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personality wise? Someone who fills the room with their persona and air of confidence and the centre of attention or a little more shy perhaps? From 1 to 10, where on the scale will you put yourself (0 - low confidence, 10- super confident).  |
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"personality wise? Someone who fills the room with their persona and air of confidence and the centre of attention or a little more shy perhaps? From 1 to 10, where on the scale will you put yourself (0 - low confidence, 10- super confident). "
It varies, I guess I’m in a lot of new places and situations at moment and new people can be difficult sometimes, some that crack a light anc I can have a laugh with are great and that’s easier, some maybe more difficult.
I guess life experience helps but new people and that sort of thing is still a bit difficult having been used to being myself that bit. |
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I am Leo, Sun, Dragon, Fire +
Some days an 8, some days I got to 10.
But, I do sometimes have a crisis of confidence, but i tend to fill A room; if i decide to?
With age though I’ve become more ‘know your audience’, for a minute or so. As an exec, a compere, and chair…. No room for shyness. |
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"personality wise? Someone who fills the room with their persona and air of confidence and the centre of attention or a little more shy perhaps? From 1 to 10, where on the scale will you put yourself (0 - low confidence, 10- super confident). "
At work I’m definitely confident, with my patients I need to be more so. Any where else im just there in the back ground x |
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By *sWyldWoman 24 weeks ago
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It really depends on who I'm with and how comfortable I am. With my closest friends I'm a big character because we all get to be ourselves and it's wonderful.
At work I'm probably seen as outgoing and always make others feel free to be themselves etc which helps given what I do.
When it comes to meeting new people I can be a bit more reserved, mostly because I'm stuck in my head worrying about what they think of me.
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Probably a 4. I've got better with my confidence but wouldn't necessarily say it fills a room. I'm happy chatting to different people but that confidence is generally displayed in those little bubbles if that makes sense? |
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"When forced into social situations; I can muster a 4 at best.
In my natural state, I'm a pathological introvert, barely even registering 1."
I think in all ‘peopley’ situations there’s a bit of forcing yourself or raising your game and that’s the effort needed and it’s sort of an essential. I’d suffer a bit with nerves too but sometimes it’s getting through and if both people or everyone is at least making the effort then it can be okay and the nerves ease.
It’s when it gets awkward and there’s not that ease it’s a lot more difficult |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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"It really depends on who I'm with and how comfortable I am. With my closest friends I'm a big character because we all get to be ourselves and it's wonderful.
At work I'm probably seen as outgoing and always make others feel free to be themselves etc which helps given what I do.
When it comes to meeting new people I can be a bit more reserved, mostly because I'm stuck in my head worrying about what they think of me."
This for me too.
Meeting new people one on one I’m a little less shy than I am in a group. I tend to take a backseat and get a feel for everyone first. |
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By *hf85Man 24 weeks ago
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"Also sometimes I think the most wise people could take the limelight but choose not to."
Never a truer word spoken, many time we've all heard the loudest in the room with the least important thing to say  |
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I'm never the loudest person in a room, but I don't lack confidence and am pretty sociable. So somewhere in the middle.
Not wanting to insult anyone, but being loud doesn't always equal personality. |
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"When forced into social situations; I can muster a 4 at best.
In my natural state, I'm a pathological introvert, barely even registering 1.
I think in all ‘peopley’ situations there’s a bit of forcing yourself or raising your game and that’s the effort needed and it’s sort of an essential. I’d suffer a bit with nerves too but sometimes it’s getting through and if both people or everyone is at least making the effort then it can be okay and the nerves ease.
It’s when it gets awkward and there’s not that ease it’s a lot more difficult "
People also seem to think they're more interesting than they are. I've still not met anyone who can engage me like a celebrity on a panel show.
Most people are pretty bog-standard.  |
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I prefer to listen than talk so may appear shy and/or withdrawn. I don't need the spotlight on me all the time, I'm perfectly comfortable with just myself and don't like crowds. I am quietly confident though, happy in my skin but also quite sensitive to the vibe or atmosphere of the place. |
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"When forced into social situations; I can muster a 4 at best.
