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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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After talking with a lovely friend, I’ve been inspired to probe into your minds and lives again and ask you about priorities.
Who do you make a priority in your life?
Yourself?
Or another? Who are they to you? And do they prioritise you in return?
Appreciative of your answers in advance  |
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By *aiseiMan 35 weeks ago
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Depends.
When I’m feeling stressed, which is too often, I usually revert to ‘me first’ as a bit of relief and protection.
But with a wife and daughter, they’re first (in reverse order) if I’m OK. |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Depends.
When I’m feeling stressed, which is too often, I usually revert to ‘me first’ as a bit of relief and protection.
But with a wife and daughter, they’re first (in reverse order) if I’m OK."
Family are important and so are you. Hope you are ok x |
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"Depends.
When I’m feeling stressed, which is too often, I usually revert to ‘me first’ as a bit of relief and protection.
But with a wife and daughter, they’re first (in reverse order) if I’m OK."
Gotta mend your own roof before you shelter other people.  |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Depends.
When I’m feeling stressed, which is too often, I usually revert to ‘me first’ as a bit of relief and protection.
But with a wife and daughter, they’re first (in reverse order) if I’m OK.
Gotta mend your own roof before you shelter other people. "
I’ve never heard that saying before, love it! Thanks  |
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Our little one, and Ailsa, are my absolute priorities. Everything and everyone - especially myself - come afterwards. That isn’t to say that I never think of others, or never put myself first, because I do. These kinds of things are often a moveable feast as the whims of fate ebb and flow, but certainly the welfare of our little family unit makes up the lion’s share of my energy and focus. Xx |
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I'm terrible for other people before myself
It's a real effort to put myself first
My main priority is my old four legged faithful friend
My job, my nieces and my sister are up there too
A couple of friends follow
Everything else is incidental |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"Our little one, and Ailsa, are my absolute priorities. Everything and everyone - especially myself - come afterwards. That isn’t to say that I never think of others, or never put myself first, because I do. These kinds of things are often a moveable feast as the whims of fate ebb and flow, but certainly the welfare of our little family unit makes up the lion’s share of my energy and focus. Xx"
You describe that so beautifully. |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I'm terrible for other people before myself
It's a real effort to put myself first
My main priority is my old four legged faithful friend
My job, my nieces and my sister are up there too
A couple of friends follow
Everything else is incidental"
Putting your job first is the worst isn’t it! Please give your furry friend a belly scratch from me |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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When needed I do prioritise myself otherwise it's;
My kids
My dogs (the kids would be suprised they come b4 the dogs lol )
My best friends
My work
Everyone and everything else comes after that.
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"Our little one, and Ailsa, are my absolute priorities. Everything and everyone - especially myself - come afterwards. That isn’t to say that I never think of others, or never put myself first, because I do. These kinds of things are often a moveable feast as the whims of fate ebb and flow, but certainly the welfare of our little family unit makes up the lion’s share of my energy and focus. Xx
You describe that so beautifully. "
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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I drop everything for my kids.
And I make others a priority if I care for them when I know I’m alright and in a really good place, because when I’m not I’m absolutely no good to help anyone. 
So - Kids. Me. Others. |
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By *ornycougaWoman 35 weeks ago
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I spent 30 years prioritising others - partner, kids, work, other family. Constantly pulled in different directions. If my kids or my dad (or good friends) need me I would 100pc be there for them but otherwise I'm putting myself and my needs first now. It's me time! |
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By *edeWoman 35 weeks ago
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My family, my partner and a few close friends. I will always prioritise them over myself.
Which is not always healthy for mind or body to be fair. But I'm lucky to have them in my life and so will continue to do so |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
cognito |
"When needed I do prioritise myself otherwise it's;
My kids
My dogs (the kids would be suprised they come b4 the dogs lol )
My best friends
My work
Everyone and everything else comes after that.
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lol my mum definitely puts the dog before us kids  |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I drop everything for my kids.
And I make others a priority if I care for them when I know I’m alright and in a really good place, because when I’m not I’m absolutely no good to help anyone.
So - Kids. Me. Others. "
As quoted by Glowupdoll earlier “ Gotta mend your own roof before you shelter other people” |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"I spent 30 years prioritising others - partner, kids, work, other family. Constantly pulled in different directions. If my kids or my dad (or good friends) need me I would 100pc be there for them but otherwise I'm putting myself and my needs first now. It's me time! "
Good for you! I should take a leaf out of the book |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 35 weeks ago
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"My family, my partner and a few close friends. I will always prioritise them over myself.
Which is not always healthy for mind or body to be fair. But I'm lucky to have them in my life and so will continue to do so "
But don’t sacrifice yourself to meet their priorities first. I learnt these lessons the hard way, make time for yourself too |
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"I drop everything for my kids.
And I make others a priority if I care for them when I know I’m alright and in a really good place, because when I’m not I’m absolutely no good to help anyone.
So - Kids. Me. Others.
As quoted by Glowupdoll earlier “ Gotta mend your own roof before you shelter other people” "
I’ve been quoted. I’m blushing underneath 3 inches of makeup  |
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"After talking with a lovely friend, I’ve been inspired to probe into your minds and lives again and ask you about priorities.
Who do you make a priority in your life?
Yourself?
Or another? Who are they to you? And do they prioritise you in return?
Appreciative of your answers in advance "
My kids, my husband, my Dad. I'm way down the list.
Kids are kids, they do what kids do.
Mr KC prioritises me, yes.
My Dad is too consumed with dementia to have the ability to empathise with others so no, he doesn't prioritise. |
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By *a LunaWoman 35 weeks ago
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My kids, my mum, my three dogs.
My kids are both under 16 so I’m not their top priority. Their friends and their working internet are.
My mum - she does prioritise me unless it comes to making herself a bacon sandwich when she seems to forget she has a daughter.
My dogs. Two of them prioritise me. The other one tolerates me because I feed her but my eldest is her top priority. She adores him.
So I’m ok. |
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