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"Is this the male or female talking? " this is the full couple its both of us | |||
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"It's just part of life for men on the net. It doesn't bother me any more " ok thats your take bug doesn't say how or what helped u get to that point | |||
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"It's just part of life for men on the net. It doesn't bother me any more ok thats your take bug doesn't say how or what helped u get to that point " 15+ years online | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations?" like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations?" and I give every convo 110 % its the opp person who gives up on the met or relationship then mails or views profile again and tryes to do same sort stuff I mean we've had it for last year on here u wanna fuck us come do it if u don't don't don't try and get connected with us sayyou wanna then just ghost people yeah within rights to do but also tell us what we did hell cant change or improve without help or criticism thus if we don't figure it out probly doomed to repeat the same failures | |||
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"Finding a woman for both members of a couple is hard. Danish and I have been on the site for almost 8 years together and had successfully met 1 woman on fab in that time, we used to use Kik rooms etc. granted a lot of the time we haven't looked that hard but we're pretty close to London, I imagine being in Scotland. what with the population being less dense would make it harder. Also it's harder to find 1 person attracted to both partners in a couple." this right hwre I'm actually glad someone else gets i really thought we was only one on a sex swinging site that wasn't having sex with others | |||
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"A lot may not be rejection. Its more than possible many are too far, too old, too young, just on here pretending, unsure or nervous factor all that in and you are no different than others trying to arrange a meet on here" thats still rejection to me u are choosing to like play with human drop them when u want as kid I was told if u do that your close to being the worse of the worse close to scammer | |||
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"You get used to it on here, it seems a lot harder to meet than before Covid." yeah I think in future people will ask if your vaxs and if so they say no meets and un vax sorem and normal male sperms will get a different t view not to me but to those unvaxers who believe the covid bs | |||
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"The DDLG dynamic would also put people off as that means entering an existing dynamic and not knowing their place within that, you would probably not have any issue finding men interested in your dynamic but women and couples may find it hard to provide what you're looking for." also thats our dynamic doesn't mean everyone has to hav sex with us like that sex is sex and what we do together is us what we do with others is what ever everyone enjoys its not just going be ddlg | |||
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"The DDLG dynamic would also put people off as that means entering an existing dynamic and not knowing their place within that, you would probably not have any issue finding men interested in your dynamic but women and couples may find it hard to provide what you're looking for." I'm just looking for fun times where people what me and my partner flaws and all | |||
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"I think you profile might need abit of work to it? Maybe more pictures that can give sort of an idea of what you guys are all about. We don't personally add everyone as friends,not even if we have actually meet, we normally view the public pics and since it is a couples profile, I would expect to see both partners. We also been rejected, many times, and that's okay because we know we can't be everyone's cup of tea. Also the best way to socialise personally I think is by going to events/clubs. Good luck guys Lina. " no we had hunnes of pics videos etc I prvated everything yestarday as there was people who would ignore us but come on to perv at out pic there was male who used female account there was people who would lie etc and stuff just to get video so I did a purge so the problems begain before yesterday's profile change but how else would u change the profile | |||
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"The DDLG dynamic would also put people off as that means entering an existing dynamic and not knowing their place within that, you would probably not have any issue finding men interested in your dynamic but women and couples may find it hard to provide what you're looking for.also thats our dynamic doesn't mean everyone has to hav sex with us like that sex is sex and what we do together is us what we do with others is what ever everyone enjoys its not just going be ddlg" As a Daddy Dom myself I'm just putting across opinions that I have found, I have joined couples that have sub/Dom relationships and tbh it feels weird even if I wasn't expected to be in that role it does very much make you think do I have to check with him or her before I do something with her, you asked a question I'm trying to give you answers | |||
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"I think you profile might need abit of work to it? Maybe more pictures that can give sort of an idea of what you guys are all about. We don't personally add everyone as friends,not even if we have actually meet, we normally view the public pics and since it is a couples profile, I would expect to see both partners. We also been rejected, many times, and that's okay because we know we can't be everyone's cup of tea. Also the best way to socialise personally I think is by going to events/clubs. Good luck guys Lina. " and I cant fully do this as my female is every sensory and to much is too overwhelming and crowds give her axity we bothy usty love raves but can't go now cause she get a certain way in crowds qnd I'm b honest no one ever invited us to private part as they are all for 6ft muscle and girls who r skiny with blonde hair so we decide to block that full scene as they in turn had decide to ignore us anyway | |||
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"Fab is a mix of peoplehere for differentreasons, what is this all about not sure if I will do it, I like the pictures I like the fantasy I would like to do this but can't get away I'm going to do this.....but now the opportunity is there can't bring myself to do it I need the right person and talking I have gone off them Then there are those meet, have met, and really enjoy. Chat, arrange something they may turn up. If all else fails message me and if we are close enough I may let you buy me coffee and ...... "yeah coffe am sorry isn't fulling my need can buy coffee for full coffe shop if I wanted a friend | |||
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"Age teaches you that you become less attractive and that your capacity to roll with rejection increases. I also refuse to entertain the notion that this site shouldn't be treated as anything but a bit of a laugh "wow so u treat a site for people to swing as laugh see ats what I mean if people hwre don't take things serious then to me they playing u and me like a sucker and just want what helps them me am not for that I call out peoples bs male or women and watch them piss in the wind as they try explain or lie or admit they a bad human in 2st place | |||
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"The DDLG dynamic would also put people off as that means entering an existing dynamic and not knowing their place within that, you would probably not have any issue finding men interested in your dynamic but women and couples may find it hard to provide what you're looking for.also thats our dynamic doesn't mean everyone has to hav sex with us like that sex is sex and what we do together is us what we do with others is what ever everyone enjoys its not just going be ddlg As a Daddy Dom myself I'm just putting across opinions that I have found, I have joined couples that have sub/Dom relationships and tbh it feels weird even if I wasn't expected to be in that role it does very much make you think do I have to check with him or her before I do something with her, you asked a question I'm trying to give you answers" see in my eyes why didn't u all speak about it before had yes communication is the key but if u already had that then u don't need communicate anymore as thats already agreed anyway I don't care when we meet couples there's no ddlg we just wanna fuck the people | |||
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"I don't know where in Scotland you are or how far you are willing to travel but I suggest a club might be good for you? While doughnut and I have both been in the lifestyle going on 10 years, it wasn't until we started going to clubs together we really started to meet people, that said it wasn't like we were shagging everyone but we did better at a club than on here x" Glasgow and I explain in other post why this would be a bad idea | |||
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"Tbh the best way to meet people is to go to group socials, be yourself, have fun and become regular, you will get much better results " can't as I said above | |||
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"Pretty much every couple I meet tells me that they struggle with meeting couples. _Really_ struggle. They all say there has to be at least two sets of attraction in both directions which is just really hard. That is why many of them just met a single male as it means only the Mrs has to have the attraction. If you add in restrictions on a profile then you limit the already small pool much further. The advice that would go to a single male also applies - try a club or go to a social. I would add that if I am doing something that isn’t working then I would change my approach. If I had had 100s of convos and no luck then I would probably change the way I approached those convos and do something different on them. Doesn’t really matter what that different thing is just so long as it is not the the thing that you are currently doing that is not working." thank uand its not couples we meet anyone who meets our needs at the time | |||
