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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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What's the point in so many people always saying and constantly going on about:"I won't meet people cheating or with partners etc etc" when loads of us already know the people saying it already have done!
Fab talks, people already know you did/do.
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"What on fab has you saying "what's the point"
For me it's
What's the point in writing a profile (most ignore it)
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What's the point setting an age range (again most ignore it)....x"
I don't know about the rest of you, but I do read profiles, the age thing is negotiable, as people lie about their age anyway  |
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Fully agree with the OP tbf..
What is the point of writing out a bio? I mean, does anyone read them? I know most here (including us) will say they do but our DMs are pretty much constantly filled with people who clearly didn't  |
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I agree with all the posts above as they are all valid and we all share the same thoughts clearly.
My gripe, is when I get a message from someone praising me up telling me how nice my pics are etc etc and when I look they haven't viewed my profile or fabbed any of my pics!!!
I think it’s just generic cut and paste message that goes out to loads.
Sorry for rant. There’s worse things to worry about I suppose and reading some of your others this is quite low of the scale I agree. |
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I wrote my bio because it shows who I am, what my personality is etc. Will anybody read it? Time has proven very few do. Same with our couples one.
But I would rather have one than some basic one line nothing burger. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"What’s the point of all these ‘straight’ guys messaging when I know for sure they won’t turn up? "
I would go a step further. What’s the point of putting your sexuality on a profile?
I get, as you do, lots of message from ‘straight’ guys. They say they’re straight because they think it increases their chances with women.
Further from that, it always makes me smile when a profile states they only want to meet straight guys (no one cares what sexuality a woman is!). Sometimes I look through their verifications and the masculine man they said was brilliant and everything they wanted….. you guessed it.
In fact, on an NSA site why does it matter who someone else has fucked? Surely you’re taking care of your own sexual health? |
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"What’s the point of all these ‘straight’ guys messaging when I know for sure they won’t turn up?
I would go a step further. What’s the point of putting your sexuality on a profile?
I get, as you do, lots of message from ‘straight’ guys. They say they’re straight because they think it increases their chances with women.
Further from that, it always makes me smile when a profile states they only want to meet straight guys (no one cares what sexuality a woman is!). Sometimes I look through their verifications and the masculine man they said was brilliant and everything they wanted….. you guessed it.
In fact, on an NSA site why does it matter who someone else has fucked? Surely you’re taking care of your own sexual health?"
Good point well made |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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What's the point of sending a good first message? You put all that effort in and it won't be read or it will be read but no reply is a reply despite the profile telling you to send a good first message. It's absolutely pointless and I'll embrace the hate I get for that opinion. |
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"What's the point of sending a good first message? You put all that effort in and it won't be read or it will be read but no reply is a reply despite the profile telling you to send a good first message. It's absolutely pointless and I'll embrace the hate I get for that opinion."
not wrong though
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For me, it's what's the point in clicking on women's profiles. There's a 97% chance it'll be an angry and contemptuous 1000 word rant about everything they hate, usually with a long bullet pointed list of unrealistic demands. |
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In having a profile with nothing about you in...
I get noone wants to share too much but surely you want someone to show they've given enough of a shit to ask you something about you, as otherwise...I can only assume all the messages default to perverse\copy-paste shite?
Also...the 'see who's near' button defaulting to everyone and not chosen preferences... |
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I’ve got to add this as it just happened for the first time.
I just caught someone with my pics on their profile. As soon as I spotted it and put their name on my status to make people aware the profile was gone.
What is the point in this? Is there something more to it than it just being a low life who can’t put photos of themselves on their profile?? Pathetic and baffling. |
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"What is the point of heavily filtered pics when you will look nothing like the person someone is expecting to see"
100% agree with that. I don’t get why people create an image of themselves that they can’t live up to. If people don’t like what I look like then that’s fine. I am what I am and happy with that ish lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"What on fab has you saying "what's the point"
For me it's
What's the point in writing a profile (most ignore it)
and
What's the point setting an age range (again most ignore it)....x"
The good ones read a profile aswell as respecting age preferences, assume the people who don't are disrespectful and cater to themselves only |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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Being labelled a time waster when unexpectedly asked about meeting up spontaneously.. when the answer I gave was a respectful no lol.
