mahogany | |||
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"I love my wife but we are not in a sexual relationship. She is the only female I have ever been with and do wonder what it would be like to be with another female just once. I'm not even thinking full sex maybe just play and oral. Is it wrong of me to feel like this. I'm not looking for a bit on the side or an affair. Just a one off really. Again is this wrong she does not know I feel like this It's not wrong to feel like it but in my opinion it would be wrong to act on it without her knowledge. Does she think you're happy to live in a platonic relationship? Yes she does. I love her and I think it would hurt if I told her I feel like this ??" It’s never going to be easy and pain free with being honest with your partner that you want a better physical relationship together and want to work on that with her as a couple and maybe even seek guidance from a sex therapist. It’s natural to have fantasies of non consequential, no strings attached hook ups with woman you find attractive when your in a sexless marriage, it’s your brain trying to find another outlet for what missing. However your brain is steering you wrong here and one meaningless hook up or 100 meaningless hooks up won’t resolve the problem and at best only temporarily patch it until it epically blows up in your face and cause far more hurt. You also have to be willing to accept it is also your fault in part for where your relationship at as you’ve also allowed it to happen either by staying quiet instead of telling her what you need from this relationship or by telling her and then doing nothing when it’s clear the situation isn’t going to change as you both want different things and make the hard choice that your not right for each other anymore. You need to open a dialogue with her about missing having a physical relationship with her. It may reveal there a reason why she has such a low sex drive that you were completely unaware of. Maybe her self esteem has gone or maybe she no longer feels attractive. There could be many reasons but at least with trying to start a dialogue you may be able to start to fix things between you both or find closure. I guess the real question you have to ask yourself and answer honestly, is the reason for wanting to be with another woman solely due to the marital issues and if you had a better physical relationship together then you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else or is it more because you’ve only ever had a physical relationship with your wife and feel like your missing out? Also if your having these fantasies solely due to the marital issues then I wouldn’t mention that part to her as all that will do is cause a lot of heart and drive you further apart when you should be focusing on what you have together and making that better. It important to be open and honest but being unfiltered honest to the point it adds nothing to everything relevant to starting a dialogue on the issues between you both and instead just needlessly and cruelly hurts her. Obviously I’m no expert and I’m not sure how helpful my advice will be. I may be completely wrong but with any luck, thinking about some of what I said may help you find your own way on how to deal things in a way that compassionate and considerate to you both | |||
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"I'll never quite grasp why people want to have sex with people they don't value enough to have an actual relationship with. Like, have a wank. It's less effort and probably more satisfying all round." Not speaking for myself, but I remember someone once explained this to me as being in part about the thrill of the chase, and partly being about the fact that sex with a stranger allows them to engage in activities they wouldn’t within a relationship, or play a role they aren’t able to. In the specific context of the swinging community, there’s also the possibility that one or both partners in a relationship engaging with additional casual partners allows them to bring some spice back into their relationship that enhances what they have together. Each to their own, and if it works for everyone involved I’m happy for you! | |||
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"Why do men feel the need to put 69 after their profile name. Seriously and dude with a sex act or 69 in profile name gets ignored. If we want "oralpussydestroyer69" or "wellhungcumrepeater"we will find him with the clue of a name. It's just a little bit sad. Like giving a prospective employer your email and it's kingdick@yahoo.com" Especially as on the MANY threads about 69s it rates pretty low many people's lists of activities they enjoy! | |||
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"How can people have a no kissing rule bit are willing to have oral and full sex? Blows my mind "Because for some people kissing is a psychological intimacy, but sex is just physical. Also, from a pragmatic standpoint, we can use condoms to almost 100% protect against STIs, but kissing is a really good way to swap loads of ordinary illnesses and there’s no condom to prevent that! | |||
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"How can people have a no kissing rule bit are willing to have oral and full sex? Blows my mind "I don't but I get it. Both sex and oral can be very very detached. With kissing their face is unavoidable. It's why many es-corts don't do it for example. An unattractive face in yours isn't appealing. Sex and oral you don't necessarily need to look at them!! | |||
