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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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I'm interested to know how often people get rejected on here and how they deal with it?
Are you rejected/blocked following a sent message or after photos are swapped? |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I don’t think I’ve ever got a positive reply from a first message (not on the forums). Usually nothing or it’s thanks but not my type 
How do I deal with it? I charge it to the game |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"I don’t think I’ve ever got a positive reply from a first message (not on the forums). Usually nothing or it’s thanks but not my type
How do I deal with it? I charge it to the game"
I'm pretty much the same, on the occasions I've popped a message I'm my usually friendly self.
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I'm not looking to meet at the min, so not really sending pics etc.
In the past I've been rejected a couple of times when I've swapped my face pic. I just shrug it off & move on though, we can't all fancy everyone can we?.
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We just move on up !! We both know we are both a sandwich short of a picnic or even afew cans short of a 4 pack and so not everyones cup of earl grey either so we just go and talk to the trees !! but mostly we are surprised they've actually shown up though !  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"It’s just part of life move on and get on with it. No point blocking or getting nasty "
Very true. We are never going to be everyone's cup of tea. It's a case of being true to yourself and finding that niche that likes you |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Since I was stood up and ghosted by someone I have been talking to for months last night, I think this is the therapy thread for me. 
They were listed on meet today and I have talked to them on and off for months. We made arrangements to meet somewhere of their choosing at a time they wanted and arrived early. Sent three messages from arrival, waited five minutes after the time and left. Checked messages, read but no reply and profile hidden.
Went to Asda and bought pork scratchings and rum. I recieved a random message from a black head profile which I presume is the troll so I let them know to avoid this deadbeat profile and sent a screenshot of the conversation. The blackhead didn't even ask who the deadbeat was.
Check to see if anyone else in the area is up for a meet since I brushed my teeth anyway. Nothing happening, so that was a waste of deodorant.
It's time to go back home and Muggle life once again. The other half is more annoyed than I am, but I brought her cream cake so she quickly forgot.
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By *EAT..85Woman 39 weeks ago
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When I've sent messages of interest (not replying to a received message) I probably have a less than 50% success rate. I can't be everyone's cup of tea, and I don't really engage in sexy talk online which I think a lot of people think is the standard way here. |
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By *eliWoman 39 weeks ago
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I've not been rejected on here before. I think that's because I don't approach messages as wanting anything more than to talk to someone because they seem interesting. And I have a vagina. And I'm very cautious about messaging people. :D
I've never been blocked/deleted after sending a face pic or anything like that. It will happen one day. Might sting a little bit at first but I'll quickly move on from it. |
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"Since I was stood up and ghosted by someone I have been talking to for months last night, I think this is the therapy thread for me.
They were listed on meet today and I have talked to them on and off for months. We made arrangements to meet somewhere of their choosing at a time they wanted and arrived early. Sent three messages from arrival, waited five minutes after the time and left. Checked messages, read but no reply and profile hidden.
Went to Asda and bought pork scratchings and rum. I recieved a random message from a black head profile which I presume is the troll so I let them know to avoid this deadbeat profile and sent a screenshot of the conversation. The blackhead didn't even ask who the deadbeat was.
Check to see if anyone else in the area is up for a meet since I brushed my teeth anyway. Nothing happening, so that was a waste of deodorant.
It's time to go back home and Muggle life once again. The other half is more annoyed than I am, but I brought her cream cake so she quickly forgot.
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I find there is a lot of ghosting - i think its because people become overwhelmed by the idea and rather than say so they just hide. I never go anywhere if i dont get a message at least an hour before - not worth getting ready for half the time. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"I've not been rejected on here before. I think that's because I don't approach messages as wanting anything more than to talk to someone because they seem interesting. And I have a vagina. And I'm very cautious about messaging people. :D
I've never been blocked/deleted after sending a face pic or anything like that. It will happen one day. Might sting a little bit at first but I'll quickly move on from it. "
Must be nice |
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By *eliWoman 39 weeks ago
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"I've not been rejected on here before. I think that's because I don't approach messages as wanting anything more than to talk to someone because they seem interesting. And I have a vagina. And I'm very cautious about messaging people. :D
I've never been blocked/deleted after sending a face pic or anything like that. It will happen one day. Might sting a little bit at first but I'll quickly move on from it.
Must be nice "
Ha! I'm going to reply seriously though.
I don't think it is nice. How I am. The caution, the self doubt, the not really living. Not going for things because at times I can be so convinced I would be rejected by anyone.
After some sad events recently it's made me more determined to say fuck it and go for it. Somewhere along the line someone won't like my face. And that's fine. Someone will like it. And I'll like theirs.
Going for something, actually trying, even if it doesn't work out, even if it temporarily hurts, it doesn't work out. You're trying. Putting yourself out there.
