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I fancy but I don’t like you; I like you but don’t fancy you.
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Don't care about being liked to tbh. Too old to worry about what other people's opinions of me are. Now if they fancy me, then great let's get it on  . So to answer your question, I'd definitely prefer for them to fancy me. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 29 weeks ago
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Being fancied is superficially pleasing, but ultimately you're just being regarded as an animated sex toy. That's okay, it has its place in context. But it is very sulerficial.
Personally, I'd prefer to be liked.  |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Liking someone or being liked is the best feeling, I think it shows that somebody has taken the time out to get to know you and there’s some common ground.
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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Being liked isn’t much of a buzz for me, however being understood and “got” is something so much better and makes me feel more connected and less isolated from the other humans who can sometimes seem so far away with their thoughts and views. I’ll take a bit of mutual respect over being liked any day of the week!
Fancied can be handy! Nobody wants to be that lovely bloke who no one else fancies, despite how well liked he is    |
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"Lots of people want me for my body with zero concept of the person attached. It has no value to me.
I like when people like who I am 
Or even just for your arse "
We like you to   ...sorry couldn't resist  |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I’d rather be liked than fancied, how about you.
Obviously liked and fancy is simply the best but we can’t always have that can we. "
If I don't like someone I'm not going to fancy them ever |
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By *eliWoman 29 weeks ago
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"Being liked isn’t much of a buzz for me, however being understood and “got” is something so much better and makes me feel more connected and less isolated from the other humans who can sometimes seem so far away with their thoughts and views. I’ll take a bit of mutual respect over being liked any day of the week!
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Very much agree with Whatshisface above. I mean, don't get me wrong, it's nice to be liked by those I like. I'd much rather feel like they know me and want to know me though. If that makes sense.
In terms of fancying me? Well, I rather like being desired by another, those messages that have me smiling to myself when it's obvious they do. The flirting. The tactile ways in which someone communicates that.
You can be fancied and liked. I'm greedy so I'm going to say both but being just liked isn't lesser. My friends are as important to me even if it's platonic. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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You’ve definitely gotta like someone to even fancy them- someone can look absolutely amazing, but if the personality is not nice then there is no chance they would be fancied |
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These days I'm not that fussed what people think of me
But if I had to choose, I'd rather be liked. Which often is the case as I'm usually the one that's friend zoned I even friend zoned myself just the other day |
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"These days I'm not that fussed what people think of me
But if I had to choose, I'd rather be liked. Which often is the case as I'm usually the one that's friend zoned I even friend zoned myself just the other day "
I was trying to work out in my head about being ‘zoned’ on fab and it was pretty confusing.
‘I like you but I don’t want to anything else.’ was a more than a bit of a downer.
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"These days I'm not that fussed what people think of me
But if I had to choose, I'd rather be liked. Which often is the case as I'm usually the one that's friend zoned I even friend zoned myself just the other day
I was trying to work out in my head about being ‘zoned’ on fab and it was pretty confusing.
‘I like you but I don’t want to anything else.’ was a more than a bit of a downer.
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I think it's pretty confusing whether it's fab, dating sites or meeting in person we're only human after all. But I guess we can't win them all. Sending big hugs Mr xx |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway. "
Well, If I thought that was true, it would mean I or you all wrong….
But I also wish more women were into this… 
Joke^ |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Well, If I thought that was true, it would mean I or you all wrong….
But I also wish more women were into this…
Joke^"
Why do you like me Woody? Because you want sex. Let's not pretend it's anything else!
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Well, If I thought that was true, it would mean I or you all wrong….
But I also wish more women were into this…
Joke^
Why do you like me Woody? Because you want sex. Let's not pretend it's anything else!
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I’d rather be liked than fancied, how about you.
Obviously liked and fancy is simply the best but we can’t always have that can we. "
I’d rather my friends liked me. I couldn’t care less what strangers thought of me, as they’re liking me or fancying me doesn’t change my day to day life.
I’d love nothing more than a few girl friends to not only like me but also fancy me as you say op, that way I might have some kind of sex life in this swinging way of doing things right now.
So, hopefully I attract a few people to fancy me who might want to get to know me.
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"I’d rather be liked than fancied, how about you.
Obviously liked and fancy is simply the best but we can’t always have that can we.
I’d rather my friends liked me. I couldn’t care less what strangers thought of me, as they’re liking me or fancying me doesn’t change my day to day life.
I’d love nothing more than a few girl friends to not only like me but also fancy me as you say op, that way I might have some kind of sex life in this swinging way of doing things right now.
So, hopefully I attract a few people to fancy me who might want to get to know me.