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"To all penis-havers on here: does every vagina (not the externals, just the actual vagina) feel the same to your cock during sex or does every vagina feel different? I've always wondered, especially with the occasional conversations on here about tightness/looseness." Firstly (for the benefit of male readers!), Tightness/looseness aren’t a thing- there’s no fixed dimension that denotes the owner’s value/attractiveness. That orifice can accommodate an entire human in the right circumstances, so any differences in sensation are entirely a function of position, arousal and lubrication. So yes- they do feel different, but there’s as much difference between individual encounters with the same person as there are between people. | |||
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"To all penis-havers on here: does every vagina (not the externals, just the actual vagina) feel the same to your cock during sex or does every vagina feel different? I've always wondered, especially with the occasional conversations on here about tightness/looseness. Firstly (for the benefit of male readers!), Tightness/looseness aren’t a thing- there’s no fixed dimension that denotes the owner’s value/attractiveness. That orifice can accommodate an entire human in the right circumstances, so any differences in sensation are entirely a function of position, arousal and lubrication. So yes- they do feel different, but there’s as much difference between individual encounters with the same person as there are between people." That's so interesting, thank you! I'd never even considered the same person feeling different on different occasions. | |||
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"…but been afraid to ask… This is the thread for you! A non-judgmental space to chuck in any questions about sex, swinging relationships, whatever you’re into which draws you to fab. I’m not answering all the questions, btw. I’m hoping we can help each other out with answers too
Mrs TMN x
Soooo, you know how, you meet someone and you have a connection and things start to get a little more heated and charged. You’re both into one another. When is it the right time to tell them you don’t care either way if someone puts the milk or boiled water in first when making a cuppa and I don’t see what all the fuss is about?
At times it feels like a worse confession to make then that time David Cameron had to go home to his wife and say….. “yeh it was me, I put my old tallywacker in a pork’s chops for shit and giggles at Uni. Anyway how’s everyone else’s day been?”
Please help? x
"Fun fact: In Victorian England, putting milk in the cup first was a sign that you owned cheap porcelain. Poor quality china was believed to crack when “shocked” by pouring hot tea into it suddenly, so you would stop this happening by adding the milk first as it would cool the first splash of tea sufficiently. These days, if your mug is dishwasher safe or dead posh, it’s not going to explode on you without warning, so it doesn’t matter if you do milk or tea first…unless you are making tea in the mug with a tea bag! Milk proteins/fats are believed to clog the pores in the bag which means you’ll end up with a weaker cuppa, or it will take much longer to brew sufficiently, causing the flavour profile to change. | |||
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"Do you think everyone has stuck something up their bum at some point? 99%" Who’s the 1%? | |||
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"Do you think everyone has stuck something up their bum at some point? We talking toys or normal objects? Hahaha" Absolutely anything. Even a finger. We’ve all put a finger in right? | |||
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"Do female fight attendants ware stockings ??? " I imagine some do. But I never did. All about the comfort on a 12 - 15 hour flight. J | |||
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"To all penis-havers on here: does every vagina (not the externals, just the actual vagina) feel the same to your cock during sex or does every vagina feel different? I've always wondered, especially with the occasional conversations on here about tightness/looseness. Firstly (for the benefit of male readers!), Tightness/looseness aren’t a thing- there’s no fixed dimension that denotes the owner’s value/attractiveness. That orifice can accommodate an entire human in the right circumstances, so any differences in sensation are entirely a function of position, arousal and lubrication. So yes- they do feel different, but there’s as much difference between individual encounters with the same person as there are between people. That's so interesting, thank you! I'd never even considered the same person feeling different on different occasions." You’re welcome! Perhaps you can answer something for me? Does all cum taste the same? I’m sure you’ve heard that certain foods can change the flavour- is it true?! And do different men taste different?! | |||
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"Perhaps you can answer something for me? Does all cum taste the same? I’m sure you’ve heard that certain foods can change the flavour- is it true?! And do different men taste different?!" Definitely does not taste the same. The smell, taste, texture etc varies from person to person, and can change from one ejaculation to another. Think about if you've had 2 simultaneous wants... your ejaculate I'm sure has been different. I believe diet does have a big difference on flavour. I'm guessing it's the same for females and their diet with regards to smell/taste as well. | |||
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"People who have or have had sex in clubs - do you find a club atmosphere sexy? Does the sound of others not put you off? " It very much depends on the club and who else is there. A club like Purple Mamba is beautifully decorated and had a sexy feel on the night we were there. I also enjoyed the decor and atmosphere in Fata Morgana and Townhouse. The noises can be a turn on or complete turn off. The couple talking about their chippy dinner loudly at the edge of the couples' room in Cupids put me off there. As did the smell of damp and squishy carpet in the, ahem, downstairs area.
