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Takes time mate. Especially if you don't have any veris. Women get literally 1000s of messages a day on here. We outnumber them in a HUGE way.
Get yourself to a club and meet people. Showd you're more genuine etc. That's what I have done with past profiles. |
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You e been on here a short time with a very limited profile (2 short sentences) so what were you expecting? Women will read your profile (or lack of) before your message so work on your profile first - it’s your shop window. |
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I’m glad you realise your profile is dead.
Liven it up a little.
We can’t give profile advice unless you ask for it, so unable to give pointers or I’ll get kicked off the forum but as others have said, it’s your shop window / personal ad along with messages so make your profile the best version of you |
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"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising "
You've made no effort with your profile so I'm unclear why you're surprised. Zero effort equals zero reward |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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Just expected a few winks or reply when trying to initiate conversation that was all
honestly don’t actually think I’ve had one reply and I’ve probably sent 30 messages pretty brief just saying something like hi you look amazing would love to swap a few messages and find out a little more about u if poss |
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"Will add some more pics and info to the profile thanks just a. Little suprised I can’t even get a reply to intiate any conversation "
Your expectations are too high for what your minimal profile can achieve then. Do you put more effort into your messages? What do you say to people in a first message? |
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"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising " don't worry been on here years and not met anyone. But I could go on tinder and meet someone within a few days. Go figure
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"Just expected a few winks or reply when trying to initiate conversation that was all
honestly don’t actually think I’ve had one reply and I’ve probably sent 30 messages pretty brief just saying something like hi you look amazing would love to swap a few messages and find out a little more about u if poss "
In Fab terms 9 weeks is little more than a second.
It takes time and conversation to establish the attraction, connection, trust and desire needed to meet, let alone become intimate.
Lower your expectations. And again. And again.
Use all of the tools Fab gives you, an interesting biog & picture gallery would be a good starting point, messaging, the forums, group socials and clubs.
You've got to put the time and effort in.
Just being a good looking guy is nowhere near enough.
*This concludes my Ted Talk |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 35 weeks ago
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"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising don't worry been on here years and not met anyone. But I could go on tinder and meet someone within a few days. Go figure "
See this is exactly what I’m finding
Clearly as a single male a profile is pretty pointless
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Being good living doesn’t mean shit if you’re not an exceptional male.
If you want to get laid, the forums are the place to be. Everyone is shagging everyone. People care more about personality than looks. It’s great. |
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Single men are in abundance, so it's about having the fortune to find the right people to be attractive to. You can visit clubs and socials, to increase the numbers of others who you're engaging with. |
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"There just a hello with a compliment and asking if there interested in swapping a few messages don’t really think a first message needs much more " That's the problem right there, it's not what you think that's the matter. It's what the people you are sending a short opening message too.
There are profiles on here that get tons of messages a day. You need to make yours stand out. First impressions really do matter on here. Competition is fierce and if it looks like you can't be bothered to make much of an effort in your opening message why should they when replying. In fact it's probably easier to ignore, with the rest of the one line openings and spend time on someone's message that looks as if it might go somewhere.
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"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising don't worry been on here years and not met anyone. But I could go on tinder and meet someone within a few days. Go figure
See this is exactly what I’m finding
Clearly as a single male a profile is pretty pointless
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Your target audience looks at profiles, reads the biog and looks at the pictures.
A profile is as far from useless as you'll get. |
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Why, why, why, Delilah?
Hes missing the secret. You know, the one where you open a Fab account and all your sexual fantasies and kinks are catered for. With women literally smashing your inbox in (pardon the pun )
Shhhhhhhh don't reveal the secret. |
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"Have a look at some of the profiles of men on the forum OP. You might get some hints and tips.
Just don’t follow the shacket trend set by Willy… it’ll never last "
Don't look at mine it's a load of
S h i- shite. |
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By *TG3Man 35 weeks ago
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"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising " not sure what you're doing wrong but guess you're approaching the site as a sex site and you can't approach it like that be polite make friends then you get meets |
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"Just expected a few winks or reply when trying to initiate conversation that was all
honestly don’t actually think I’ve had one reply and I’ve probably sent 30 messages pretty brief just saying something like hi you look amazing would love to swap a few messages and find out a little more about u if poss "
But as said theres nothing to see on yours! |
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Lack of effort on your profile isn't helping you at all, put some effort in and go to social events. It takes years to build a good image here but you can also ruin it very quickly by complaining about getting nowhere |
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In my experience, as a guy with a ‘single guy’ profile, Fab is a marathon, not a sprint. It took me a long time to get traction with people, although I found that networking at clubs and getting myself recognised helped me massively — it's about finding your own USP and proverbially ‘planting seeds’ in people's minds to make you stand out (in a good way). And that's what I've done and I'm now having a good, fun time! |
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"Will add some more pics and info to the profile thanks just a. Little suprised I can’t even get a reply to intiate any conversation " Also something under Interests so as people know whether you are compatible with them or not.
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Hey OP, as a single fem if you messaged me I would do what everyone is saying and look at your profile first. You’re right, you’re attractive and you don’t have just dick pics (hurray!) so you have that in your favour but you haven’t selected interests and you haven’t really used the bio section.
Rightly or wrongly, I’d conclude you were someone who felt they didn’t need to make an effort - and that would mean you could be unpleasant in messages, actively difficult when hanging out with and either a terrible lay and/or a dangerous person to get naked with.
My inferences are all big inferences, but your profile leaves a vacuum and so I fill that vacuum with past experiences from attractive guys who also made no effort. What they were like becomes my understanding for what you are like. So I move on and talk to a different hot guy whose profile made me giggle.
The way to stop me making these inferences is to stop there from being a vacuum. Use your profile - and first message - as your sales pitch to show me how fun and safe you are |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"When you started this thread, OP, what did you expect?
I’m sorry if it’s disappointed but you know about the lounge now
It is the way*
* and why I’m too scared to ask for profile advice. "
Don’t be afraid. In fact I might ask for some today |
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"When you started this thread, OP, what did you expect?
I’m sorry if it’s disappointed but you know about the lounge now
It is the way*
* and why I’m too scared to ask for profile advice.
Don’t be afraid. In fact I might ask for some today "
I would but a thread just to get told I need to add a comma is a bit overkill. |
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"Like only messages I get are from fellas and I can’t even get a reply I’m easy going and pretty good looking ngl finding it a little suprising don't worry been on here years and not met anyone. But I could go on tinder and meet someone within a few days. Go figure "
There’s always a decent amount of single guys to any events I go to.
People rely on fab far too much in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I’ve had about 2 or 3 messages out of the blue where people have found my profile from looking. Did they lead to anything? Nope.
My profile is a dead is dead, can be, as he’s probably many single males profiles…
Welcome to Fab, OP |
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"I’ve had about 2 or 3 messages out of the blue where people have found my profile from looking. Did they lead to anything? Nope.
My profile is a dead is dead, can be, as he’s probably many single males profiles…
Welcome to Fab, OP "
Piffle ... |
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"I’ve had about 2 or 3 messages out of the blue where people have found my profile from looking. Did they lead to anything? Nope.
My profile is a dead is dead, can be, as he’s probably many single males profiles…
Welcome to Fab, OP "
Pint. |
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