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"Pretty much every couple I meet tells me that they struggle with meeting couples. _Really_ struggle. They all say there has to be at least two sets of attraction in both directions which is just really hard. That is why many of them just met a single male as it means only the Mrs has to have the attraction. If you add in restrictions on a profile then you limit the already small pool much further. The advice that would go to a single male also applies - try a club or go to a social. I would add that if I am doing something that isn’t working then I would change my approach. If I had had 100s of convos and no luck then I would probably change the way I approached those convos and do something different on them. Doesn’t really matter what that different thing is just so long as it is not the the thing that you are currently doing that is not working." ok then if we go to a single males whats my male get out of this he wouldn't be having sex or anything other than what he already has or experiences thus there no incentive for him to wanna partake in that dynamic | |||
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"Pretty much every couple I meet tells me that they struggle with meeting couples. _Really_ struggle. They all say there has to be at least two sets of attraction in both directions which is just really hard. That is why many of them just met a single male as it means only the Mrs has to have the attraction. If you add in restrictions on a profile then you limit the already small pool much further. The advice that would go to a single male also applies - try a club or go to a social. I would add that if I am doing something that isn’t working then I would change my approach. If I had had 100s of convos and no luck then I would probably change the way I approached those convos and do something different on them. Doesn’t really matter what that different thing is just so long as it is not the the thing that you are currently doing that is not working." and thats exactly why we came to forum because we know its gotta be something and that has to change otherwise doomed to repeat same history | |||
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"First thing. If its getting to you. Maybe take a break for a while. Second the dynamic is not for everyone. The profile has one pic of some boobs and not very much else so it's going to be hard for anyone to connect with. The veris are suspiciously similar wording and length. Good luck but if it's getting to you. Maybe step back for a bit. Also there are plenty of threads like this by single guys, take a look at those, the advise offered there is equally applicable to couples profiles too. , " yeah thats what we are doing break now | |||
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"First thing. If its getting to you. Maybe take a break for a while. Second the dynamic is not for everyone. The profile has one pic of some boobs and not very much else so it's going to be hard for anyone to connect with. The veris are suspiciously similar wording and length. Good luck but if it's getting to you. Maybe step back for a bit. Also there are plenty of threads like this by single guys, take a look at those, the advise offered there is equally applicable to couples profiles too. Because I purged it because I feel no should have the right ro look at me or my partner naked now unless they actually want us naked , " | |||
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"First thing. If its getting to you. Maybe take a break for a while. Second the dynamic is not for everyone. The profile has one pic of some boobs and not very much else so it's going to be hard for anyone to connect with. The veris are suspiciously similar wording and length. Good luck but if it's getting to you. Maybe step back for a bit. Also there are plenty of threads like this by single guys, take a look at those, the advise offered there is equally applicable to couples profiles too. , " right but thats the thing am no conforming and making a cookie cutter profile to fit in with cool kids a want people to want us qnd ano thats hard to find that why I aske for 1 a help on how to deal with it and 2 help on how to make it less of a thing | |||
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"You're not looking for guys so you're talking about couples and women, yes? On the couples front theirs only one pic of you and none of the guy so thats the reason there and women well the women are fickle here so who knows "as a female profile orginaly won't let me upload my male if u want his profile its _aza1888 he has no problems with showing his face etc | |||
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"I'm impressed you found 100 people that:you both fancied and found interesting enough, potentially looking for what you are, with decent chat and all on the same day!! I've find about 2 a year " decent chat is where you lost me lol | |||
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"I think you profile might need abit of work to it? Maybe more pictures that can give sort of an idea of what you guys are all about. We don't personally add everyone as friends,not even if we have actually meet, we normally view the public pics and since it is a couples profile, I would expect to see both partners. We also been rejected, many times, and that's okay because we know we can't be everyone's cup of tea. Also the best way to socialise personally I think is by going to events/clubs. Good luck guys Lina. no we had hunnes of pics videos etc I prvated everything yestarday as there was people who would ignore us but come on to perv at out pic there was male who used female account there was people who would lie etc and stuff just to get video so I did a purge so the problems begain before yesterday's profile change but how else would u change the profile" For starters move a few back into the public - I would just moved the one where the two of ye are. I would maybe add more about ye as a person, nice to see what you guys are about Attend socials, that should get your name out. Lina.  | |||
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"People are on here for lots of reasons. Once you filter out the profiles looking for a porn alternative, there are people who are just bored and looking for something to kill time. There are genuine people on here too, but the more specific your dynamic and preferences, the smaller the choice of compatible profiles. When you factor in age and location too, the choice gets smaller again. Finally if you're only looking for couples, that narrows your choice even further. That doesn't mean you should change, it's just an example of why you may not have a huge selection of playmate options. For most people, using fab successfully means being proactive and creating situations where it's easy to connect with people. Clubs and socials are the easiest way to do this, but if you rule those out you may just have to keep plugging away at making contact with verified profiles who demonstrate they are active and meets. Good luck "so you detail the problem know we have one and explain one solution of this doesn't work stick to what your doing? | |||
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"Is this the male or female talking? this is the full couple its both of us" It sounds like a male talking | |||
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"I'm impressed you found 100 people that:you both fancied and found interesting enough, potentially looking for what you are, with decent chat and all on the same day!! I've find about 2 a year " also doubt most them fancy both of us but if at case then don't speak to us thats like picking up fruit thats all brused knowing full well that your not going eat or buy it someone else can appreciate that in a way you see uglyness | |||
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"Is this the male or female talking? this is the full couple its both of us It sounds like a male talking" in this moment it is but am sure female sitting nxt to me as I write this will like give your answer........ she said she feels like she looks a certain way so men only use her stuff fo porn and that its always older guys some in 60s and to her thats to far and she said she sorry to men right now as she's in a bi curious stage and want explore that but also doesn't mean she wouldn't have sex with other as we are completely open as I said our dynamic doesn't change depending on sex we have with others its just sex | |||
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"You don’t seem to be taking onboard any of the suggestions. It is coming over as your way or the high way. I am guessing everyone is taking the high way which is why you are struggling. Good luck "I am taking on your suggestions i understand what your saying cant implement them all right away times still a factor | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this" You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible." wait uv never had a convo about sex ever thus if we go thro your mails or dm ther won't be 1 sentence about nakedness or sexual activities am call bs on that but ok | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible." exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better | |||
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"You both being smokers will reduce your chances also, not preaching just commenting only one of us is q smoker and he's q 420 not cigs Anything drug related will turn a _lot_ of people off. It makes smokers look popular. ok but can't help it and yet popers and like xtc and is used alot on this site doesn't really turn anyone off ?? interesting that" really but you're asking why people aren't interested in you and in large amounts so maybe it does affect it | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. wait uv never had a convo about sex ever thus if we go thro your mails or dm ther won't be 1 sentence about nakedness or sexual activities am call bs on that but ok" You can call it what you want but I don't have sex talk with anyone I've never met and even with most of those I have met socially. As soon as someone starts talking about sex or only wanting to talk about sex I stop chatting with them. Sex chat with strangers is for fantasists. | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better" That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. | |||
