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" bi-phobia "Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia. | |||
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"Their profile, their choice. You can choose to interact with them or not " You’ve missed the point completely  | |||
"Their profile, their choice. You can choose to interact with them or not You’ve missed the point completely "Not at all. Anyone can choose what they put in that box and don't need to explain it to you | |||
"Being a Bi Guy it always baffles me the amounts of ‘Winks’ and messages I get from ‘straight ‘ guys? If you’re after a bit of cock, just state on your profile that you are Bi as it’s confusing. Why do this? " Ask them. | |||
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"Being a Bi Guy it always baffles me the amounts of ‘Winks’ and messages I get from ‘straight ‘ guys? If you’re after a bit of cock, just state on your profile that you are Bi as it’s confusing. Why do this? " Couldn’t agree more! We respect people who are honest about their sexuality - you would think on a sex site that would be a given?! | |||
" bi-phobia
Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia. "I guess because they may interact with more straight people. | |||
" bi-phobia
Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia.
I guess because they may interact with more straight people. "I think it happens a lot in queer spaces actually. Not just from straight people. The bi people I know get just as much of it from queer people. | |||
"I don’t second guess why a straight man wants a go on me. I just pass them by with no extra thought. If he can’t be honest about himself, how can I expect him to be honest to me. " This all day long | |||
" bi-phobia
Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia. "I dont mind spiders. I can deal with them for you  | |||
" bi-phobia
Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia. "did someone see a spider aaaaaaaaah burn the place | |||
" bi-phobia
Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia.
I guess because they may interact with more straight people. "I don’t think spiders really care. But maybe they do. I’m going to play some musical theatre to the next spider I see. Will soon find out. | |||
" bi-phobia
Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia.
I guess because they may interact with more straight people.
I don’t think spiders really care. But maybe they do. I’m going to play some musical theatre to the next spider I see. Will soon find out. "Do spiders cry when Bambis Mum dies? - if not… they should be treated with suspicion and avoided… on the other hand they’re incredibly clean creatures - always in the bath… im conflicted now and its not even lunch!!  | |||
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" bi-phobia
Weirdly more prevalent than gay or trans phobia. Though less that arachnophobia.
I guess because they may interact with more straight people.
I don’t think spiders really care. But maybe they do. I’m going to play some musical theatre to the next spider I see. Will soon find out.
Do spiders cry when Bambis Mum dies? - if not… they should be treated with suspicion and avoided… on the other hand they’re incredibly clean creatures - always in the bath… im conflicted now and its not even lunch!! "I’m trying to find a spider. If I find one in my slap bag I’m gonna freeeeeeeeak | |||
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"And vice versa - I get messages from guys asking for meets even though my profile says I'm 'straight straight not Fab straight' "Just block single men. | |||
"For what it’s worth, I think it’s people being in denial or scared to be outed. By the very nature of wanting to meet other men they are at least Bi. It’s a simple fact. Not judgement of their choice, just the way society is. " If you are a man on here messaging men you obviously aren’t actually in denial any more than anyone else who wouldn’t want to be outed for their presence and activities on here. | |||
"And vice versa - I get messages from guys asking for meets even though my profile says I'm 'straight straight not Fab straight'
Just block single men. "I don't mind chatting to guys though, especially from the forums. | |||
"For what it’s worth, I think it’s people being in denial or scared to be outed. By the very nature of wanting to meet other men they are at least Bi. It’s a simple fact. Not judgement of their choice, just the way society is. If you are a man on here messaging men you obviously aren’t actually in denial any more than anyone else who wouldn’t want to be outed for their presence and activities on here. " I understood from the OP that people who were saying straight were messaging other men for meets. So why do they say that if not in denial. I’ve read some people say they only like to give or receive occasionally so they aren’t bi. That’s just untrue. | |||
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"A lot of women won’t meet bi men. Which is daft because a) it’s not 1975 and b) a lot of men they meet will be bi but not out. It’s sometimes easier to fib " So lie to get sex then. Excellent | |||
"We have been rejected for being bi by some couples and singles as they seem to think we must have no self control and can't play straight lol" Well that is daft | |||
"A lot of women won’t meet bi men. Which is daft because a) it’s not 1975 and b) a lot of men they meet will be bi but not out. It’s sometimes easier to fib So lie to get sex then. Excellent" We are on an anonymous hook up site, so fair chance | |||
"A lot of women won’t meet bi men. Which is daft because a) it’s not 1975 and b) a lot of men they meet will be bi but not out. It’s sometimes easier to fib So lie to get sex then. Excellent" I’m not advocating it! Just saying it’s what happens | |||