In my natural state, I'm a pathological introvert, barely even registering 1.
I think in all ‘peopley’ situations there’s a bit of forcing yourself or raising your game and that’s the effort needed and it’s sort of an essential. I’d suffer a bit with nerves too but sometimes it’s getting through and if both people or everyone is at least making the effort then it can be okay and the nerves ease.
It’s when it gets awkward and there’s not that ease it’s a lot more difficult
People also seem to think they're more interesting than they are. I've still not met anyone who can engage me like a celebrity on a panel show.
Most people are pretty bog-standard. "
We all have our stories and sometimes there’s interesting things, things in common or just the same fear of the new situation. It’s finding that common thing or at least getting toward it. |
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"When forced into social situations; I can muster a 4 at best.
In my natural state, I'm a pathological introvert, barely even registering 1.
I think in all ‘peopley’ situations there’s a bit of forcing yourself or raising your game and that’s the effort needed and it’s sort of an essential. I’d suffer a bit with nerves too but sometimes it’s getting through and if both people or everyone is at least making the effort then it can be okay and the nerves ease.
It’s when it gets awkward and there’s not that ease it’s a lot more difficult
People also seem to think they're more interesting than they are. I've still not met anyone who can engage me like a celebrity on a panel show.
Most people are pretty bog-standard.
We all have our stories and sometimes there’s interesting things, things in common or just the same fear of the new situation. It’s finding that common thing or at least getting toward it."
I've yet to find someone with a genuinely interesting story which doesn't involve them meeting someone infinitely more interesting than themselves. Haha |
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"I'm never the loudest person in a room, but I don't lack confidence and am pretty sociable. So somewhere in the middle.
Not wanting to insult anyone, but being loud doesn't always equal personality. "
A lot of people are definitely feeling called out though  |
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"I'm never the loudest person in a room, but I don't lack confidence and am pretty sociable. So somewhere in the middle.
Not wanting to insult anyone, but being loud doesn't always equal personality.
A lot of people are definitely feeling called out though "
We all know at least one...
Take a breath, Bob. |
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"When forced into social situations; I can muster a 4 at best.
In my natural state, I'm a pathological introvert, barely even registering 1.
I think in all ‘peopley’ situations there’s a bit of forcing yourself or raising your game and that’s the effort needed and it’s sort of an essential. I’d suffer a bit with nerves too but sometimes it’s getting through and if both people or everyone is at least making the effort then it can be okay and the nerves ease.
It’s when it gets awkward and there’s not that ease it’s a lot more difficult
People also seem to think they're more interesting than they are. I've still not met anyone who can engage me like a celebrity on a panel show.
Most people are pretty bog-standard.
We all have our stories and sometimes there’s interesting things, things in common or just the same fear of the new situation. It’s finding that common thing or at least getting toward it.
I've yet to find someone with a genuinely interesting story which doesn't involve them meeting someone infinitely more interesting than themselves. Haha"
And there’s me thinking I can be a cynic 
I guess I travel with hope and try at least and see where it goes. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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In a room of strangers, I can be anywhere from a 1-5 all the way to 10 depending on the reason I am there.
With a room of good friends I can be the same depending what mood someone has put me in. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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With lots of people, I'll be the one in the corner quietly watching and judging. Not because I'm shy, because I don't like people.
I really dislike those that feel they need to be loud and centre of attention. They are generally the most boring person in the room.
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"With lots of people, I'll be the one in the corner quietly watching and judging. Not because I'm shy, because I don't like people.
I really dislike those that feel they need to be loud and centre of attention. They are generally the most boring person in the room.
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Ditto.. |
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I don't think you can grade confidence on how someone fills the room.
For decades I had zero confidence but could still be the funny one around family and friends.
I'm not super confident now but I'm confident enough at times to be able to speak to a room full of people if I need to and confident enough to not speak to anyone if I don't want to.
