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By *lowupdoll OP TV/TS 33 weeks ago
Herts/Beds/Lomdon |
The average cost of a wedding when I find a husband I reckon I can do it for less. Maybe save a fiver.
I learned this from bbc news this morning. Who said tv isn’t educational.
How much would you spend on a wedding? If you are married, would you go bigger or smaller if you did it again? Does size matter? |
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smaller - there is so much which you can do yourself or find friends to organise. We did a friends on a budget - church had a flower festival so that was sorted, another friend did flowers, there are ways to cut costs |
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By *eliWoman 33 weeks ago
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Yeah size does matter. Too big and it's absurd really. If it makes those getting married happy? That's all that really matters.
I'm looking at having a small wedding. Less than twenty people. My partner would like one with what will end up a hundred odd people. I do want a dress from Halfpenny and going to her shop in August but... I'd rather have small and intimate.  |
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I can't remember exactly but I reckon ours cost between £5000-6000 all in, in 2009. We were fairly new graduates and we thought it was mega expensive (not because we were being lavish but just because stuff cost a lot). We did a lot of DIY organising. We made our own table cards, menu cards, seating plan board etc. I made necklaces for our bridesmaids and we bought the dresses from a high street store in the sales. The flowers were done at a knock down price thanks to a friend of the family; the photography stuff was a gift from the in-laws. We had last minute car problems (the original went out of business) but we found an alternative that was actually cheaper. We accepted the venue's DJ and didn't have chair covers etc to reduce cost and we went to the Tesco wine club and bought a job lor of white, red and prosecco (and fruit juice) and put bottles on the table. After that, people had to buy their own drinks, which saved a massive amount. Some people objected to buying their own drinks (!) but tough |
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My opinion is that as long as you can afford it, you know the significance of *marriage* and that it's more important than the wedding you should spend what you like and make it as big or as small as you want |
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1999 I spent just over a grand, my dress was £34.50 from Alders, everything was done on the cheap as we had 2 weeks to plan the whole thing, didn't have any of the things I had at my second wedding like guest book etc, proper no frills.
Second one cost £4/5k in total, had everything we wanted but then we didn't have a sit down meal but buffet in the evening, I couldn't bring myself to pay nearly £20k for a wedding, everyone is different and it you can do it without getting into debt for it, crack on! |
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I do get a bit miffed by the prospective bride and groom asking people to attend abroad and having hen and stags that involve people having to spend a lot of money. I've seen people go into debt to attend these things. |
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By *an1978Woman 33 weeks ago
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I could for under £2000 probably less.
Licence, celebrant fee, and outfits.
I'm from a bring food to the family home kind of family, so catering cost is minimal 
Home made invitations, many things can be hired.
I've got friends that borrowed £20000+ for their weddings, and are struggling with the repayments, a horrible way to start married life. |
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Mine was very small, register office with a few friends and family then we had a huge garden party at a relatives farm. Hired a bouncy castle and did out own buffet.
My son got married last year and at the registry office just them and their brothers as witness before having a blessing and photos on top of a mountain where we were involved (land owned by my boss) then a huge party with hog roast and Karaoke, it was amazing. A chilled perfect day where it was all about them |
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"I do get a bit miffed by the prospective bride and groom asking people to attend abroad and having hen and stags that involve people having to spend a lot of money. I've seen people go into debt to attend these things. "
I have declined wedding invitations because they were too far to travel in THIS country, would never countenance travelling abroad for a wedding. |
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My biggest advice to my daughter was to make the wedding small and save the money for the honeymoon.
After all the people there are there to celebrate the day with you not because of the table decorations. |
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By *AYENCouple 33 weeks ago
Lincolnshire |
We did it for less than £600 - we didn't buy rings because neither of us like or wear jewelry. Registry office, then back to ours with close friends and family for a garden party, it was a great day ?? K. |
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"I do get a bit miffed by the prospective bride and groom asking people to attend abroad and having hen and stags that involve people having to spend a lot of money. I've seen people go into debt to attend these things.
I have declined wedding invitations because they were too far to travel in THIS country, would never countenance travelling abroad for a wedding. "
Neither would I. I didn't realise until recently that it's fairly cheap to have a 'destination wedding ' for the bride and groom. Not so much for the guests though.
