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Do you think people on fab have sex more than the average person?
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"No I think they think and talk about it a whole lot more though " I think there’s a lot of people on this website barely having sex. Which is a shame for them but that’s the game | |||
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"I think there’s a lot of people on this website to have a sex life, and not succeeding." I wonder if some people are on here and use it as the only place to find sex. | |||
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"No. In fact if I didn't spend so much time on here slowly my self confidence and actually go out side and met people who don't hide behind screens. I would probably get laid way more. In fact fab has not contributed to a single sexual experience I have ever had. Come to think of it. What are we even doing here?" Do it. Try and come on less and see if it helps your confidence and see if you can get the sex. I’ll go out on the town with you if you’re in London. | |||
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"Are we talking about forum people or people in general on the site? Because I think the answer would vary. " Can I get your answer for both please | |||
"I think they're is a lot less sex on fab and a lot more wanking "Tbf, I think I have a fair amount of sex. Maybe more than the *average* person. Though maybe less than the average 26 year old  . And I think this site is a struggle for everyone on here of all genders compared to other sites/ apps/ spaces. | |||
"I think that those people on fab who do have sex do have more sex with more people than the average person." that makes sense. You may be right there | |||
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"Doubt it. Different, yes. More frequent, no. K " ooo. Ok  | |||
"Having read all the comments, I’d go for yes though. Not sure why, must be all the talking." you think we’re rabbits? | |||
"Having read all the comments, I’d go for yes though. Not sure why, must be all the talking." It's definitely the women's fault for not shagging all the the poor horny men | |||
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"Some definitely do, some definitely don't. The majority have a higher sex drive than the average but probably aren't having the opportunity to fulfil that need" Probably accurate for me, if I had more time available I certainly would try. | |||
"Are we talking about forum people or people in general on the site? Because I think the answer would vary. Can I get your answer for both please" Based on another thread that is running on the lounge forum. It would suggest that many on forum don't necessarily use fab to meet or if they do it's not very often. People I speak to who use the site but not the forums, in general have a lot more meets. So I think there's a people who are social swingers (i.e. like to hang out with like minded people), some who are here to meet and not into the social side and there's ones who are a mix of the two. | |||
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"Just a wankers site ain't it??? Mr "there’s a lot of wankers on here yep | |||
"I think they're is a lot less sex on fab and a lot more wanking
Tbf, I think I have a fair amount of sex. Maybe more than the *average* person. Though maybe less than the average 26 year old . And I think this site is a struggle for everyone on here of all genders compared to other sites/ apps/ spaces. "When i was 26 i was having sex 4 times a day daily but only with one person haha | |||
"Just a wankers site ain't it??? Mr "Takes one to know one  | |||
"Having read all the comments, I’d go for yes though. Not sure why, must be all the talking. you think we’re rabbits?" Confident yes. | |||
"I think they're is a lot less sex on fab and a lot more wanking
Tbf, I think I have a fair amount of sex. Maybe more than the *average* person. Though maybe less than the average 26 year old . And I think this site is a struggle for everyone on here of all genders compared to other sites/ apps/ spaces.
