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By *ich1981 OP   Man 36 weeks ago

Salisbury

Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

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By *ecky and justCouple 36 weeks ago

Godalming

No response is its own response.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Because saying a polite no often results in either a why or a torrent of abuse.

Why would they do the thing that apparently invites that response?

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

My bingo terms are

Popcorn

Junk mail

A maths calculation.

No answer is an answer.

Red flag.

...

Wish me luck kids!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds

Because a no thank you comes with -

-Well I didn't wanna fuck you anyway you minger.

-Why not? You don't know me.

-Fuck you .....insert shitty comments about your appearance.

And very rarely a thank you for the response.

It's easier to block/not reply than deal with all the bruised ego and abuse.

Mrs

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By *aomilatteCouple 36 weeks ago

Midlands

If they reply "no thanks" many get nasty messages in return. No reply is a polite "no thanks", it's in Fabs FAQS.

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman 36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)

Well you didn’t respond when I answered your dinner invitation, OP. I’m still open to deliveroo credits

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds

Just to check op do you reply to all your junk emails? Or do you think I never asked for it and ignore it?

Mrs

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 36 weeks ago

Reading

Why can't people answer every person who posts on their thread. Rude that's what it is.

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By *utieBootyPatootieWoman 36 weeks ago

Here or There abouts


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

You tried doing that 100's of times a day? lol as crazy as it seems most of us have a life outside of fab and as much as it's nice to be nice and say thanks but no thanks they're just isn't enough hrs in the day, not to mention the risk of getting abused for no reason so yeah no response is a response.

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By *glyBettyTV/TS 36 weeks ago

About 3 feet away from the fence

I guess it's because too many times when they've engaged a profile in this "thanks but no thanks" way, the other person has interpreted this as an invite to continue sending multiple messages

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By *ansoffateMan 36 weeks ago

Sagittarius A

Clearly rude people, just block and move on - bullet dodged.

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By *exyScientistsCouple 36 weeks ago

Castlebar


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

I do that but apparently it's still an invitation to continue the conversation for some.

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By *ore_Please81Woman 36 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Because sometimes that opens a dialogue where they will be asked for an explanation. Then when given and boundaries set the male still pursues and often gets nasty.

I’ve been called and frigid bitch, whore and have had threats all for say thanks but no thanks x

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By *essTTWoman 36 weeks ago

Birmingham


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Why have you not replied to everyone who's commented here?

Only takes 2 seconds to respond no?

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

I won't claim to get inundated, I don't. Could I reply to every message? Probably. Honestly, I just can't be arsed.

"Hey thanks but you're not my type"

"AHH why's that?"

"We can just be friends"

"You not talking now babe"

I.

Just.

Can't.

Be.

Arsed.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds

Come on OP where are all our replies?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago


"I won't claim to get inundated, I don't. Could I reply to every message? Probably. Honestly, I just can't be arsed.

"Hey thanks but you're not my type"

"AHH why's that?"

"We can just be friends"

"You not talking now babe"

I.

Just.

Can't.

Be.

Arsed.

"

hi

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

Stop being tight and invest in a platinum membership. Guaranteed response with the old platinum membership

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Come on OP where are all our replies?

Mrs "

Honestly.

It's been 7 whole minutes and he's just leaving me hanging.

It'd only take two seconds to respond

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

Allow us to say "thanks but no thanks lol" in advance.

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By *ot to giggleWoman 36 weeks ago

Coventry

because they keep replying - either with abuse or reasons why you should choose them.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds


"Come on OP where are all our replies?

Mrs

Honestly.

It's been 7 whole minutes and he's just leaving me hanging.

It'd only take two seconds to respond "

I know I've commented twice and not had 1 reply, how very rude.

Mrs

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman 36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Well you didn’t respond when I answered your dinner invitation, OP. I’m still open to deliveroo credits "

This is now my 3rd forum message to you without a response. Are you a fake?

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman 36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Come on OP where are all our replies?

Mrs

Honestly.

It's been 7 whole minutes and he's just leaving me hanging.

It'd only take two seconds to respond

I know I've commented twice and not had 1 reply, how very rude.