I know of one bride who is having three hen dos all of which will cost her friends a significant amount of money not least because they're expected to cover her costs, her wedding will then take place abroad, so guests will have to essentially book a foreign holiday to attend. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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We are getting married next week. I've spent approximately £1,800. It's a very small affair with those who count. Still got the dress of my dreams (online bought) hubby's outfit hired, grabbed a photographer for a few hours on the cheap because it's a mid week wedding, sit down meal at my friends village restaurant.
No way was I paying those crazy prices. Things did look like it may get out of hand at one point, so I pulled it all back and stuck firm on my original plans (that was hard to do ha)
Helps that I know my florist and hairdresser.
We still have all the lovely things a bride would like for her big day. Just not on a massive scale. I'll let you know how it goes
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My one and only marriage back in 1994 cost £500 all in. I was unemployed and it was obviously done on a budget. Although the ex gave me 4 brilliant kids I'm glad no more was spent on the wedding.
My eldest daughter is getting married next year, total cost £20,000. I've contributed £5K  |
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By *andy 1Couple 33 weeks ago
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we got wed in 1970 reg office the ring for san was 4pound 50 it cost 7 and six in old money for reg office been wed 53 years no regrets sorry ther was one regret no cake but shes baked 1.000s since |
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"My one and only marriage back in 1994 cost £500 all in. I was unemployed and it was obviously done on a budget. Although the ex gave me 4 brilliant kids I'm glad no more was spent on the wedding.
My eldest daughter is getting married next year, total cost £20,000. I've contributed £5K "
I think a lot more couples are contributing and not expecting their parents to pay. We gave our daughter and partner a budget and said anything over that they'd have to pay themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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My mum and dad got married in a registry office in 1975 for £14.50. They did most of the cooking, (I think they paid a baker to make the elaborate cake though.)
I know someone that's halve indigenous native canadian. She got married in the woods in Canada with just her husband to be and they guy that did the short ceremony. So cost was minimal.
I'm quite surprised that the average is only 19 thousand...I thought it would be more.
I've been to some very extravagant ones both as a guest..but also I used to play in a wedding band. Ones next to Edinburgh Castle, ones at blenheim palace spring to mind. (I'm guessing that parents help out in these cases, but getting into debt doesn't sound like a great start to married life.)
I'd not spend much myself and make it small if I were to indulge. |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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My wedding back in 2007 cost 15 grand with an extra 5 grand on top for a honeymoon to Mexico.
I got married in the same place the rest of the day was held as well to prevent people travelling from one place to another.
In this day and age, if you wanted
a plush wedding without the hassle of doing a lot of it yourself,I don't think 19 grand would get you far. Companies charge far too much now for everything.
Small,intimate wedding easily doable for probably half the amount. |
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"I do get a bit miffed by the prospective bride and groom asking people to attend abroad and having hen and stags that involve people having to spend a lot of money. I've seen people go into debt to attend these things.
I have declined wedding invitations because they were too far to travel in THIS country, would never countenance travelling abroad for a wedding.
Neither would I. I didn't realise until recently that it's fairly cheap to have a 'destination wedding ' for the bride and groom. Not so much for the guests though.
I know of one bride who is having three hen dos all of which will cost her friends a significant amount of money not least because they're expected to cover her costs, her wedding will then take place abroad, so guests will have to essentially book a foreign holiday to attend. "
That’s very inconsiderate, it would be a “thanks but no thanks” from me.
I don’t really know what’s going on inside some people’s heads when they place those kind of expectations on others. |
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"I do get a bit miffed by the prospective bride and groom asking people to attend abroad and having hen and stags that involve people having to spend a lot of money. I've seen people go into debt to attend these things. "
I totally agree with you. I'm not sure I would attend if I was asked.
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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We got married at the registry office. Only our immediate family attended, then we had a party for all of our family and friends at the local golf club afterwards. In total i think it cost us just over £4000. Granted we had help. My dad paid for my dress and my in-laws paid for our photographer as a gift. There was nothing extravagant about it, but it was still an amazing day!
