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By *adyBugs OP Woman 25 weeks ago
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Are you looking to date?
How are you looking for people to date? Online or in person social activities?
If you are online, what sites are you on? In the interest of science, Fab is included as a dating platform. |
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By *sWyldWoman 25 weeks ago
Edinburgh |
I want to date, all the fun parts of dating, but I really don't want a relationship anymore.
I'm also really trying to date myself too. Sounds silly but I'm tired waiting on others to do things I want to do.
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 25 weeks ago
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"I want to date, all the fun parts of dating, but I really don't want a relationship anymore.
I'm also really trying to date myself too. Sounds silly but I'm tired waiting on others to do things I want to do.
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This is not silly! I’m always taking myself on dates. I took myself to the opera in January. I fully endorse solo dating  |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Im here, POF and face book dating. Not successful so far.
Have soko date nights! They can be fun too! I'll take myself off to gigs, theatre and movies etc - no way am I stopping going out just because no one wants to join me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Im here, POF and face book dating. Not successful so far.
Have soko date nights! They can be fun too! I'll take myself off to gigs, theatre and movies etc - no way am I stopping going out just because no one wants to join me. "
*Solo date nights* |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Im here, POF and face book dating. Not successful so far.
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Dating apps are soul destroying
I tried Feeld .... some of the same guys as on here... "ethically non-monogamous" ... a bit like "fab single" |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Dating apps are soul destroying
I tried Feeld .... some of the same guys as on here... "ethically non-monogamous" ... a bit like "fab single" "
^ totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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I fancy dating and going out for a meal, cuddling up on the sofa type stuff but not a serious relationship.
I’m on Hinge and Badoo but I live in a small town with not a great deal of prospective dates unfortunately, a bit like Fab lol |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I joined feeld a few days ago, as I felt the times right
I've started chatting to someone, meeting up in a few days. He's ticking boxes. "
Hope it goes well |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I joined feeld a few days ago, as I felt the times right
I've started chatting to someone, meeting up in a few days. He's ticking boxes. "
Aww I hope it goes well! |
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I’d like to date and be monogamous to each other but don’t have to see each other everyday …. I’m on some sites as above mentioned but nothing where I’ve felt like he will be faithful 
Dilemma of being full time mum too doesn’t help !
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"I’d like to date and be monogamous to each other but don’t have to see each other everyday …. I’m on some sites as above mentioned but nothing where I’ve felt like he will be faithful
Dilemma of being full time mum too doesn’t help !
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Living appart together is the relationship you want
But takes a lot of trust |
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"Im here, POF and face book dating. Not successful so far.
Dating apps are soul destroying
I tried Feeld .... some of the same guys as on here... "ethically non-monogamous" ... a bit like "fab single" "
Agreed on this one! Would rather just stick to fab and clubs. |
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By *bi HaiveMan 25 weeks ago
Forum Mod Cheeseville, Somerset |
"I’d like to date and be monogamous to each other but don’t have to see each other everyday …. I’m on some sites as above mentioned but nothing where I’ve felt like he will be faithful
Dilemma of being full time mum too doesn’t help !
Living appart together is the relationship you want
But takes a lot of trust "
If you can find it - it definitely works.
I gave Feeld about a month. Came across several profiles of people on here and the rest looked identikit copies of eachother, full of photos of them walking hills and mountains and going to festivals.
There's no reason at all why you can't date via here and just as much chance of success/failure.
If someone is going to string you along or say what it takes to get you into bed, in all honestly it's as likely to happen on any dating site as it is on here. |
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I’ve tried a little bit of online dating, least here people are honest what they’re after… when on actual dating sites it’s not appealing getting cock pics on intro.
I’ve had the most success with the Facebook one, where it’s attached to their actual profile I feel (maybe wrongly) it’s likely to be a little more genuine. I’ve actually met some lovely people there and did have a year long relationship with someone I met from fb dating.
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Dating sucks a thousand bumholes lately. People have such high expectations and materialistic demands. I don’t want to do silly extravagant stuff with weirdos I don’t even know if I’m going to get along with - that comes later! Let’s just grab a drink and a chat ffs!