"A lot of women won’t meet bi men. Which is daft because a) it’s not 1975 and b) a lot of men they meet will be bi but not out. It’s sometimes easier to fib So lie to get sex then. Excellent We are on an anonymous hook up site, so fair chance" Oh I know | |||
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"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too "__ Can't tell the truth if neither of the boxes to tick fit "the truth". | |||
"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too
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Can't tell the truth if neither of the boxes to tick fit "the truth"."Which one doesn't fit the truth?. With regards to the original point, if you you're male and you enjoy and indulge in same sex play reguarly , surely the box is bi/bi curious though?. Same with smoking, if you smoke tick the box, if you vape just say so in your profile maybe, as it does put some off. | |||
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"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too "I’m not sure why you care so much | |||
"Being a Bi Guy it always baffles me the amounts of ‘Winks’ and messages I get from ‘straight ‘ guys? If you’re after a bit of cock, just state on your profile that you are Bi as it’s confusing. Why do this? " There not straight | |||
"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too
I’m not sure why you care so much "Because I don't like people lying to get meets, be that saying they're straight or hiding that they smoke. It's deceiving those who wouldn't otherwise meet them. | |||
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"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too
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Can't tell the truth if neither of the boxes to tick fit "the truth".
Which one doesn't fit the truth?.
With regards to the original point, if you you're male and you enjoy and indulge in same sex play reguarly , surely the box is bi/bi curious though?.
Same with smoking, if you smoke tick the box, if you vape just say so in your profile maybe, as it does put some off. "__ Both of us sometimes soft-play bi (touch and light oral). Mostly to please the bi partner(s) of the other couple. Makes everyone more connected and involved, rather than a plain MF MF swap. So, based on this, let's see what box should we tick: Bi-curious: does not fit for us. We have already tried, so we are not curious any more. Leaves us two options. Straight or Bi. Neither of us gets aroused with people of the same sex. A one to one would be a fiasco and we never would entertain one because we do not find it exciting. We do not look for such encounters. We would not do full sex with a person of the same sex. If we put Bi on the box we would be lying to all people that approach us expecting bi sex with us, because it would not happen. Whenever it has happened, it's never been requested or expected from us. Straight: this reflects what gets us aroused and horny. Opposite sex. This is what we look for. Yet, apparently, we must be lying to people here because occasionally we soft play with the same sex because we are not afraid of doing whatever we want. Boxes currently are deficient. Bi curious is pretty useless and bi and straight are too binary. Something like biplayful or soft-bi would represent better many partners in couples that we have come across both in bed and socially | |||
"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too
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Can't tell the truth if neither of the boxes to tick fit "the truth".
Which one doesn't fit the truth?.
With regards to the original point, if you you're male and you enjoy and indulge in same sex play reguarly , surely the box is bi/bi curious though?.
Same with smoking, if you smoke tick the box, if you vape just say so in your profile maybe, as it does put some off.
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Both of us sometimes soft-play bi (touch and light oral). Mostly to please the bi partner(s) of the other couple. Makes everyone more connected and involved, rather than a plain MF MF swap. So, based on this, let's see what box should we tick:
Bi-curious: does not fit for us. We have already tried, so we are not curious any more. Leaves us two options. Straight or Bi.
Neither of us gets aroused with people of the same sex. A one to one would be a fiasco and we never would entertain one because we do not find it exciting. We do not look for such encounters. We would not do full sex with a person of the same sex. If we put Bi on the box we would be lying to all people that approach us expecting bi sex with us, because it would not happen. Whenever it has happened, it's never been requested or expected from us.
Straight: this reflects what gets us aroused and horny. Opposite sex. This is what we look for. Yet, apparently, we must be lying to people here because occasionally we soft play with the same sex because we are not afraid of doing whatever we want.
Boxes currently are deficient. Bi curious is pretty useless and bi and straight are too binary. Something like biplayful or soft-bi would represent better many partners in couples that we have come across both in bed and socially "I do get your point. What I dislike is people purposefully trying to deceive or persuade others, from what you say you don't. I'm straight and as half a couple we've had couples say they're straight, agree they also want partner swap and then try to look for fem on fem play, we then stop chatting as it's a flag for us. If you want to play a certain way then that's fine, just be upfront with others. Back to the original post, if a man is claiming to be straight, but actively messaging other men for sex, that's deceptive and it's often the lying people will have an issue with. | |||
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"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too
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Can't tell the truth if neither of the boxes to tick fit "the truth".