My confidence scale isn't based on popularity or being the loudest in the room. It's a quiet confidence and allows me to avoid those who need or want the spotlight.
I've always thought that many of those are lacking in something and must always feel pressure to fill that persona they have created.
Robin Williams being a prime example. |
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"I don't think you can grade confidence on how someone fills the room.
For decades I had zero confidence but could still be the funny one around family and friends.
I'm not super confident now but I'm confident enough at times to be able to speak to a room full of people if I need to and confident enough to not speak to anyone if I don't want to.
My confidence scale isn't based on popularity or being the loudest in the room. It's a quiet confidence and allows me to avoid those who need or want the spotlight.
I've always thought that many of those are lacking in something and must always feel pressure to fill that persona they have created.
Robin Williams being a prime example. "
The last bit is a good point |
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Professionaly I have always been very confident but never overpowering. I am always keen and do my best to engage everyone, listen to what they have to say and how they can posively contribute. I am also a bit of a sponge trying to absorb as much as I can and therefore speak confidently from a point of knowledge.
Personally, within family and friends I am known to want people to have a good time, enjoy gatherings, meals and meeting them and will do whatever I can to support any of them if there is ever a need. Always the one they will come to if they ever need help or want to share something in confidence as I can be trusted to keep a secret. That can sometimes mean I take a lot on my own shoulders but you can't stand back and not help if someone needs you.
In new social situations, I prefer smaller gatherings so that everyone has the opportunity to get to know each other and nobody is left out. I can be a bit shy at first before I know and observe how others behave. Whilst I love to listen to others whether they share the same opinions with me or not, I don't like people who are rude, egotistical, loud and overwhelming in any situation. My own moral and standards do take over and sometimes can judge others based on that and will keep my distance if not aligned. I am compassionate and therefore if you are not so towards less fortunate then you are not someone I am keen to befriend or spend time with.
In larger groups, clubs, socials, I will politely engage but will not probably be the one to show interest first. My friends used to tell me that I never noticed people who have been trying to grab my attention across the room in a pub or a club or had even been flirting with me without. We don't always see what others see in us whether it is our personality or our looks or both that they like. For me it has never bern about looks alone when it comes to being attracted to someone. Personality and attitude play a big role. If we get passed that first bit, then I am all yours, so to speak.
Overall then I will probably say a 6. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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No one knows me to actually know if I lie bit like saying yes great persona fill the room but if we not met it is assumptions.
Does any persona on fab fill the forum..no.
I not seen any persona that is great in a decade on here op.
Op..you though are an exception  |
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"With lots of people, I'll be the one in the corner quietly watching and judging. Not because I'm shy, because I don't like people.
I really dislike those that feel they need to be loud and centre of attention. They are generally the most boring person in the room.
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I’ll admit that gives me the fear as I’ll try and get it keep a conversation going rather than sit back. Ideally, someone else is doing it rather than me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 24 weeks ago
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There's a certified I.Q. test online that if you can answer each of the questions they ask truthfully, it provides you with an answer on where we are for each of the categories incl. personality, etc.
I completed it and then it asked me to register my email address, etc. and asked me for a payment of £0.50 to obtain results from test.
We are who we are, since I can be all of the emotions dependent on company.
Definitely not wishing to be centre of attention unless in gang bang scenarios. |
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I don't have low or high confidence. Pubs, clubs, parties are pretty much a thing of the past but I've never really been one to chat to large groups of people, much prefer to keep things to a few where you can judge things a little easier - I'd say 4 or so as I'm no party starter. |
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"personality wise? Someone who fills the room with their persona and air of confidence and the centre of attention or a little more shy perhaps? From 1 to 10, where on the scale will you put yourself (0 - low confidence, 10- super confident). "
I would say I'm a 2 but, I present as a 4 or 5. Also depends on the room and situation.
Theatres/music venues, if I'm performing, I'm very confident and can command the room... anywhere else, not so much! |
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