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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
How many times have you been disappointed when someone eventually sends you a face picture?
I’m no oil painting myself, and I’ve had a fair number of people stop talking or block me after seeing my face.
Yes it’s nice to see body pics, but you can build a picture up of someone in your mind, then be disappointed when you see that face pic, the attraction ends there and then.
I can’t exactly ask someone to fuck me with a paper bag over their head, nor would I take too kindly if it was asked of myself!
Just wondering if this is a common occurrence in the Fab world?
Would love to know your thoughts |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Disappointing faces is part of the game. Like it is what it is. But I would prefer to see face pics as early as possible because let’s not waste each other’s time. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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It happens all the time. It’s to be expected really. A site where people don’t often have face pics on display, so all you have to go on is their body.
It’s good to get the face pics out the way quite early on to avoid the disappointment of not being attracted to each other. |
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
I like to see face pictures early on too, for the same reason - to avoid time wasting for both parties.
Yet people can be so cagey about face pictures!
Fair enough there are people here who would be in trouble if they were found out - but that’s a risk that has to be taken!
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Happens all the bloody time! I often have my face public, so I fully expect to see one on their profile or attached to their message.
I've learnt the hard way to not chat without seeing a face - it's incredibly embarrassing having to say "i just dont fancy you".
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It’s mostly because people unknowingly make up the persona in their mind and when the face finally arrives, it’s usually a disappointment (not always though).
I mostly meet people at fab socials now, if you click you click and can skip all the online messaging bs. |
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
"Can't say it's ever bothered me.
If I'm attracted to someone it's for more than the aesthetics.
A nice face is a bonus, but if someone interests and excites me then I'm interested and excited  "
But here on Fab, it feels like aesthetics is all that matters to men…i can’t get a conversation out of many other than “wanna fuck?” And that really isn’t enough for me to drop my pants… |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Or you get sent a face pic with them wear sunglasses or blurry...
By the time you get a proper one you've chatted a bit longer and then it's awkward when you realise you just don't fancy them. |
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
"Happens all the bloody time! I often have my face public, so I fully expect to see one on their profile or attached to their message.
I've learnt the hard way to not chat without seeing a face - it's incredibly embarrassing having to say "i just dont fancy you".
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It is embarrassing! I (or they) tend to stop replying…and hope they (or I) get the message! |
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I like to see a face pic, to confirm the person is genuine, and makes it easier to recognise them for a social meet.
Some people I’ve met aren’t great at taking selfies, so I don’t take too much stall over whatever pic they send me, as people can be much different face to face, when you’re chatting? And of course, hopefully you will both be smiling, which is attractive in itself, as it means you’re both enjoying each other’s company, so the meet is going well……  |
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
"Or you get sent a face pic with them wear sunglasses or blurry...
By the time you get a proper one you've chatted a bit longer and then it's awkward when you realise you just don't fancy them. "
Do they do that because they know they don’t look great? I’d rather the honesty from the start! |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Most my meets are done without exchanging face pics."
Interesting! It’s not something I would do. But I’m curious, what happens if they turn up and you’re not attracted to them at all? |
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
I get that sometimes people aren’t great at taking pictures, but the amount of face pics I’ve received where the guy looks grumpy or looks like they’re going to mug me is quite laughable.
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
"I once received;
“I’m not instantly attracted to you?” when I sent a face pic. I offered a social meet, but she never replied, so hey-ho…..  "
“Not instantly” …so you’re saying there’s a chance?! |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Most my meets are done without exchanging face pics.
As a woman I would find this unnerving.
I’ve been ra*ed on a fab meet, so maybe that’s made me more cautious "
Awful, so sorry to hear that happened to you. Completely understandably why you are cautious x |
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The type of bodies that turn heads don't generally attract me
The face is where it is at for me
... and before anyone derides the lack of face pics on my profile, if I message first, it is with a face pic
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
"The type of bodies that turn heads don't generally attract me
The face is where it is at for me
... and before anyone derides the lack of face pics on my profile, if I message first, it is with a face pic
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I’ve not got a great body, and I don’t look for muscular, ripped bodies. A lot of male profiles here have 10 pics all with different angles of their cock, and nothing else! |
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"Can't say it's ever bothered me.
If I'm attracted to someone it's for more than the aesthetics.
A nice face is a bonus, but if someone interests and excites me then I'm interested and excited
But here on Fab, it feels like aesthetics is all that matters to men…i can’t get a conversation out of many other than “wanna fuck?” And that really isn’t enough for me to drop my pants…"
If that's all of their attempt at conversation I'd think they don't really care what your face looks like, or that you'd care to fuck them anyway.
Most messages on fab are the same old shit. But very occasionally someone actually interesting appears in the inbox. And while there haven't been many of those, those that there are have lasted a good long time |
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"I like to see face pictures early on too, for the same reason - to avoid time wasting for both parties.
