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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Below average people making above average demands and lists on their profiles   "
* wishes I’d read someone’s profile before making a dick of myself *
(sorry about that, no offence intended personally)  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Below average people making above average demands and lists on their profiles
* wishes I’d read someone’s profile before making a dick of myself *
(sorry about that, no offence intended personally) "
One way to call someone below average my man.... |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Those who send first messages that go on and on with great details about all they will do to me.
Great on them to be creative and planners but it comes across very off putting. You wouldn’t see a person in a pub, walk up to them and then start telling them what you’ll do to them, how you’ll make their squirt and cum within seconds of seeing them. Why do it online? |
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
Worcester |
"Those who send first messages that go on and on with great details about all they will do to me.
Great on them to be creative and planners but it comes across very off putting. You wouldn’t see a person in a pub, walk up to them and then start telling them what you’ll do to them, how you’ll make their squirt and cum within seconds of seeing them. Why do it online? "
I’ve had a few of those this week. It’s like reading a mini story and then saying, no thanks. Not for me  |
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Do you feel people do this out of desperation to try and sale themselves. You’re right in a pub they wouldn’t, but in face to face, you can pick up vibes and build that rapport.
We think that goes back to people not knowing how to communicate. I (T) blame social media for people forgetting how to actually communicate and hold a conversation. Remember when Facebook used to have a poke button? Where’s that poke button now hahaha  |
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"Do you feel people do this out of desperation to try and sale themselves. You’re right in a pub they wouldn’t, but in face to face, you can pick up vibes and build that rapport.
We think that goes back to people not knowing how to communicate. I (T) blame social media for people forgetting how to actually communicate and hold a conversation. Remember when Facebook used to have a poke button? Where’s that poke button now hahaha "
The poke button has been replaced with the penis picture.  |
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"Those who send first messages that go on and on with great details about all they will do to me.
Great on them to be creative and planners but it comes across very off putting. You wouldn’t see a person in a pub, walk up to them and then start telling them what you’ll do to them, how you’ll make their squirt and cum within seconds of seeing them. Why do it online?
I’ve had a few of those this week. It’s like reading a mini story and then saying, no thanks. Not for me "
The next “Mr Grey” wannabe  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Do you feel people do this out of desperation to try and sale themselves. You’re right in a pub they wouldn’t, but in face to face, you can pick up vibes and build that rapport.
We think that goes back to people not knowing how to communicate. I (T) blame social media for people forgetting how to actually communicate and hold a conversation. Remember when Facebook used to have a poke button? Where’s that poke button now hahaha "
I don't get the whole "they wouldn't do it in a pub" reference. Would you as a female walk into a pub half naked or in lingerie holding a sign up detailing your sexual likes? No, so it's not the same.
Poking wasn't socially distanced so they wink here. |
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"Do you feel people do this out of desperation to try and sale themselves. You’re right in a pub they wouldn’t, but in face to face, you can pick up vibes and build that rapport.
We think that goes back to people not knowing how to communicate. I (T) blame social media for people forgetting how to actually communicate and hold a conversation. Remember when Facebook used to have a poke button? Where’s that poke button now hahaha
The poke button has been replaced with the penis picture. "
Now that’s a fact, it’s those that forget the emoji and send the natural 3D graphic personal one |
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"Do you feel people do this out of desperation to try and sale themselves. You’re right in a pub they wouldn’t, but in face to face, you can pick up vibes and build that rapport.
We think that goes back to people not knowing how to communicate. I (T) blame social media for people forgetting how to actually communicate and hold a conversation. Remember when Facebook used to have a poke button? Where’s that poke button now hahaha
I don't get the whole "they wouldn't do it in a pub" reference. Would you as a female walk into a pub half naked or in lingerie holding a sign up detailing your sexual likes? No, so it's not the same.
Poking wasn't socially distanced so they wink here. "
We might be going down the wrong path here with your response, but,
We think (our opinion) if someone dresses as they feel sexy, or exposing themselves on here, they still deserve the respect for someone to approach them trying to build conversation. Seeing some outfits that women have the confidence wearing out in public these days, still deserves people to approach them and build ‘chemistry’. They shouldn’t just be seen as a target, because they’ve worn something seductive out in a pub. |
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"Marriage proposal in the first message or "meet now" type of messages
You've had marriage proposals in the first message???"
Yep, very recently actually. Sadly, the only date I was available did not suit him! |
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"Marriage proposal in the first message or "meet now" type of messages
You've had marriage proposals in the first message???"
To be fair we as a couple have had marriage proposals or dreams of saying. I wish you were my wife. So we get that, they just join the block list |
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"Marriage proposal in the first message or "meet now" type of messages
You've had marriage proposals in the first message???
Yep, very recently actually. Sadly, the only date I was available did not suit him! "
Ah, not good! Was he not willing to be flexible on the date?? Clearly not marriage material lol |
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I wasn't aware of how gullible grown adults can be until I joined this site.