Can't have boundaries on here apparently |
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What's the point in jealousy? Nobody "owns" anybody else's affection. What's the point in saying that you're looking for no strings attached, then acting as if you have special "claim" to the other. What's the point in blaming others for the consequences of your own actions? |
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"What’s the point of lying you’re single when you’re not?"
What's the point of asking such a naive question?!!!
Could the answer be 'to get a foot in the door while negotiating a special dispensation for being such a good lover'? |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"What is the point in stating we don't meet men 90% of our messages are from men.
I got no interest in the penis.
Mrs "
What's the point in message filters if you're not going to use them, then have a little complain when men still message. We all know that 95% of men are on the dim side and will always 'try their luck.' |
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Whats the point of most men having dick pictures as a profile knowing its going to put people off that they suppose to attract or sending unsolicited dick pics when most people arent going to like it |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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It has been like this for years.It is what is.
We cannot change fab swingers it is what it is.
If everyone read my profile great but most just go off pics.
How does bypassing my filters work?
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"What is the point in stating we don't meet men 90% of our messages are from men.
I got no interest in the penis.
Mrs
What's the point in message filters if you're not going to use them, then have a little complain when men still message. We all know that 95% of men are on the dim side and will always 'try their luck.'"
What's the point in blocking all people & not being able to socialise just because some blokes are pricks.
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I often wonder what’s the point of trying to pm people on here.
Whether it’s the fact they love the attention but have no intention of meeting, that they receive wayyy too many messages or that it’s just a game to a lot of people.
I’m not exactly god’s gift but I thought I’d do a bit better than I am! (The women I have met here have been lovely by the way) |
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"What's the point of sending a good first message? You put all that effort in and it won't be read or it will be read but no reply is a reply despite the profile telling you to send a good first message. It's absolutely pointless and I'll embrace the hate I get for that opinion."
Couldn’t agree more. It’s soul destroying |
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By *rpeggioCouple 35 weeks ago
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"What’s the point of all these ‘straight’ guys messaging when I know for sure they won’t turn up? "
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For you, don't know what's the point. For them, it massages their egos, makes them feel that they are attractive and they could have you if they wanted. In other words, fantasists and attention seekers. |
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"I often wonder what’s the point of trying to pm people on here.
Whether it’s the fact they love the attention but have no intention of meeting, that they receive wayyy too many messages or that it’s just a game to a lot of people.
I’m not exactly god’s gift but I thought I’d do a bit better than I am! (The women I have met here have been lovely by the way)"
Try and see it the other side. If you could see the messages most women will get on here and the sheer volume of them, you’ll see the numbing effect it has too. It’s not you individually it’s the dynamics of the site. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"What is the point in stating we don't meet men 90% of our messages are from men.
I got no interest in the penis.
Mrs
What's the point in message filters if you're not going to use them, then have a little complain when men still message. We all know that 95% of men are on the dim side and will always 'try their luck.'
What's the point in blocking all people & not being able to socialise just because some blokes are pricks.
Mrs "
You don't have to block all people, just men. You either want men to message you or you don't!  |
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"What is the point in stating we don't meet men 90% of our messages are from men.
I got no interest in the penis.
Mrs
What's the point in message filters if you're not going to use them, then have a little complain when men still message. We all know that 95% of men are on the dim side and will always 'try their luck.'
What's the point in blocking all people & not being able to socialise just because some blokes are pricks.
Mrs
You don't have to block all people, just men. You either want men to message you or you don't! "
I chat to men yes, dick pics and wanna fuck messages no.
I shouldn't have to filter out all men because some can't contain themselves, I'm not responsible for their shit behaviour.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I often wonder what’s the point of trying to pm people on here.
Whether it’s the fact they love the attention but have no intention of meeting, that they receive wayyy too many messages or that it’s just a game to a lot of people.
I’m not exactly god’s gift but I thought I’d do a bit better than I am! (The women I have met here have been lovely by the way)
Try and see it the other side. If you could see the messages most women will get on here and the sheer volume of them, you’ll see the numbing effect it has too. It’s not you individually it’s the dynamics of the site. "
Yes, it is what it is, been going on for too long me thinks. Hence we all have filters on and should respect them. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"I often wonder what’s the point of trying to pm people on here.