Yet people can be so cagey about face pictures!
Fair enough there are people here who would be in trouble if they were found out - but that’s a risk that has to be taken!
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I agree, there's no point chatting if you're not attracted to that person. |
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"Most my meets are done without exchanging face pics.
Interesting! It’s not something I would do. But I’m curious, what happens if they turn up and you’re not attracted to them at all? "
Then so be it, have an enjoyable social and nothing hapens or gain a plutonic friend. I know its not for all, but each to their own I guess  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I am of the cock appreciation society for fab swingers.How fucking going to happen without a cock....
Yes,I know there are profiles full of fannies at angles and boob pics .
Our profiles are what they are if you do not like one filter it |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Most my meets are done without exchanging face pics.
Interesting! It’s not something I would do. But I’m curious, what happens if they turn up and you’re not attracted to them at all?
Then so be it, have an enjoyable social and nothing hapens or gain a plutonic friend. I know its not for all, but each to their own I guess "
Absolutely! I was just curious. If it works for you, that’s great. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I like you for your mind and not your nice body
What if someone has a nice mind but not a nice body? "
I’m not gonna lie this is just a song lyric that the title made me think of. But I usually need face and mind. Sometimes face matters less but generally my attraction comes from seeing someone as physically attractive. Otherwise they’re no different to a friend. |
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I think facial looks are going to be a fantastic match for a minority of the times when other things are right. Mostly they'll be fine, when we're not really having strict requirements to look a certain way. |
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
"It is one if the first things I expect, get it as quickly as possible, avoids awkward situations  "
Completely agree!
In my experience so far, I have been met with a lot of reluctance when it comes to sharing a face picture.
It may be due to my geographical location, but if we are meeting, we’ll see faces anyway!
Chatted to someone who was reluctant to share a face picture, but it then transpired to be someone I had previously blocked on their other profile… |
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"Disappointing faces is part of the game. Like it is what it is. But I would prefer to see face pics as early as possible because let’s not waste each other’s time. "
You have the lovliest face though. Everyone has to love that smile!
MrsAbz
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Disappointing faces is part of the game. Like it is what it is. But I would prefer to see face pics as early as possible because let’s not waste each other’s time.
You have the lovliest face though. Everyone has to love that smile!
MrsAbz
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MrsAbz plenty of people on this app don’t like my face  what can I say- not everyone has great taste like you  |
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OP maybe your expectations are too high? The super hot vanilla humans are all outside in bars hooking up. The super hot kinksters all have exclusive clubs we can't get in. Leaving us to post in forums on a Saturday night. I will give time to anyone othering me theirs. |
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By *OYFB OP Woman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
"I’d say it happens a lot ! For me it’s all about the face  "
I want to be able to snog the face of someone!
Kissing is my favourite thing to do, that and being able to look into someone’s eyes |
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By *EAT..85Woman 35 weeks ago
Nottingham |
My face is better than my body, and I used to display both on here all of the time so that people knew exactly what they were getting physically. I'm fussy with faces presented to me in a photo which is ironic because I'm fairly sapio and generally fuck/date people that aren't standardly good looking, but when swiping on sites I'm stupidly judgy |
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By *lueLotusWoman 35 weeks ago
the wilderness |
I need to be attracted to someone's face as well as their body, and their face and body language too. It's personality which really makes a person beautiful to me though.
But. If someone looks like or their mannerisms are too much like a previous person who didn't treat me well that can put me right off. I know I should try see past those things, see this new person with a clean slate for them but I can't be arsed in my life right now and I don't want to waste either of our time either.
So yeah I will want a face pic |
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By *ularliWoman 35 weeks ago
Worcester |
"I need to be attracted to someone's face as well as their body, and their face and body language too. It's personality which really makes a person beautiful to me though.
But. If someone looks like or their mannerisms are too much like a previous person who didn't treat me well that can put me right off. I know I should try see past those things, see this new person with a clean slate for them but I can't be arsed in my life right now and I don't want to waste either of our time either.
So yeah I will want a face pic "
Im with you on this. It doesn’t matter how attracted to someone’s body I am, if I’m not attracted to their face then I don’t play. |
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I definitely need to be attracted to a guy's face, so I ask for a pic upfront, then chat if I find them desirable for me personally.
I'd find it so awkward to be exchanging messages with someone and not know what they look like, or later getting a pic and having to cut the chance of meeting and tell them. I just avoid that possibility. It's a big advantage/privilege of being a woman on here to be able to do that though |
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I can't have sex with anyone who I don't find physically attractive in some way or another and that includes face. I've had many long conversations and then they've sent a face pic and my mind has instantly shut down as there's no superficial attraction. I adore kissing and I can't kiss someone who isn't physically attractive to me. This sounds really superficial and fickle but you've got to remember it's not necessarily about an out of this world face of an extremely handsome/gorgeous person as what one person is attracted to another person isn't. You like what you like |
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"Disappointing faces is part of the game. Like it is what it is. But I would prefer to see face pics as early as possible because let’s not waste each other’s time.