Which one doesn't fit the truth?.
With regards to the original point, if you you're male and you enjoy and indulge in same sex play reguarly , surely the box is bi/bi curious though?.
Same with smoking, if you smoke tick the box, if you vape just say so in your profile maybe, as it does put some off.
__
Both of us sometimes soft-play bi (touch and light oral). Mostly to please the bi partner(s) of the other couple. Makes everyone more connected and involved, rather than a plain MF MF swap. So, based on this, let's see what box should we tick:
Bi-curious: does not fit for us. We have already tried, so we are not curious any more. Leaves us two options. Straight or Bi.
Neither of us gets aroused with people of the same sex. A one to one would be a fiasco and we never would entertain one because we do not find it exciting. We do not look for such encounters. We would not do full sex with a person of the same sex. If we put Bi on the box we would be lying to all people that approach us expecting bi sex with us, because it would not happen. Whenever it has happened, it's never been requested or expected from us.
Straight: this reflects what gets us aroused and horny. Opposite sex. This is what we look for. Yet, apparently, we must be lying to people here because occasionally we soft play with the same sex because we are not afraid of doing whatever we want.
Boxes currently are deficient. Bi curious is pretty useless and bi and straight are too binary. Something like biplayful or soft-bi would represent better many partners in couples that we have come across both in bed and socially
I do get your point.
What I dislike is people purposefully trying to deceive or persuade others, from what you say you don't.
I'm straight and as half a couple we've had couples say they're straight, agree they also want partner swap and then try to look for fem on fem play, we then stop chatting as it's a flag for us.
If you want to play a certain way then that's fine, just be upfront with others.
Back to the original post, if a man is claiming to be straight, but actively messaging other men for sex, that's deceptive and it's often the lying people will have an issue with.
"__ And I get your points here and agree with them all. The OP scenario in particular must be frustrating for people who are clearly bi or gay. It's clearly a strategy of sorts to have their cake and eat it. I wonder also how many men like men but want to exploit the thrill of pretending they are straight and are trying something new etc. | |||
"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too
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Can't tell the truth if neither of the boxes to tick fit "the truth".
Which one doesn't fit the truth?.
With regards to the original point, if you you're male and you enjoy and indulge in same sex play reguarly , surely the box is bi/bi curious though?.
Same with smoking, if you smoke tick the box, if you vape just say so in your profile maybe, as it does put some off.
__
Both of us sometimes soft-play bi (touch and light oral). Mostly to please the bi partner(s) of the other couple. Makes everyone more connected and involved, rather than a plain MF MF swap. So, based on this, let's see what box should we tick:
Bi-curious: does not fit for us. We have already tried, so we are not curious any more. Leaves us two options. Straight or Bi.
Neither of us gets aroused with people of the same sex. A one to one would be a fiasco and we never would entertain one because we do not find it exciting. We do not look for such encounters. We would not do full sex with a person of the same sex. If we put Bi on the box we would be lying to all people that approach us expecting bi sex with us, because it would not happen. Whenever it has happened, it's never been requested or expected from us.
Straight: this reflects what gets us aroused and horny. Opposite sex. This is what we look for. Yet, apparently, we must be lying to people here because occasionally we soft play with the same sex because we are not afraid of doing whatever we want.
Boxes currently are deficient. Bi curious is pretty useless and bi and straight are too binary. Something like biplayful or soft-bi would represent better many partners in couples that we have come across both in bed and socially
I do get your point.
What I dislike is people purposefully trying to deceive or persuade others, from what you say you don't.
I'm straight and as half a couple we've had couples say they're straight, agree they also want partner swap and then try to look for fem on fem play, we then stop chatting as it's a flag for us.
If you want to play a certain way then that's fine, just be upfront with others.
Back to the original post, if a man is claiming to be straight, but actively messaging other men for sex, that's deceptive and it's often the lying people will have an issue with.
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And I get your points here and agree with them all. The OP scenario in particular must be frustrating for people who are clearly bi or gay. It's clearly a strategy of sorts to have their cake and eat it.
