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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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With someone you feel comfortable around and trust enough to be patient with you.
You can find that on fab if that’s what you think is best for you. Take your time, don’t rush into anything and good luck, OP  |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"Probably not on fab.
Any reason "
Because it should be with someone you've got to know properly for a while and someone you trust.
And might be hard to find that on fab or someone who want to do that on fab. Personally a big no from me and I've been asked by others before. |
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"Fab is not a kind place to the inexperienced, male or female.
I agree with this. And of course you are going to get the stupid answers, trying to be funny, but actually far from it."
Yes.
The best thing to do is to try to connect to people, and be yourself. Find someone who wants to connect with you.
I'm not saying that's easy. It isn't. But it's the only way to get over that hurdle.
Hell, a lot of men who do have sexual experience find it hard to find sex here. |
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Go to Germany to a decent brass house and get it done. You're 28, by this time you've probably worked yourself up about it so much that when you do meet someone you like it will become a major issue for you. I say smash some high class brass and then it doesn't matter how it goes but the barrier is broken. |
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By *orny-DJMan 36 weeks ago
Leigh-on-Sea |
"Fab is not a kind place to the inexperienced, male or female."
Not to mention the fact that the people of fab are looking for good times, with people who know what they are doing and not looking to teach someone with little to no experience.
Sorry to be harsh, but that's the reality.
People lead busy lives and fab is just part of what they like to do in their free time |
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"It's not time to make a change
Just relax, take it easy
You're still young, that's your fault
There's so much you have to know
Find a girl, settle down
If you want you can marry."
 I best not be the only one who sang this in my head.
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"It's not time to make a change
Just relax, take it easy
You're still young, that's your fault
There's so much you have to know
Find a girl, settle down
If you want you can marry.
I best not be the only one who sang this in my head.
Mrs "
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By *100Man 36 weeks ago
Essex |
"Car park behind asdas
You snob....most normal people do it beside the bins at Aldi  "
I prefer a more mature type of lady sucking on the pick and mix in Poundland they can get a bit lively if you want to loose your virginity or your teeth just wear your lucky pants and keep your fingers crossed |
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By *TG3Man 36 weeks ago
Dorchester |
"Car park behind asdas
You snob....most normal people do it beside the bins at Aldi
I'm more of a waitrose galyes but waitrose just don't have the coverage
you want coverage !!! co-op!"
yes but seedy |
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Without pressure from yourself to do it. Fab isn't likely the best place for virgin straight males as people generally are looking for experienced men and it's inherently and extremely difficult place for experienced men to get results here anyway.
I think you shouldn't look to Fab to be your solution to losing your virginity OP. It seems a potentially excessively stressful and avoidable additional stress factor for you.
You would likely be better focused on developing friendships with others, some of which may ultimately help to culture your adult development. You will benefit from what friends can give you for life. Everyone is welcome here but you will do well to look after your wellbeing overall |
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Don't pressure yourself first and foremost, and especially don't rush into losing it to someone you either don't have a connection with (eg a one night stand with someone you've only known an hour from the nightclub dance floor) or even worse, paying a brass. Whilst it may be the "quick and easy" option I gaurantee you'll end up regretting it. Always feel sorry for the poor buggers in Amsterdam chucked into a window cheered on by their mates to "lose it".
Whilst I'm not saying lose it to a life partner - if you end up getting serious with her then great - even if it's with someone you care about, emotionally it'll feel so much nicer.
I lost mine to a girl I was not really seriously seeing, because I was young, horny and she was wanting to do it. At the time, yes it felt the right thing. In hindsight, we talked maybe once a week, met up for a couple of hours on a weekend. Very causal friends at best. At the time I was also very good friends with another female, a pen pal I saw in person maybe twice a year, and when we had sex a year later it felt totally "right". It wasn't rushed, it wasn't just a spur of the moment thing. It was two people who genuinely cared for each other. |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"With someone you feel comfortable around and trust enough to be patient with you.
You can find that on fab if that’s what you think is best for you. Take your time, don’t rush into anything and good luck, OP "
Thank you for kind suggestions really appreciated |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Probably not on fab.
Any reason
Because it should be with someone you've got to know properly for a while and someone you trust.
And might be hard to find that on fab or someone who want to do that on fab. Personally a big no from me and I've been asked by others before."
Got it thank you really appreciated ???? |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Whats best way for a virgin male to loose its virginity or best place for first time
Go to clubs and meet people like you have been doing.
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I have started but I feel really ashamed talking to others and telling them I have never done it before most of people's laughs at me so I stop going there |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Fab is not a kind place to the inexperienced, male or female.