Whether it’s the fact they love the attention but have no intention of meeting, that they receive wayyy too many messages or that it’s just a game to a lot of people.
I’m not exactly god’s gift but I thought I’d do a bit better than I am! (The women I have met here have been lovely by the way)"
We are not everyone's cup of tea. |
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What’s the point of having no profile text, 2 cock pics and message “hey”
What is supposed to attract anyone’s attention there?
I do understand the soul destruction of unread/unanswered messages. But put some effort once into your profile & you may get at least a response.
I try to respond to most people who have made some effort.
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"What's the point of sending a good first message? You put all that effort in and it won't be read or it will be read but no reply is a reply despite the profile telling you to send a good first message. It's absolutely pointless and I'll embrace the hate I get for that opinion.
Couldn’t agree more. It’s soul destroying"
I respect that but we do not owe anyone anything not even a reply and I have sent messages to profiles and no response. It is what it is. Sadly. Likewise met some fantastic people over the years.
For me I see it as a silent no thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"What’s the point of having no profile text, 2 cock pics and message “hey”
What is supposed to attract anyone’s attention there?
I do understand the soul destruction of unread/unanswered messages. But put some effort once into your profile & you may get at least a response.
I try to respond to most people who have made some effort.
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Are we saying that more effort is needed in a fab CV? I see it as a filter. |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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No illusion on fab it is what it is.
If you thought fab had a guarantee then sorry did you read profiles, read terms and conditions. There is no guarantee and neither sex are here with legs open.
Have fun chatting
Start a connection or not
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"What’s the point of having no profile text, 2 cock pics and message “hey”
What is supposed to attract anyone’s attention there?
I do understand the soul destruction of unread/unanswered messages. But put some effort once into your profile & you may get at least a response.
I try to respond to most people who have made some effort.
Are we saying that more effort is needed in a fab CV? I see it as a filter. "
That’s a very good point!!! |
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By (user no longer on site) 35 weeks ago
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"What is the point in stating we don't meet men 90% of our messages are from men.
I got no interest in the penis.
Mrs
What's the point in message filters if you're not going to use them, then have a little complain when men still message. We all know that 95% of men are on the dim side and will always 'try their luck.'
What's the point in blocking all people & not being able to socialise just because some blokes are pricks.
Mrs
You don't have to block all people, just men. You either want men to message you or you don't!
I chat to men yes, dick pics and wanna fuck messages no.
I shouldn't have to filter out all men because some can't contain themselves, I'm not responsible for their shit behaviour.
Mrs "
But your initial 'what's the point' was about men messaging as you don't meet men. Nothing said about dick pics or men's "shit behaviour." Anyway you know what you mean, it's about as clear as mud to me. You have a good day |
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What's the point of a deleted profile?
We seem to find so many men that previously had a profile with lots of veris etc but deleted it and then returned, with their new profile not saying much more than the fact they were here previously and had loads of veris... why delete it then?
Mr has been for years and been times when barely on or could be bothered but still never deleted  |
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"What is the point in stating we don't meet men 90% of our messages are from men.
I got no interest in the penis.
Mrs
What's the point in message filters if you're not going to use them, then have a little complain when men still message. We all know that 95% of men are on the dim side and will always 'try their luck.'
What's the point in blocking all people & not being able to socialise just because some blokes are pricks.
Mrs
You don't have to block all people, just men. You either want men to message you or you don't!
I chat to men yes, dick pics and wanna fuck messages no.
I shouldn't have to filter out all men because some can't contain themselves, I'm not responsible for their shit behaviour.
Mrs
But your initial 'what's the point' was about men messaging as you don't meet men. Nothing said about dick pics or men's "shit behaviour." Anyway you know what you mean, it's about as clear as mud to me. You have a good day "
Urgh, men messaging to meet quite clearly since we don't meet men as stated.
I remember why I have gone off men.
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Lying-no point. I am honest about the fact I am married (ENM and my wife is aware I am here), why we play solo and not as a couple (my wife does not want to) my size (body size that is) and all my photos are new or a month or so old. I am ignored or receive “not my type “ replies but at least I know I’m for real. |
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