A few of my family and friends have had small weddings. One even had the reception in their garden. Big weddings are beautiful, but it doesn’t have to be. You can still have a nice wedding without paying the extortionate prices. |
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Our wedding back in the day was very expensive as the guest list ran into the hundreds.
Nowadays Asian weddings have become smaller but in plusher venues. The receptions are bigger and so extravagant that total costs run upwards of £50k (some even hitting the £100k mark!!)
We have been to a few destination weddings and, whilst more expensive for us, can definitely see the appeal for the couple of having the important people there rather than catering for the entire community!!
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"Our wedding back in the day was very expensive as the guest list ran into the hundreds.
Nowadays Asian weddings have become smaller but in plusher venues. The receptions are bigger and so extravagant that total costs run upwards of £50k (some even hitting the £100k mark!!)
We have been to a few destination weddings and, whilst more expensive for us, can definitely see the appeal for the couple of having the important people there rather than catering for the entire community!!
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Asian weddings can go on for days..x |
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"Our wedding back in the day was very expensive as the guest list ran into the hundreds.
Nowadays Asian weddings have become smaller but in plusher venues. The receptions are bigger and so extravagant that total costs run upwards of £50k (some even hitting the £100k mark!!)
We have been to a few destination weddings and, whilst more expensive for us, can definitely see the appeal for the couple of having the important people there rather than catering for the entire community!!
Asian weddings can go on for days..x"
They still do! So many different functions  |
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"The average cost of a wedding when I find a husband I reckon I can do it for less. Maybe save a fiver.
I learned this from bbc news this morning. Who said tv isn’t educational.
How much would you spend on a wedding? If you are married, would you go bigger or smaller if you did it again? Does size matter? "
When I do it again ???? That will never happen !! Fell for that one before, never again !! |
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"I do get a bit miffed by the prospective bride and groom asking people to attend abroad and having hen and stags that involve people having to spend a lot of money. I've seen people go into debt to attend these things.
I have declined wedding invitations because they were too far to travel in THIS country, would never countenance travelling abroad for a wedding.
Neither would I. I didn't realise until recently that it's fairly cheap to have a 'destination wedding ' for the bride and groom. Not so much for the guests though.
I know of one bride who is having three hen dos all of which will cost her friends a significant amount of money not least because they're expected to cover her costs, her wedding will then take place abroad, so guests will have to essentially book a foreign holiday to attend.
That’s very inconsiderate, it would be a “thanks but no thanks” from me.
I don’t really know what’s going on inside some people’s heads when they place those kind of expectations on others. "
Our daughter went to one hen do in Ibiza and hated it, she could barely afford it and lived on pot noodles while she was there. Despite this she agreed to go to another one and spent the weeks leading up to it absolutely dreading it. We had a chat and I told her to tell the bride she couldn't go and use it as a very expensive lesson in saying no to things you don't want to do. I guess it's the done thing and people just want to enjoy themselves. |
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I don't plan on getting married but if I did I'd want to do as much myself (or with family's help) as possible.
I have a neighbour who is currently planning two weddings one abroad and one here and apparently they've spent 75k already. I'm assuming they will be paying this off for most of their married life. |
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"I don't plan on getting married but if I did I'd want to do as much myself (or with family's help) as possible.
I have a neighbour who is currently planning two weddings one abroad and one here and apparently they've spent 75k already. I'm assuming they will be paying this off for most of their married life."
Expensive party |
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By *TG3Man 33 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"I don't plan on getting married but if I did I'd want to do as much myself (or with family's help) as possible.
I have a neighbour who is currently planning two weddings one abroad and one here and apparently they've spent 75k already. I'm assuming they will be paying this off for most of their married life."
No he saved it all hes got £200,000 in the bank |
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By *XX TomMan 33 weeks ago
Richmond Upon Thames |
Registry office family and close friends at the local pub at the time cost £600.(Divorced 13 yrs)
A mate a mine got married the following month £20,000 a complete waste of money and all show. He forgot his wifes name when exchanging vows split up 3 months later. |
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"My one and only marriage back in 1994 cost £500 all in. I was unemployed and it was obviously done on a budget. Although the ex gave me 4 brilliant kids I'm glad no more was spent on the wedding.