The ability to distract from your true nature with a few nice pics is a real thing here as is the willingness to be distracted. |
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" — this emoji really makes me cringe. A couple of others do as well depending on how they’re used "
I think the full range of emojis are out of date, definitely not very modern and limits their use. Imagine if they bought in GIFS  |
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"Marriage proposal in the first message or "meet now" type of messages
You've had marriage proposals in the first message???
Yep, very recently actually. Sadly, the only date I was available did not suit him!
Ah, not good! Was he not willing to be flexible on the date?? Clearly not marriage material lol "
Sadly, no  |
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"Marriage proposal in the first message or "meet now" type of messages
You've had marriage proposals in the first message???
Yep, very recently actually. Sadly, the only date I was available did not suit him!
Ah, not good! Was he not willing to be flexible on the date?? Clearly not marriage material lol
Sadly, no "
Men! Pfft! |
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"One of our biggest turn offs is someone making no effort in creating the simple art of conversation, when jumping into our inbox.
What’s yours? . "
I appreciate your contribution and you put it so clearly |
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" — this emoji really makes me cringe. A couple of others do as well depending on how they’re used
I think the full range of emojis are out of date, definitely not very modern and limits their use. Imagine if they bought in GIFS "
Yes. Imagine if they did bring in gifs. Imagine some of the messages you've received having live action gifs attached. That would be horrific. Let’s be grateful we have outdated emojis, the alternatives would be so much worse |
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"Marriage proposal in the first message or "meet now" type of messages
You've had marriage proposals in the first message???
Yep, very recently actually. Sadly, the only date I was available did not suit him!
Ah, not good! Was he not willing to be flexible on the date?? Clearly not marriage material lol
Sadly, no
Men! Pfft!"
Tell me about it! Wants to get married yet already tripping on the first hurdle!   |
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"Twice I had someone message just 'hay'. I assume they wanted to say 'hey' and not actually asking for food "
Just 2 mins ago we had from ‘hung man’
“Hry how you”
He must of been either in a hurry or typing whist knocking one out over Gs new pics |
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" — this emoji really makes me cringe. A couple of others do as well depending on how they’re used
I think the full range of emojis are out of date, definitely not very modern and limits their use. Imagine if they bought in GIFS
Yes. Imagine if they did bring in gifs. Imagine some of the messages you've received having live action gifs attached. That would be horrific. Let’s be grateful we have outdated emojis, the alternatives would be so much worse "
We shall give you that, limit the menaces, mind you the little mini videos people can send, it’s like receiving a GIF sometimes anyway  |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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‘Daddy’ in profile or message.
Close up action shots on profile
‘I like the contrast of skin tones’
Men
‘BBC’ anywhere in their profile.
Arrogant people
‘Gangbangs’
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
Worcester |
"Another one- men, or even couples, willing to pay a woman to have sex with them. Saw one status today, obviously reported. "
I’ve had a guy message me twice offering money to give him a BJ in the back of his 4x4.
It amazes me they have the audacity to even ask. |
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By *ags73Man 39 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"One of our biggest turn offs is someone making no effort in creating the simple art of conversation, when jumping into our inbox.
What’s yours? "
Someone jumping into my inbox would be appreciated, but I’d agree on some interaction/stimulation being nice.
I’m not really for moaning, I’m still learning and sometimes interesting seeing different ways different people approach it.
Agree with posts saying it’s an old platform and the emojis and all that, but we all have the same issue in getting around that to express something either in photo/video, status, forum or the chat/cams.
Different people do different things, want different things and communicate differently it’s one of those thing, we can’t take ourselves outside our perspective and what seem moany to one person isn’t to another and vice versa.
I did think ‘oh no’ when someone made a comment on statuses like FB updates, but equally I don’t wanna sound like Swiss Tony in every status update.
What’s right/wrong I don’t know. |
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By *mmaleiaWoman 39 weeks ago
Trowbridge |
"Another one- men, or even couples, willing to pay a woman to have sex with them. Saw one status today, obviously reported.
I’ve had a guy message me twice offering money to give him a BJ in the back of his 4x4.
It amazes me they have the audacity to even ask. "
How much? Where is he based? Asking for a friend… |
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By *irthandgirthMan 39 weeks ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
Any use of Nawty/Norty
Lists of demands
'Fill in later'
Singles adding 'same room/different room swapping'.. with who?
Pics where the background is a mess. (Yes I will judge you on it)
Arrogance/entitlement.
Mentions of illicit substances in profiles.
Statuses asking for same illicit substances.
Fake personas |
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“Hey stranger remember me, we talked a few weeks back and we’re going to meet” when there’s no record of the supposed conversation and I don’t think I have amnesia, oh and I’m also not meeting just now……fab gaslighting (fablighting)!
Had this at least 8 times in the last few days.