Mrs "

Right, I’ve commented on two of his threads and nothing!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 36 weeks ago

Leeds


"Come on OP where are all our replies?

Mrs

Honestly.

It's been 7 whole minutes and he's just leaving me hanging.

It'd only take two seconds to respond

I know I've commented twice and not had 1 reply, how very rude.

Mrs

Right, I’ve commented on two of his threads and nothing! "

Seems it's only rude when "he" doesn't get a response, the double standards on fab do make me giggle.

Mrs

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By *arley QuimWoman 36 weeks ago

Somewhere


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Would you really want an inbox full of replies saying -

No thanks

Not my type

I don't fancy you

You're too short

You're too tall

I don't like your face

You're not what I'm looking for

Not for me

You're too near

You're too far away

I don't like your bio

I don't like your pics

I just... No....

OVER AND OVER

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman 36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Come on OP where are all our replies?

Mrs

Honestly.

It's been 7 whole minutes and he's just leaving me hanging.

It'd only take two seconds to respond

I know I've commented twice and not had 1 reply, how very rude.

Mrs

Right, I’ve commented on two of his threads and nothing!

Seems it's only rude when "he" doesn't get a response, the double standards on fab do make me giggle.

Mrs "

I’m just sad he didn’t buy me that promised dinner

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman 36 weeks ago

your head

Do you want an inbox full of no thanks messages? What's the point? If they don't reply or block, they clearly aren't interested.

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By *CorporateMamaWoman 36 weeks ago

Rayleigh


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

I try to with a ‘thanks but not for me’ only to be met with ‘why’. I respond with ‘you’ve read my profile, you don’t meet what I’m looking for but you still chose to message’. Apparently I’m a fat, ugly c**t

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By *arley QuimWoman 36 weeks ago

Somewhere

To be honest I really don't get why some men want a no response?

Surely the sane thought is to hope the replies they get are a yes please one?

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By *illan-KillashMan 36 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Say you send 5 messages a day, 7 days a week.

At the end of the month you've had 140 "no thanks, you're not my type" replies.

Q1 - how do you feel, having been rejected 140 times?

Q2 - you would of course write 140 thanks for your message replies. Right?

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By *utieBootyPatootieWoman 36 weeks ago

Here or There abouts


"To be honest I really don't get why some men want a no response?

Surely the sane thought is to hope the replies they get are a yes please one? "

This!

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By *ich1981 OP   Man 36 weeks ago

Salisbury


"Well you didn’t respond when I answered your dinner invitation, OP. I’m still open to deliveroo credits "
that's cos not seen it lol

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By *etWetWet453Couple 36 weeks ago

CAMBERLEY

Although you`ve only been on the site a short time, you clearly haven`t read all the `T`s & C`s.

As my headmaster used to say when we sat an exam "READ the question". Same advice applies here.

RTFM

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By *TG3Man 36 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"
they get so many messages thats the problem, so in the site rules it says no response means not interested but having said that they may have just bulk deleted all messages and would have replied to your one

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman 36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

I try to with a ‘thanks but not for me’ only to be met with ‘why’. I respond with ‘you’ve read my profile, you don’t meet what I’m looking for but you still chose to message’. Apparently I’m a fat, ugly c**t"

You’re an absolute corker, and have some blinding outfits too!

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 36 weeks ago

Reading


"Well you didn’t respond when I answered your dinner invitation, OP. I’m still open to deliveroo credits that's cos not seen it lol "

Where is my reply?

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By *weet LisaTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Crawley

Thanks to all the members who brought this alleged double standard to my attention.

However, the OP himself has brought to my attention the fact that most ladies here are not polite. I am very disappointed.

I'm entirely certain that the OP does not have a sore botty therefore this is not butt hurtery and so I must take his word as gospel.

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By *CorporateMamaWoman 36 weeks ago

Rayleigh


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

I try to with a ‘thanks but not for me’ only to be met with ‘why’. I respond with ‘you’ve read my profile, you don’t meet what I’m looking for but you still chose to message’. Apparently I’m a fat, ugly c**t

You’re an absolute corker, and have some blinding outfits too!"

Aww thanks, too kind x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple 36 weeks ago

North West


"Because a no thank you comes with -

-Well I didn't wanna fuck you anyway you minger.