"If you're a person who has sex with men - would you have sex with them after they've had sex with another? " I have in a foursome. I wouldn't rule it out if I fancied them and had a condom. "How much of a connection do you need to have sex in a club? Are there people you'd have sex with in a club that you wouldn't dream of meeting away from a club? " Not done this enough to know really. So far experience suggests that I prefer it when there is a good connection. I tried doing the orgy room thing and it wasn't for me. J | |||
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"How do I get more lukewarm women to message me and less hot ladies? Don't say you live in Mayfair I ain't saying she's a gold digger.. Say it. Say the next line
But she ain't messin with no broke pickle
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"Am I past it? I feel so frigging old sometimes. When should someone like me be hanging up her suspenders and buying thermal socks instead?" Nooooo!!! Buy thermal socksies if your feet are cold, but as long as you're still enjoying it, don't give it up! x | |||
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" I'm guessing it's the same for females and their diet with regards to smell/taste as well." Similar but different. Drink water. | |||
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"Why vanilla is a synonym for boring or normal. The etymology seems odd. We love vanilla, in coffee, in ice cream, and makes nipples and other bits extra tasty. "Ice cream flavours I guess. | |||
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"Why vanilla is a synonym for boring or normal. The etymology seems odd. We love vanilla, in coffee, in ice cream, and makes nipples and other bits extra tasty. "Possibly as a counterpoint to hot or spicy being used in a sexual context? Dunno, I’m guessing | |||
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"Why is pineaaple associated with swinging? Is it something I should know? What is the origin of that? "Oh I know this one! Before the internet, in the olden days, if you wanted sex outwith your relationship there was a law you had to fuck a pineapple first to see if you really really wanted to. | |||
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"Why is pineaaple associated with swinging? Is it something I should know? What is the origin of that?
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"Why is pineaaple associated with swinging? Is it something I should know? What is the origin of that? "Pineapple juice makes cum taste batter? | |||
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Little strings, Fred.how do they get the little strings in the bottle "The ship is flat, it gets pushed inside the bottle, then you pull a wee string to make it stand up | |||
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Little strings, Fred.how do they get the little strings in the bottle
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"Why is pineaaple associated with swinging? Is it something I should know? What is the origin of that? "Think it might be an American sign that has made its way to UK. UK used to be Pampas Grass in your garden. But that appears to have got more prevalent and some unwelcome knocks on the door have occurred. | |||
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"Why vanilla is a synonym for boring or normal. The etymology seems odd. We love vanilla, in coffee, in ice cream, and makes nipples and other bits extra tasty. "I think it’s not meant to denote boring, just a good old classic. Simple and uncomplicated. On fab it’s become more associated with boring but that’s how usage morphs away from etymology | |||
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"A question for women.... If you have multiple orgasms have you always been able to have them, or was it something you had to practise until you discovered the knack? As you've probably deduced, I've never been able to!" It's a beautiful sunny day and what better time to overshare with a dear friend? I've always been able to have them. I remember my first partner was quite confused - she'd have one big orgasm and then that would be her sated. Me? I'd be pining for more. It's not quite the blessing you might think; I've had lovers before who have loved the idea of it, loved that I have a high libido but the reality of a woman who can and wants to come multiple times in several hours before she feels truly exhausted and content isn't as fun as the idea. I've ended up wanking after people have left, sneaking off to the bathroom to get a few more out because I'm nowhere near done but I don't want to make another feel bad. I don't think orgasms are the be all and end all of sex, even though I can have multiple orgasms easily. I like the journey, the teasing, the mental stimulation far more than my body's overeager responses. What I have found is that the intensity of them can make a massive difference. I'd quite like to be a one or two orgasms woman in all honesty. | |||