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"Parting observation. You seem to be quite aggressive and not really open to making any changes. Perception is reality. Hope you work things out. " thats your view im am actually taken on board what other are saying discusting it with my partner and figuring out how to implement that as I said time is an actual thing | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. wait uv never had a convo about sex ever thus if we go thro your mails or dm ther won't be 1 sentence about nakedness or sexual activities am call bs on that but ok You can call it what you want but I don't have sex talk with anyone I've never met and even with most of those I have met socially. As soon as someone starts talking about sex or only wanting to talk about sex I stop chatting with them. Sex chat with strangers is for fantasists." see i aint trying have sex chat or any real chat am just wanting sex thats what this is for me if I wanted a person to fold in thats what I'd look for but I dont | |||
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"it’s the female side of the couple. we find it hard to find females and couples that want to join us. we don’t want single males because that’s not what we’re both looking for. I’m exploring my bi side more and mr wouldn’t enjoy a male. I’m not for leaving my partner out to meet a male because that’s not what either of us want " A woman looking to join you would want to see both of you. Mrs | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. " so just find a better way of selling yourself to make others want you | |||
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"it’s the female side of the couple. we find it hard to find females and couples that want to join us. we don’t want single males because that’s not what we’re both looking for. I’m exploring my bi side more and mr wouldn’t enjoy a male. I’m not for leaving my partner out to meet a male because that’s not what either of us want A woman looking to join you would want to see both of you. Mrs " yeah she would but as this was a women profile i cant upload pic of the male everyone we do his face pics don't get accepted | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. so just find a better way of selling yourself to make others want you" Isn't that fab? Everyone puts their "best" out there to attract people. You get out what you put in. | |||
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"I can't give profile advice because you haven't asked for it. I think people can see enough of us in the pics to know if there's any aesthetic attraction before we start chatting but then the connection - finding that is hard! Not everyone likes everyone else and that's ok. I don't take rejection on here personally - I don't expect everyone to want to fuck me. When messaging starts I'm fairly quiet I don't do small talk it irritates me so I don't think we give some as much attention as they need and the messages dwindle, it's life. Mrs " guess I must but be that wee creepy couple then at doesn't need fully like u to wanna fuck u to us a fuck is a fick its nothing but release of tension as I said if I wanted a full connection ad ask for that we don't | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. so just find a better way of selling yourself to make others want you Isn't that fab? Everyone puts their "best" out there to attract people. You get out what you put in. " I thought it was so by that logic would that mean that our best wasn't worthy or such or failed to meet the grade? | |||
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"I can't give profile advice because you haven't asked for it. I think people can see enough of us in the pics to know if there's any aesthetic attraction before we start chatting but then the connection - finding that is hard! Not everyone likes everyone else and that's ok. I don't take rejection on here personally - I don't expect everyone to want to fuck me. When messaging starts I'm fairly quiet I don't do small talk it irritates me so I don't think we give some as much attention as they need and the messages dwindle, it's life. Mrs guess I must but be that wee creepy couple then at doesn't need fully like u to wanna fuck u to us a fuck is a fick its nothing but release of tension as I said if I wanted a full connection ad ask for that we don't " No that's just you, but others aren't all the same, it's difficult to see if there's any attraction based on your pics alone. As a couple that looks for couples I wouldn't respond to a profile where I can't see what's on offer, because it's a waste of time and would end up with a wasted chat. (Which is what your finding) Mrs | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here " ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. so just find a better way of selling yourself to make others want you Isn't that fab? Everyone puts their "best" out there to attract people. You get out what you put in. I thought it was so by that logic would that mean that our best wasn't worthy or such or failed to meet the grade? " Out of the 100 people you messaged are they all exactly your type and what you want? | |||
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"Looked at both profiles, some may view it as a red flag you used the couples profile with webcams veris to verify the single male profile as a meet in person. The profile is basically your advert to others and potentially it's not describing what you really want and what you can offer others. Not everyone is into the dom/sub dynamic so may not engage with your profile. The info about how many conversations you tried to gerenrate yesterday- some can tell copy paste or mass spam targeting and don't like it. I had a copy/paste recently very much intended for a couples profile which I'm not. Get the point about not wanting to visit clubs for your own reasons. Would a group social on a smaller scale be an option just to get to know some others locally to you? Changes take time but lots of good advice has been given and the responses back could be viewed as negative. If someone with varied meet veris takes the time to help, maybe it's worth taking them on board. " thank you and can assure you we have no verifies on here because no one meets us thats the problem its not that we ain't in scene our vids hav been on page 1 thers defo 2 of us as in this one its the male replying on some of them its the female replying | |||
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"Looked at both profiles, some may view it as a red flag you used the couples profile with webcams veris to verify the single male profile as a meet in person. The profile is basically your advert to others and potentially it's not describing what you really want and what you can offer others. Not everyone is into the dom/sub dynamic so may not engage with your profile. The info about how many conversations you tried to gerenrate yesterday- some can tell copy paste or mass spam targeting and don't like it. I had a copy/paste recently very much intended for a couples profile which I'm not. Get the point about not wanting to visit clubs for your own reasons. Would a group social on a smaller scale be an option just to get to know some others locally to you? Changes take time but lots of good advice has been given and the responses back could be viewed as negative. If someone with varied meet veris takes the time to help, maybe it's worth taking them on board. " as for group and small group thing we spoke about that above the people who set up private parties never saw us as hot thus we was always the ones from outside looking in | |||
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"I can't give profile advice because you haven't asked for it. I think people can see enough of us in the pics to know if there's any aesthetic attraction before we start chatting but then the connection - finding that is hard! Not everyone likes everyone else and that's ok. I don't take rejection on here personally - I don't expect everyone to want to fuck me. When messaging starts I'm fairly quiet I don't do small talk it irritates me so I don't think we give some as much attention as they need and the messages dwindle, it's life. Mrs guess I must but be that wee creepy couple then at doesn't need fully like u to wanna fuck u to us a fuck is a fick its nothing but release of tension as I said if I wanted a full connection ad ask for that we don't " That gives the impression that you have no interest in the women you want to fuck and they are only a toy for your pleasure which is probably one of the reasons they are rejecting you. Correct me if I'm wrong but did you say above that a lot of the 100 or so chats you had yesterday were in response to messages you received asking to fuck you? If you are only looking for women how many of those messages were from women and if they were from men why were you replying? | |||
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"I can't give profile advice because you haven't asked for it. I think people can see enough of us in the pics to know if there's any aesthetic attraction before we start chatting but then the connection - finding that is hard! Not everyone likes everyone else and that's ok. I don't take rejection on here personally - I don't expect everyone to want to fuck me. When messaging starts I'm fairly quiet I don't do small talk it irritates me so I don't think we give some as much attention as they need and the messages dwindle, it's life. Mrs guess I must but be that wee creepy couple then at doesn't need fully like u to wanna fuck u to us a fuck is a fick its nothing but release of tension as I said if I wanted a full connection ad ask for that we don't No that's just you, but others aren't all the same, it's difficult to see if there's any attraction based on your pics alone. As a couple that looks for couples I wouldn't respond to a profile where I can't see what's on offer, because it's a waste of time and would end up with a wasted chat. (Which is what your finding) Mrs " yeah I purged the profile yestqrday | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. so just find a better way of selling yourself to make others want you Isn't that fab? Everyone puts their "best" out there to attract people. You get out what you put in. I thought it was so by that logic would that mean that our best wasn't worthy or such or failed to meet the grade? Out of the 100 people you messaged are they all exactly your type and what you want? " yeah if u mean attractive and I wanted to have sex with them yes thats all I need to have sex is wanting to have sex to me humans are humans I cany change therflqws thus I cant discard them because of them would be like someone not wanna sleep wit me or you because we are white its dumb reason to me all need know is do i find u hot do u find me hot if so then am good go | |||