-Why not? You don't know me.

-Fuck you .....insert shitty comments about your appearance.

And very rarely a thank you for the response.

It's easier to block/not reply than deal with all the bruised ego and abuse.

Mrs "

Yup. All these things.

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By *ou only live onceMan 36 weeks ago

London

On all these threads, I wonder why people seem to really want loads of replies saying "thanks for your message, but I don't fancy you". Sounds draining.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument? "

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation) "

Ta

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta"

Just showing research might not be necessary. Don’t think anyone actually needs a reply though.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta"

Damn just got it

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Damn just got it "

Hahaha.

Np

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By *toC Thats MeWoman 36 weeks ago

Sheffield

2 second reply to 100 messages, that then reply back saying …but why, or better still….fat cnut, snob, wasn’t interested anyway

Better to just delete..that’s a good enough response.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Damn just got it

Hahaha.

Np "

K

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By *rixie_BlondeWoman 36 weeks ago

London (She/Her)


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta"

Ta is not necessarily going to deter someone. You need, “no ta” which surely exceeds the 2 second rule ?

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Ta is not necessarily going to deter someone. You need, “no ta” which surely exceeds the 2 second rule ?"

Woody was trying to be shorter than nty

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Ta is not necessarily going to deter someone. You need, “no ta” which surely exceeds the 2 second rule ?

Woody was trying to be shorter than nty"

We need test runs in this.

How quickly can someone say ‘a polite no thank you’ in a message.

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By *lowupdollTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Lomdon


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Ta is not necessarily going to deter someone. You need, “no ta” which surely exceeds the 2 second rule ?

Woody was trying to be shorter than nty

We need test runs in this.

How quickly can someone say ‘a polite no thank you’ in a message.

"

I’m always polite cause mostly I get polite messages.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago

I think it’s nice to be nice but there that many abusive pricks that may be they have had enough ?

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By *WB85Man 36 weeks ago

Staffordshire

A woman's inbox is a very different scenario to a man's lol.

I'd say no thankyou....because I get few messages.

If a woman replied every no, she would need a fucking secretary.

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By *lder.Woman 36 weeks ago

Not Local


"A woman's inbox is a very different scenario to a man's lol.

I'd say no thankyou....because I get few messages.

If a woman replied every no, she would need a fucking secretary. "

A secretary for doing the fucking is just what fab needs.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago


"A woman's inbox is a very different scenario to a man's lol.

I'd say no thankyou....because I get few messages.

If a woman replied every no, she would need a fucking secretary.

A secretary for doing the fucking is just what fab needs. "

Ha ha I imagine it being a full time job

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By *ex HolesMan 36 weeks ago

Up North

In for the MGS’ssssssssss

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple 36 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

OP, why haven’t you responded to each message in this thread? It takes two seconds to acknowledge each of our answers.

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple 36 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

Come on OP, there are only 59 messages in this thread! It’s so rude of you not to respond.

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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

I promise you they would love to be able to say thanks for the compliment but not my cuppa tea.

And get a yeh no worries in reply.

But unfortunately so many people get butt hurt about it.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Come on OP, there are only 59 messages in this thread! It’s so rude of you not to respond. "

That's less than my daily inbox.

Come on OP.

At least lead by example

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By *ot to giggleWoman 36 weeks ago

Coventry


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Ta is not necessarily going to deter someone. You need, “no ta” which surely exceeds the 2 second rule ?

Woody was trying to be shorter than nty

We need test runs in this.

How quickly can someone say ‘a polite no thank you’ in a message.

"

polite no thank you - i would depend on how fast they type - if they did enough very quickly

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By *ot to giggleWoman 36 weeks ago

Coventry


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Ta is not necessarily going to deter someone. You need, “no ta” which surely exceeds the 2 second rule ?

Woody was trying to be shorter than nty

We need test runs in this.

How quickly can someone say ‘a polite no thank you’ in a message.

I’m always polite cause mostly I get polite messages. "

to be honest i mainly reply to all mine, and then i just delete any further replies as i said no and that it

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By *eroLondonMan 36 weeks ago

Mayfair

I know this sounds obtuse but what's an MSG?

