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Think the threads yesterday were about how do you deal with things that annoy you .......... this seems to be an ongoing grrrrrrrrrrr moment.
so I dont accommodate - various reasons, teen at home - I dont accommodate .
why is it (and this is a sweeping statement) that guys get pissy when you say you don't accommodate. What about in the day - er im working, well surely there is a time you can ? struggling to fathom which bit they dont actually understand and why the expectation is that i should!!
rant over and yea i feel better for it 
(oh and it is not everyone ) |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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It is your prerogative if you don't want to accommodate. And it is also the other person's prerogative if they don't want to accommodate.
Ultimately though, someone has to accommodate. |
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"It is your prerogative if you don't want to accommodate. And it is also the other person's prerogative if they don't want to accommodate.
Ultimately though, someone has to accommodate."
its more the 'oh you dont accommodate - why dont you accommodate?' ... almost as an expectation that I should as a single female ! |
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It's just another aspect of entitlement -
Expecting immediate sex, 100% fulfillment of their needs, provision of visual material upfront even if they just want wank fodder, etc
Best filtering help is when they make it easy and obvious |
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I dont accomodate either and i don't entertain any discussion. Especially if its pissy. I just block them.
Why they do it is because its convenient for them. They don't have to tidy up or wash the bedsheets. Or they are married. |
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When there’s a will, there’s a way. That’s all I’m saying and I never go into discussion about accommodating or not. People don’t accommodate for variety of reasons and they soon become obvious when you get to know each other’s circumstances. |
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"Think the threads yesterday were about how do you deal with things that annoy you .......... this seems to be an ongoing grrrrrrrrrrr moment.
so I dont accommodate - various reasons, teen at home - I dont accommodate .
Thats one of the reasons why its harder for blokes on here. Certain elements of the membership don't seem to be able to grasp things like others don't, won't or simply can't accommodate. Everyone has a choice whether they accommodate or not and the pushy arrogant self entitled element that can't accept that ruin things for the ones that do and don't get pissy over not getting it all their own way.
why is it (and this is a sweeping statement) that guys get pissy when you say you don't accommodate. What about in the day - er im working, well surely there is a time you can ? struggling to fathom which bit they dont actually understand and why the expectation is that i should!!
rant over and yea i feel better for it
(oh and it is not everyone )"
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By *os19Man 35 weeks ago
Edmonton |
In my profile I have my reason why I can’t accommodate.If someone chooses not to believe me or thinks I am a fake that’s their business. I am happy to arrange a meet at the two adult venues that I attend and after a social going forward happy to make arrangements for a hotel. |
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If you say you don't accommodate it means just that, just like no means no. If anyone was like that to me it would be an instant block, no question.
If the other person has cannot accommodate, turn the tables and ask the same questions and see what their response is!
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By *TG3Man 35 weeks ago
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"Think the threads yesterday were about how do you deal with things that annoy you .......... this seems to be an ongoing grrrrrrrrrrr moment.
so I dont accommodate - various reasons, teen at home - I dont accommodate .
why is it (and this is a sweeping statement) that guys get pissy when you say you don't accommodate. What about in the day - er im working, well surely there is a time you can ? struggling to fathom which bit they dont actually understand and why the expectation is that i should!!
rant over and yea i feel better for it
(oh and it is not everyone )"
certainly not me, what time you coming?  |
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It bugs me, like they are entitled to enter your home, your family space - no one I'm meeting for sex is coming anywhere near my home.
Some people don't give two fucks about safety or privacy.
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Think the threads yesterday were about how do you deal with things that annoy you .......... this seems to be an ongoing grrrrrrrrrrr moment.
so I dont accommodate - various reasons, teen at home - I dont accommodate .
why is it (and this is a sweeping statement) that guys get pissy when you say you don't accommodate. What about in the day - er im working, well surely there is a time you can ? struggling to fathom which bit they dont actually understand and why the expectation is that i should!!
rant over and yea i feel better for it
(oh and it is not everyone )"
No need to explain why but it shows to me how pushy some are. You know that saying when push comes to shove..tell em to shove off ...politely. it bit like saying cannot meet will not meet but why response or worse op.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I just wish that men would not say that they can accommodate on their profiles and then say that actually they can’t at all!"
Innit lol. I believe some think it is us women who are legs open door open attitude. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"It bugs me, like they are entitled to enter your home, your family space - no one I'm meeting for sex is coming anywhere near my home.
Some people don't give two fucks about safety or privacy.
Mrs "
Like I just said some believe us women et all are doors open legs open brigade. |
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"I don’t accommodate for safety reasons (I can)
but choose not to my home is my safe place "
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And this ^ is perfectly reasonable and acceptable, without an explanation. 
When men post similar threads about why they choose not to accommodate they are often harangued. In these types of discussions women are eulogised and the men are euthanised.  |
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"I don’t accommodate for safety reasons (I can)
but choose not to my home is my safe place
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And this ^ is perfectly reasonable and acceptable, without an explanation.
When men post similar threads about why they choose not to accommodate they are often harangued. In these types of discussions women are eulogised and the men are euthanised. "
i feel personally that it is an expectation that the woman wants sex therefore she should accommodate.
But i have chatted with a lot of people who have kids at home etc - variety of reasons - it shouldnt be an issue for anyone to say that they dont, and alternative solutions found.
you will probably say im wrong - but i dont feel that guys have or always have the same safety type concerns that women potentially have either - i do say that a bit tongue in cheek as i appreciate that it goes both ways. But as a generalisation - Its my safe space and if i want to get away from someone i go home and shut the door. |
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"I don’t accommodate for safety reasons (I can)
but choose not to my home is my safe place
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And this ^ is perfectly reasonable and acceptable, without an explanation.
