do you burry your head in the sand sometimes rather than have to deal with certain stuff. I know it is not really the right thing to do but perhaps it helps to not have to deal with everything that life throws at you all at once. How do you manage those sort of things? I know that I do that for certain things, even if is just for a while. A way of coping, if you like. I am ok by the way, just woke up early and easing myself into the day.  |
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If it's world events I'll bury my head deeper than if it relates directly to me.
At the same time I've suffered a lot of personal loss in the last 18 months with the deaths of 3 close family members and a lifelong friend so as a result I tend to turn a blind eye or bury my head to things that aren't positive.
Also for the same reasons that I'm not meeting on here at the minute,permanent exhaustion and a general malaise, mean I keep my head down and don't get involved in things going on around me. |
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"If it's world events I'll bury my head deeper than if it relates directly to me.
At the same time I've suffered a lot of personal loss in the last 18 months with the deaths of 3 close family members and a lifelong friend so as a result I tend to turn a blind eye or bury my head to things that aren't positive.
Also for the same reasons that I'm not meeting on here at the minute,permanent exhaustion and a general malaise, mean I keep my head down and don't get involved in things going on around me. "
I am very sorry for your loss. I can relate to lots of stuff you mentioned and definately the only way to deal with it sometimes is just that. Different people cope in different ways. Whatever works to get through is all good. I like diversification techniques as I call them and little treats that also help too.  |
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Is is burying one’s head in the sand ..or compartmenting things to deal with them when we have the mental/emotional/other resources? One is letting the thing get worse, the other a sensible coping strategy. |
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Years. Actually years.
In fact, I’m about to start dealing with something I should have done a loooong time ago.
Disclosure. I still have things around from my marriage because I’m stupidly sentimental about stuff like that. But they are heartbreaking reminders that jolt me everytime I see/touch or remember them.
I’m going to box everything up and throw out. I need to delete everything from my phone (photos/messages etc) I’ve turned my head and ignored it for so long it holds me back.
I have to let go. This week is that week.
Anyone want to get d*unk with me one night? |
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"Years. Actually years.
In fact, I’m about to start dealing with something I should have done a loooong time ago.
Disclosure. I still have things around from my marriage because I’m stupidly sentimental about stuff like that. But they are heartbreaking reminders that jolt me everytime I see/touch or remember them.
I’m going to box everything up and throw out. I need to delete everything from my phone (photos/messages etc) I’ve turned my head and ignored it for so long it holds me back.
I have to let go. This week is that week.
Anyone want to get d*unk with me one night? "
A tough phase. Feel for ya. Be strong.
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"Years. Actually years.
In fact, I’m about to start dealing with something I should have done a loooong time ago.
Disclosure. I still have things around from my marriage because I’m stupidly sentimental about stuff like that. But they are heartbreaking reminders that jolt me everytime I see/touch or remember them.
I’m going to box everything up and throw out. I need to delete everything from my phone (photos/messages etc) I’ve turned my head and ignored it for so long it holds me back.
I have to let go. This week is that week.
Anyone want to get d*unk with me one night? "
Sounds like a good plan |
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"Is is burying one’s head in the sand ..or compartmenting things to deal with them when we have the mental/emotional/other resources? One is letting the thing get worse, the other a sensible coping strategy. "
Sure and more of the latter |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Did I just walk into the shrinks office.
Sit down and air it to the public. No chance.
Sorry to hear about Sand ans burying only one I know is with a big spade on a beach |
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"Years. Actually years.
In fact, I’m about to start dealing with something I should have done a loooong time ago.
Disclosure. I still have things around from my marriage because I’m stupidly sentimental about stuff like that. But they are heartbreaking reminders that jolt me everytime I see/touch or remember them.
I’m going to box everything up and throw out. I need to delete everything from my phone (photos/messages etc) I’ve turned my head and ignored it for so long it holds me back.
I have to let go. This week is that week.
Anyone want to get d*unk with me one night?
Sounds like a good plan "
What I would say Mb, or anyone who need to read this. It’s okay to choose not to deal with it for now. Get yourself stronger, mentally or emotionally prepared to take it on.
It can wait until tomorrow.
But it won’t go away in its own, you have to deal with it eventually and then it’s gone away for good.
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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In the past I've put stuff off for years. These days I have to deal with it straight away, it brings me down too much otherwise.
Apart from the stuff in my head, that crap is staying there until I die. |
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Yes, I do.
I don't see anything wrong with it. Some things are best kept buried and no good ever comes from bringing them to the surface.
Obviously if something is affecting your day to day life you should find a way of dealing with it if you can but otherwise pour concrete on it and leave it where it is.
A friend and I had a similar conversation the other day. Her sister is urging her to 'deal' with certain issues or it will come back to bite her on the bum. The sister can't grasp that my friends way of dealing with it *is* to bury it. |
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I don't bury anything, my brain doesn't let me. Even if I choose not to actively deal with something immediately, for whatever reason, it's still there in my thoughts.
On the positive side, things don't get ignored and I can do what needs to be done and move on quickly without it snowballing. On the negative side, the issues that I need to take time over, or wait until a more appropriate time to deal with, cause me anxiety and frustration. I'd love to be able to compartmentalise in those instances. |
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By *eliWoman 36 weeks ago
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I wouldn't say it's burying my head in the sand. It's more... I can't always deal with things as soon as/when I'd like to for a myriad of factors. Other people being a big one.
Sometimes it's far easier to just say fuck it rather than tackling it head on. It's not burying my head in the sand, it's deciding it's not worth it at that time. |
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It's not a matter of burying my head in the sand. It's more a case of being totally overwhelmed and being burnout. In those times I have to prioritise and some things have to put aside until I can mentally manage them. |
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Thanks for the posts everyone. Looks like most of us to prioritise tjings, burry a few stuff and unearth to deal with when time is right. A few just leave there if that is the best place for them and will do more harm than good to bring to the surface. We all deal with stuff in the best way we can. |
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The older I’ve grown the more I’ve got into denial. When I was young and full of spunk I believed I had to know the truth and speak my truth in every situation. And you know what that got me? Thoroughly beaten down and broken.
So now I try to know my limits - know what outcomes I’m looking for, and whether my behaviour now will impact on those outcomes. Most stuff that matters I have no control over at all, so I try not to think about it |
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thank you. We all need that sometime 