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By *oney HoneyWoman 36 weeks ago

York

Because it doesn’t take two seconds… it takes about 30 seconds, and if you reply when you aren’t interested then you can guarantee there will be a second message to say “no thanks” to… so whilst I would love to be polite to everyone, (and believe me I do make an effort to be polite if I truly think a guy has put in some effort with his message) it would become a full time job.

70-100 messages a day on average.

Sorry

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"I know this sounds obtuse but what's an MSG?"

Magnificent Splooge Gun

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By *eroLondonMan 36 weeks ago

Mayfair


"I know this sounds obtuse but what's an MSG?

·

Magnificent Splooge Gun "

I love you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman 36 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Thanks for posting this thread rich... thanks. Thanks very much.

I'm not like those other ladies. They give us GENUINE ladies a bad name.

Sorry that happened to you and thanks again

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 36 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"I know this sounds obtuse but what's an MSG?

·

Magnificent Splooge Gun

I love you. "

I know

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By *arley QuimWoman 36 weeks ago

Somewhere


"I know this sounds obtuse but what's an MSG?"

Monosodium glutamate (MSG) it's that thingy they put in hotdogs and shit to make them not taste like floor food

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 36 weeks ago

Central

Volume of inbox prevents it, coupled with high potential for abuse.

The 100% clear Fab instruction is that no reply = a polite no thanks.

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By *hil most chillMan 36 weeks ago

South East & Europe

Complaining about women not replying is such a good look

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By *ornucopiaMan 35 weeks ago

Bexley

Who are these idiots sending women 100 messages a day?

Haven't they done their research and seen that they don't have a hope in hell?

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By *TG3Man 35 weeks ago

Dorchester


"Who are these idiots sending women 100 messages a day?

Haven't they done their research and seen that they don't have a hope in hell?"

Hope is the only bee that makes honey without flowers

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman 35 weeks ago

The Town by The Cross


"Who are these idiots sending women 100 messages a day?

Haven't they done their research and seen that they don't have a hope in hell?Hope is the only bee that makes honey without flowers "

Robert Green Ingersoll

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple 35 weeks ago

Leeds


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Come on OP where's our replies, it only takes 2 seconds right....still waiting.

Mrs

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By *weet LisaTV/TS 35 weeks ago

Crawley

He's fled.

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By *ou only live onceMan 35 weeks ago

London


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

How did you come up with 2 seconds? Was that a guess or good solid research for this argument?

Nty

That’s 2 seconds worth of typing and I’m a fairly speedy typer (of very short sentences with no punctuation)

Ta

Ta is not necessarily going to deter someone. You need, “no ta” which surely exceeds the 2 second rule ?

Woody was trying to be shorter than nty

We need test runs in this.

How quickly can someone say ‘a polite no thank you’ in a message.

"

We need a Big Red X emoji.

Or a thumbs down emoji.

Or a "thanks for your message..I'm sure you're lovely, but wouldn't touch you with a barge pole" auto reply.

An uncluttered inbox is but one click away!

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By *partharmonyCouple 35 weeks ago

Ruislip

Most messages we receive are absolute horse shit and saying "no thanks" would require more effort from us than the sender put into their message in the first place. Besides, we've already said we're not looking for single me in our profile so they have their answer before they even write.

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By *estYorkshireGentMan 35 weeks ago

Leeds

I’ve seen the responses female friends get on here when they say a polite no thank you and it’s normally a load of grief and abuse.

Plus if you get 100 messages how on earth can you find time to reply to them all politely.

Sucks being the guy in this scenario but it is what it is.

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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago

I think messages should have a recorded swipe left or right function. Then you know!

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By *olden RatioWoman 35 weeks ago

Buckinghamshire


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Because it's a massive ball ache replying to people I don't want to engage with. If you tried replying to all the comments left for you on this thread you would get an idea.

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By *icecouple561Couple 35 weeks ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

Men and women are impolite to each other all the time on fab and in general. It just shows itself in different ways

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By *UGGYBEAR2015Man 35 weeks ago

BRIDPORT


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Yeah, I’m with the OP on this, it’s just tardy really, a sad reflection of the ever slipping standards amongst the female population these days

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By *tanley FunseekerMan 35 weeks ago

stanley

There have been many threads on this subject and my summary of the feedback I’ve seen from women and couples is as follows

1) yes it might only take a minute or two per message but multiply that by hundreds and it’s a lot of time that isn’t spent engaging with people that they are interested in.