When i was 26 i was having sex 4 times a day daily but only with one person haha "That sounds like hell. I could never. Even if I wanted to do it that often I have a small child that ends up in my bed every night. | |||
"Just a wankers site ain't it??? Mr there’s a lot of wankers on here yep"people of self exploration? | |||
"Are we talking about forum people or people in general on the site? Because I think the answer would vary. Can I get your answer for both please Based on another thread that is running on the lounge forum. It would suggest that many on forum don't necessarily use fab to meet or if they do it's not very often. People I speak to who use the site but not the forums, in general have a lot more meets. So I think there's a people who are social swingers (i.e. like to hang out with like minded people), some who are here to meet and not into the social side and there's ones who are a mix of the two. " I think this is spot on - I don’t think the forums are really representative of the site and it does amuse me when people ask questions about how to meet on the forum. They are basically asking the wrong crowd | |||
"Are we talking about forum people or people in general on the site? Because I think the answer would vary. Can I get your answer for both please Based on another thread that is running on the lounge forum. It would suggest that many on forum don't necessarily use fab to meet or if they do it's not very often. People I speak to who use the site but not the forums, in general have a lot more meets. So I think there's a people who are social swingers (i.e. like to hang out with like minded people), some who are here to meet and not into the social side and there's ones who are a mix of the two. I think this is spot on - I don’t think the forums are really representative of the site and it does amuse me when people ask questions about how to meet on the forum. They are basically asking the wrong crowd "Frida is a God amongst men on here | |||
"Are we talking about forum people or people in general on the site? Because I think the answer would vary. Can I get your answer for both please Based on another thread that is running on the lounge forum. It would suggest that many on forum don't necessarily use fab to meet or if they do it's not very often. People I speak to who use the site but not the forums, in general have a lot more meets. So I think there's a people who are social swingers (i.e. like to hang out with like minded people), some who are here to meet and not into the social side and there's ones who are a mix of the two. " If I had more free time, I’d be going to clubs or searching/chatting rather than on the forums so above makes sense. | |||
"Having read all the comments, I’d go for yes though. Not sure why, must be all the talking. It's definitely the women's fault for not shagging all the the poor horny men "Guilty AF, Your Honour | |||
"Just a wankers site ain't it??? Mr
Takes one to know one "nah not me... I'm far to busy with my Sudoku puzzles to be doing thing like that | |||
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"Really don't think so. To many who talk the talk but when it comes to action they either disappear or just plain no show " That’s true. I see so many complaints about this | |||
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"Nope." Meet me in my inbox later. And keep the Birks on  | |||
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These days it seems to be mostly singletons moaning about something or another. | |||
"Are we talking about forum people or people in general on the site? Because I think the answer would vary. Can I get your answer for both please Based on another thread that is running on the lounge forum. It would suggest that many on forum don't necessarily use fab to meet or if they do it's not very often. People I speak to who use the site but not the forums, in general have a lot more meets. So I think there's a people who are social swingers (i.e. like to hang out with like minded people), some who are here to meet and not into the social side and there's ones who are a mix of the two. I think this is spot on - I don’t think the forums are really representative of the site and it does amuse me when people ask questions about how to meet on the forum. They are basically asking the wrong crowd
Frida is a God amongst men on here"Not quite, more is the pity | |||
"Dunno what came over me just then" cold shower. highly recommended | |||
"Dunno what came over me just then cold shower. highly recommended" This is your fault  | |||
"I think they're is a lot less sex on fab and a lot more wanking
Tbf, I think I have a fair amount of sex. Maybe more than the *average* person. Though maybe less than the average 26 year old . And I think this site is a struggle for everyone on here of all genders compared to other sites/ apps/ spaces.
When i was 26 i was having sex 4 times a day daily but only with one person haha
That sounds like hell.
I could never. Even if I wanted to do it that often I have a small child that ends up in my bed every night. "Oh no it was wonderful | |||
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"Yep. Absolutely 1 million times more than on average. Fact "Not you though. Fact. | |||
"I bloody hope so ! It’s been April 2018 here , can’t believe I’m not blind yet " You haven’t had sex since 2018? | |||
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"Nope and I’d happily wank than touch the wife hence why I’m here " And I ooop- | |||
"Yep. Absolutely 1 million times more than on average. Fact
Not you though. Fact. "Oh god no. Not me. I’ve given up the sex. I’m dedicating my life to the baby Jesus  | |||
"Yep. Absolutely 1 million times more than on average. Fact
Not you though. Fact.
Oh god no. Not me. I’ve given up the sex. I’m dedicating my life to the baby Jesus "fair. Proverbs 3:5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart | |||
"Yep. Absolutely 1 million times more than on average. Fact
Not you though. Fact.
Oh god no. Not me. I’ve given up the sex. I’m dedicating my life to the baby Jesus fair.
Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart"That was a memory verse when I was 11 and you left out the bit that goes with it Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will keep your path straight. (5-6) | |||
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"God only knows...!" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NADx3-qRxek | |||
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"My sex life is non existent " Why is this? | |||
"God only knows...! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NADx3-qRxek" xxx | |||
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"I think they're is a lot less sex on fab and a lot more wanking
Tbf, I think I have a fair amount of sex. Maybe more than the *average* person. Though maybe less than the average 26 year old . And I think this site is a struggle for everyone on here of all genders compared to other sites/ apps/ spaces.
When i was 26 i was having sex 4 times a day daily but only with one person haha "4 times daily? That's a lot. Is that once before breakfast, once during the morning break, then another after lunch then one for dessert after supper just to start the process again the next morning. You hussy.