I’m such an old git lately  
*fetches my man slippers* |
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"I've given up on apps. Given up on here. I'm just old and unattractive. Meh it's cool not to waste my time anymore. I'll find a hobby. "
Wrong you are beautiful and I am sure many others in group would agree
Don’t give up
If I was closer I’d happily take you out for a meal |
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Had some success on Feeld in the past. I enjoy dating, I just rarely have the time. Even less time for a relationship, and I don't want anything too serious. Fab rarely hits the mark either though as I prefer something more than just sex, less than full time dating. |
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By *ira2024Woman 25 weeks ago
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"I want to date, all the fun parts of dating, but I really don't want a relationship anymore.
I'm also really trying to date myself too. Sounds silly but I'm tired waiting on others to do things I want to do.
This is not silly! I’m always taking myself on dates. I took myself to the opera in January. I fully endorse solo dating "
I love this!! Not silly at all I’m also trying to date myself when I get some free time from parenting |
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I like the idea of dating (cuddles, feeling wanted, sex at the drop of a hat) but I'm completely closed off to the idea of a relationship. I don't feel I could ever trust and depend on anyone again. Nor do I particularly want to. So I'll just keep being fat and sassy (and single) |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I like the idea of dating (cuddles, feeling wanted, sex at the drop of a hat) but I'm completely closed off to the idea of a relationship. I don't feel I could ever trust and depend on anyone again. Nor do I particularly want to. So I'll just keep being fat and sassy (and single) "
Defo not fat but sassy overload x |
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"I like the idea of dating (cuddles, feeling wanted, sex at the drop of a hat) but I'm completely closed off to the idea of a relationship. I don't feel I could ever trust and depend on anyone again. Nor do I particularly want to. So I'll just keep being fat and sassy (and single) "
It’s annoying that someone can make us not trust others. |
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By *nnCeeWoman 25 weeks ago
East of Eden, West of Hell |
"I like the idea of dating (cuddles, feeling wanted, sex at the drop of a hat) but I'm completely closed off to the idea of a relationship. I don't feel I could ever trust and depend on anyone again. Nor do I particularly want to. So I'll just keep being fat and sassy (and single) "
You are definitely not fat my darling, far from it xx |
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"I like the idea of dating (cuddles, feeling wanted, sex at the drop of a hat) but I'm completely closed off to the idea of a relationship. I don't feel I could ever trust and depend on anyone again. Nor do I particularly want to. So I'll just keep being fat and sassy (and single) "
You've a gorgeous figure xx |
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"I've given up on apps. Given up on here. I'm just old and unattractive. Meh it's cool not to waste my time anymore. I'll find a hobby.
Wrong you are beautiful and I am sure many others in group would agree
Don’t give up
If I was closer I’d happily take you out for a meal "
I'm a lot closer and I concur.
However, I would have to shave a lot off my age to comply.
I wish I could use the compliments I got at Silverleigh a few hours ago as testimonials! |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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I would be if the right person shows up. But I’m definitely not looking, 90 percent of profiles in apps are just an advertisement board to get you to pay.
And the rest seem so entitled with one word answers,….. getting blood from a stone!
^thats the negatives
I can’t force myself to want to be in a relationship, I tried a blind date when I was younger, we had a laugh, and that was it. I don’t want to meet a new girl every weekend trying someone on. I know the people I’d like to spend loads of time with, (hopefully forever) and that why I ask for a proper date. Otherwise, it’s just a hook up. Fb/Fwb Dating is different to me, there’s a lot on the line. |
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By *irthandgirthMan 25 weeks ago
Camberley occasionally doncaster |
When I was on dating apps I found my location went against me. I'm in a semi rural area, but just a few miles from London. So locally, with age limits, I was quite limited. If I pushed the net a little wider, I hit Heathrow, so lots of people transmitting through. At the same time I see many from inside the M25. From experience, ladies inside the M25 don't want to travel outside the M25 to date. |
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"Are you looking to date?
How are you looking for people to date? Online or in person social activities?
If you are online, what sites are you on? In the interest of science, Fab is included as a dating platform. "
I am open to dating if I meet a girl socially and we hit it off but not actively looking. Not huge on dating sites but gave tinder and bumble a go but quickly lost interest as it just seemed to be a lot of brief exchanges of messages that never went anywhere despite how good or laboured the chat was. I’d put it down to my technique but I think I’d be falsely taking credit for something that’s not mine to take the credit for. From other profiles on each of them and from chatting with others that use the apps it seems to be the same experience for most on there. Never really thought of fab as a dating site or approached chatting to a single woman with the view of anything potentially developing beyond becoming fwb in time. However if we both felt the same way about being more then just fwb in time then regardless of how or where we meet I’d be open to dating. My decision would be solely based on feelings for them and for me to be honest. They do say it happens when you least expect it lol. How about yourself? x |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"So feeld, is that a bit like here rather than regular dating apps?"