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"Learn never to take things personally, have a look at what other people / couples have on their profile. You can then gauge what might be missing from your own. On demand meets are always difficult and usually found unattractive for a lot of genuine people who prefer to get to know a person / couple better before plunging into the deep end. Good luck though and I hope with time, you find what you're looking for." so your saying copy the cool kids | |||
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"Looked at both profiles, some may view it as a red flag you used the couples profile with webcams veris to verify the single male profile as a meet in person. The profile is basically your advert to others and potentially it's not describing what you really want and what you can offer others. Not everyone is into the dom/sub dynamic so may not engage with your profile. The info about how many conversations you tried to gerenrate yesterday- some can tell copy paste or mass spam targeting and don't like it. I had a copy/paste recently very much intended for a couples profile which I'm not. Get the point about not wanting to visit clubs for your own reasons. Would a group social on a smaller scale be an option just to get to know some others locally to you? Changes take time but lots of good advice has been given and the responses back could be viewed as negative. If someone with varied meet veris takes the time to help, maybe it's worth taking them on board. as for group and small group thing we spoke about that above the people who set up private parties never saw us as hot thus we was always the ones from outside looking in" A group social is different from a private party. I'm finding someone of the replies a bit conflicting. Truthfully I'm not sure what you are seeking from here as a couple. Many people want that connection not a "cum & go" others are. Maybe try the meet function and see who contacts you that way. | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x" so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say | |||
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"Learn never to take things personally, have a look at what other people / couples have on their profile. You can then gauge what might be missing from your own. On demand meets are always difficult and usually found unattractive for a lot of genuine people who prefer to get to know a person / couple better before plunging into the deep end. Good luck though and I hope with time, you find what you're looking for. so your saying copy the cool kids" Not sure where you read that. They absolutely didn't write that. | |||
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"I can't give profile advice because you haven't asked for it. I think people can see enough of us in the pics to know if there's any aesthetic attraction before we start chatting but then the connection - finding that is hard! Not everyone likes everyone else and that's ok. I don't take rejection on here personally - I don't expect everyone to want to fuck me. When messaging starts I'm fairly quiet I don't do small talk it irritates me so I don't think we give some as much attention as they need and the messages dwindle, it's life. Mrs guess I must but be that wee creepy couple then at doesn't need fully like u to wanna fuck u to us a fuck is a fick its nothing but release of tension as I said if I wanted a full connection ad ask for that we don't That gives the impression that you have no interest in the women you want to fuck and they are only a toy for your pleasure which is probably one of the reasons they are rejecting you. Correct me if I'm wrong but did you say above that a lot of the 100 or so chats you had yesterday were in response to messages you received asking to fuck you? If you are only looking for women how many of those messages were from women and if they were from men why were you replying? " I don't its sex o have a women I have a few women I don't want women I want women for my women and as I said I'm just in it for sex its not bad if thats how it is and also I don't mind if thats how they are to just don't like all the like yes no maybe a dno bs | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is " ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? | |||
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"Learn never to take things personally, have a look at what other people / couples have on their profile. You can then gauge what might be missing from your own. On demand meets are always difficult and usually found unattractive for a lot of genuine people who prefer to get to know a person / couple better before plunging into the deep end. Good luck though and I hope with time, you find what you're looking for. so your saying copy the cool kids Not sure where you read that. They absolutely didn't write that. " because he's said gauge whats missing from profile this means go on other fighure out why they are good profiles and implement that to your own this is like just straight u cheating in English class in my book qs you arnt being honest your just saying what u think others wanna here to get yu views qnd bangs | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. " again not dimming any of it taken it on board to se which we can practically implement into the site | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say " You don't "have" to sell yourself but in order to have any kind of success on here then you do. I mean no-one is going to be interested in a blank profile. If I were to meet a couple then I'd want to see pics of both, not just the woman. You said you can't add pics of the male on here so why not set up a new couples account....you never know, it might help x | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. " not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you?" if I found them attractive yes | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes" but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said | |||
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"Learn never to take things personally, have a look at what other people / couples have on their profile. You can then gauge what might be missing from your own. On demand meets are always difficult and usually found unattractive for a lot of genuine people who prefer to get to know a person / couple better before plunging into the deep end. Good luck though and I hope with time, you find what you're looking for. so your saying copy the cool kids Not sure where you read that. They absolutely didn't write that. because he's said gauge whats missing from profile this means go on other fighure out why they are good profiles and implement that to your own this is like just straight u cheating in English class in my book qs you arnt being honest your just saying what u think others wanna here to get yu views qnd bangs" So here comes the magic. If you keep doing what you're doing, don't be surprise when you get the same outcome. If you want to have a different outcome make a change. If you can't or won't make a change then accept the same outcomes. | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say You don't "have" to sell yourself but in order to have any kind of success on here then you do. I mean no-one is going to be interested in a blank profile. If I were to meet a couple then I'd want to see pics of both, not just the woman. You said you can't add pics of the male on here so why not set up a new couples account....you never know, it might help x" see thats where you think its off putting using words sell yourself but thats what your doing your advertising a time or experience wit yourself and as sia di cant do that if someone is writer works on profiles hmu al pay u but me myself I can't do it otherwise I would have been able to do it in thos interview I had previous said | |||
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"If thiz were a single guy asking 100 conversations that screams any holes a goal What were your expectations ? Its easier at clubs / socials If you're having success elsewhere use this as an extention to that " exactly what av said why we may take a step away as we get more from other sites | |||
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"Learn never to take things personally, have a look at what other people / couples have on their profile. You can then gauge what might be missing from your own. On demand meets are always difficult and usually found unattractive for a lot of genuine people who prefer to get to know a person / couple better before plunging into the deep end. Good luck though and I hope with time, you find what you're looking for. so your saying copy the cool kids Not sure where you read that. They absolutely didn't write that. because he's said gauge whats missing from profile this means go on other fighure out why they are good profiles and implement that to your own this is like just straight u cheating in English class in my book qs you arnt being honest your just saying what u think others wanna here to get yu views qnd bangs So here comes the magic. If you keep doing what you're doing, don't be surprise when you get the same outcome. If you want to have a different outcome make a change. If you can't or won't make a change then accept the same outcomes. " ok see this is sort of wisdom i was looking for change or fail trying the same shit but what I hear is yiu have to change you for other to maybe even like you q bot to wanna speak to u ok u may not have said that but that how I hear your sentence | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say You don't "have" to sell yourself but in order to have any kind of success on here then you do. I mean no-one is going to be interested in a blank profile. If I were to meet a couple then I'd want to see pics of both, not just the woman. You said you can't add pics of the male on here so why not set up a new couples account....you never know, it might help x" and cause that would take