My eldest daughter is getting married next year, total cost £20,000. I've contributed £5K
I think a lot more couples are contributing and not expecting their parents to pay. We gave our daughter and partner a budget and said anything over that they'd have to pay themselves. "
My Dad bought my dress (about £600) and in-laws paid for the photographer. Otherwise, we paid for it ourselves. We'd saved up a lot for it. |
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I didn't want a big wedding the marriage was important to me not the day (everyone has preferences) out wedding cost under 1k all in and it was so relaxed and lovely, I had been there and done it before and threw money at it, but it wasn't any more special.
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Tbh a wedding is the biggest waste of money ever, you spend a fortune for the benefit of the guests as you dont really enjoy the day as your nervous and when you do settle down its on the evening. I think go abroad, take a few close friends and family and go small and more personal. |
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By *JandCMCouple 33 weeks ago
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Got married in 1992.
Under £40 for registry office.then round the pub, hired a club for £50 n think about £200 on food.
Probably with all the other little things aswell I would say under £500 n still together now. |
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Obviously the wedding cost varies from person to person and it’s up to them what they spend …. I’ve been to excessively extravagant weddings that didn’t seem to ‘be them’ but just a collection of expensive things put together for the day….. and yet have been to smaller more personal weddings where the wedding was ‘them in a nutshell’ and so felt more connected to them if that makes sense.
I reckon £19,000 could be spent better elsewhere but hey I am a tight scrooged northerner … a wedding is their wedding so splash what suits you 
It’s all in the name of love at the end of the day so however that’s spent its right!!!!  |
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When we got married in 2022 it cost approx £7,000 all in (excluding the dress) for venue, food and an extra fee as we had to push the date back twice due to C*vid and social distancing rules and all that palava.
For that £7,000 we hired a small hotel, had the ceremony and the after party there, and it included all meals both at the wedding breakfast, all the rooms overnight and breakfast the next morning. We had approx 60/70ish people there for the wedding, an extra 20/30 there for the night do and maybe 30 people stayed overnight.
Sure it was expensive especially just coming out of C*vid and all that shitshow but compared to some people I know of who spent that £19,000 and more..... I don't think it was too badly priced. Was a nice venue and they were lovely and it was a great day.
I'd certainly not pay £19,000 though, I'm a tight northerner and that seems an excessive amount on a one day thing! |
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Got married in 2011. Total cost about £600. Half of that was on his kilt and outfit. We had the friends and family we wanted there. Registry office then to my parents back garden. I made cakes, my mum made a chilli. It was small but nice.
I did want a big party at some point so planned on having one for our 10th anniversary, but COVID got in the way. Instead I'm having one this summer for my 40th |
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By *edeWoman 33 weeks ago
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Not a chance would I be spending that amount of money on a wedding!! The big events are really not for me anyway so would probably just elope and then have a chilled party. But honestly don't ever see myself being in the place where marriage would factor in |
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Definitely all for a small, intimate event we did it all ourselves and our biggest expense was on catering which was definitely worth it but we could have done it for a lot cheaper. But all in all it was about £4,000 and my dress only cost £70  |
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We had a very cheap and intimate wedding and I would probably have the same now.. I'm not one for a big fuss and all eyes are on me that makes me kind of awkward.
We didn't have any stress in the run up we had a small registry office then went to a pub with friends then in the evening had a party.
My dress I bought from a vintage shop my cake a friend made. We got to spend all day and night relaxed with our friends instead of having to stand around greeting people that we hardly know. |
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Although I never intend to re-marry - my second marriage goes like this
Late spring wedding book registrar
Collect flowers and leaves from canal bank, hedgerows and fields and decorate an area ( back garden if dry- the house if wet )
NO GIFTS
Put in a kitty for fish n chips and bring some booze.
We book a Cayleigh band and everyone laughs and dances the day away.
Before midnight - GO HOME.
Done |
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If I did it again I'd have a registry office, cheap dress and reception in a cheap local hall.
I'd put a few grand behind the bar and make my own buffet.
Unless I married a well off dude; then I'd wear an expensive off white wedding dress, have a marquee and bbq in the grounds of the mansion the service is in.
All food and drinks supplied.