I believe Feeld originally launched itself as 'Thrinder' - tinder for threesomes but Tinder made them change their name. Theyre heavy on non-monogamy and kink. That said, I've found it a bit flaky. But I suppose thats all the apps. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Dating sucks a thousand bumholes lately. People have such high expectations and materialistic demands. I don’t want to do silly extravagant stuff with weirdos I don’t even know if I’m going to get along with - that comes later! Let’s just grab a drink and a chat ffs!
I’m such an old git lately
*fetches my man slippers*"
Totally agree. Grab a drink, a coffee or a nice walk to get to know someone.....dont need to do expensove things ..... I've got old lady slippers |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"I like the idea of dating (cuddles, feeling wanted, sex at the drop of a hat) but I'm completely closed off to the idea of a relationship. I don't feel I could ever trust and depend on anyone again. Nor do I particularly want to. So I'll just keep being fat and sassy (and single) "
I completely understand where you are coming from. If people don't realise what a fabulous amazing woman you are it's their loss. I won't lower my standards or let people overstep my boundaries or nit meet my.needs in pursuit of a relationship.... would rather be happily single. |
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I want all the best bits of dating but I don’t want a relationship! Does that make sense?
Been single for four years and I love my own company and not having to answer to anyone. Having said that I love to have dinner, go to gigs, theatre, walks etc etc with a tall, tattooed, bearded man preferably!! |
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I don’t want relationship anymore so I’m not on any dating apps or not actively looking elsewhere.
The breadcrumbs I got from Fab need to be the best I can get, given my current circumstances and time constraints. |
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"Meant to say… hate dating sites. Full of fakes. Not like fab!!
Yes, the fakes here are much better
Oh I'm totally fake  "
That’s true, but anyone who sends me pictures of naked norks, I’ll forgive them being fake  |
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"I like the idea of dating (cuddles, feeling wanted, sex at the drop of a hat) but I'm completely closed off to the idea of a relationship. I don't feel I could ever trust and depend on anyone again. Nor do I particularly want to. So I'll just keep being fat and sassy (and single)
I completely understand where you are coming from. If people don't realise what a fabulous amazing woman you are it's their loss. I won't lower my standards or let people overstep my boundaries or nit meet my.needs in pursuit of a relationship.... would rather be happily single. "
Exactly, life's for living and I refuse to waste anymore of it on dead end relationships wouldn't rule out FWB though |
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"Meant to say… hate dating sites. Full of fakes. Not like fab!!
Yes, the fakes here are much better
Oh I'm totally fake
That’s true, but anyone who sends me pictures of naked norks, I’ll forgive them being fake "
I currently have one vert sore misshapen boob.. so they shall be hidden for now |
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By *sWyldWoman 25 weeks ago
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Having been on and off many dating apps over the years I've come to the conclusion I'm fuckabke but not dateable.
I used to be quite sad about that but now I realise it actually removes the pressure.
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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As a poly person yes I am often looking to date. Not always though. When I am I use Hinge, Feeld, OkC and I’m open to meeting people from fab but only if they’re not monogamous. |
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I would love to date and build towards a relationship. I am on a swiping site but I have only had one social a couple of years ago. Life got too busy to give it my full attention, but as things are quietening down, now would be good timing for some interest. The same goes for here. |
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I can drive any one 20 miles of Solihull or Stratford upon Avon wants some company or meal or bowling etc let me know
Maybe it will just be fun
Maybe something will come of it but all open to just having nice company and time |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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I'm the minority here as I'm quite a young lad, but I'd definitely be up for dating and seeing where things go with a woman I connect well with. I've just come off all the online dating sites I was on as I've realised how awful they actually are. I'm neurodivergent, so yes that does in some ways make interactions as a whole somewhat more of a challenge to navigate, but I think dating in person even with the way I function and added anxiety of that, still my preference now more than ever. |
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"Been on loads of dating sites over the years. Feeld was pretty good.
I'm Neurodivergent which adds its own level of "fun" to dating. I just get to a point where I feel doomed."
Love the jazzy dress on 5 March |
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"...Shame fab doesn't have a dating function on the site."