I'm so jealous | |||
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"Nope and I’d happily wank than touch the wife hence why I’m here " I feel for you, if you are in a sex less relationship. | |||
"Yep. Absolutely 1 million times more than on average. Fact
Not you though. Fact.
Oh god no. Not me. I’ve given up the sex. I’m dedicating my life to the baby Jesus fair.
Proverbs 3:5
Trust in the Lord with all your heart
That was a memory verse when I was 11 and you left out the bit that goes with it
Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will keep your path straight. (5-6)"You lil Bible basher | |||
"I'd ask the Q - there are solo folk on here seeking sex... They're often not getting it... So why? " The men aren't getting it cos they're loads of men and a handful of women comparatively, why aren't the women getting any? I'm surprised to hear that even the more tastier ladies are not getting some. Is it the wrong kind of guys? Lack of creativity or chemistry? | |||
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"I'd ask the Q - there are solo folk on here seeking sex... They're often not getting it... So why? The men aren't getting it cos they're loads of men and a handful of women comparatively, why aren't the women getting any? I'm surprised to hear that even the more tastier ladies are not getting some. Is it the wrong kind of guys? Lack of creativity or chemistry?" On here? Because there's way too many men, and a lack of ladies. Most of the nice looking men are attached even if we pretend they are not. Same for the ladies too... Fab is not the place to meet a partner sadly! Though a few do... Its a meat market no different from any dating site. Just folk are more upfront | |||
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"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes " Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up? | |||
"What is sex, Stephen?" I’ll show you SG x | |||
"What is sex, Stephen? I’ll show you SG x" you set that one up | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up? "#PayingAttention | |||
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"What is sex, Stephen? I’ll show you SG x you set that one up" You better! | |||
"What is sex, Stephen? I’ll show you SG x you set that one up You better!" Oh the fun we would have | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
#PayingAttention"Couples always do better Stephen... Unless they're a solo female | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
#PayingAttention
Couples always do better Stephen... Unless they're a solo female "I mean couples have sex with one another yeah | |||
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"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up? "Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. " Are you monogamous? | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
#PayingAttention
Couples always do better Stephen... Unless they're a solo female
I mean couples have sex with one another yeah"
And they ALWAYS like the solo lady | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties "Q.i ... | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties "Were you so out there before? Or has your confidence grown since being a pair? Zero shaming, just curious | |||
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"What’s average? "5 inches. You’re fine | |||
"I'm leaving the forums. I need more sex. You folk have retarded my sex drive." Hope you come back soon x | |||
"What’s average?
5 inches. You’re fine"Such a man answer | |||
"I'm leaving the forums. I need more sex. You folk have retarded my sex drive." I've barely even commented!  | |||
"What’s average? "• ««————— about this much —————»» | |||
"I'm leaving the forums. I need more sex. You folk have retarded my sex drive. Hope you come back soon x" • Thank you, Vicar † | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous?" He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. | |||
"I'm leaving the forums. I need more sex. You folk have retarded my sex drive." *giggles*  | |||
"What’s average?
5 inches. You’re fine
Such a man answer "Got to make each other feel secure | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. " If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like | |||
"I'm leaving the forums. I need more sex. You folk have retarded my sex drive. Hope you come back soon x • Thank you, Vicar †" when you’re ready: Return to the LORD your God, for he is gracious and compassionate | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like" It's not just the moment of sex it's the different ways I play and a boyfriend would get in the way. | |||
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"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like" In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? " Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be | |||
"You are so right" I’m never not right | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties
Were you so out there before? Or has your confidence grown since being a pair? Zero shaming, just curious "I didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties
Were you so out there before? Or has your confidence grown since being a pair? Zero shaming, just curious
I didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now "Was that since meeting a partner? | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be" I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties
Were you so out there before? Or has your confidence grown since being a pair? Zero shaming, just curious
I didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner? "No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? " I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares? | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties
Were you so out there before? Or has your confidence grown since being a pair? Zero shaming, just curious
I didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner?
No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here "Because you met a lady friend quickly there? | |||
"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties
Were you so out there before? Or has your confidence grown since being a pair? Zero shaming, just curious
I didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner?
No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here
Because you met a lady friend quickly there? "Maybe it has nothing to do with this partner. That is ok | |||
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"I wouldn't be having lots of sex if I wasn't on here, so for me it's a yes Last year you weren't though? You found a partner? Hence the change? You haven't changed, your profile hasn't changed... You just buddied up?