Might even have pie, mash and liquor delivered
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"I'm always amazed how some couples are happy to spend £19k on a wedding and then struggle to get a deposit for a house."
No couple I know who had an expensive wedding has struggled to buy a house.
Although, the house prices in London are ridiculous now. |
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If we ever did it again I'd go all out for a huge celebration with close friends and family (about 20 people) no expense spared. I can't decide between arriving riding a jet black stallion side saddle, dressed in a tailored riding habit with veil or walking through a flower stream meadow in a circa 1970 Laura Ashley dress  |
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By *TG3Man 33 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"If we ever did it again I'd go all out for a huge celebration with close friends and family (about 20 people) no expense spared. I can't decide between arriving riding a jet black stallion side saddle, dressed in a tailored riding habit with veil or walking through a flower stream meadow in a circa 1970 Laura Ashley dress "
cmon renew your vows its common to reflect on a happy marriage with this ceremony |
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"Gretna Green
I was a witness to a friends wedding at Gretna. She got a dress from Zara, flowers from Asda and I took the photos. It was a perfect day and did not cost a fortune."
Exactly this
Don’t have to spend fortune
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"If we ever did it again I'd go all out for a huge celebration with close friends and family (about 20 people) no expense spared. I can't decide between arriving riding a jet black stallion side saddle, dressed in a tailored riding habit with veil or walking through a flower stream meadow in a circa 1970 Laura Ashley dress "
Jet black stallion please! Can I be a flower girl on another steed please |
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I try not to think about how much it cost. I asked for one thing, bacon butties for breakfast, they got scoffed before I got chance to get one. Then I didn't even get a slice of cake.
It's basically an overpriced party, if you said it was just a party everything would be half the price - I'd just do that instead and have a solicitor draw up a contract if that's important to you.
She looked hot in the dress though, even after she got it covered in mud. |
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"If we ever did it again I'd go all out for a huge celebration with close friends and family (about 20 people) no expense spared. I can't decide between arriving riding a jet black stallion side saddle, dressed in a tailored riding habit with veil or walking through a flower stream meadow in a circa 1970 Laura Ashley dress
Jet black stallion please! Can I be a flower girl on another steed please "
Of course. I keep thinking of the line from raggle taggle gipsies. 'saddle for me my milk white steed' that can be you. I just need to learn how to ride side saddle |
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"If we ever did it again I'd go all out for a huge celebration with close friends and family (about 20 people) no expense spared. I can't decide between arriving riding a jet black stallion side saddle, dressed in a tailored riding habit with veil or walking through a flower stream meadow in a circa 1970 Laura Ashley dress
Jet black stallion please! Can I be a flower girl on another steed please
Of course. I keep thinking of the line from raggle taggle gipsies. 'saddle for me my milk white steed' that can be you. I just need to learn how to ride side saddle "
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"If we ever did it again I'd go all out for a huge celebration with close friends and family (about 20 people) no expense spared. I can't decide between arriving riding a jet black stallion side saddle, dressed in a tailored riding habit with veil or walking through a flower stream meadow in a circa 1970 Laura Ashley dress
Jet black stallion please! Can I be a flower girl on another steed please
Of course. I keep thinking of the line from raggle taggle gipsies. 'saddle for me my milk white steed' that can be you. I just need to learn how to ride side saddle
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I'm on it. Just need to save about £30k  |
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"Never been & don’t see myself likely ever getting married I don’t see the benefits I would get already without being married. But I see more I could lose being married & it goes south lol "
A good marriage is hugely beneficial a bad marriage not so much.
The same with any relationship really. |
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"If we ever did it again I'd go all out for a huge celebration with close friends and family (about 20 people) no expense spared. I can't decide between arriving riding a jet black stallion side saddle, dressed in a tailored riding habit with veil or walking through a flower stream meadow in a circa 1970 Laura Ashley dress
Jet black stallion please! Can I be a flower girl on another steed please
Of course. I keep thinking of the line from raggle taggle gipsies. 'saddle for me my milk white steed' that can be you. I just need to learn how to ride side saddle
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I'm on it. Just need to save about £30k "
You just need to eat less avocado on toast and get fewer coffee takeaways |
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By *rispyDuckMan 33 weeks ago
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"Never been & don’t see myself likely ever getting married I don’t see the benefits I would get already without being married. But I see more I could lose being married & it goes south lol
A good marriage is hugely beneficial a bad marriage not so much.
