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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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Do you feel a bit of way when you find the perfect profile but in their bio they say “Only black men” or “White men only”
I guess this also extends to if men have body type preferences?
Do you just keep it moving or ignore and message anyway? ?? |
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Why do people insist on messaging people who don't fit the profile? Such a waste of everyone's time. You can have whatever view you want of preferences but you are unlikely to change their minds with your message.
People write profiles for a reason and just because some men don't bother reading it or think it doesnt apply to then is the reason that those men send so many messages and get no response. Its like applying for a job as a doctor without a medical degree. Sorry to break it to you sunshine but you ain't that special. |
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How is it a perfect profile if it has a statement that puts you off?
If I don't fit someone's preferences there's no point in us communicating.
If I don't like the way someone puts across their preferences I also don't bother  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie "
I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Why do people insist on messaging people who don't fit the profile? Such a waste of everyone's time. You can have whatever view you want of preferences but you are unlikely to change their minds with your message.
People write profiles for a reason and just because some men don't bother reading it or think it doesnt apply to then is the reason that those men send so many messages and get no response. It’s like applying for a job as a doctor without a medical degree. Sorry to break it to you sunshine but you ain't that special."
Lol, just trying to spark debate. I’m not special at all. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"How is it a perfect profile if it has a statement that puts you off?
If I don't fit someone's preferences there's no point in us communicating.
If I don't like the way someone puts across their preferences I also don't bother "
I agree 100%, I just keep it moving personally. |
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"No I wouldn’t message. People state preferences for a reason. Why would I message someone who has a preference for slim or gym fit."
@Meli, this is what I was talking about regarding preferences.
I'd consider you Nora as slim. Do you not? |
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"Why do people insist on messaging people who don't fit the profile? Such a waste of everyone's time. You can have whatever view you want of preferences but you are unlikely to change their minds with your message.
People write profiles for a reason and just because some men don't bother reading it or think it doesnt apply to then is the reason that those men send so many messages and get no response. It’s like applying for a job as a doctor without a medical degree. Sorry to break it to you sunshine but you ain't that special. Lol, just trying to spark debate. I’m not special at all. "
Debate about whether people should have preferences?
Debate about whether people should be clear about what they want on their profile or if there should be limits on that?
Debate about whether you should ignore people's stated preferences? |
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else. "
I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. |
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.
I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "
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I just keep on moving if it says on their profile that I’m not their preference.
I will usually drop a wink and I assume if there’s any interest on their side they might wink back and then I’d message. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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Hubby is bi and only plays with bigger people but that gets outright ingored multiple times a day.
Also our preference for club meets is mostly ignored as well.
Personally we wouldn't waste ours and their time by ignoring preferences. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.
I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "
Maybe I should change my name to better my odds ?? |
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.
I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference.
Maybe I should change my name to better my odds ??"
Names are always a trade off. That's up to you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"I just keep on moving if it says on their profile that I’m not their preference.
I will usually drop a wink and I assume if there’s any interest on their side they might wink back and then I’d message. "
Great shout. Thanks |
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.
I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "
Just to clarify this point
I AM tall and athletic
I'm not looking for tall and athletic. I can find me in the mirror any time.  |
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Their preferences are important to them like yours are to you. A perfect profile for you doesn't mean you have the perfect profile for them. Your preferences do not override theirs and getting upset about will get you nowhere.
Move on and find somebody you are compatible with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 36 weeks ago
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.
I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference.
Just to clarify this point
I AM tall and athletic
I'm not looking for tall and athletic. I can find me in the mirror any time. "
Love this. ?????? |
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"Do you feel a bit of way when you find the perfect profile ..."
I certainly like to feel a bit of 'Way, hey , hey!'. Preferably a bit in each hand simultaneously.
Perhaps I ought to include that in my profile statement! |
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I wouldn't message someone who had stated a preference for slim ladies or younger women,as that's not what I am or what they're after.
I appreciate it can be frustrating, but it irks me when people don't respect my preferences ie change their age, so I wouldn't do it to others. |
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There are many things that individuals like and prefer. And they will know themselves better than others do. So if you're not a match, you move on.
Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. It's just a fact of life |
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No, wouldn't message them or make contact if they stated different preferences to what I am.
If they contacted us/me and I saw they had other preferences it would also be a no thanks.
No point in wasting anyones time, plenty of people out there who can match each others preferred type
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.
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"A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.
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By *aizyWoman 36 weeks ago
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"Do you think non BBW feel that way when stumbling upon your profile? How do you feel about that?
Evie I hear you, my profile does say curvy women are my favourite but it doesn’t mean I won’t meet anyone else.
I wouldn't click on your profile to see that as I would think from your name that I'm not your preference. "
Same.
To answer your question OP, it doesn't bother me if someone states their prefrences, if I don't think I fit them I just move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.
But would you reply/engage with them if they messaged you?
MrsAbz "
Absolutely. And I could use a few forum people as examples.
We can all get along easily. In fact, I’d hazard a guess some peaple drop their preferences every now and again because they like someone. Just a hunch. 
A preference tick limits possibilities, I don’t like them, but I respect those that use them. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.
I do same, even if it seems daft or a minor thing. "
Height is the most popular I see.
And then the black guys only, Is something I can never change also.
Clean shaven only … do they mean facial… or down below. I can’t be assed asking, so I move one.
Must be exceptional…. That’s the biggest vague fishing hook I’ve ever read….. I move on as it’s clearly a preference set to confuse me.
If you haven’t guessed, I haven’t messaged many. |
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By *ags73Man 36 weeks ago
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"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.
I do same, even if it seems daft or a minor thing. Height is the most popular I see.
And then the black guys only, Is something I can never change also.
Clean shaven only … do they mean facial… or down below. I can’t be assed asking, so I move one.
Must be exceptional…. That’s the biggest vague fishing hook I’ve ever read….. I move on as it’s clearly a preference set to confuse me.
If you haven’t guessed, I haven’t messaged many. "
Swerved all of those.
Exceptional I assume to mean gym fit with a giant whanger |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.
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I understand. Sex is a fluid thing. No need to parse.
Some women prefer BBC. Some prefer tall, blond, hairless rugby players, some prefer hairy beardy geeks.
We can't help but but we're attracted to.
I steer from middle-aged BBW moms.
No one wants a mess.
We all want to make a connection. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.
I understand. Sex is a fluid thing. No need to parse.
Some women prefer BBC. Some prefer tall, blond, hairless rugby players, some prefer hairy beardy geeks.
We can't help but but we're attracted to.
I steer from middle-aged BBW moms.
No one wants a mess.
We all want to make a connection. "
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"A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.
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To be honest Steve I wouldn’t either. Male or female. Anyone who states that or no Asians etc wouldn’t be my kind of person. I know it’s different but even the no tories or no lefties makes me think what a nob. |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.
To be honest Steve I wouldn’t either. Male or female. Anyone who states that or no Asians etc wouldn’t be my kind of person. I know it’s different but even the no tories or no lefties makes me think what a nob. "
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"A profile that states ‘white men only’ is, and I say this with a lot of confidence, not the kind of person I’d want to meet for sex. I’m not interested in being anyone’s exception or any other rubbish.
To be honest Steve I wouldn’t either. Male or female. Anyone who states that or no Asians etc wouldn’t be my kind of person. I know it’s different but even the no tories or no lefties makes me think what a nob. "
i definitely hear you. And i get why. |
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"If someone literally writes a preference which I don’t fit into, I will absolutely not messaged them. Fact.
But would you reply/engage with them if they messaged you?
MrsAbz
Absolutely. And I could use a few forum people as examples.
We can all get along easily. In fact, I’d hazard a guess some peaple drop their preferences every now and again because they like someone. Just a hunch.
A preference tick limits possibilities, I don’t like them, but I respect those that use them. "
Yes, I agree everyone can get along regardless of preference (obviously not offence ones) and it would never stop me from chattering away with someone on the forum or im messages etc but I wouldn't progress that any further than friends (with no benefits).
Which I think is maybe a strong stand but it is the one that I feel most comfortable with.
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