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* waves at Woody then runs away and hides |
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By *eliWoman 29 weeks ago
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway. "
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things. |
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I doubt that anyone fancies me as such, what's to fancy about a past the best non-op trans woman who prefers women? The only thing I've got going for me is that I hope, if someone gets to know me, that I can be likeable. |
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"I’d rather be liked than fancied, how about you.
Obviously liked and fancy is simply the best but we can’t always have that can we.
I’d rather my friends liked me. I couldn’t care less what strangers thought of me, as they’re liking me or fancying me doesn’t change my day to day life.
I’d love nothing more than a few girl friends to not only like me but also fancy me as you say op, that way I might have some kind of sex life in this swinging way of doing things right now.
So, hopefully I attract a few people to fancy me who might want to get to know me.
* waves at Woody then runs away and hides "
Can I watch |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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I can't fancy someone without liking them first. They could be totally hot but have zero personality. For me, sex should be fun and you should be able to have a laugh with the person too. If I don't like them, that's not going to happen.
Me? I'd rather be liked than fancied |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I can't fancy someone without liking them first. They could be totally hot but have zero personality. For me, sex should be fun and you should be able to have a laugh with the person too. If I don't like them, that's not going to happen.
Me? I'd rather be liked than fancied "
Couldn't have put it any better.
Liking someone is a precursor to fancying them for me.
I'd also rather be liked than fancied, mainly because if someone fancies my body but doesn't like my mind/ personality, it shows, & that would be a turn off. |
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I think being on the same wavelength as someone is more important than being liked. I like quite a lot of people but the people who get me, are far far less. The people who get and fancy me, like hens teeth. |
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"I think being on the same wavelength as someone is more important than being liked. I like quite a lot of people but the people who get me, are far far less. The people who get and fancy me, like hens teeth. "
I get you |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things. "
Male friends on fab that just like me for me and don't want sex? No.
Male people on fab I talk to and get on with but the only reason we do talk is because we want the sex? Yes. Are they classed as friends? No. Hot acquaintances, yes.
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"I can't fancy someone without liking them first. They could be totally hot but have zero personality. For me, sex should be fun and you should be able to have a laugh with the person too. If I don't like them, that's not going to happen.
Me? I'd rather be liked than fancied
Couldn't have put it any better.
Liking someone is a precursor to fancying them for me.
I'd also rather be liked than fancied, mainly because if someone fancies my body but doesn't like my mind/ personality, it shows, & that would be a turn off. "
Oh. I’ll carry that on, because it’s something that’s been talked about before. I can easily fancy someone before I like them. Because they look hot. Whether I still like them after I get to know them is a different thing. But it’s damn wonderful and amazingly sexy if it then turns into actually liking them, and getting together for the sex. How people think you can’t be friends like that, or stay friends afterwards, is still beyond my comprehension. It’s not like we got married or anything. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I’d rather be liked than fancied, how about you.
Obviously liked and fancy is simply the best but we can’t always have that can we.
I’d rather my friends liked me. I couldn’t care less what strangers thought of me, as they’re liking me or fancying me doesn’t change my day to day life.
I’d love nothing more than a few girl friends to not only like me but also fancy me as you say op, that way I might have some kind of sex life in this swinging way of doing things right now.
So, hopefully I attract a few people to fancy me who might want to get to know me.
* waves at Woody then runs away and hides
Can I watch "
Haha. Pervert. |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I can't fancy someone without liking them first. They could be totally hot but have zero personality. For me, sex should be fun and you should be able to have a laugh with the person too. If I don't like them, that's not going to happen.
Me? I'd rather be liked than fancied
Couldn't have put it any better.
Liking someone is a precursor to fancying them for me.
I'd also rather be liked than fancied, mainly because if someone fancies my body but doesn't like my mind/ personality, it shows, & that would be a turn off.
Oh. I’ll carry that on, because it’s something that’s been talked about before. I can easily fancy someone before I like them. Because they look hot. Whether I still like them after I get to know them is a different thing. But it’s damn wonderful and amazingly sexy if it then turns into actually liking them, and getting together for the sex. How people think you can’t be friends like that, or stay friends afterwards, is still beyond my comprehension. It’s not like we got married or anything. "
But they only like you because they want sex with you. Take sex out the equation they don't. That's my point.
*Await all the people saying no no no I'd still like them without the prospect of sex. Yeah ok.
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"I’d rather be liked than fancied, how about you.
Obviously liked and fancy is simply the best but we can’t always have that can we.
I’d rather my friends liked me. I couldn’t care less what strangers thought of me, as they’re liking me or fancying me doesn’t change my day to day life.
I’d love nothing more than a few girl friends to not only like me but also fancy me as you say op, that way I might have some kind of sex life in this swinging way of doing things right now.
