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....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
if they are rude or arsey in their profile text, age range, when they want Hung only cos i am not, if they want 6 pack etc, photos that make me think they dont have good hygiene probably a lot more i cant think of atm |
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I hardly ever message anyone first, I tend to fab some of their phones and add them to my hotlist if I like them. I'm sure they would message me if interested.
If I do message someone first it's usually about their status |
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
Pretty much the same. Also if they are just completely negative in their profile text with a massive list of things they DON'T like, it just makes them sound arsey . I get that people probably get annoying messages but focusing on the negative just makes me think wow this person is gonna be hard work so won't bother |
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"If your not 6 foot you’ve got no chance , even been polite gets you no where. "
Can be polite as you like but preferences are there for a reason buddy, my fwb won't meet anyone below 5'9 because she doesn't want to tower over them |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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If we don't marry in terms of the likes and dislikes then it's unlikely I'll proceed any further.
In terms of you saying "out of my league", not at all since I believe nobody is out of anyone's league. I used to think like that before until a goddess took a fancy to me in 2016 and I to her; which is what got me into this mess (releasing the whore from within).
Just be yourself, be adventurous knowing nothing ventured nothing gained.
Enjoy and be lucky OP |
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That they might hate me for bothering them or wasting their time.
They'll hate me for even considering they might be interested in me.
What's the point it will just be lost amongst the other noise.
They won't answer or they'll say no and then the fantasy will be over.
They will reply but there's no chance we'll be able to arrange something before it peters out.
They're too far away.
Are among the million reasons my brain comes up with to press back instead of send. I really am shit at this
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Fab's highway code style CLUNK CLINK SAVES LIVES style message that's on the lines of ...
STOP! THINK! You are a tranny and they have not said they want to meet trannies! DON'T MESSAGE THEM. YOU'RE MORE LIKELY TO GET A REPLY FROM TRANNY SHAGGERS.
That makes me laugh as I've had more "straight" men, not looking for TV/TS who message me than hot dinners ...
But it does stop me messaging them. Their loss if they don't have the balls... |
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"That they might hate me for bothering them or wasting their time.
They'll hate me for even considering they might be interested in me.
What's the point it will just be lost amongst the other noise.
They won't answer or they'll say no and then the fantasy will be over.
They will reply but there's no chance we'll be able to arrange something before it peters out.
They're too far away.
Are among the million reasons my brain comes up with to press back instead of send. I really am shit at this
B"
Kinda similar. I love the social side, but I'm rubbish at the witty one liners as an opening message |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"Can’t be arsed 
This
The death of fab is nigh then  "
The message can be awesome, the sender can be hot. But if someone isn't in the mood, they aren't going to reply. |
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All of the above, OP. Though I don't tend to send (m)any speculative first messages.
And with friends it's often that I know they'll have lots of others to get through and I don't want to impose! "Why would they want to read this niff naff"?! |
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ummm i hardly get chance to look to message others first - but what stops me are those who are working their way through fab, those I feel are out my league. I would rather say something to a status someone has posted.
in return - i do try to answer all my messages, although that thanks for your message but its no thanks, relay of why responses is a bit tedious - |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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"If I think I’m out of their league yeah but also if their profile text is mad long and loads of be this be that.
I don't mind a long profile.....then you see the age limit  "
I’m usually checking age ranges. That’s another reason why I don’t message |
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Usually...
I'll read the lines.
I'll read between the lines.
I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.
If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.
If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.
If unread I'll send another message within a few days.
If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again. |
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"Usually...
I'll read the lines.
I'll read between the lines.
I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.
If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.
If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.
If unread I'll send another message within a few days.
If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again."
Hello boss, didn't know you were here.  |
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"Usually...
I'll read the lines.
I'll read between the lines.
I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.
If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.
If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.
If unread I'll send another message within a few days.
If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again."
Answered the OP's comment arse-upwards  (didn't read it well at all...the irony ).
So...if they don't intrigue me with lines/between lines/pics - I don't message. |
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"Usually...
I'll read the lines.
I'll read between the lines.
I'll look at the pics and see if they match both above.
If all that is interesting enough, I'll construct a tailored message - any convergence I see on our profiles.
If they've said something particularly noteworthy/unusual in their profile, I'll play with it in the subject line.
If unread I'll send another message within a few days.
If also unread, I'll delete, and occasionally block so I don't come across the profile and invest the time again.
Hello boss, didn't know you were here. "
Lol - I've given the safe space on one thread...that's enough . |
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I decided not to send any messages at all more than 4 years ago.
At the time we were in full lockdown and it was a bit pointless.
Since then I haven't resumed messaging because I'm content with my level of engagement here.
When I did send messages I was very specific in who I contacted so at most I sent one a month because there was a long list of things that would put me off saying hello due to how fussy I actually am. |
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
Sums up my fab journey really . |
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By *bi HaiveMan 37 weeks ago
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
Generally?
Because I'm too busy with work/life etc.
There's plenty in my hotlist/updates/the forums that I'm often tempted to ping a message to.
The problem is I often have next to no free time to meet and until I do I don't want to get too engaged with anyone new atm. I already have people I chat to, a partner I see when we can align diaries and enough normal life stuff to fill up around 20 hours a day.
Oh for a lottery win and endless free time..... |
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By *TG3Man 37 weeks ago
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
I never think anyones out of my league but i imagine lots of women think the guys out of their league but still go for it because they can |
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By (user no longer on site) 37 weeks ago
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Health issues. I'm quite often somewhat limited by my own health issues (over the last 4/5 years I've always had several operations coming up)
And my age, lots have a cutoff age of 45.
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
You READ profiles… sorry I’ll get back to you when I recover…  |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.
But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested. "
I’m adopting this mindset |
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If it's quite clear I'm not what they're looking for.
If after reading the profile I am, then I'll check out veris. If they have a string of meets and all thir meets have massive cocks then it will be a no.
Other than that, nothing. I don't believe in leagues, just message, nothing to lose |
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"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.
But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.
I’m adopting this mindset"
I’m not a good role model |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.
But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.
I’m adopting this mindset
I’m not a good role model "
I don’t look up to you in that way  |
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"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.
But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.
I’m adopting this mindset
I’m not a good role model
I don’t look up to you in that way "
Nobody looks up to me in any way…
#shortarse |
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By (user no longer on site) 36 weeks ago
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"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.
But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.
I’m adopting this mindset
I’m not a good role model
I don’t look up to you in that way
Nobody looks up to me in any way…
#shortarse"
I was thinking I’d be on …
Nvm. |
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
I'm too gorgeous |
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The fear is strong in this thread.
Oh, and I fucking hate Star Trek/Star Wars or whatever crap I just plagiarised that quote from.
If you meet their requirements and they haven't stated something that specifically excludes you in their bio then just...send the fucking message. At least "Unread/deleted" will only confirm what you thought you knew already. |
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"....decide to not send a message?
For me, there's two things - I read the profile, and I'm not for them ( age, size, race etc.); secondly, I think they're out of my league and I'm just wasting their time.
What about you? "
Yeah those are two of my reasons, other times because after chatting a bit they come across unnecessarily offish or a little hostile. I get previous experience etc can take its toll but not something the next person should be punished for, likewise for similar reason the person is pushy and demanding  |
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"I’m not sure if this makes me look massively arrogant or massively shy.
But I assume if they haven’t messaged me already that they’re not interested.
I’m adopting this mindset
I’m not a good role model
I don’t look up to you in that way
Nobody looks up to me in any way…
#shortarse"
#cutearse |
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