Yes I found a fwb but I'm also meeting lots of people by going to lots of socials and parties
Were you so out there before? Or has your confidence grown since being a pair? Zero shaming, just curious
I didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner?
No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here
Because you met a lady friend quickly there? "I don't usually struggle in person, it's easier to attract in person I think than online but we were in a play room before long | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares?" Because regardless, most folk do have a set group going on? You do have a partner, you do have a child? There are very few folk who enter poly who are 'solo, single, no family, friends'? My point was they presumably do have others. The question was if someone within that framework becomes ill. Who is focusing on looking after them, and putting them as a priority? ie A partner develops cancer, needs treatment, but a partner has a wife, whose also has cancer, and 4 kids under 5... How do you balance that level of care? | |||
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"II didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner?
No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here
Because you met a lady friend quickly there?
Maybe it has nothing to do with this partner. That is ok "• BS. I'm afraid PD is all loved up now and we're all lower down the pecking order. He no longer messages me, doesn't Fab my photos, hasn't popped round my pied-à-terre to drop off a casserole or returned my Mulberry™ golfing umbrella or my vinyl LPs. He's ensconced in the bosom of his new belle. | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares? Because regardless, most folk do have a set group going on? You do have a partner, you do have a child? There are very few folk who enter poly who are 'solo, single, no family, friends'? My point was they presumably do have others. The question was if someone within that framework becomes ill. Who is focusing on looking after them, and putting them as a priority? ie A partner develops cancer, needs treatment, but a partner has a wife, whose also has cancer, and 4 kids under 5... How do you balance that level of care? " I guess you manage as best as you can. And you communicate. But like for me, this scenario is so specific. Like what if you were monogamous and your ex wife, mother of your 4 children gets cancer and someone you’re in love with but live separately from also gets cancer, how do you manage that? Like the point I’m making is- who fucking knows? You manage it when you’re in it. But also that difficult scenarios happen in any relationship type. It feels like you’re just trying to pick issues that can come up in non monogamy on a few times I’ve seen you talk about it. Which is fine but come on, it works for people, why does it matter? | |||
"II didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner?
No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here
Because you met a lady friend quickly there?
Maybe it has nothing to do with this partner. That is ok
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BS. I'm afraid PD is all loved up now and we're all lower down the pecking order. He no longer messages me, doesn't Fab my photos, hasn't popped round my pied-à-terre to drop off a casserole or returned my Mulberry™ golfing umbrella or my vinyl LPs.
He's ensconced in the bosom of his new belle."There's no love here
I'm sorry for not returning your things or giving you the attention you deserve, I'm sending a clone of my cock and some fruity lube to make up for it | |||
"The average person apparently has sex 54 times a year. So yes, I have far more than the average person. Granted it is all with P at the moment but I am more than fine with that. C" That’s a lot of times, C. I dunno if I’m hitting that | |||
"The average person apparently has sex 54 times a year. So yes, I have far more than the average person. Granted it is all with P at the moment but I am more than fine with that. C" I do more than that in a month, I'm obviously a sex addict | |||
"II didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner?
No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here
Because you met a lady friend quickly there?
Maybe it has nothing to do with this partner. That is ok
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BS. I'm afraid PD is all loved up now and we're all lower down the pecking order. He no longer messages me, doesn't Fab my photos, hasn't popped round my pied-à-terre to drop off a casserole or returned my Mulberry™ golfing umbrella or my vinyl LPs.
He's ensconced in the bosom of his new belle.
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There's no love here
I'm sorry for not returning your things or giving you the attention you deserve, I'm sending a clone of my cock and some fruity lube to make up for it "• You redeemed yourself with the fruity lube. | |||
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"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares? Because regardless, most folk do have a set group going on? You do have a partner, you do have a child? There are very few folk who enter poly who are 'solo, single, no family, friends'? My point was they presumably do have others. The question was if someone within that framework becomes ill. Who is focusing on looking after them, and putting them as a priority? ie A partner develops cancer, needs treatment, but a partner has a wife, whose also has cancer, and 4 kids under 5... How do you balance that level of care? I guess you manage as best as you can. And you communicate. But like for me, this scenario is so specific. Like what if you were monogamous and your ex wife, mother of your 4 children gets cancer and someone you’re in love with but live separately from also gets cancer, how do you manage that? Like the point I’m making is- who fucking knows? You manage it when you’re in it. But also that difficult scenarios happen in any relationship type. It feels like you’re just trying to pick issues that can come up in non monogamy on a few times I’ve seen you talk about it. Which is fine but come on, it works for people, why does it matter? "Of course these situations can happen for anyone - my only Q was to ask how would someone in a poly relationship then handle it? I'm neither bitching, nor picking? I just don't think you have a clear answer? As none of us would?... I'd rather you didn't make out I'm 'picking' though? As I'm not. And it's legit Q's, that unfortunately some folk may well find themselves in the position of | |||
"II didn't socialise for ages but have loads since August last year and I'm full of confidence now
Was that since meeting a partner?