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They do. Or rather, adopt one! Offer them afternoon tea, or a côcktail & câke, served with an old-age recipe of charm and a zest of beguilement. They will be putty in your arms, dear fellow.  |
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"I miss the Matchmaker threads that _ong-leggedblond used to do.
Those ·sometimes· lead to an actual social/date, or an ever-lasting acquaintanceship. "
Maybe I will do one for the May bank holiday. |
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A friend of mine had started using dating sites (Tinder and Bumble). She said she gets inundated with dick pics, and many of these are on 1st contacts too. She was pretty shocked, not having been in the dating game for 10+ years. |
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"I miss the Matchmaker threads that _ong-leggedblond used to do.
Those ·sometimes· lead to an actual social/date, or an ever-lasting acquaintanceship.
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Maybe I will do one for the May bank holiday. "
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Yes please. You have been far too remiss in this department. Make it so.  |
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I've found that PoF is a good site for no strings nookie as long as you make it clear that is your mission.
The main reason that people of the opposite (or same) sex are on dating sites is to find sex easily. On quite a few occasions I have had first date sex on PoF when an attraction is obvious and it has normally led to more.
This site is a different story. A lot enjoy the forum chit chat and never meet and a lot use the site to communicate safely with people they have initially met at clubs and may not feel that involved enough to share phone numbers.
My preference on PoF is to offer my phone number early on and not go chasing those who don't follow up the offer. That makes for a simple life with a good success ratio. They can usually tell from my voice that I am a sexy sod with a big cock. |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I’ve come off most conventional dating apps, but still on feeld and tinder, hit me up ladies haha ah.
Remaining open to connections of any/all kinds though. Realised I wanted to experience more than just vanilla sex/ generic small talk.
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"I want to date, all the fun parts of dating, but I really don't want a relationship anymore.
I'm also really trying to date myself too. Sounds silly but I'm tired waiting on others to do things I want to do.
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Not silly at all.
My husband was working away so I took a flight to Gibraltar for a long weekend alone.
It was brilliant, met a single lady in hotel who travels the world visiting casinos, she took me along and showed me the joys of blackjack.
Go for it. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
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Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt"
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
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By *r SxxMan 23 weeks ago
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I tend to go through phases really!
Ultimately I do want to yeah, I use all the apps, fab, fet.
But I've had some naff experiences which knocked my confidence, so I come off them, go on, then come back off. Been tough!
We shall see how it goes!..... |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
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ok so you wont mind that she puts her children first over you (which is understanable), probably have to deal with the real childs father and probably expect you to have some responsibility with the child without the authority? |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
ok so you wont mind that she puts her children first over you (which is understanable), probably have to deal with the real childs father and probably expect you to have some responsibility with the child without the authority? "
If I was looking for a relationship (which I’m not) I would be looking for a man who actually won’t mind and I would want to see him rise to the challenge because he wanted to, as should the grown up responsible, emotionally mature person do, not a selfish man child only thinking about himself. |
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I would, not up for casual sex anymore, but I’m having a hard time at the moment so not actively looking.
I still have accounts in some alternative dating apps, but not the most attractive person either, so not much luck |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
ok so you wont mind that she puts her children first over you (which is understanable), probably have to deal with the real childs father and probably expect you to have some responsibility with the child without the authority?
If I was looking for a relationship (which I’m not) I would be looking for a man who actually won’t mind and I would want to see him rise to the challenge because he wanted to, as should the grown up responsible, emotionally mature person do, not a selfish man child only thinking about himself."
well thats your opinion but this is the facts, I will only be taking care and raising kids that I bring to the world not somebody elses |
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By *adyBugs OP Woman 23 weeks ago
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"I tend to go through phases really!
Ultimately I do want to yeah, I use all the apps, fab, fet.
But I've had some naff experiences which knocked my confidence, so I come off them, go on, then come back off. Been tough!
We shall see how it goes!....."
If your dating app profiles are similar to your one on here (minus the naughty pics obvs) then I’m sure you’ll have luck finding someone to share your life with, you seem quite interesting. Good luck  |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
ok so you wont mind that she puts her children first over you (which is understanable), probably have to deal with the real childs father and probably expect you to have some responsibility with the child without the authority?
If I was looking for a relationship (which I’m not) I would be looking for a man who actually won’t mind and I would want to see him rise to the challenge because he wanted to, as should the grown up responsible, emotionally mature person do, not a selfish man child only thinking about himself."