I wonder also how many men like men but want to exploit the thrill of pretending they are straight and are trying something new etc."Yeah I bet that's a thing too, I've seen a few men specifically looking for straight men on their updates or profiles. You've got to be a mind reader on here sometimes, to know what people are actually wanting. | |||
". You've got to be a mind reader on here sometimes, to know what people are actually wanting. " __ Absolutely. Reading between the lines and across the lines is a must have skill to make sense of some profiles and messages. After more than 2 years in Fab we still find couples that we are clueless on what is their game, even considering all normal scenarios (fake, no fake, shy, not shy, fantasists) we don't know what they want from us when they approach us all keen like puppies and say they want to meet, then they go shy when we say yes, lol. That's why we now prefer parties, clubs, socials and swinger friends, so only meet new couples through Fab when we clearly are on the same page. Anyway, I'll stop now, don't want to hijack this thread  | |||
". You've got to be a mind reader on here sometimes, to know what people are actually wanting. __ Absolutely. Reading between the lines and across the lines is a must have skill to make sense of some profiles and messages. After more than 2 years in Fab we still find couples that we are clueless on what is their game, even considering all normal scenarios (fake, no fake, shy, not shy, fantasists) we don't know what they want from us when they approach us all keen like puppies and say they want to meet, then they go shy when we say yes, lol. That's why we now prefer parties, clubs, socials and swinger friends, so only meet new couples through Fab when we clearly are on the same page. Anyway, I'll stop now, don't want to hijack this thread "I totally agree, when my partner and I are actively looking, we go to clubs and socials, as its so much easier. Have a great day and I'll stop hijacking it too. | |||
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"Fab would be a much more straight forward place, if people told the truth.. Sadly they'll lie to get laid.. That makes their profile appealing to those they want to attract. Many men are fab straight, lots of men and women are fab single, plus there's quite a few who are fab non smokers too
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Can't tell the truth if neither of the boxes to tick fit "the truth".
Which one doesn't fit the truth?.
With regards to the original point, if you you're male and you enjoy and indulge in same sex play reguarly , surely the box is bi/bi curious though?.
Same with smoking, if you smoke tick the box, if you vape just say so in your profile maybe, as it does put some off.
__
Both of us sometimes soft-play bi (touch and light oral). Mostly to please the bi partner(s) of the other couple. Makes everyone more connected and involved, rather than a plain MF MF swap. So, based on this, let's see what box should we tick:
Bi-curious: does not fit for us. We have already tried, so we are not curious any more. Leaves us two options. Straight or Bi.
Neither of us gets aroused with people of the same sex. A one to one would be a fiasco and we never would entertain one because we do not find it exciting. We do not look for such encounters. We would not do full sex with a person of the same sex. If we put Bi on the box we would be lying to all people that approach us expecting bi sex with us, because it would not happen. Whenever it has happened, it's never been requested or expected from us.
Straight: this reflects what gets us aroused and horny. Opposite sex. This is what we look for. Yet, apparently, we must be lying to people here because occasionally we soft play with the same sex because we are not afraid of doing whatever we want.
Boxes currently are deficient. Bi curious is pretty useless and bi and straight are too binary. Something like biplayful or soft-bi would represent better many partners in couples that we have come across both in bed and socially
I do get your point.
What I dislike is people purposefully trying to deceive or persuade others, from what you say you don't.
I'm straight and as half a couple we've had couples say they're straight, agree they also want partner swap and then try to look for fem on fem play, we then stop chatting as it's a flag for us.
If you want to play a certain way then that's fine, just be upfront with others.
Back to the original post, if a man is claiming to be straight, but actively messaging other men for sex, that's deceptive and it's often the lying people will have an issue with.
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And I get your points here and agree with them all. The OP scenario in particular must be frustrating for people who are clearly bi or gay. It's clearly a strategy of sorts to have their cake and eat it.
I wonder also how many men like men but want to exploit the thrill of pretending they are straight and are trying something new etc.
Yeah I bet that's a thing too, I've seen a few men specifically looking for straight men on their updates or profiles.
You've got to be a mind reader on here sometimes, to know what people are actually wanting.
"Or even just ask people what they want and base your decisions on what sort of reply you get. I get loads of replies saying “fun”, and they go straight in the bin. | |||
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"Being a Bi Guy it always baffles me the amounts of ‘Winks’ and messages I get from ‘straight ‘ guys? If you’re after a bit of cock, just state on your profile that you are Bi as it’s confusing. Why do this? " I have the opposite problem clearly stated straight and bi or gay men wink and message. I started being polite and just ended up having to block all from messaging because some don't understand no. Even had a couple come back a week after a no | |||