No just because I'm meeting new people often that are on fab and I've built a really good circle of friends on here
Because you met a lady friend quickly there?
Maybe it has nothing to do with this partner. That is ok
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BS. I'm afraid PD is all loved up now and we're all lower down the pecking order. He no longer messages me, doesn't Fab my photos, hasn't popped round my pied-à-terre to drop off a casserole or returned my Mulberry™ golfing umbrella or my vinyl LPs.
He's ensconced in the bosom of his new belle.
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There's no love here
I'm sorry for not returning your things or giving you the attention you deserve, I'm sending a clone of my cock and some fruity lube to make up for it
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You redeemed yourself with the fruity lube. "I'm always thoughtful | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares? Because regardless, most folk do have a set group going on? You do have a partner, you do have a child? There are very few folk who enter poly who are 'solo, single, no family, friends'? My point was they presumably do have others. The question was if someone within that framework becomes ill. Who is focusing on looking after them, and putting them as a priority? ie A partner develops cancer, needs treatment, but a partner has a wife, whose also has cancer, and 4 kids under 5... How do you balance that level of care? I guess you manage as best as you can. And you communicate. But like for me, this scenario is so specific. Like what if you were monogamous and your ex wife, mother of your 4 children gets cancer and someone you’re in love with but live separately from also gets cancer, how do you manage that? Like the point I’m making is- who fucking knows? You manage it when you’re in it. But also that difficult scenarios happen in any relationship type. It feels like you’re just trying to pick issues that can come up in non monogamy on a few times I’ve seen you talk about it. Which is fine but come on, it works for people, why does it matter?
Of course these situations can happen for anyone - my only Q was to ask how would someone in a poly relationship then handle it? I'm neither bitching, nor picking? I just don't think you have a clear answer? As none of us would?... I'd rather you didn't make out I'm 'picking' though? As I'm not. And it's legit Q's, that unfortunately some folk may well find themselves in the position of "It does feel like you’re picking though
But I’m not the spokesperson for poly people.
I did say above anyway you communicate, set boundaries, set expectations and you manage it as best as you can. The scenario could happen but I think it would put strain on any relationship regardless of relationship type. So the solution will be the same for anyone. Talk. That’s the answer to most things imo. Talk talk talk. | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares? Because regardless, most folk do have a set group going on? You do have a partner, you do have a child? There are very few folk who enter poly who are 'solo, single, no family, friends'? My point was they presumably do have others. The question was if someone within that framework becomes ill. Who is focusing on looking after them, and putting them as a priority? ie A partner develops cancer, needs treatment, but a partner has a wife, whose also has cancer, and 4 kids under 5... How do you balance that level of care? I guess you manage as best as you can. And you communicate. But like for me, this scenario is so specific. Like what if you were monogamous and your ex wife, mother of your 4 children gets cancer and someone you’re in love with but live separately from also gets cancer, how do you manage that? Like the point I’m making is- who fucking knows? You manage it when you’re in it. But also that difficult scenarios happen in any relationship type. It feels like you’re just trying to pick issues that can come up in non monogamy on a few times I’ve seen you talk about it. Which is fine but come on, it works for people, why does it matter? "You're 26... Two people I know on FB who are 40-50 died this week... You get to have the joy of being young behind the back of your argument | |||
"The average person apparently has sex 54 times a year. " Not sure I’m on course for that even. | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares? Because regardless, most folk do have a set group going on? You do have a partner, you do have a child? There are very few folk who enter poly who are 'solo, single, no family, friends'? My point was they presumably do have others. The question was if someone within that framework becomes ill. Who is focusing on looking after them, and putting them as a priority? ie A partner develops cancer, needs treatment, but a partner has a wife, whose also has cancer, and 4 kids under 5... How do you balance that level of care? I guess you manage as best as you can. And you communicate. But like for me, this scenario is so specific. Like what if you were monogamous and your ex wife, mother of your 4 children gets cancer and someone you’re in love with but live separately from also gets cancer, how do you manage that? Like the point I’m making is- who fucking knows? You manage it when you’re in it. But also that difficult scenarios happen in any relationship type. It feels like you’re just trying to pick issues that can come up in non monogamy on a few times I’ve seen you talk about it. Which is fine but come on, it works for people, why does it matter?