least months we both put year onto these profiles and can only upload 6 pic we have archives worth of stuff lol 6 pics and a profile change wid only be the same result wouldn't fully be new results until say a few months later when profile is full of 200videos etc | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers" I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. " so your not a swinger why u on swinger site that says fab swinger it litteraly in name and I want sex with people now as I said we tryed the swing scene and have been rejected at every turn lmao ?? hav your read the full thread if not do so and come back | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. so just find a better way of selling yourself to make others want you Isn't that fab? Everyone puts their "best" out there to attract people. You get out what you put in. I thought it was so by that logic would that mean that our best wasn't worthy or such or failed to meet the grade? Out of the 100 people you messaged are they all exactly your type and what you want? yeah if u mean attractive and I wanted to have sex with them yes thats all I need to have sex is wanting to have sex to me humans are humans I cany change therflqws thus I cant discard them because of them would be like someone not wanna sleep wit me or you because we are white its dumb reason to me all need know is do i find u hot do u find me hot if so then am good go" That's maybe your problem then. | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say You don't "have" to sell yourself but in order to have any kind of success on here then you do. I mean no-one is going to be interested in a blank profile. If I were to meet a couple then I'd want to see pics of both, not just the woman. You said you can't add pics of the male on here so why not set up a new couples account....you never know, it might help x and cause that would take least months we both put year onto these profiles and can only upload 6 pic we have archives worth of stuff lol 6 pics and a profile change wid only be the same result wouldn't fully be new results until say a few months later when profile is full of 200videos etc" How can you only upload 6 pics?? As others have said, you have been given quite a bit of advice (as you asked for) but don't seem to really want to take it on board. Only you can make a change, if you aren't prepared to do that then you can't expect better results. | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. " wait your guy from start lmao so whats wrong with just wanting sex then is that any different than wanting anything else your make it seem or or out that sex and intimacy need gaind not on site where people are openly say if whe have attraction we can have sex as I said before this doesn't mean I'm entitled and believe I desever to have it with everyone I never once said that I said that all I'm looking for not that I should always get it every day every monet every time I want or wish | |||
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"I have been on here before get rejected all the time sending messages mostly getting no reply and when I do get a reply it’s not interested I just get on with it hopefully someone on here will want me " ok so how did yu come to this point of acceptance | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. " I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said"---------------------------- As you both appear to be contributing to the thread it'd be helpful if you could let us know who you're referring to when you say "me", "I'm" etc | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. wait your guy from start lmao so whats wrong with just wanting sex then is that any different than wanting anything else your make it seem or or out that sex and intimacy need gaind not on site where people are openly say if whe have attraction we can have sex as I said before this doesn't mean I'm entitled and believe I desever to have it with everyone I never once said that I said that all I'm looking for not that I should always get it every day every monet every time I want or wish" What I'm saying is that swinging isn't all about sex. There's nothing wrong with just looking sex but that isn't swinging. | |||
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"I'm curious what you mean when you say you tried really hard with 100 people yesterday? That's 5 years worth of chatting for me so I'm wondering what level of investment you gave each of those 100 conversations? like as in I mailed hinders had conversation with least 10 or 20percent of the 1s who I mailed or spoke with qnd also remeber this isn't just on this app at any given time we have least 10 or 20 convos going with people ud be suprised if we meet one or 2 of them the actual success stat on here like astronomicly low unless your in the in group and tbh your kinda in the in group for example us qs couple standing nxt to u would look dumb and most would choose your profile over us for some reason or appeal etc qm not saying that bad am just wanting to know why or how to overcome this You've completely lost me about being in a group. I'm not in any groups and the only reason someone chooses one profile over another is because they find something interesting in that profile that appeals to them. To answer your original question I don't deal with rejection because I don't have conversations about sex or any type of conversation where I can be rejected. Lots of conversations fizzle out but I've only ever been told once that I wasn't someone's type. I haven't read your profile because of your age so I can't comment on your pics or bio but if you feel that someone would choose another profile over yours then maybe you are aware that you aren't presenting yourselves in the best way possible. exactly why we are here for advice but seems only one most can give is advertis yourself better or sell yourself better That's advice isn't it? There isn't a magic answer. so just find a better way of selling yourself to make others want you Isn't that fab? Everyone puts their "best" out there to attract people. You get out what you put in. I thought it was so by that logic would that mean that our best wasn't worthy or such or failed to meet the grade? Out of the 100 people you messaged are they all exactly your type and what you want? yeah if u mean attractive and I wanted to have sex with them yes thats all I need to have sex is wanting to have sex to me humans are humans I cany change therflqws thus I cant discard them because of them would be like someone not wanna sleep wit me or you because we are white its dumb reason to me all need know is do i find u hot do u find me hot if so then am good go That's maybe your problem then." maybe as I said 8 see myself as 1 or 2 so everyone's hotter than me thus am attracted to them its kind beautiful to me but to everyone else am desperate were as with me it doesn't matter who u are hair or how u look weigh or smell to me If your attractive then I'm going wanna try and get with u its just how I am do I expect u to want me hell no like on this forum id says theere less than 2 people who's unattractive to me ad litteraly have sex with everyone if they wanted me now maybe wull go on tangent about self love and confidence etc I have all of them its just my bar for attractive is low and all factor that sway other have no effect on me for example money job hous weath friend weight etc etc and most of thing are genetically this I look over them as something that can't be changed thats who the human is and I get attracted to them as they are not as who I wish or wanted them to be | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not "wow then am be real seems like yall are the problems for me why are u on swinging site if your not a swinger explain please seen as everyone in forum too a moneg to cross exam me let's see of yall are as forthcoming with candid secret about who you are personally | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say You don't "have" to sell yourself but in order to have any kind of success on here then you do. I mean no-one is going to be interested in a blank profile. If I were to meet a couple then I'd want to see pics of both, not just the woman. You said you can't add pics of the male on here so why not set up a new couples account....you never know, it might help x and cause that would take least months we both put year onto these profiles and can only upload 6 pic we have archives worth of stuff lol 6 pics and a profile change wid only be the same result wouldn't fully be new results until say a few months later when profile is full of 200videos etc How can you only upload 6 pics?? As others have said, you have been given quite a bit of advice (as you asked for) but don't seem to really want to take it on board. Only you can make a change, if you aren't prepared to do that then you can't expect better results." | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say You don't "have" to sell yourself but in order to have any kind of success on here then you do. I mean no-one is going to be interested in a blank profile. If I were to meet a couple then I'd want to see pics of both, not just the woman. You said you can't add pics of the male on here so why not set up a new couples account....you never know, it might help x and cause that would take least months we both put year onto these profiles and can only upload 6 pic we have archives worth of stuff lol 6 pics and a profile change wid only be the same result wouldn't fully be new results until say a few months later when profile is full of 200videos etc How can you only upload 6 pics?? As others have said, you have been given quite a bit of advice (as you asked for) but don't seem to really want to take it on board. Only you can make a change, if you aren't prepared to do that then you can't expect better results." because there daily limit on profile upload have u never saw it | |||
