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By *llie Rose OP Woman
over a year ago
By the seaside |
Totally irrational I know but it annoys me when someone calls me babes in an opening message. Sweetie, darling, doll etc not a problem but just that one word babes lol. It puts my back up and means the sender is straight away on an up hill struggle!
Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.
My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.
Ellie  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Over familiarity is most off putting "
I am not sure what it is about really - perhaps you are right and it is over familiarity that bugs me. Just because we are on this site it does not mean I want to get close to everybody who messages me. Maybe you are right and that is why it bugs me. But besides that, it is also about the guy/ couple seems to be useing the same terms for every woman and that indicates lack of differentiation (another bug of mine) - I feel I have a name - so why not use it  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"Like a lot of spivey sales men. If I tell you my names philip, don't call me phil!!!"
 Could not agree with you more. It is up to the name bearer to decide how he/she wants to be addressed. |
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over a year ago
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"Totally irrational I know but it annoys me when someone calls me babes in an opening message. Sweetie, darling, doll etc not a problem but just that one word babes lol. It puts my back up and means the sender is straight away on an up hill struggle!
Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.
My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.
Ellie "
Babes or hon or Hun
Hate it  |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
I am really puzzled - considering quite a few people really dont like "hun" (and I am not tlaking about the ones that have posted here alone, there are many who hate it).... why is it being used so much lol... |
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"Totally irrational I know but it annoys me when someone calls me babes in an opening message. Sweetie, darling, doll etc not a problem but just that one word babes lol. It puts my back up and means the sender is straight away on an up hill struggle!
Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.
My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.
Ellie "
how about "hey treacle tits"?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol  wow you're desperate! "
Guess you ain't heard of tongue in cheek then!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!
I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...
Some guys will say anything for a shag!! |
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I detest them all in a first or early messages.
It signifies that women are inferior to the sender. Just silly little girls that don't require respect let alone adult treatment.
Makes my flesh crawl.
Sadly .....so do the women that cow tow to it. |
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"If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol wow you're desperate!
Guess you ain't heard of tongue in cheek then! "
We call it rimming.... |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!
I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...
Some guys will say anything for a shag!!"
PMSL... thing is... for me that is such a guaranteed non-shag...;-) |
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"I detest them all in a first or early messages.
It signifies that women are inferior to the sender. Just silly little girls that don't require respect let alone adult treatment.
Makes my flesh crawl.
Sadly .....so do the women that cow tow to it. "
What does it signify when women use them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!
I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...
Some guys will say anything for a shag!!PMSL... thing is... for me that is such a guaranteed non-shag...;-)"
And me |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
They don't bother me to be honest, I've lived in quite a few place and I know they are not meant to be derogatory! I've even been called flower pot....can you guess what part of the country that is from? |
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"I detest them all in a first or early messages.
It signifies that women are inferior to the sender. Just silly little girls that don't require respect let alone adult treatment.
Makes my flesh crawl.
Sadly .....so do the women that cow tow to it.
What does it signify when women use them?"
Context dependent
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If a gal was messaging me, she could call me a 'dickhead' for all i care! Shows she cares enough to mail me in the first place! Lol wow you're desperate!
Guess you ain't heard of tongue in cheek then!
We call it rimming...."
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I just can't believe that someone with a well written profile, who is just your physical 'type', who writes a clearly individual message to you, writes about what they liked about your profile and why they are interested in making contact, sends a face pic (at which you think 'mmmmmm') .... would really blow all of their chances out of the water by ending the message "take care hun" |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"They don't bother me to be honest, I've lived in quite a few place and I know they are not meant to be derogatory! I've even been called flower pot....can you guess what part of the country that is from? I had this conversation with my OH and a few Brummie friends who insist some names are just part of the local way of talking. I get that to a degree but still dont like "hun" lol.. Now Flower pot... might be a differnet thing altogether "
Lol well the flower pot caller was a work connection, 20+ years my senior and from Yorkshire, so yes local dialect does come into it, and doesn't bother me one iota!
So, alright my little flower pot lol |
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So to turn it around, I know a woman that calls every guy she meets 'babe'.
She even calls her customers it ! She's a cab driver here in Essex. Not very lady like and she is a right loud mouth cow. She is good looking but that voice and the language is so off putting. |
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"I just can't believe that someone with a well written profile, who is just your physical 'type', who writes a clearly individual message to you, writes about what they liked about your profile and why they are interested in making contact, sends a face pic (at which you think 'mmmmmm') .... would really blow all of their chances out of the water by ending the message "take care hun""
That type of message would be top heavy on the postive side.
It's the 'hi babe' or 'lo sexy' ones that miss the mark. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!
I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...
Some guys will say anything for a shag!!"
Jangles you sexy gorgeous beautiful babe, I want you to grind my goat hun.  |
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"If the rest of the message is of good quality (and he's fit) I can easily overlook one word meant as a friendly term."
I'm with you. It's the 'Hun, wanna chat?' Messages that annoy me. A good message I can ignore the annoying bits x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason 
What's your name hun?"
Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason
What's your name hun?
Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask "
I'd call you a stud but Button Moon is too far for me to verify whether the moniker is apt. |
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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago
(She/ her) in Sensualityland |
"And guess how many messages I'm getting now with babes in them lol. Predictable! "
I actually have something about that in my profile text and does it make any difference? Hell, no! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I hate baby.. it totally grinds my goat!
I don't like, babes, hon and the usual bollocks of sexy, gorgeous, beautiful...
Some guys will say anything for a shag!!
Jangles you sexy gorgeous beautiful babe, I want you to grind my goat hun. "
Oh shurrup ya ruddy plum... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am the same, hate babe and any derivative with a passion, far too over familiar and see it more as a word to be used by the 20's age group, not 40-50 odd year blokes and I often pull people up on it 
But I don't mind honey, makes me feel all sweet |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason
What's your name hun?
Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask
I'd call you a stud but Button Moon is too far for me to verify whether the moniker is apt."
Just follow mr spoon, call him hun or babes and he'll take you anywhere, the weirdo |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I use the word hun for female friends or people I know well enough to use what is in my eyes a term of endearment. Never ever called a male that or similar.
Personally don't care if in a message I am called hun or other such words, babe I hate though as just sounds so chav like
But I wouldn't be put off, I do however hate being called Ju or Jules |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All of the above drive me nuts, why oh why do women i dont know insist on calling me hun, I picked my name on here for a feckin reason
What's your name hun?
Ah feck off, I just want a sexy woman to call me a stud, us that too much to ask
I'd call you a stud but Button Moon is too far for me to verify whether the moniker is apt.
Just follow mr spoon, call him hun or babes and he'll take you anywhere, the weirdo "
My lips are seated |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally irrational I know but it annoys me when someone calls me babes in an opening message. Sweetie, darling, doll etc not a problem but just that one word babes lol. It puts my back up and means the sender is straight away on an up hill struggle!
Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.
My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.
Ellie "
Ooooh, I'm with you there girl!!
I hate all pet names, especially in a first mail. Complete turn off. The killer word for me is "Hun".... I'm absolutely allergic!!!!
Rant over, lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally irrational I know but it annoys me when someone calls me babes in an opening message. Sweetie, darling, doll etc not a problem but just that one word babes lol. It puts my back up and means the sender is straight away on an up hill struggle!
Like I said irrational and I can laugh about it.
My question is what, if any, puts your back up especially if it is irrational.
Ellie "
Totally with you on this one sweetie
I really really dislike babe.... It reminds me of that little piggy in the movies |
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