When men post similar threads about why they choose not to accommodate they are often harangued. In these types of discussions women are eulogised and the men are euthanised. "
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"We don’t accommodate for similar reasons and never been questioned on it.
If we feel it’s time to arrange something, I always suggest a hotel. "
as i said - its not everyone but an annoying few that have an expectation |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"We don’t accommodate for similar reasons and never been questioned on it.
If we feel it’s time to arrange something, I always suggest a hotel.
as i said - its not everyone but an annoying few that have an expectation "
Yeah, I don’t think it’s something that someone has the right to question. I’m sure the majority don’t want people from here in their homes or knowing where they live. |
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"I don’t accommodate for safety reasons (I can)
but choose not to my home is my safe place
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And this ^ is perfectly reasonable and acceptable, without an explanation.
When men post similar threads about why they choose not to accommodate they are often harangued. In these types of discussions women are eulogised and the men are euthanised. "
No way! A thread turning in to a man-hater? Wash your mouth out young fellow!
I’ve experienced the psycho-bitch from Hell who GoogleEarthed my home address, and sent screenshots of my social media posts, threatening to expose my Fab life to all and sundry……  We all have to be careful out there, and respect everyone’s private lives…..  |
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"I don’t accommodate for safety reasons (I can)
but choose not to my home is my safe place
•
And this ^ is perfectly reasonable and acceptable, without an explanation.
When men post similar threads about why they choose not to accommodate they are often harangued. In these types of discussions women are eulogised and the men are euthanised.
No way! A thread turning in to a man-hater? Wash your mouth out young fellow!
I’ve experienced the psycho-bitch from Hell who GoogleEarthed my home address, and sent screenshots of my social media posts, threatening to expose my Fab life to all and sundry…… We all have to be careful out there, and respect everyone’s private lives….. "
i had heard this before, which it why i sort of said it wasnt everyone or just down to males, some people have strange fascinations and infatuations - and dont handle rejection of any kind well - i have a stalker who each time i find him on a new profile appears to be a step closer to where i actually live - I did call his bluff the last time, when he said he was round the corner to name a road nearby, which he couldnt. they are out there - we all need to be cautious |
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"I don’t accommodate for safety reasons (I can)
but choose not to my home is my safe place
•
And this ^ is perfectly reasonable and acceptable, without an explanation.
When men post similar threads about why they choose not to accommodate they are often harangued. In these types of discussions women are eulogised and the men are euthanised.
No way! A thread turning in to a man-hater? Wash your mouth out young fellow!
I’ve experienced the psycho-bitch from Hell who GoogleEarthed my home address, and sent screenshots of my social media posts, threatening to expose my Fab life to all and sundry…… We all have to be careful out there, and respect everyone’s private lives…..
i had heard this before, which it why i sort of said it wasnt everyone or just down to males, some people have strange fascinations and infatuations - and dont handle rejection of any kind well - i have a stalker who each time i find him on a new profile appears to be a step closer to where i actually live - I did call his bluff the last time, when he said he was round the corner to name a road nearby, which he couldnt. they are out there - we all need to be cautious"
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Fuck 'em.
Or perhaps more accurately don't fuck 'em. Your space, your time, you do what ever the fucking fuck you want"
Just been checking. I think you missed a fuck out |
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"I don’t accommodate for safety reasons (I can)
but choose not to my home is my safe place
•
And this ^ is perfectly reasonable and acceptable, without an explanation.
When men post similar threads about why they choose not to accommodate they are often harangued. In these types of discussions women are eulogised and the men are euthanised.
No way! A thread turning in to a man-hater? Wash your mouth out young fellow!
I’ve experienced the psycho-bitch from Hell who GoogleEarthed my home address, and sent screenshots of my social media posts, threatening to expose my Fab life to all and sundry…… We all have to be careful out there, and respect everyone’s private lives…..
i had heard this before, which it why i sort of said it wasnt everyone or just down to males, some people have strange fascinations and infatuations - and dont handle rejection of any kind well - i have a stalker who each time i find him on a new profile appears to be a step closer to where i actually live - I did call his bluff the last time, when he said he was round the corner to name a road nearby, which he couldnt. they are out there - we all need to be cautious"
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"I just wish that men would not say that they can accommodate on their profiles and then say that actually they can’t at all!"
I think they actually can. The number of profiles on here that say can accommodate but on fabguys same profile says they can't is amazing lol. |
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By *OYFBWoman 35 weeks ago
Jersey (sometimes Notts) |
Ahhh I get this all the time!
I make it very clear I do not accommodate.
Yet I get messages like “are you sure you can’t accommodate?” Or “it’s a shame you can’t accommodate”.
It’s a fucking shame you can’t read!! |
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By *ony MannMan 35 weeks ago
Las Gaviotos, Fuerteventura |
I have had a bunny boiler after me, don't want another.
I consider anyone who says come to mine without knowing a thing about me brave.
I do not hold the simple statement 'do not accommodate' against anyone |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"It is your prerogative if you don't want to accommodate. And it is also the other person's prerogative if they don't want to accommodate.
Ultimately though, someone has to accommodate.
its more the 'oh you dont accommodate - why dont you accommodate?' ... almost as an expectation that I should as a single female ! "
No why should you!?! This is terrible - honestly i wouldn't even feel obliged to answer the question x
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"Have we stopped assuming that everyone who can’t accommodate is married and cheating or is it only the men that applies to?
Or still lives with mummy and daddy"
I don't assume that, but it does rule someone out for me as I expect the responsibility of hosting to be shared ... especially if it becomes a more regular thing. |
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I wouldn’t expect a single female to accommodate under any circumstances. It’s all about trust and personal safety. You shouldn’t be expected to trust people you do not know, and just because they are on here, doesn’t mean you would be safe… |
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