You're 26... Two people I know on FB who are 40-50 died this week... You get to have the joy of being young behind the back of your argument "The relevance to this is neither were in monogamous relationships, and the fall out is not pleasant | |||
"I know I am getting more than the average single woman. I was asked today if I was looking for a boyfriend I said no I enjoy sex to much. Are you monogamous? He would have to put up with the fact that I wouldn't be. If you’re non monogamous then to can have as much sex as you like In an ideal world? What happens when someone asks for more? What if it's the partner of your child and you live together? How do you then tell them to back off? If your primary partner (who you don't live with), becomes ill at the same time as your child, or the primary partner becomes ill? Don’t understand the last questions in this imagined scenario. But I don’t think it has to be an ideal world for people to exist as non monogamous or poly or whatever they are. Plenty of us do it just fine. Communicate well and often. Set boundaries. If you’re experiencing jealousy or insecurity- talk. If you think it’s not for you, it doesn’t have to be I meant - as in what happens if your one of your partners become ill? Obviously a child is paramount. But if a life/poly partner becomes ill. Do you then absolve your every day expectations to your primary partner/children. To support a secondary partner if their needs become more? I don’t use terms like primary and secondary anymore. But in a hierarchical set up like this, it would depend. People do poly differently. The most important thing is to communicate. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Plus in this imagined scenario, which feels very specific, why are you the only partner of the person who gets ill? They don’t have a nesting partner? They could be solo poly relationship anarchist? Maybe they have friends and family with them? Children? This scenario feels really specific yet vague. Ultimately non monogamy works for people. And I’m sure it has worked in scenarios just like this. As long as everyone is happy, who cares? Because regardless, most folk do have a set group going on? You do have a partner, you do have a child? There are very few folk who enter poly who are 'solo, single, no family, friends'? My point was they presumably do have others. The question was if someone within that framework becomes ill. Who is focusing on looking after them, and putting them as a priority? ie A partner develops cancer, needs treatment, but a partner has a wife, whose also has cancer, and 4 kids under 5... How do you balance that level of care? I guess you manage as best as you can. And you communicate. But like for me, this scenario is so specific. Like what if you were monogamous and your ex wife, mother of your 4 children gets cancer and someone you’re in love with but live separately from also gets cancer, how do you manage that? Like the point I’m making is- who fucking knows? You manage it when you’re in it. But also that difficult scenarios happen in any relationship type. It feels like you’re just trying to pick issues that can come up in non monogamy on a few times I’ve seen you talk about it. Which is fine but come on, it works for people, why does it matter?
You're 26... Two people I know on FB who are 40-50 died this week... You get to have the joy of being young behind the back of your argument
The relevance to this is neither were in monogamous relationships, and the fall out is not pleasant "fair enough. Just think though, plenty of monogamous people have messy situations. I say this because, two non monogamous people have drama on fb, doesn’t feel like reason to worry about the relationship type. You know? I just feel like we don’t do this stuff with monogamous people despite there being as many or more drama on our fb feed.
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"I'd ask the Q - there are solo folk on here seeking sex... They're often not getting it... So why? The men aren't getting it cos they're loads of men and a handful of women comparatively, why aren't the women getting any? I'm surprised to hear that even the more tastier ladies are not getting some. Is it the wrong kind of guys? Lack of creativity or chemistry? On here? Because there's way too many men, and a lack of ladies. Most of the nice looking men are attached even if we pretend they are not. Same for the ladies too... Fab is not the place to meet a partner sadly! Though a few do... Its a meat market no different from any dating site. Just folk are more upfront " Did you just call me ugly? | |||
"Does being on here magically make you special, as in not average? " Being on here is a choice we all made, generally only those people with open minds or randy genitalia come here. I'd say most fabbers are more open than the average vanilla Tory voter in the village. So maybe we are a bit special no? | |||
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