I agree with this. And of course you are going to get the stupid answers, trying to be funny, but actually far from it.
Yes.
The best thing to do is to try to connect to people, and be yourself. Find someone who wants to connect with you.
I'm not saying that's easy. It isn't. But it's the only way to get over that hurdle.
Hell, a lot of men who do have sexual experience find it hard to find sex here."
Yeah and it's really hard for me as well soon I started the conversation about it and told someone they make fun of it so sometimes I really feel embarrassed |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Go to Germany to a decent brass house and get it done. You're 28, by this time you've probably worked yourself up about it so much that when you do meet someone you like it will become a major issue for you. I say smash some high class brass and then it doesn't matter how it goes but the barrier is broken. "
Appreciated mate will put in my list |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Fab is not a kind place to the inexperienced, male or female.
Not to mention the fact that the people of fab are looking for good times, with people who know what they are doing and not looking to teach someone with little to no experience.
Sorry to be harsh, but that's the reality.
People lead busy lives and fab is just part of what they like to do in their free time"
Yeah I know I came on fab to come over my nervousness and it's work but some people will make you feel so embarrassed about it that can't be helped |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"It's not time to make a change
Just relax, take it easy
You're still young, that's your fault
There's so much you have to know
Find a girl, settle down
If you want you can marry."
Tbh that's my own thinking as well but it's really hard to find someone and start things going on |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Without pressure from yourself to do it. Fab isn't likely the best place for virgin straight males as people generally are looking for experienced men and it's inherently and extremely difficult place for experienced men to get results here anyway.
I think you shouldn't look to Fab to be your solution to losing your virginity OP. It seems a potentially excessively stressful and avoidable additional stress factor for you.
You would likely be better focused on developing friendships with others, some of which may ultimately help to culture your adult development. You will benefit from what friends can give you for life. Everyone is welcome here but you will do well to look after your wellbeing overall "
Thank you best advice I have find
Really appreciated |
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By *marty300 OP Man 36 weeks ago
Macclesfield |
"Don't pressure yourself first and foremost, and especially don't rush into losing it to someone you either don't have a connection with (eg a one night stand with someone you've only known an hour from the nightclub dance floor) or even worse, paying a brass. Whilst it may be the "quick and easy" option I gaurantee you'll end up regretting it. Always feel sorry for the poor buggers in Amsterdam chucked into a window cheered on by their mates to "lose it".
Whilst I'm not saying lose it to a life partner - if you end up getting serious with her then great - even if it's with someone you care about, emotionally it'll feel so much nicer.
I lost mine to a girl I was not really seriously seeing, because I was young, horny and she was wanting to do it. At the time, yes it felt the right thing. In hindsight, we talked maybe once a week, met up for a couple of hours on a weekend. Very causal friends at best. At the time I was also very good friends with another female, a pen pal I saw in person maybe twice a year, and when we had sex a year later it felt totally "right". It wasn't rushed, it wasn't just a spur of the moment thing. It was two people who genuinely cared for each other. "
Got it
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"Fab is not a kind place to the inexperienced, male or female.
Whats your advice then I am finding it hard to even find someone dating apps are so worst "
My advice is not to look here. It'd be demoralising.
Go out with mixed groups for hobbies. Make friends. Be patient.
And tell anyone making fun of you for your virginity to get in the bin. |
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By *oxesMan 36 weeks ago
Southend, Essex |
"Fab is not a kind place to the inexperienced, male or female.
Whats your advice then I am finding it hard to even find someone dating apps are so worst
My advice is not to look here. It'd be demoralising.
Go out with mixed groups for hobbies. Make friends. Be patient.
And tell anyone making fun of you for your virginity to get in the bin."
This is sound and fantastic advice. One should loose their virginity with someone they either love or who are close freinds with. |
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OP, there’s lots of well intentioned advice on here. But if I was waiting for someone special in real life to connect with me then I’d still be a virgin at 44.
Wait until you feel comfortable, but if you’re comfortable then go for it. Life is happening now, seize it, perfection may never come. |
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"It's not time to make a change
Just relax, take it easy
You're still young, that's your fault
There's so much you have to know
Find a girl, settle down
If you want you can marry."
I love that song, the duet Ronan did with cat Stevens was really great |
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Mate am a lazy cunt and didn't read replys so far. If you're a virgin my advice be don't rush shit it's not the be all and end all honestly sex isn't everything ano that'll come across as some sort b.s but it genuinely isn't. But fab genuinely isn't the place. There will be people happy take you v card from you but my dude think with more than your penis honestly as an older gentleman there is more to life (believe it or not I reject offers all the time) |
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