You have the lovliest face though. Everyone has to love that smile!
MrsAbz
MrsAbz plenty of people on this app don’t like my face what can I say- not everyone has great taste like you "
I have the best taste
MrsAbz |
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By *TG3Man 34 weeks ago
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"Apparently as a guy, every hole is a goal, so… no. We don’t have this problem. "
Is this true....... When you think about it guys are horny all year round unlike the animal species who have a season, so aren't we just acting out evolution polinating the flower of our eye |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Apparently as a guy, every hole is a goal, so… no. We don’t have this problem. Is this true....... When you think about it guys are horny all year round unlike the animal species who have a season, so aren't we just acting out evolution polinating the flower of our eye "
Exactly. Don’t blame us, blame evolution! |
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By *TG3Man 34 weeks ago
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"Apparently as a guy, every hole is a goal, so… no. We don’t have this problem. Is this true....... When you think about it guys are horny all year round unlike the animal species who have a season, so aren't we just acting out evolution polinating the flower of our eye
Exactly. Don’t blame us, blame evolution! "
I do and thank you for giving me the excuse Woody any hole is a goal except that is for Man U |
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Disappointed is the wrong word. Sometimes you build up a mental picture of someone and then ohhhhh I didn’t expect that. I can’t take natural looking face pics and often disappoint people. That’s why I always take a Waitrose paper bag with me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Apparently as a guy, every hole is a goal, so… no. We don’t have this problem. Is this true....... When you think about it guys are horny all year round unlike the animal species who have a season, so aren't we just acting out evolution polinating the flower of our eye
Exactly. Don’t blame us, blame evolution! I do and thank you for giving me the excuse Woody any hole is a goal except that is for Man U "
Their balls seem to go everywhere they shouldn’t. |
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For me? Butterface? Not a dealbreaker
And c’maan. When we’re getting down to business, you’re not even thinking about the face.
All I’m thinking about is...
“Mmm! Lookadat arse!”
“Mmm! Lookadem titties!”  |
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Unfortunately I'd say my body is better than my face. Not sloth from the goonies, but I'm no Brad pitt either.
Although I will say, I've not been disappointed when seeing face pics, you can be attracted to someone but when meeting them it just doesn't work, then there are some people you just click with. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"For me? Butterface? Not a dealbreaker
And c’maan. When we’re getting down to business, you’re not even thinking about the face.
All I’m thinking about is...
“Mmm! Lookadat arse!”
“Mmm! Lookadem titties!” "
Poetic |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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It’s the overly photoshopped / filtered pics that get to me.
Give me a real pic anyway.
Oh and in answer to your question, I believe the term me. Body like Baywatch, face like crime watch
I’m merely quoting, not one’s opinion |
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My thoughts are this ........
It works both ways.
You can be attracted to someone bodily but not facially.
You can be attracted to someone facially but not bodily.
The face is the most important aspect though as it houses the brain and expresses personality and gives off so many signals.
This kind of question makes it plain why full facial pics and body pics and even a quick meet before sex can be the difference between horror or bliss.
People are complete. They are body and face not one or the other. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"For me? Butterface? Not a dealbreaker
And c’maan. When we’re getting down to business, you’re not even thinking about the face.
All I’m thinking about is...
“Mmm! Lookadat arse!”
“Mmm! Lookadem titties!”
Poetic"
I think it’s Eminem lyrics. |
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To be fair ........ it's easy to fancy someone who has neither body nor face in the wow department ...
The final analysis is in their character and what shines from them ...
Oh .... and hygiene ..... They can be as good looking and as gym fit as they like if they are slovenly it's no thanks. |
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By *eliWoman 34 weeks ago
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Not disappointed. Never been disappointed so far.
Surprised? Definitely. I've found some people to be more attractive than I thought, others less so. I think on Fab we pay far more attention to bodies (for obvious reason) and sometimes that's really good and the face less so. It happens.
I'd say the majority of the time I'm not attracted to someone unless I feel like there's some level of friendship there. After that it's about the whole package. |
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"It’s mostly because people unknowingly make up the persona in their mind and when the face finally arrives, it’s usually a disappointment (not always though).
I mostly meet people at fab socials now, if you click you click and can skip all the online messaging bs."
This ^^
The longer you delay your face the worse
This site makes you mind fantasies all the time. That's the reason I don't like explicit photos. There is no room for imagination and anticipation.