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"We aren't going to be everyone's cup of tea and that's absolutely fine. Personally I think your age (which there is nothing you can do about that) would put a lot of people off. Think of your profile as a shop window....If another woman had a similar profile....would you message?? Another tip I find is never engage in sexual conversation because most are just after wank material... Good luck x so you kind re affirming what am saying of this is like u have sell yourself and stuff etc if so that might be where I fail as I cant actually do that even in interviews I dno what say or what or how I say it is off putting this thread is an example for example some people here think I'm being a type of way just replying back to what they say You don't "have" to sell yourself but in order to have any kind of success on here then you do. I mean no-one is going to be interested in a blank profile. If I were to meet a couple then I'd want to see pics of both, not just the woman. You said you can't add pics of the male on here so why not set up a new couples account....you never know, it might help x and cause that would take least months we both put year onto these profiles and can only upload 6 pic we have archives worth of stuff lol 6 pics and a profile change wid only be the same result wouldn't fully be new results until say a few months later when profile is full of 200videos etc How can you only upload 6 pics?? As others have said, you have been given quite a bit of advice (as you asked for) but don't seem to really want to take it on board. Only you can make a change, if you aren't prepared to do that then you can't expect better results." again didn't say wasn't doing it and again changing things take time and time is actual thong ie it pass before while u have to change those things about u and profile its not like magic where can implement what yall saying right now like downloads of a computer real life don't work like at | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said
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As you both appear to be contributing to the thread it'd be helpful if you could let us know who you're referring to when you say "me", "I'm" etc"the couple as whole we are a couple a poly enm we both speak for each other you want us both to say at bottom of the messages whos whom | |||
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"OP, you've said you're having success on other sites, but not this one. Maybe take a step back, evaluate what it is you want, where you are most likely to find that, and focus your energy there. If a particular site isn't working for you, walk away. It's not worth the stress. " thanks if I am unable to implement the changes I feel thats what we will need do as u see above there's isn't people who actually swing or this site is more about other stuff an attractiveness etc rather than just finding people who are into swinging and s3x | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. wait your guy from start lmao so whats wrong with just wanting sex then is that any different than wanting anything else your make it seem or or out that sex and intimacy need gaind not on site where people are openly say if whe have attraction we can have sex as I said before this doesn't mean I'm entitled and believe I desever to have it with everyone I never once said that I said that all I'm looking for not that I should always get it every day every monet every time I want or wish What I'm saying is that swinging isn't all about sex. There's nothing wrong with just looking sex but that isn't swinging." thats your opinion , and as u said before everyone's in it for different reason and if its not swing to u ok but u can't say what swing is for everyone so please don't make blanket statement yall gave me it for maken a blanket statement above this I would like it if others didn't use blanket statements on us | |||
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"At least 100 people?! Sounds like you're just messaging anyone and everyone. Your tactics aren't working so have a re-think." ok but thats doesn't help but thanks for input | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not wow then am be real seems like yall are the problems for me why are u on swinging site if your not a swinger explain please seen as everyone in forum too a moneg to cross exam me let's see of yall are as forthcoming with candid secret about who you are personally"Why shouldn't I be? Why do you think there are so many single people on here....Swinging lost it's true meaning years ago. Plus swinging isn't just about "having sex"....a lot of true swingers like the community and like forming friendships. | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not wow then am be real seems like yall are the problems for me why are u on swinging site if your not a swinger explain please seen as everyone in forum too a moneg to cross exam me let's see of yall are as forthcoming with candid secret about who you are personally
Why shouldn't I be? Why do you think there are so many single people on here....Swinging lost it's true meaning years ago.
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"For example since start this thread 23 profiles viewed us 1 wink u wanna hear the stats on that tahts like 4% interaction rate now out of those no one mailed u sthus I ask why did 23 or 24 couples wither just looked our shit just to snoop or because they saw the form and wanted to do same to se what I'm talking about but in turn prove my point " I think you will find most of the people who viewed you did so to contribute constructively to this thread  | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not wow then am be real seems like yall are the problems for me why are u on swinging site if your not a swinger explain please seen as everyone in forum too a moneg to cross exam me let's see of yall are as forthcoming with candid secret about who you are personally
Why shouldn't I be? Why do you think there are so many single people on here....Swinging lost it's true meaning years ago.
Plus swinging isn't just about "having sex"....a lot of true swingers like the community and like forming friendships."I didnt say you shouldn't be i asked why u are you answer my question with another question this is what scalled defection qnd yes u can be and u can make friend but why u swinging site to make freind why not a social network site why do u use a platform mad efor peoe who wanna have fun and meets and friend etc when u can also do it else where am not saying u should im asking why u do | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not wow then am be real seems like yall are the problems for me why are u on swinging site if your not a swinger explain please seen as everyone in forum too a moneg to cross exam me let's see of yall are as forthcoming with candid secret about who you are personally
Why shouldn't I be? Why do you think there are so many single people on here....Swinging lost it's true meaning years ago.
Plus swinging isn't just about "having sex"....a lot of true swingers like the community and like forming friendships."swinging lost all meaning what u mean by that ?? | |||
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"Learn never to take things personally, have a look at what other people / couples have on their profile. You can then gauge what might be missing from your own. On demand meets are always difficult and usually found unattractive for a lot of genuine people who prefer to get to know a person / couple better before plunging into the deep end. Good luck though and I hope with time, you find what you're looking for. so your saying copy the cool kids Not sure where you read that. They absolutely didn't write that. because he's said gauge whats missing from profile this means go on other fighure out why they are good profiles and implement that to your own this is like just straight u cheating in English class in my book qs you arnt being honest your just saying what u think others wanna here to get yu views qnd bangs So here comes the magic. If you keep doing what you're doing, don't be surprise when you get the same outcome. If you want to have a different outcome make a change. If you can't or won't make a change then accept the same outcomes. ok see this is sort of wisdom i was looking for change or fail trying the same shit but what I hear is yiu have to change you for other to maybe even like you q bot to wanna speak to u ok u may not have said that but that how I hear your sentence" Yes that's pretty much the point. You can only change you. You can't force others to change. Every day we learn and change. We aren't the same as we were 5 years ago. Why not choose to make the changes that help you get what you want? | |||
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"For example since start this thread 23 profiles viewed us 1 wink u wanna hear the stats on that tahts like 4% interaction rate now out of those no one mailed u sthus I ask why did 23 or 24 couples wither just looked our shit just to snoop or because they saw the form and wanted to do same to se what I'm talking about but in turn prove my point I think you will find most of the people who viewed you did so to contribute constructively to this thread "yeah I know but thers actually least 16 or more proles full couples who didn't Hahaha u see no inner works of my profile views n such etc its same people and such I will say one shout out tho to the women who wa too scared to come on spit and she explained she understand the club thing and I do take all wat u said on board also I'm not bad spirited I am hippie and I wish everyone positive vibes in all future endeavours that you do may Allah repay yall will what ever you have 1000x more I flam no better than anyone else and will never wish anyone any harm | |||
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"For example since start this thread 23 profiles viewed us 1 wink u wanna hear the stats on that tahts like 4% interaction rate now out of those no one mailed u sthus I ask why did 23 or 24 couples wither just looked our shit just to snoop or because they saw the form and wanted to do same to se what I'm talking about but in turn prove my point I think you will find most of the people who viewed you did so to contribute constructively to this thread "love this tjo to assume u know who exactly looked at my profile is madness thats like me saying most whonlook at yiru are ginger men i have no actual evidence to prove what I said nor do you | |||
