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By (user no longer on site) OP 46 weeks ago
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A question…
To give you some context, I often get referred to as being a gent etc etc and it got me thinking. For myself that’s just good manners but I keep getting told it might be the norm for you but it’s not the norm norm ( you get what I mean)
If manners maketh the man, what manner or mannerism stand out to you most?
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Just to be a pedant it's also 'manners maketh man'.
The ONLY reason I know is when I heard Colin Firth say it in Kingsman, so I looked it up bc I've only heard it with the added 'the'. The correct idiom usage is without.
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By (user no longer on site) OP 46 weeks ago
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"Just to be a pedant it's also 'manners maketh man'.
The ONLY reason I know is when I heard Colin Firth say it in Kingsman, so I looked it up bc I've only heard it with the added 'the'. The correct idiom usage is without.
I doff my hat to this rather high-brow educational source "
Well I shall file that nugget and adjust myself accordingly
Clearly should be kept indoors and away from people haha |
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By *andT2023Couple 46 weeks ago
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We live in a self indulgent world where most are out for themselves and what they can get from a situation.
Manners indicate a level of care and respect for someone else ...care over their wants /needs.rare commodity these days
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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Manners are a given in my world, doesn't take much to say please and thank you. I think the biggest show of character these days is the ability to do things for others with the knowledge you won't get a thank you or gratitude, but doing it anyway. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 46 weeks ago
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"Kids today don't get taught to have respect and manners"
This old chestnut. When I was a kid (over 40 years ago) you'd hear adults complain about exactly the same thing. My daughter is now in her early 20s; over the course of her primary and secondary schooling, and even into her university career, my impression of most of her peers was that you got ill-mannered ones (usually, but not exclusively, with ill-mannered parents), but most were perfectly respectful and well-mannered towards others.
Give it 10 -15 years; a good number of them will be complaining about how "the kids of today" (circa 2040) don't get taught respect and manners. |
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The manners that stand out to me the most are the ones that aren't stereotypical and performative.
There's an old story where a man was invited to a banquet with the king and his nobles. He did not have the money for a full dress shirt, and so used a front that looked like a dress shirt.
It was custom that you took off your dress jacket when the king did. The king took his jacket off. Through embarrassment, this man did too, revealing his naked back and his poverty.
The king then took his shirt off so all would be shirtless at the table and this man would not continue to be humiliated.
That's manners. Not "I always open the door for a laydee" and other performative self-congratulatory bullshit. |
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anyone mentions manners and my Kid's immediate comment 'good manners never killed anyone' - maybe i have brain washed her a bit with that one!!!
But it's true! where is the harm in thanking someone who moves to the side to let you pass or holds a door for you. Or passes you something or acknowledges your existence in the queue.
Think its skipped a generation and now becoming extinct - and of course all the data and media usage, no need for it apparently - sad state of affairs because I feel that with manner comes respect.
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"anyone mentions manners and my Kid's immediate comment 'good manners never killed anyone' - maybe i have brain washed her a bit with that one!!!
But it's true! where is the harm in thanking someone who moves to the side to let you pass or holds a door for you. Or passes you something or acknowledges your existence in the queue.
Think its skipped a generation and now becoming extinct - and of course all the data and media usage, no need for it apparently - sad state of affairs because I feel that with manner comes respect.
rant over"
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By (user no longer on site) OP 46 weeks ago
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"The manners that stand out to me the most are the ones that aren't stereotypical and performative.
There's an old story where a man was invited to a banquet with the king and his nobles. He did not have the money for a full dress shirt, and so used a front that looked like a dress shirt.
It was custom that you took off your dress jacket when the king did. The king took his jacket off. Through embarrassment, this man did too, revealing his naked back and his poverty.
The king then took his shirt off so all would be shirtless at the table and this man would not continue to be humiliated.
That's manners. Not "I always open the door for a laydee" and other performative self-congratulatory bullshit."
I like that story. Now that is manners! |
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"The manners that stand out to me the most are the ones that aren't stereotypical and performative.
There's an old story where a man was invited to a banquet with the king and his nobles. He did not have the money for a full dress shirt, and so used a front that looked like a dress shirt.
It was custom that you took off your dress jacket when the king did. The king took his jacket off. Through embarrassment, this man did too, revealing his naked back and his poverty.
The king then took his shirt off so all would be shirtless at the table and this man would not continue to be humiliated.
That's manners. Not "I always open the door for a laydee" and other performative self-congratulatory bullshit."
That’s not manners. That’s class. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Manners are the only free thing left today that we all have access to!!
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That’s a good thought. But is it the only thing that’s free?
Manners don’t cost anything, and I’m pretty damn overly polite, and I’m alright with that, and I will continue. |
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"Manners are the only free thing left today that we all have access to!!
That’s a good thought. But is it the only thing that’s free?
Manners don’t cost anything, and I’m pretty damn overly polite, and I’m alright with that, and I will continue. "
Well said.
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Manners are the only free thing left today that we all have access to!!
That’s a good thought. But is it the only thing that’s free?
Manners don’t cost anything, and I’m pretty damn overly polite, and I’m alright with that, and I will continue.
Well said.
* offers handshake "
….wait a minute… have you just washed your hands, they’re wet! |
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"Manners are the only free thing left today that we all have access to!!
That’s a good thought. But is it the only thing that’s free?
Manners don’t cost anything, and I’m pretty damn overly polite, and I’m alright with that, and I will continue.
Well said.
* offers handshake
….wait a minute… have you just washed your hands, they’re wet! "
[Glow breaches the 4th wall and speaks directly to you dear readers…a simple gesture of goodwill, met with skepticism, this is why civilisation is in decline]
…Yes Woody. Sort of. |
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By (user no longer on site) 46 weeks ago
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"Manners are the only free thing left today that we all have access to!!
That’s a good thought. But is it the only thing that’s free?
Manners don’t cost anything, and I’m pretty damn overly polite, and I’m alright with that, and I will continue.
Well said.
* offers handshake
….wait a minute… have you just washed your hands, they’re wet!
[Glow breaches the 4th wall and speaks directly to you dear readers…a simple gesture of goodwill, met with skepticism, this is why civilisation is in decline]
…Yes Woody. Sort of. "
Narrator - ……*there’s a pause… as we listen to the ticking of a clock and we are reminded that Fab brings skepticism over time, but Woody trusts Glow.
…. So after a short while, which is a little longer than a moment, he rubs and wipes his own hands dry on his jeans and holds his open hand hoping for the best… |
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By *ags73Man 46 weeks ago
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"Just to be a pedant it's also 'manners maketh man'.
The ONLY reason I know is when I heard Colin Firth say it in Kingsman, so I looked it up bc I've only heard it with the added 'the'. The correct idiom usage is without.
I doff my hat to this rather high-brow educational source "
Sting gets it right in ‘Englishman in New York’ - had to look, but wasn’t he an English teacher |
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