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"A question for women.... If you have multiple orgasms have you always been able to have them, or was it something you had to practise until you discovered the knack? As you've probably deduced, I've never been able to!" To further Meli’s advice- my last partner discovered she could after we had a kinky forced orgasm scene. For her at least, the trick was not stopping the stimulation after the first orgasm, just easing up slightly for a bit then upping the pace again after a minute or 2- we could repeat that over and over eventually. | |||
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"Oh and Nell, I'm not sure if it's something you can train your body to do. Focusing on different stimulation, relaxing in to it, building and edging until they're rolling orgasms. I'm not sure it works like that. I'd like to think it could! I suspect you're right. Mine are big, intense, whole-body pulsating ones. I'm almost certain there's nothing left afterwards, but I just thought I'd check with other women before dismissing the possibility of a multi forever." I've been thinking about it since posting - you shouldn't dismiss the chance of it happening one day. You can train muscles can't you? Become more in tune with your body. Relax more in to being with another. I have big intense body pulsating orgasms, I also have the smaller, less intense but still pleasurable sort. There could be something left that you've not tapped in to yet, it depends on how... drained you feel after. I like that prolonged stimulation but softer, slower. Building up and repeating. How do you feel about edging? | |||
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"OK if you have fun in groups or at parties would the one on one sex still interest you .... OK it will with a partner but if you've had experience and good experiences with parties and clubs will a meet with a single person still cut tye mustard " Of course. I’m in the mood for different things at different times. | |||
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"I love my wife but we are not in a sexual relationship. She is the only female I have ever been with and do wonder what it would be like to be with another female just once. I'm not even thinking full sex maybe just play and oral. Is it wrong of me to feel like this. I'm not looking for a bit on the side or an affair. Just a one off really. Again is this wrong she does not know I feel like this It's not wrong to feel like it but in my opinion it would be wrong to act on it without her knowledge. Does she think you're happy to live in a platonic relationship? Yes she does. I love her and I think it would hurt if I told her I feel like this ?? It’s never going to be easy and pain free with being honest with your partner that you want a better physical relationship together and want to work on that with her as a couple and maybe even seek guidance from a sex therapist. It’s natural to have fantasies of non consequential, no strings attached hook ups with woman you find attractive when your in a sexless marriage, it’s your brain trying to find another outlet for what missing. However your brain is steering you wrong here and one meaningless hook up or 100 meaningless hooks up won’t resolve the problem and at best only temporarily patch it until it epically blows up in your face and cause far more hurt. You also have to be willing to accept it is also your fault in part for where your relationship at as you’ve also allowed it to happen either by staying quiet instead of telling her what you need from this relationship or by telling her and then doing nothing when it’s clear the situation isn’t going to change as you both want different things and make the hard choice that your not right for each other anymore. You need to open a dialogue with her about missing having a physical relationship with her. It may reveal there a reason why she has such a low sex drive that you were completely unaware of. Maybe her self esteem has gone or maybe she no longer feels attractive. There could be many reasons but at least with trying to start a dialogue you may be able to start to fix things between you both or find closure. I guess the real question you have to ask yourself and answer honestly, is the reason for wanting to be with another woman solely due to the marital issues and if you had a better physical relationship together then you wouldn’t want to be with anyone else or is it more because you’ve only ever had a physical relationship with your wife and feel like your missing out? Also if your having these fantasies solely due to the marital issues then I wouldn’t mention that part to her as all that will do is cause a lot of heart and drive you further apart when you should be focusing on what you have together and making that better. It important to be open and honest but being unfiltered honest to the point it adds nothing to everything relevant to starting a dialogue on the issues between you both and instead just needlessly and cruelly hurts her. Obviously I’m no expert and I’m not sure how helpful my advice will be. I may be completely wrong but with any luck, thinking about some of what I said may help you find your own way on how to deal things in a way that compassionate and considerate to you both "Thank you for your honesty | |||
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