"I get that but can't tar everyone with the same brush, surely?"
Sure you can.
Say I'm talking to Bob. I've discovered Bob isn't what I'm looking for.
Having spoken to Barry, Bruce, Bill and Baxter, all of whom abused me after I said no, I'm not taking my chances. Abuse fucking sucks. Far more than being blocked.
(No, not all men. Obviously. But one is too many and it's a lot more than one) |
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"I guess l think differently.
Would always accept a no with grace.
Thanks. Yes l think you are right. It's not personal."
I've even had abuse from people who tell me they'd take a no gracefully.
I'm not saying you're lying. I'm just saying, the vast majority of women (and probably other categories) have been abused on here and other places for saying no. If you block, the abuse doesn't come.
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"I guess l think differently.
Would always accept a no with grace.
Thanks. Yes l think you are right. It's not personal.
I've even had abuse from people who tell me they'd take a no gracefully.
I'm not saying you're lying. I'm just saying, the vast majority of women (and probably other categories) have been abused on here and other places for saying no. If you block, the abuse doesn't come.
(By the way, if you use the reply plus quote button, it helps us know who you're replying to)"
Ahhhh ok. Thank you! |
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"Blocking stops another contact being made once they've established you're not compatible.
It's not personal and is also a way to reduce abuse... some people struggle to accept a no."
Ok. Thanks. Like you say, it's not personal. |
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"Why do some people happily correspond and then when you no longer suit their criteria, pretend you never corresponded with them in the first place... And then block you?"
Because they weren't feeling you? Not that deep. Just block back. |
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Why waste 1 secs thought or energy thinking about such things..the only folk who can truly answer are those who blocked you,
Myself I spend tbose seconds minutes of energy on those who wish to correspond converse   |
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"Why waste 1 secs thought or energy thinking about such things..the only folk who can truly answer are those who blocked you,
Myself I spend tbose seconds minutes of energy on those who wish to correspond converse "
Fair point. |
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Because for some I've corresponded and definitely decided to take it no further. So block to stop further chat.
For others I've said no twice and they still message ... so block
For a small number I say no thanks .. they get abusive so I block |
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It's not pretence, it's the to be expected turning into a dead end and putting a block in place, to prevent reoccurrence.
Most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. With realistic expectations we should expect this always.
No reply= thanks but no thanks. Blocks stop any harassment, abuse or unnecessary waste of time and energy to all parties. |
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"Blocking stops another contact being made once they've established you're not compatible.
It's not personal and is also a way to reduce abuse... some people struggle to accept a no."
This op to a tea |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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"I get that but can't tar everyone with the same brush, surely?"
Blocking is a good filter of people we do not wish to communicate with. My messages...wanna fuck now or I say no thanks and get abused. Accept it as a no thank you and move on |
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"Because for some I've corresponded and definitely decided to take it no further. So block to stop further chat.
For others I've said no twice and they still message ... so block
For a small number I say no thanks .. they get abusive so I block"
I get you. So appreciate your views. Every time l have had a block or rejection, l have moved on. But would never dream of being abusive back. But some do, l understand. |
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There's usually a reason someone blocks. They changed their mind, they didn't like the way it was going or it may have been something you said.
Perhaps life got in the way or some just never intended to meet at all.
As others said, many block as it saves anyone getting abusive or aggressive, when they said they'd changed their minds. |
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"When they block you it's like the trash took itself out 
I rarely counter block so they can keep unblocking me and looking at my profile!  "
I haven’t bothered anytime it’s happened. Have wondered why but, well, nothing I can do
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"When they block you it's like the trash took itself out
I rarely counter block so they can keep unblocking me and looking at my profile!
I haven’t bothered anytime it’s happened. Have wondered why but, well, nothing I can do
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Yes. Nothing we can do. Accept and move on is the feeling l get from contributors on this thread. |
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