That, in my mind, is nice.  |
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"I'm interested to know how often people get rejected on here and how they deal with it?
Are you rejected/blocked following a sent message or after photos are swapped?"
have been blocked, instead of people may be saying, sorry not interested, rejected, I suppose is the same as not being replied to, so yes, but have come to expect it on this website |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I get rejected quite a bit it is shitty but remembering your own self worth importantance try not to take it too personal after all we all have different wants and likes |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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I guess it all depends on the way it's done. Rejection is a part of life in particular When there is SO many men to women on here.....take a look at cams and it shows you everything you need to know.
I don't need external validation to be happy. I know what I am, what I have and what I can do. |
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By *ACOLCouple 39 weeks ago
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We got rejected back in December, we can't be everyone's cup of tea and although it sting we will survived we actually gave that couple distance as one NO THANK YOU, is enough, don't get me wrong, they lovely people so if we see them we always say hello.
So it is all about accepting the simple NO and move on.
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It's not something I've had to deal with on here.
I haven't sent a first contact message in more than 4 years so I can't comment on that.
I've had lots of conversations fizzle out over the years but none that were outright rejection.
In my years here I can honestly say I've turned down a hell of a lot more offers than I've accepted.
Less than 10 percent of my meets have gone beyond the initial coffee social and that has almost always been my choice.
Most of the people I've turned down have been very adult about it and respectful but some are maybe not used to hearing the word no and don't take it well at all.
The only abuse I've ever received here has been from people I've politely told I'm not interested. |
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I generally don’t bother sending first messages, so no bother about them getting deleted.
Deleted or blocked after sending face pic’s? No big deal to me. I’m not naive enough to think that every chick here’s gonna fancy a go on me.
How do I deal with that rejection? I usually forget who it was, a few seconds after messages have been ignored/deleted. I simply move on. |
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I've found that the majority of guys I turn down are really polite and nice about it. They take it really well and leave it with friendly messages witch is lovely. Sadly had to block couple who turned nasty xx shame as we're all just here for bit of fun and nice chat see where it goes x |
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We haven't been rejected yet, purely on the basis we've never used fab to look for private meets and have never sent the first message which isn't just asking why someone sent us a friends request/wink I suspect.
From our perspective though, Couples usually get highly abusive if you reject them, they'll start straight away with the insults because they didn't wanna fuck you anyway. I'd say 7/8 out of 10 will end that way. Ohhh they also get super pissed off if you ask if their husband can play alone, apparently it's rude to not read their profile... although they didn't read ours to realise we don't play with couples before messaging.
Single guys, some don't take no for an answer, it's almost like begging. When you point out their refusal to accept no as an answer and suggest they learn about consent, they'll often turn abusive. Most though, take it on the chin we've found and will thank you for replying anyway. Some we've gone on to just chatting online and we check in once in awhile. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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There are billions of people on this planet.
You have been rejected by one or two of them.
You can pick up that rejection and hold it and carry it around, and allow it to grow within you.
Or you can put it down, hold some awareness around the fact that there are so many other potential people out there for you, and move on.
Not everyone in life will like you/fancy you/want to get to know you and that’s ok, because other people will. |
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Rejection isn’t nice, and while some people on here have borderline psychopathic resilience others have the old neurospicy RSD.
I have to remind myself that I’ve inherited a dislike of rejection because of my hunter gather ancestors got rejected by their tribe then they would probably die. I, on the other hand, am not going to die. I don’t need to feel that dread, it’s no longer relevant. I’m going to eat chocolate and watch Baby Reindeer and all will be fine tomorrow. |
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Well, I (we) don't really message anyone just randomly, so not really experienced rejection as such on here.
Personally I'm ok with it mostly because I accept I am never going to be attractive to everyone. Plus, I can be a bit much to deal with. Totally aware of that.
I would be sad if the fabbers I like to chatter too didn't want to anymore though.
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You’ve got to remember that if you’re never rejected in life you’re not pushing your boundaries enough.
Don’t take Rejection as a failure, the failure part is giving up.
Job hunting,asking someone out, we all get rejected.
It’s how you handle it that determines where you’ll end up.
Apparently sylvester Stallone was rejected literally hundreds of times in his dream to be an actor but he persevered
Ps and don’t take it personally, the odds on here are tough  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 39 weeks ago
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"You’ve got to remember that if you’re never rejected in life you’re not pushing your boundaries enough.
Don’t take Rejection as a failure, the failure part is giving up.
Job hunting,asking someone out, we all get rejected.
It’s how you handle it that determines where you’ll end up.
Apparently sylvester Stallone was rejected literally hundreds of times in his dream to be an actor but he persevered
Ps and don’t take it personally, the odds on here are tough "
This is perfect |
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