So, hopefully I attract a few people to fancy me who might want to get to know me.
* waves at Woody then runs away and hides
Can I watch "
Watch me run away ? Sure but it's more of a penguin waddle |
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"On here liked and fancied. Don’t really want to be just liked, not really here to chat about the weather or make platonic friends, I have enough of those.
It has been awfully wet though. "
Sure has |
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"On here liked and fancied. Don’t really want to be just liked, not really here to chat about the weather or make platonic friends, I have enough of those.
It has been awfully wet though.
Sure has "
A good wet though. |
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Neither for me if I'm being honest.
I really couldn't give 2 hoots if random people like me or not, I think too many people put emphasis on that on here.
As for being "fancied" again not too fussed...some will, some won't but unless it's a 2 way street then it's rather pointless x |
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I can't fancy someone without liking them first. They could be totally hot but have zero personality. For me, sex should be fun and you should be able to have a laugh with the person too. If I don't like them, that's not going to happen.
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But they only like you because they want sex with you. Take sex out the equation they don't. That's my point.
*Await all the people saying no no no I'd still like them without the prospect of sex. Yeah ok.
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….. hold my beer someone.
I find a profile, and let’s agree I fancy the person in the photographs. After reading the text, I decide they probably have the same outlook as me. So we get talking and I begin to like them, enough to want sex with them, because after all, we both join the website which is kind of a hook up sex themed site.
Why after having the sex and all the excitement has died down, can you not stay friends in the same way as you were before enjoying sex together? The only thing that changed was, something sexually exciting or Intimate in the middle. No?
But I’m sure I only talk to a few people in Fab, because the only thing we have in common is Fab and sex. That, I do agree with.
But I do still agree with the op, I would rather someone like me and fancy me.
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"I can't fancy someone without liking them first. They could be totally hot but have zero personality. For me, sex should be fun and you should be able to have a laugh with the person too. If I don't like them, that's not going to happen.
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But they only like you because they want sex with you. Take sex out the equation they don't. That's my point.
*Await all the people saying no no no I'd still like them without the prospect of sex. Yeah ok.
….. hold my beer someone.
I find a profile, and let’s agree I fancy the person in the photographs. After reading the text, I decide they probably have the same outlook as me. So we get talking and I begin to like them, enough to want sex with them, because after all, we both join the website which is kind of a hook up sex themed site.
Why after having the sex and all the excitement has died down, can you not stay friends in the same way as you were before enjoying sex together? The only thing that changed was, something sexually exciting or Intimate in the middle. No?
But I’m sure I only talk to a few people in Fab, because the only thing we have in common is Fab and sex. That, I do agree with.
But I do still agree with the op, I would rather someone like me and fancy me.
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But you weren't friends before? You contacted them and got talking to them on the premise of sex.
Your beers on the floor... |
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"I can't fancy someone without liking them first. They could be totally hot but have zero personality. For me, sex should be fun and you should be able to have a laugh with the person too. If I don't like them, that's not going to happen.
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But they only like you because they want sex with you. Take sex out the equation they don't. That's my point.
*Await all the people saying no no no I'd still like them without the prospect of sex. Yeah ok.
….. hold my beer someone.
I find a profile, and let’s agree I fancy the person in the photographs. After reading the text, I decide they probably have the same outlook as me. So we get talking and I begin to like them, enough to want sex with them, because after all, we both join the website which is kind of a hook up sex themed site.
Why after having the sex and all the excitement has died down, can you not stay friends in the same way as you were before enjoying sex together? The only thing that changed was, something sexually exciting or Intimate in the middle. No?
But I’m sure I only talk to a few people in Fab, because the only thing we have in common is Fab and sex. That, I do agree with.
But I do still agree with the op, I would rather someone like me and fancy me.
But you weren't friends before? You contacted them and got talking to them on the premise of sex.
Your beers on the floor..."
And the ops question was like or fancy or don't like but fancy. Not both. I think.... |
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"Neither for me if I'm being honest.
I really couldn't give 2 hoots if random people like me or not, I think too many people put emphasis on that on here.
As for being "fancied" again not too fussed...some will, some won't but unless it's a 2 way street then it's rather pointless x"
I'm pretty much same as you... Either or is ok as long as the mood takes me.
However, I am sometimes taken aback when I politely refuse a sexual request, the men turn into hate calling me a bitch and c*nt etc. Zero respect never mind being polite... Incel-style hate not welcomed here. |
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By *eliWoman 29 weeks ago
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things.
Male friends on fab that just like me for me and don't want sex? No.
Male people on fab I talk to and get on with but the only reason we do talk is because we want the sex? Yes. Are they classed as friends? No. Hot acquaintances, yes.