I even imagine a voice when I see the photos and read the text somebody sends me.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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As long as they’re not high on drugs or look like a total crack head i don’t judge women on their looks or their body shape. We are what we are and the way I look at it is I’m here for sex etc not a relationship. I know not everyone looks at it that way and people are entitled to their opinion and choices but let’s face it we’re all here for basically the same thing. Also I’d like to add I don’t think I’m an oil painting either and yes I would like a bigger dick lol but I have to make do with what I have lol |
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By *eah BabyCouple 34 weeks ago
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"I can't have sex with anyone who I don't find physically attractive in some way or another and that includes face. I've had many long conversations and then they've sent a face pic and my mind has instantly shut down as there's no superficial attraction. I adore kissing and I can't kiss someone who isn't physically attractive to me. This sounds really superficial and fickle but you've got to remember it's not necessarily about an out of this world face of an extremely handsome/gorgeous person as what one person is attracted to another person isn't. You like what you like"
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No original thoughts, but yes, there are people whose body I have thought was hot, but didn't find facially attractive (and vice versa, though you're right we nearly always see bits of bodies first here).
No need to apologise for finding someone attractive or not. It's an art not a science.
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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From my experience people with pretty faces usually send them early on You know if they’re holding out then the body is probs their key selling point or the face won’t be exceptional. People aren’t dumb, it’s usually the part that’s missing that’ll be the let down, but everyone has best and worst bits, right? I always lead my messages with a cock pic! |
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"...Just wondering if this is a common occurrence in the Fab world?
Would love to know your thoughts "
Common for me.
Ohhh, if only I was one of the elite, beautiful people... my life would be complete.  |
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"How many times have you been disappointed when someone eventually sends you a face picture?
I’m no oil painting myself, and I’ve had a fair number of people stop talking or block me after seeing my face.
Yes it’s nice to see body pics, but you can build a picture up of someone in your mind, then be disappointed when you see that face pic, the attraction ends there and then.
I can’t exactly ask someone to fuck me with a paper bag over their head, nor would I take too kindly if it was asked of myself!
Just wondering if this is a common occurrence in the Fab world?
Would love to know your thoughts "
that's what happems to me 99% of the time on here |
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We send face pictures immediately and politely request the same from anyone we're chatting too.
Attraction between us all is important.
If there's no initial attraction we politely reply indicating so as not to waste anyone's time nor to ignore or ghost them.
After all we can't be everyone's cup of tea  |
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at a club / sauna venue I am not really that bothered by someones face as such , as its just sex and pretty much I am looking at body/specific parts and that more or less carries the fuck for me and then move on ...
more private meets on 1 2 1 with socials etc where I am going to be spending some actual time investment of travelling / arranging etc then I am much inclined to want to be attracted to them facially/physically and at least find them reasonable mentally compatible .. but even then someone can be meh facially looking but cool to chat with and have a banger body
I guess on fab it comes down to what you are using the site for and how you run it ... for some its a more intimate build up / ongoing thing ... for others its just one off fuck meets with no real interest in getting to know the in and outs of others , other than just enough to banter enough for a sex meet .
also ever met someone and though yes they are hot and then halfway through you change your mind . |
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Happens aaaalll the time! We ask for face pics upfront. We have ours publicly visible so we think it's only fair.
Save so much time and stress - plenty of lads still try to play the, "get to know me first and then you'll find me attractive" card... Works for some I'm sure, not for us |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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"Alternatively turn off the lights bag over the head?"
Risky, since not everyone is into SMD (Sexual Masochism Disorder) with Asphyxiophilia; it's a dangerous kink if with an amateur.
Admit, I have enjoyed breath control play to be fun with the right partner which doesn't always involve a bag over the head.
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Yes I've been disappointed. I like to get face pics out the way early. It's a deal breaker. I genuinely never think someone is ugly but sometimes they are not what I'm looking for and I don't find them attractive. It's a shitty situation. |
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By (user no longer on site) 34 weeks ago
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To be honest if someone asked me to put a bag over my head i wouldn’t mind! Just give me air holes and don’t call me “Z”!!
Seriously who cars, maybe me wearing a bag on my head could be kinky for them, that would make it perfectly fine so the issue is with the bag wearer’s perception. It’s just a bloody bag!
Maybe put a two way mirror in it, then a narcissist can stare at herself while being fucked by an ugly dude!
I’m going to call that sex scenario. “empath’s revenge”!
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"Men don't care about faces. Women do...don't forget though, it has to be 95% and above like their favourite "him on the telly". Makes us chaps make more effort though!"
This man cares about faces.. actually more than my wife does |
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"Men don't care about faces. Women do...don't forget though, it has to be 95% and above like their favourite "him on the telly". Makes us chaps make more effort though!"
I always think the one thing Fab is short of is sweeping generalisations.
I care a lot about faces, but might be the exception that proves your rule. |
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