The same with any relationship really. "
You’re right I’ve seen many happy married couples. Maybe just haven’t meet someone yet I feel for enough to find marriage appealing. Fingers crossed I do I day |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 33 weeks ago
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We got married in 2001.
My wife had a wedding dress made, and we provided the material for the bridesmaids', flower girl's and matron of honour's dresses. We also provided the best man and ushers' outfits.
Late winter wedding, so plenty of sunshine and clear blue skies, getting cold after dark.
We used a country wedding venue with its own chapel: the reception hall was a thatched roof, rustic stone building with a huge fireplace. We hired a string quartet for the service and for drinks in the garden afterwards, and a good artsy wedding photographer. We hired goth club DJs for the reception, and the venue hire included the bridal suite at a nearby country hotel for the night. We had capacity for 100 guests - although in the final event there were around 80-90. It was fucking awesome! I know everyone thinks their wedding was the best (and so it should be), but ours really was. Everyone stayed to the end.
Anyway, cost - it probably came to around R40 000 or so. That would have been about £3500.
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Zero.
It's a glorified party.
And what a party!!!!!
To end in a lovely divorce a few years later. Oh what fun!
The divorce is cheaper though  "
And more fun I'd guess |
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By *og-ManMan 33 weeks ago
somewhere |
Had 24 including the priest for dinner after mine ....cost 500 Irish pounds
Dress and suite hire came to 400 pounds
Room hire and DJ for 100 friends afterwards cost 300 pounds
Photographs and wedding car cost 500
So 1700 pounds all in
Spent 900 on a honeymoon but the travel agent went bust so it never came through on the credit card |
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By (user no longer on site) 33 weeks ago
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"Zero.
It's a glorified party.
And what a party!!!!!
To end in a lovely divorce a few years later. Oh what fun!
The divorce is cheaper though
And more fun I'd guess"
More champagne maybe. Win win. |
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As a divorcee, I look back at the £13000 or so I spent in 2007, what a waste of money. All for the acceptance of a relationship for other people.
Why do we need a piece of paper from a religious institution to bless a union or from a government department? |
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We got married two years ago, after being together over 34 years at the time.
We had the whole wedding in a local hotel, says it a castle, might have been two hundred years ago but it's a hotel now.
We had 80 guests for the daytime, 120 for the evening. So wedding breakfast, evening buffet, disco, Master of Ceremonies, flowers, photography, cake. All included in a package for about 10,000, could be cheaper but we chose some extras. He paid for all drinks at the bar, day and night and the total bull was under £13,000.
Doesn't include clothes, my dress, bridesmaids, his syut and groomsman. Obviously paid sperately for hair and make up.
So yes, looking back 16,000 sounds about right,
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By *a LunaWoman 33 weeks ago
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£19,000!!!! That’s a few holidays or something!
I think I’d spend the money it cost on hiring a registry office, the rings (nothing fancy) and whatever else paperwork wise is needed.
It would be a super small affair as I’m mega shy and hate being the centre of attention.
Saying that, I’d not be averse to getting married in Vegas. Kill two birds with one stone then!
And my kids would have to be there too. Their dad got married and they didn’t know about it until they saw his wedding photo one weekend. I’d not be doing that to them. |
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I'm never getting married, but who has that kind of money to spare anyway?! I'd need to save up for about 10 years.
My parents eloped to Gretna Green (their second marriages) and I'd have no problem going away somewhere and doing it, combine the wedding and honeymoon and save a bit of cash. |
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"Mine was very small, register office with a few friends and family then we had a huge garden party at a relatives farm. Hired a bouncy castle and did out own buffet.
My son got married last year and at the registry office just them and their brothers as witness before having a blessing and photos on top of a mountain where we were involved (land owned by my boss) then a huge party with hog roast and Karaoke, it was amazing. A chilled perfect day where it was all about them "
That's the kind of wedding I'd attend! |
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"Never been & don’t see myself likely ever getting married I don’t see the benefits I would get already without being married. But I see more I could lose being married & it goes south lol
A good marriage is hugely beneficial a bad marriage not so much.
