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Are you selfish with sex?
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I don't think I am.
I get off on seeing someone I'm into getting off.
If I just want to get myself off without giving a shit about anyone else I could save myself a lot of time and energy by just having a wank  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I don't think I am.
I get off on seeing someone I'm into getting off.
If I just want to get myself off without giving a shit about anyone else I could save myself a lot of time and energy by just having a wank "
I think I was selfish when I was younger. And I think sone of that creeps back in when I get all ggrrr and stuff. But seeing and feeling someone’s pleasure is just delightful and addictive.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I don’t think I’m selfish, no. Sometimes I can take a bit of a backseat and enjoy receiving pleasure without feeling selfish about it with my husband. I think that’s ok.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life 
Haha. 
May ask if it's ok to close my eyes and grab a little shut eye. But nothing stopping you to carry on  "
I mean… we’ve got to be up early in the morning right?? |
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By *ucka39Man 34 weeks ago
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"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life
Haha.
May ask if it's ok to close my eyes and grab a little shut eye. But nothing stopping you to carry on
I mean… we’ve got to be up early in the morning right?? "
It actually helps you drop off so relaxing
You should try it |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.
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Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.
I dunno. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"Naaaa I just lay there and let her have the ride of her life
Haha.
May ask if it's ok to close my eyes and grab a little shut eye. But nothing stopping you to carry on
I mean… we’ve got to be up early in the morning right??
It actually helps you drop off so relaxing
You should try it "
I just need a woman. And then I can delete this sleep aid app. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.
Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.
I dunno."
I derive pleasure from my pleasure.
Yours? You have a hand, use it. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.
Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.
I dunno.
I derive pleasure from my pleasure.
Yours? You have a hand, use it. "
I'm beginning to realise why I never get sex... |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Majority of people are selfish with sex, this it's all for the other persons pleasure crap is just that.
Utility Theory in a nutshell. I derive pleasure from your pleasure, ergo there's a selfishness in seeking your pleasure because it serves to satisfy my personal needs.
I dunno.
I derive pleasure from my pleasure.
Yours? You have a hand, use it.
I'm beginning to realise why I never get sex..."
Because I have hands? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same
Miss S x"
Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.
Is this now dream within a dream?  |
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"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same
Miss S x
Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.
Is this now dream within a dream? "
You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot  |
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"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same
Miss S x
Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.
Is this now dream within a dream?
You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot "
It so is 
I get fanny flutters just thinking about it
Miss S x
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"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same
Miss S x
Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.
Is this now dream within a dream?
You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot
It so is
I get fanny flutters just thinking about it
Miss S x
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Oh god me too |
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By (user no longer on site) OP 34 weeks ago
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"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same
Miss S x
Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.
Is this now dream within a dream?
You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot "
Maybe one day |
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"I don't think so, I always get off to others getting off and Mr J is the same
Miss S x
Watch people.!!! You can get off watching other people …. getting off.
Is this now dream within a dream?
You’ve never done that Woody? You should. It’s hot
Maybe one day "
Do it do it! |
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By *incepiesMan 34 weeks ago
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Are you selfish with sex?
Nope, it's always about two people (or three or four or more) having a good time.
I have come across a few people (if you'll pardon the pun) that are really into being "used" and I struggle with that scenario but I still manage to put on a good show and give them what they want. |
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I give hubby blowjob and oil handjob every day most days twice and he spoils me any time I ask . Makes me cum over and over till I can't take it anymore. So I don't think either of are selfish with each other x |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I don't really think I am but I wouldn't say it comes from a good place. I definitely enjoy focusing on them and their pleasure but do occasionally worry if I'm meeting their needs or worry I'll turn them off if I start telling them what I enjoy and would like them to do. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I don't really think I am but I wouldn't say it comes from a good place. I definitely enjoy focusing on them and their pleasure but do occasionally worry if I'm meeting their needs or worry I'll turn them off if I start telling them what I enjoy and would like them to do."
Making sure their needs are met is obviously important, but so are yours. Do you feel like you’re missing out and not enjoying it as much as you could be by not letting them know what you would like? |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I don't really think I am but I wouldn't say it comes from a good place. I definitely enjoy focusing on them and their pleasure but do occasionally worry if I'm meeting their needs or worry I'll turn them off if I start telling them what I enjoy and would like them to do."
Fuck that Joe, tell them what you want! |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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I'm probably more the opposite. I give more than I receive.
I'm like that in most parts of my life too.
I've come across some very selfish men in my time on fab. All about their pleasure which is probably why I rarely meet these days. I would rather pleasure myself these days, at least its guaranteed |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I don't really think I am but I wouldn't say it comes from a good place. I definitely enjoy focusing on them and their pleasure but do occasionally worry if I'm meeting their needs or worry I'll turn them off if I start telling them what I enjoy and would like them to do.
Making sure their needs are met is obviously important, but so are yours. Do you feel like you’re missing out and not enjoying it as much as you could be by not letting them know what you would like?"
I don't think I'm missing out that much. A big part of my enjoyment is seeing them satisfied and occasionally when we get in the swing of things, I can then be a bit more forward with my wants. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"I don't really think I am but I wouldn't say it comes from a good place. I definitely enjoy focusing on them and their pleasure but do occasionally worry if I'm meeting their needs or worry I'll turn them off if I start telling them what I enjoy and would like them to do.
Fuck that Joe, tell them what you want!"
Oh I do, don't get me wrong, I'm not being all "woe is me" in the middle of having sex  |
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Def like to make sure the other has enjoyed herself at least several times, as you can never predict what reload time are gonna be... sometimes it's instant...others...but longer.
As for being selfish with sex...nope ..they can have all they want...I'm not keeping it to myself at all! |
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Probably the reverse.
I prefer my partner to submit so I can focus on giving. They might have a very specific scene and requirements we've spent weeks planning together. On the day, it's my role to deliver that. |
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By *r SxxMan 34 weeks ago
Kent |
I'm very much the opposite actually I'd say - to a fault
I'm very much a people pleaser ( and competitive lol) so my goal is always to tick off everything she wants, make her cum, make her enjoy it as much as possible.
By the time that happens I'm usually knackered or it's bed time haha |
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