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"Learn never to take things personally, have a look at what other people / couples have on their profile. You can then gauge what might be missing from your own. On demand meets are always difficult and usually found unattractive for a lot of genuine people who prefer to get to know a person / couple better before plunging into the deep end. Good luck though and I hope with time, you find what you're looking for. so your saying copy the cool kids Not sure where you read that. They absolutely didn't write that. because he's said gauge whats missing from profile this means go on other fighure out why they are good profiles and implement that to your own this is like just straight u cheating in English class in my book qs you arnt being honest your just saying what u think others wanna here to get yu views qnd bangs So here comes the magic. If you keep doing what you're doing, don't be surprise when you get the same outcome. If you want to have a different outcome make a change. If you can't or won't make a change then accept the same outcomes. ok see this is sort of wisdom i was looking for change or fail trying the same shit but what I hear is yiu have to change you for other to maybe even like you q bot to wanna speak to u ok u may not have said that but that how I hear your sentence Yes that's pretty much the point. You can only change you. You can't force others to change. Every day we learn and change. We aren't the same as we were 5 years ago. Why not choose to make the changes that help you get what you want? " thanks your actual idea of advice is advice compare to a to do list | |||
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"People are on here for lots of reasons. Once you filter out the profiles looking for a porn alternative, there are people who are just bored and looking for something to kill time. There are genuine people on here too, but the more specific your dynamic and preferences, the smaller the choice of compatible profiles. When you factor in age and location too, the choice gets smaller again. Finally if you're only looking for couples, that narrows your choice even further. That doesn't mean you should change, it's just an example of why you may not have a huge selection of playmate options. For most people, using fab successfully means being proactive and creating situations where it's easy to connect with people. Clubs and socials are the easiest way to do this, but if you rule those out you may just have to keep plugging away at making contact with verified profiles who demonstrate they are active and meets. Good luck so you detail the problem know we have one and explain one solution of this doesn't work stick to what your doing?"Are you expecting strangers to resolve the problem for you? There's been plenty of advice in this thread from people trying to help. You've disagreed with most of it. If you aren't having any luck, try something different. If you don't want to try something different, stop worrying about the result. | |||
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"For example since start this thread 23 profiles viewed us 1 wink u wanna hear the stats on that tahts like 4% interaction rate now out of those no one mailed u sthus I ask why did 23 or 24 couples wither just looked our shit just to snoop or because they saw the form and wanted to do same to se what I'm talking about but in turn prove my point I think you will find most of the people who viewed you did so to contribute constructively to this thread "I went back recounted how men commented on this post zero 0 no of those views were contributed to the forum more like they saw the forum post the views the profile doing the exact thing I spoke about then u assumed they was all here to Help? Like as i said that was mad assement to say when you had zero evidence now supplied with evidence would u like to change your statement of is that yoru final word | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said
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"People are on here for lots of reasons. Once you filter out the profiles looking for a porn alternative, there are people who are just bored and looking for something to kill time. There are genuine people on here too, but the more specific your dynamic and preferences, the smaller the choice of compatible profiles. When you factor in age and location too, the choice gets smaller again. Finally if you're only looking for couples, that narrows your choice even further. That doesn't mean you should change, it's just an example of why you may not have a huge selection of playmate options. For most people, using fab successfully means being proactive and creating situations where it's easy to connect with people. Clubs and socials are the easiest way to do this, but if you rule those out you may just have to keep plugging away at making contact with verified profiles who demonstrate they are active and meets. Good luck so you detail the problem know we have one and explain one solution of this doesn't work stick to what your doing?
Are you expecting strangers to resolve the problem for you? There's been plenty of advice in this thread from people trying to help. You've disagreed with most of it. If you aren't having any luck, try something different. If you don't want to try something different, stop worrying about the result.
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not wow then am be real seems like yall are the problems for me why are u on swinging site if your not a swinger explain please seen as everyone in forum too a moneg to cross exam me let's see of yall are as forthcoming with candid secret about who you are personally
Why shouldn't I be? Why do you think there are so many single people on here....Swinging lost it's true meaning years ago.
Plus swinging isn't just about "having sex"....a lot of true swingers like the community and like forming friendships. I didnt say you shouldn't be i asked why u are you answer my question with another question this is what scalled defection qnd yes u can be and u can make friend but why u swinging site to make freind why not a social network site why do u use a platform mad efor peoe who wanna have fun and meets and friend etc when u can also do it else where am not saying u should im asking why u do"Simple answer....because I can. | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said
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Yes please"ok joan seeing as you asked i actually haven ever been asked this before ( male ) ps female kinda bit angry saying she's sick of people thinking i control her lmao ?? ?? ?? | |||
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"OP you are receiving plenty of good advice here and you are dismissing all of it. As a single woman I would have no interest in you on the basis of your scant profile and your attitude if this thread is anything to go by. You are coming across as another entitled couple who just wants an instant shag. not instantly but the purpose to me of swinger site it to be swingers I'm not a swinger but what you are describing isn't swinging. You just want sex. That isn't swinging. I don't think many on here are actual "swingers" these days....I know I'm not wow then am be real seems like yall are the problems for me why are u on swinging site if your not a swinger explain please seen as everyone in forum too a moneg to cross exam me let's see of yall are as forthcoming with candid secret about who you are personally
Why shouldn't I be? Why do you think there are so many single people on here....Swinging lost it's true meaning years ago.
Plus swinging isn't just about "having sex"....a lot of true swingers like the community and like forming friendships. I didnt say you shouldn't be i asked why u are you answer my question with another question this is what scalled defection qnd yes u can be and u can make friend but why u swinging site to make freind why not a social network site why do u use a platform mad efor peoe who wanna have fun and meets and friend etc when u can also do it else where am not saying u should im asking why u do
Simple answer....because I can. "ok didn't your English teach teach you that because isn't an answer yiu need explain that ? If so and yiu choose not to ok cool then but I'm just answer that for all I wanna answer now ans see how far it make convis break down ie cant be rules for one not for the other | |||
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"For example since start this thread 23 profiles viewed us 1 wink u wanna hear the stats on that tahts like 4% interaction rate now out of those no one mailed u sthus I ask why did 23 or 24 couples wither just looked our shit just to snoop or because they saw the form and wanted to do same to se what I'm talking about but in turn prove my point I think you will find most of the people who viewed you did so to contribute constructively to this thread I went back recounted how men commented on this post zero 0 no of those views were contributed to the forum more like they saw the forum post the views the profile doing the exact thing I spoke about then u assumed they was all here to Help? Like as i said that was mad assement to say when you had zero evidence now supplied with evidence would u like to change your statement of is that yoru final word"----------------------- Yawn | |||
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"You both being smokers will reduce your chances also, not preaching just commenting only one of us is q smoker and he's q 420 not cigs Anything drug related will turn a _lot_ of people off. It makes smokers look popular. ok but can't help it and yet popers and like xtc and is used alot on this site doesn't really turn anyone off ?? interesting thatreally but you're asking why people aren't interested in you and in large amounts so maybe it does affect it ano then can ask the inverse of why popper and and xtc don't make popel look down at u cause as I said see a lot of this on this site just stay up at weekend everyone is talking about p"I'm not talking about it, a few do and loads don't but it is something that puts people off | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said
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Yes please ok joan seeing as you asked i actually haven ever been asked this before ( male ) ps female kinda bit angry saying she's sick of people thinking i control her lmao ?? ?? ?? "------------------------ Your posts are hard enough to follow as it is, couples usually refer to themselves as "we", "us" when posting or are clear about who's writing if they don't. | |||