The same with any relationship really.
You’re right I’ve seen many happy married couples. Maybe just haven’t meet someone yet I feel for enough to find marriage appealing. Fingers crossed I do I day "
If that's what you want I hope you find someone. Marriage doesn't suit everyone though I wish people accepted that |
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"Never been & don’t see myself likely ever getting married I don’t see the benefits I would get already without being married. But I see more I could lose being married & it goes south lol
A good marriage is hugely beneficial a bad marriage not so much.
The same with any relationship really.
You’re right I’ve seen many happy married couples. Maybe just haven’t meet someone yet I feel for enough to find marriage appealing. Fingers crossed I do I day
If that's what you want I hope you find someone. Marriage doesn't suit everyone though I wish people accepted that "
I don't mean I wish *you* accepted that...just people |
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By *a LunaWoman 33 weeks ago
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It would be a super small affair as I’m mega shy and hate being the centre of attention.
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Says the woman with her norks out on the internet
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Yeah but they’re not out out. At least not this week! Besides which, nobody looks at my profile anyway!  |
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I've never been married but I would never spend that kind of money on a wedding.
If i ever did take the plunge, id do Registry office, nice honeymoon then maybe a party when I got back for friends & family. |
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"Definitely not that much, how can that even be the average... That's wild.
Miss S x"
In the Asian community some families compete for the most extravagant wedding. They want to show their wealth and status I guess.
It's the Asian equivalent of comparing cock sizes, but it's a lot more expensive. |
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Mine cost £2500. That included our honeymoon. (£1000)
Booked the private room in gastropub. Told them it was a family party.
Bought cake from Asda and decorated myself.
Wedding dress and accessories from eBay.
Mum did my flowers.
Grooms suit, BNWT from Charity shop.
Bridesmaid dress in Debenhams sale. |
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"I'm in the minority, but within reason I'd like to feel like a princess for a day. I doubt we'd ever be able to afford much though! - Xeno"
I agree with you. If you can afford it and it's how you want to spend your money to for it.
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By *lex46TV/TS 33 weeks ago
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Including the honeymoon, my wedding in 2002 cost £10,000. My wife brought a dress for £500 and then decided she didn’t like it, then had one made for £1,000. The church, flowers, reception, etc all cost and it soon mounts up.
We separated 8 years later and I don’t regret any of it. It was a fantastic day for us, our friends and family, it was a shame that we split but life moves on. We are still good friends though and help each other out if we can.
I’ll never marry again though.
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Say to anyone widowed, esp young “it’s just a piece of paper” it’s really not!
There are several legal and financial benefits to being married even if it ends in divorce. If I’d not been married there’s a load of crap my ex would have got away with that he didn’t!
Loved my wedding though - weddings and marriages are different things. My wedding was a budget one, but an absolute blast. So glad I did it, if only for the memory of watching my older family members doing “Saturday night” by Whigfield
We had a lot of help from generous and talented guests and I did certain elements myself too.
Later I went on to work in the industry. It’s entirely possible to have a gorgeous but thrifty wedding.
Destination weddings and even more so destination hens/stags are a piss take motivated by social media nonsense!
Good old fashioned cheesy d*unken hens/stags are the way to go I say.
It’s certainly poor form to have the more expensive ones expecting guests to pay up especially if they can ill afford it, even worse if this factor means that people the couple are supposed to care for are excluded.
Certainly graciousness and good manners have taken a major hit with this rite of passage.
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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The cheapest part of a marriage is the ceremony.
The rest is down to vanity and selfishness.
Takes 4 people to get married, (includes 2 witnesses).
Yes companies do up their prices due to the word "Wedding" because it cones with greater risks being involved, greater responsibility.
We all have yearly birthdays / random parties but most only get married once! And they will remember for the rest of their lives. As a company it could make or break them... |
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By (user no longer on site) 31 weeks ago
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Average Cost??
If you're Asian, you could probably times that figure by
10.
Having seen and worked in venues that cater - £10k+ just for the venue, add everything else, 10+ cars, 1k guests (£80 per guest) food etc etc etc...
So it all depends on who, what, when and where and again down to the Vanity that comes along. |
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