Also dick pics in a message. Not ask for, sometimes aggressive, weird looking or just down right scary.  |
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By *ags73Man 39 weeks ago
glasgow-ish |
"“Hey stranger remember me, we talked a few weeks back and we’re going to meet” when there’s no record of the supposed conversation and I don’t think I have amnesia, oh and I’m also not meeting just now……fab gaslighting (fablighting)!
Had this at least 8 times in the last few days. "
Take it that’s a new tactic or con?
"Also dick pics in a message. Not ask for, sometimes aggressive, weird looking or just down right scary. "
Not something I’d think to do, but.. |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Below average people making above average demands and lists on their profiles
* wishes I’d read someone’s profile before making a dick of myself *
(sorry about that, no offence intended personally) "
*average woody looks at his list….. |
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
Worcester |
"Another one- men, or even couples, willing to pay a woman to have sex with them. Saw one status today, obviously reported.
I’ve had a guy message me twice offering money to give him a BJ in the back of his 4x4.
It amazes me they have the audacity to even ask.
How much? Where is he based? Asking for a friend… "
£75 lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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"Another one- men, or even couples, willing to pay a woman to have sex with them. Saw one status today, obviously reported.
I’ve had a guy message me twice offering money to give him a BJ in the back of his 4x4.
It amazes me they have the audacity to even ask. "
I’m often tempted to reply back to those types of messages asking if they don’t know how to use a search engine to find sex workers. |
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"Another one- men, or even couples, willing to pay a woman to have sex with them. Saw one status today, obviously reported. "
Genuinely is that even a thing? That’s definitely not on, what goes through some peoples mind is crazy!
Pretty sure there are other places for services or whatever for that! |
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By *ularliWoman 39 weeks ago
Worcester |
"Another one- men, or even couples, willing to pay a woman to have sex with them. Saw one status today, obviously reported.
I’ve had a guy message me twice offering money to give him a BJ in the back of his 4x4.
It amazes me they have the audacity to even ask.
I’m often tempted to reply back to those types of messages asking if they don’t know how to use a search engine to find sex workers. "
That would be to much like hard work though, surely? |
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"Demanding profiles.
Self entitlement.
Couples with an invisible man.
Close up genital pics.
Sex talk before any conversation.
Mainly fab overall with a few exceptions.
Mrs "
We’ve mentioned countless times that this website is a minefield, but there are some limited great things about it that do work. I mean we’ve have personal success thanks to FAB, but had to dodge a or of bullets also |
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being offered money to meet/go to hotel rooms/send pants
the high this is me with a dick pic - reply is usually yep your certainly a dick
initial messages outlining what they dreaming they want to do to you - usually reply - well i normally begin with a _ello and work up to that so we can skip straight to the end - you were crap goodbye
gifs would be hilarious !! |
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"being offered money to meet/go to hotel rooms/send pants
the high this is me with a dick pic - reply is usually yep your certainly a dick
initial messages outlining what they dreaming they want to do to you - usually reply - well i normally begin with a _ello and work up to that so we can skip straight to the end - you were crap goodbye
gifs would be hilarious !! "
Great response, 100 percent agree with these points too |
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By *unchalMan 39 weeks ago
Dartford |
"Those who send first messages that go on and on with great details about all they will do to me.
Great on them to be creative and planners but it comes across very off putting. You wouldn’t see a person in a pub, walk up to them and then start telling them what you’ll do to them, how you’ll make their squirt and cum within seconds of seeing them. Why do it online? "
Could be because this is a sex site for strangers who want sex from strangers. |
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Messages with “Any plans today/this weekend”.
Every fucking message is like that.
I sometimes answer “I’m on my way to my lab to finalise my research on the cure for Ebola” but most of the time I reply “breathe, move, eat, sleep, like anyone rlse..” |
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Profiles that don't state they are married/partner etc but then come on the forums and say 'my wife...', 'wish my gf...'
Whilst it could be mis-used wish there was a filter and then you can make a possible informed decision. Some people want to meet attached and some don't. |
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"no effort in opening messages gets to me but what really annoys me is people with little or no pictures of their own demanding to see more of mine "
isnt that sooooooooo annoying ! im sending a friend request - send away - and then they come back you havent accepted - nope and im not going to - no pics of their own !! |
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"Those who send first messages that go on and on with great details about all they will do to me.
Great on them to be creative and planners but it comes across very off putting. You wouldn’t see a person in a pub, walk up to them and then start telling them what you’ll do to them, how you’ll make their squirt and cum within seconds of seeing them. Why do it online?
Could be because this is a sex site for strangers who want sex from strangers. "
so that removed the requirement to speak nicely???? |
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By (user no longer on site) 39 weeks ago
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Stating how much you love BBW repeatedly. Yes, we get it.
Men who assume that because I am bi I will happily take any man who contacts us.
"I know you only meet at clubs but" |
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