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Ah that's fair enough. We all have different experiences on here, we're all "looking for" different things. Stands to reason that for some sex is the driving factor and friendship less so. |
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"my friends like me - If im playing they like me and then hopefully fancy me or the coffee is getting cold as im in my car and on the way home!! Are you playing in the car on the way home? "
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By (user no longer on site) 29 weeks ago
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things.
Male friends on fab that just like me for me and don't want sex? No.
Male people on fab I talk to and get on with but the only reason we do talk is because we want the sex? Yes. Are they classed as friends? No. Hot acquaintances, yes.
Ah that's fair enough. We all have different experiences on here, we're all "looking for" different things. Stands to reason that for some sex is the driving factor and friendship less so. "
The question was liked and not fancied or fancied and not liked. I want the sex.
I may have gone on a rant about men but the end is the same! |
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things.
Male friends on fab that just like me for me and don't want sex? No.
Male people on fab I talk to and get on with but the only reason we do talk is because we want the sex? Yes. Are they classed as friends? No. Hot acquaintances, yes.
Ah that's fair enough. We all have different experiences on here, we're all "looking for" different things. Stands to reason that for some sex is the driving factor and friendship less so.
The question was liked and not fancied or fancied and not liked. I want the sex.
I may have gone on a rant about men but the end is the same! "
If that’s what you want, that’s what you want. |
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things.
Male friends on fab that just like me for me and don't want sex? No.
Male people on fab I talk to and get on with but the only reason we do talk is because we want the sex? Yes. Are they classed as friends? No. Hot acquaintances, yes.
Ah that's fair enough. We all have different experiences on here, we're all "looking for" different things. Stands to reason that for some sex is the driving factor and friendship less so.
The question was liked and not fancied or fancied and not liked. I want the sex.
I may have gone on a rant about men but the end is the same!
If that’s what you want, that’s what you want. "
I'm just gonna go bang my head against a wall.
Be back after the concussion wears off. |
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By *eliWoman 29 weeks ago
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things.
Male friends on fab that just like me for me and don't want sex? No.
Male people on fab I talk to and get on with but the only reason we do talk is because we want the sex? Yes. Are they classed as friends? No. Hot acquaintances, yes.
Ah that's fair enough. We all have different experiences on here, we're all "looking for" different things. Stands to reason that for some sex is the driving factor and friendship less so.
The question was liked and not fancied or fancied and not liked. I want the sex.
I may have gone on a rant about men but the end is the same! "
Noooo, not in the slightest Coyote. I didn't notice any ranting.
I'm being greedy and somewhat ignoring the OP because I know both is possible and I don't really operate (what a fucking naff word but I'm not paid for these words so it's fine) without both.
Do you think you'd ever have a platonic male friend from here? |
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"I'll take the guys who just want to fuck me. They all fake liking you anyway.
Maybe they like you and want to fuck you.
Maybe they just like you and don't want to fuck you.
It doesn't mean they're fake liking you. Do you not have male friends?
P.S I might be the naive optimistic to your tad pessimistic take on things.
Male friends on fab that just like me for me and don't want sex? No.
Male people on fab I talk to and get on with but the only reason we do talk is because we want the sex? Yes. Are they classed as friends? No. Hot acquaintances, yes.
Ah that's fair enough. We all have different experiences on here, we're all "looking for" different things. Stands to reason that for some sex is the driving factor and friendship less so.
The question was liked and not fancied or fancied and not liked. I want the sex.
I may have gone on a rant about men but the end is the same!
Noooo, not in the slightest Coyote. I didn't notice any ranting.
I'm being greedy and somewhat ignoring the OP because I know both is possible and I don't really operate (what a fucking naff word but I'm not paid for these words so it's fine) without both.
Do you think you'd ever have a platonic male friend from here?"
I wasn't saying I want sex with randomers I don't like, I was saying that the "like" part is superficial and a means to the end. It's not genuine friendship.
A platonic male friend? What are these creatures. But no, but I'm not interested in that so I don't look for it. I can only cope with so many friends in my life and I'm ok for now.
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"These days I'm not that fussed what people think of me
But if I had to choose, I'd rather be liked. Which often is the case as I'm usually the one that's friend zoned I even friend zoned myself just the other day
I was trying to work out in my head about being ‘zoned’ on fab and it was pretty confusing.
‘I like you but I don’t want to anything else.’ was a more than a bit of a downer.
I think it's pretty confusing whether it's fab, dating sites or meeting in person we're only human after all. But I guess we can't win them all. Sending big hugs Mr xx"
Thanks
These things happen, not gonna appeal to everyone and we all have different likes and fancies.
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