2) frequently the people sending messages have not bothered to read their profile so why should they expect a reply.

3) There are people who react badly to a no thank you response and reply with abuse, so why risk it

4) There are people who take a no thanks as an invitation to bombard with more messages.Again why risk it.

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By *ravelling_WilburyMan 35 weeks ago

Beverley


"Clearly rude people, just block and move on - bullet dodged."

Not sure if you're joking

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By *atnip make me purrWoman 35 weeks ago

Reading


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

Come on OP where's our replies, it only takes 2 seconds right....still waiting.

Mrs "

I didnt get one either.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman 35 weeks ago

Carlisle usually


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

Come on OP where's our replies, it only takes 2 seconds right....still waiting.

Mrs

I didnt get one either. "

Politeness costs nothing.

Except time and effort some people aren't willing to put in

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By *weet LisaTV/TS 35 weeks ago

Crawley

The OP can do each reply in two seconds flat, show us how it's done.

Let's go bitch.

(I trust he's still fled).

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By *inger_SnapWoman 35 weeks ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I've started just saying "No" in response. They like that even less than no thanks. The true colours soon come out!

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By *2000ManMan 35 weeks ago

Worthing

They get a huge number of messages...easier just to block.

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By *ittlebirdWoman 35 weeks ago

The Big Smoke

Oh god not again…. Please make it stop

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By *JcuriousCouple 35 weeks ago

Derby

Another one of these threads...

Miss S x

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By *ynecplCouple 35 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Perhaps it is because the person sending the message hasn't read our profile and not worked out they are not what we are looking for. Sometimes we will reply, sometimes we won't.

What I can say with upmost certainty is that if we do reply to a poorly worded or ill considered email it will not be in the positive. It just depends on our mood and how sarcastic we want to get. Often it is better for us just not to reply in the first place.

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman 35 weeks ago

Essex


"I won't claim to get inundated, I don't. Could I reply to every message? Probably. Honestly, I just can't be arsed.

"Hey thanks but you're not my type"

"AHH why's that?"

"We can just be friends"

"You not talking now babe"

I.

Just.

Can't.

Be.

Arsed.

"

I can’t even be arsed to type my own response.

If I could it would be this one.

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By *ilthyRacersCouple 35 weeks ago

Coventry

Replying also renders mail filters useless as every single person you reply to is exempt from a later decision to block all men (for example) as Fab’s algorithm sees it as conversation

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By *ueerKinkyCoupleCouple 35 weeks ago

Cambridge (She/They And They/Them)

Hey OP

You haven’t responded to the messages on this thread. Do you see now why it’s unreasonable to ask women to do so?

Dee

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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago

I agree how much effort does it take to say thanks but no thanks

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple 35 weeks ago

Southampton


"I agree how much effort does it take to say thanks but no thanks "

A lot when you get dozens of messages every day !

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By *illan-KillashMan 35 weeks ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"I agree how much effort does it take to say thanks but no thanks "

No effort at all, a no reply *is* a no thanks, Fab FAQ is quite clear on this.

Why some men want an inbox full of "no thanks" is beyond me.

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By *ee-LiteWoman 35 weeks ago

Where there’s no dick pics

Yes…. I’ve received a torrent of abuse and nasty updates when I politely declined!

I just delete now, it’s easier!

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By *ee69Man 35 weeks ago

glasgow

lol most women get so many messages they couldn’t even if they wanted to plus half the guys give them abuse , they just spoil it for the odd gent , if you don’t get a reply , move on and try something else

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By *r TriomanMan 35 weeks ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Finally, I found him, it's you OP, you're that one person on the entire planet that replies to every advertising fyler that comes through your letter box, politely saying "thank you for your kind offer of... triple gazed widows, solar panels, loft insulation... But no thanks"?

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By *ivemealadybonerWoman 35 weeks ago

somewhere

I have put the reason I may not reply in my profile, job done in my book! That's if you (I mean "you" as in general population) actually read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago

I do reply to most my messafe with a politenno thank you ...