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"Can I ask a question how do most of yall deal with fact of rejection on here as we been on here years and no one from here really wants meet is it all like speaking then flaking out and like rejecting us by ghosting us? So how do yall deal with yhe draining of people clearly not finding u attractive or even wanting you , just because yestarday i tryed so hard with least 100 people on this site to still end up alone and no conversation, and this isn't a me problem as iv had other mets via different sites all month it seems to be that this site or people on it either reject people too much or are just like full of hot air I was wondering your thought and also how to help with current situation as I cant only think of leaving the site as I'm getting trotting from it that a normal porn site wouldnt provide" For couple I m not sure but for single man definitely frustrating. Every day 50-60 message but reply only from few (sorry we are not interested.) but I m keep trying fro. My side | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said
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"Can I ask a question how do most of yall deal with fact of rejection on here as we been on here years and no one from here really wants meet is it all like speaking then flaking out and like rejecting us by ghosting us? So how do yall deal with yhe draining of people clearly not finding u attractive or even wanting you , just because yestarday i tryed so hard with least 100 people on this site to still end up alone and no conversation, and this isn't a me problem as iv had other mets via different sites all month it seems to be that this site or people on it either reject people too much or are just like full of hot air I was wondering your thought and also how to help with current situation as I cant only think of leaving the site as I'm getting trotting from it that a normal porn site wouldnt provide" I think if something makes you feel upset or rejected, then you should take a break from it. That is my opiniom anyway. It is impossible to control others and how they respond so best to control your reaction. MrsAbz | |||
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"Can I ask a question how do most of yall deal with fact of rejection on here as we been on here years and no one from here really wants meet is it all like speaking then flaking out and like rejecting us by ghosting us? So how do yall deal with yhe draining of people clearly not finding u attractive or even wanting you , just because yestarday i tryed so hard with least 100 people on this site to still end up alone and no conversation, and this isn't a me problem as iv had other mets via different sites all month it seems to be that this site or people on it either reject people too much or are just like full of hot air I was wondering your thought and also how to help with current situation as I cant only think of leaving the site as I'm getting trotting from it that a normal porn site wouldnt provide" I would suggest that you look at why you feel rejected in the first place!, I feel there maybe something deeper at play here, rather than ehats going on, on fab. Rejection is a part of fab, it happens day in day out, if both of you or one of you, are not equipped to deal with that, without it tapping into past stuff, then maybe you need to have a think whether fab is the right place for you guys... Mr | |||
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"For example since start this thread 23 profiles viewed us 1 wink u wanna hear the stats on that tahts like 4% interaction rate now out of those no one mailed u sthus I ask why did 23 or 24 couples wither just looked our shit just to snoop or because they saw the form and wanted to do same to se what I'm talking about but in turn prove my point I think you will find most of the people who viewed you did so to contribute constructively to this thread love this tjo to assume u know who exactly looked at my profile is madness thats like me saying most whonlook at yiru are ginger men i have no actual evidence to prove what I said nor do you"I looked at your profile twice so I could contribute & offer advice - I browse in stealth mode like many women and couples I won't show on your who's looked at me. You've had plenty of good advice and dismissed it, tbh the attitude on here would be enough to put me off. At the end of the day you say you'd fuck anyone your attracted to, how do you guage attraction? Via the pics? You don't have enough pics to guage any attraction. Mrs | |||
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"Can I ask a question how do most of yall deal with fact of rejection on here as we been on here years and no one from here really wants meet is it all like speaking then flaking out and like rejecting us by ghosting us? So how do yall deal with yhe draining of people clearly not finding u attractive or even wanting you , just because yestarday i tryed so hard with least 100 people on this site to still end up alone and no conversation, and this isn't a me problem as iv had other mets via different sites all month it seems to be that this site or people on it either reject people too much or are just like full of hot air I was wondering your thought and also how to help with current situation as I cant only think of leaving the site as I'm getting trotting from it that a normal porn site wouldnt provide I think if something makes you feel upset or rejected, then you should take a break from it. That is my opiniom anyway. It is impossible to control others and how they respond so best to control your reaction. MrsAbz " thanks I think we are | |||
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"Your dynamics and you as a couple are not going to be everyone's cup of tea same as neither are ours, the sooner you realise that the easier fab will be. You keep mentioning is this a swinging site but you have to understand swinging is different for everyone it's not one size fits all. We don't meet on here anymore as if you think it's hard finding a women on here then try finding a bi couple and getting that 4 way connection and attraction it's almost impossible. Most people prefer socials first for their own safety especially single women and you can't really blame them can you. Maybe try looking for smaller more intimate parties in your area if the large events are not for you or maybe start thinking maybe your approach to fab and swinging in general might not be the way forward. " ok then whats swing for you thats my point caus effort me its sex only to be told thats not swing so I'm told its allot of things to many people only to be to my view of what I think of it isn't really swinging either thus am like wtf what u said there contradicts the other statements made by other in the forum | |||
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"I'm average below average in both looks and endowment. For me it means I always struggle even to get a message. I realised a long time ago I can either worry about what people think or just get on with it. Once I stopped caring it was easy. Sometimes I can can have multiple meetings in a day or it could be months. I just think be happy if it happens and if it doesn't as long as I've not travelled to them what have I lost. " wow wish I could have your mind set bro | |||
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"I think being realistic with your expectations is the best way to approach here ok thanks we expect that if u fancy us and say u wanna fuck that you actually do not just dream and talk about it come do it simple am be honest for us it all talk an no game thats what it is ----------------------------------------- So would you fuck anyone who contacted you saying they wanted to fuck you? if I found them attractive yes but thqts just me and why iv be called a perv and creep and desperado dan but to me if a attracted touch am attracted to you I cnat help it just is what it is now does that mean I desever or should get it no I'm not a spoild kid I know can't always get what you want as the stones said
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"Your dynamics and you as a couple are not going to be everyone's cup of tea same as neither are ours, the sooner you realise that the easier fab will be. You keep mentioning is this a swinging site but you have to understand swinging is different for everyone it's not one size fits all. We don't meet on here anymore as if you think it's hard finding a women on here then try finding a bi couple and getting that 4 way connection and attraction it's almost impossible. Most people prefer socials first for their own safety especially single women and you can't really blame them can you. Maybe try looking for smaller more intimate parties in your area if the large events are not for you or maybe start thinking maybe your approach to fab and swinging in general might not be the way forward. ok then whats swing for you thats my point caus effort me its sex only to be told thats not swing so I'm told its allot of things to many people only to be to my view of what I think of it isn't really swinging either thus am like wtf what u said there contradicts the other statements made by other in the forum" They've given you good advice - you are dismissing it all. Social events are great to meet new people - you can actually see them for a start. I quit Mrs | |||
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"I'm average below average in both looks and endowment. For me it means I always struggle even to get a message. I realised a long time ago I can either worry about what people think or just get on with it. Once I stopped caring it was easy. Sometimes I can can have multiple meetings in a day or it could be months. I just think be happy if it happens and if it doesn't as long as I've not travelled to them what have I lost. " my mum speaks like this all the time she just say aw well and gest on with it my brain need to analyse and figure out whats wrong not fix it but just idenfy th fleas and maybe start ther other are like fuck it water of a ducks back and in my teens I was like this but now I'm not | |||
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"Unless you are in the 20% of men sll women want then rejection is a fact of life that you accept and move on with life. ok so give some tips on how to deal with that fact don't just say accept it and move on thats not closure " People have tried. The only tip left is for you to change your mindset of how you deal with the fact that not everyone wants to meet you. | |||
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