And most the subsequent replies are also polite

There are however a distinct set of men who

1) are abusive and whose fragile egos can't take rejection

2) keep messaging forgetting you've already said no thank you

OP also cinsider the message and does it warrant a response because they are frankly dull and uninspiring.

1) Hi

2) how are you?

3) what you up to today/ this weekend?

4) free now?

And then you may not be what a lady is looking for ..... she doesn't owe you anything not even a response.

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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago

Cant really be too polite on these day but also not too disrespectful

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By *ophieslutTV/TS 35 weeks ago

Central


"I agree how much effort does it take to say thanks but no thanks "

More effort than reading the Fab terms that we've signed up to. No reply= No Thanks! It's very polite for us to not send extra written messages, when no reply is clear.

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By *ularliWoman 35 weeks ago

Worcester


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

It is often easier to do it that way. I’ve been polite and said I’m really sorry but you’re not for me. I get a message back asking why and what can they do to change so I’d be attracted to them etc.

Usually a no reply is the answer in itself.

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By *hrimper36Couple 35 weeks ago

Central France dept 36


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Because most messages are so crap they don’t warrant a reply and we reply to all messages but messages like” nice tits” can stretch my English skills when replying.

People are here to have fun not boost your ego.

Yes we have replied to you op before.

T

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By *stwo2023Couple 35 weeks ago

Worcester


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

Why would you want an inbox full of rejection? Why would that make anything better?

Evie

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By *ornucopiaMan 35 weeks ago

Bexley

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By *ornucopiaMan 35 weeks ago

Bexley


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol

Finally, I found him, it's you OP, you're that one person on the entire planet that replies to every advertising fyler that comes through your letter box, politely saying "thank you for your kind offer of... triple gazed widows, solar panels, loft insulation... But no thanks"? "

I think you might find that there is a difference between the (remote) possibilty of obtaining free sex and the (certainty) of paying out lots of money to get double glazing or loft insulation done!

Not really sure the comparison works, other than that most people don't see the need to thank leafleters for junk mail.

However, Fab's advice to users has been well thought through so why doesn't everyone accept it?

What I do find curious is getting blocked by people who have winked etc within hours or less because I didn't reply virtually immediately.

Even in real life I I don't walk around glued to my email inbox. I'm from a different culture.

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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

No one is entitled to a reply. It's that simple

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By *BWLOVER1965Man 35 weeks ago

My Own Little World


"Why is it most ladies just look at MSG's or block yet it take 2 seconds to say thanks but no thanks lol"

By not answering message think the consensus of opinion is no reply not interested women get lot messages daily a lot of choice bit like sweet shop not to everybody’s taste

I’m more sherbet lemon

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By *issmorganWoman 35 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

No reply is a reply op & I state on my profile it means I'm not interested.

I use filters so I don't get that much mail, some women and couples get lots, so don't want to spend all evening replying no thanks to people.

Plus, as others said if you say no ta, some men don't take rejection well and you'll get abuse or more messages asking whats wrong with them.

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By *TG3Man 35 weeks ago

Dorchester

Its rude but its practical and they've written it in the rules because its time consuming just move on, don't be offended by blocks they save you time as well, one less you have to consider

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By *ark n kimCouple 35 weeks ago

Durham

If someone has put no effort into either their bio or initial message we just delete.

Similarly if they are just looking for a single female or just address myself.(kim)

Will always answer ok bios and messages.even if it's a no thank.

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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago

No likely no replyey move on however what I was advised to do is once you’ve sent a message delete it then if you get a response great but if not you’ll not know really

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By *weet LisaTV/TS 35 weeks ago

Crawley

I don't reply to most messages. I've never blocked so some just keep messaging. I'm collecting them now, it's like a board game. My leader's slowed down, his position is under threat. Someone out the gates just last week is running so hard, he's my new favourite.

It's like Forest Gump and a pack of Forrest Gump runners. A bunch of fucking idiots running nowhere. They can stop and go home anytime they want, just read the profile.

Of course I am most gracious and this is just a minority group I've picked out here so I just let them run. Most gracious.

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