When my child was young, I made a conscious decision not to date as I didn't want another man involved in their life.
I can understand men not wanting to properly date someone with children- I don't think it means he's selfish |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
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Women on dating sites going on (in their profile) about their grand children are bad enough.
Save me from their first generation issue! |
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Am using a couple of apps currently - totally soul destroying as people just seem to match and never wanna chat, or even meet up.
What i find most surprising, is that so many ladies dont wish to do a video call prior to meeting when i suggest it. Surely a video call should help to confirm that the other person is who they say they are and that they look like their pics and arent a catfish - or am i missing something? |
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By *r SxxMan 23 weeks ago
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"I tend to go through phases really!
Ultimately I do want to yeah, I use all the apps, fab, fet.
But I've had some naff experiences which knocked my confidence, so I come off them, go on, then come back off. Been tough!
We shall see how it goes!.....
If your dating app profiles are similar to your one on here (minus the naughty pics obvs) then I’m sure you’ll have luck finding someone to share your life with, you seem quite interesting. Good luck "
Thank you very much! That's really kind of you to say xx |
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What i find most surprising, is that so many ladies dont wish to do a video call prior to meeting when i suggest it. Surely a video call should help to confirm that the other person is who they say they are and that they look like their pics and arent a catfish - or am i missing something?"
I wouldn't know how to do a video call. I only ever use talk or text messaging. If they are into much more than that the chances are that they are more interested in gazing at their phone all day than anything much else in life.
In order to prove who I am, I simply turn up for the date. With a bit of luck it usually turns out to be 'a hole in one' if we click.
If it doesn't work out that way, you are probably selecting the wrong people. |
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"I want to date, all the fun parts of dating, but I really don't want a relationship anymore.
I'm also really trying to date myself too. Sounds silly but I'm tired waiting on others to do things I want to do.
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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In all honesty, not looking to date and leaving it to chance. If I meet someone truly wonderful then gr8 and if I don't then it's still all good.
Content and happy in life. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt"
Of course I would
If father is present I wouldn’t over step the line
But if the dad wasn’t present then I would gladly step up if I was asked but only if I was asked |
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By (user no longer on site) 23 weeks ago
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I'm finally at a place where I'm open to date but not actively looking on any platforms. If it happens naturally then great but if not, I'm okay with that too. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
ok so you wont mind that she puts her children first over you (which is understanable), probably have to deal with the real childs father and probably expect you to have some responsibility with the child without the authority? "
No issue at all
A woman who puts her kids first and makes her priorities known is a woman with good morals,
It also means that if that mother let you in,
Then It really means something and genuine
I know what it’s like not having a dad growing up
If the guy respects the mother and the child as if it’s his own that kid will grow up seeing a man treat a woman the way they should be treated |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
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Actually yes. It’s a thing for me to concider.
It’s not an issue on the person at all. They’re obviously attractive and that’s why am already talking to them for example.
But, for me to consider an actual dating situation where I might be invested with the idea of a future together long-term, I have to consider that child, and I’m talking about a young child, who you might form a bond with over time.
Because if in the future that relationship ends because it did grow into something, not only do you leave a woman, you are leaving a child, and they might think of you as a father figure, and you just all of a sudden disappear out of their life.
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"I'm finally at a place where I'm open to date but not actively looking on any platforms. If it happens naturally then great but if not, I'm okay with that too."
Sometimes the best way
Meet up for drinks
Make friends and if it happens it happens
Best way is to be truely your self.
If people don’t like you for you, that’s fine
We all need to learn to find the one for us,
Not for us to try and become the right one for someone |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do"
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
ok so you wont mind that she puts her children first over you (which is understanable), probably have to deal with the real childs father and probably expect you to have some responsibility with the child without the authority?
No issue at all
A woman who puts her kids first and makes her priorities known is a woman with good morals,
It also means that if that mother let you in,
Then It really means something and genuine
I know what it’s like not having a dad growing up
If the guy respects the mother and the child as if it’s his own that kid will grow up seeing a man treat a woman the way they should be treated"
Ok thats one way of looking at it but what if you and the woman broke up and you had a bond with the child, by definition you won't any parental right to see that child because your not their father biologically |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness."
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If anyone is serious about dating and finding someone serious then you need to be on hinge, it’s the platform with the most serious candidates and you can see who’s actually looking for something real. if you’re looking to date for a FWB or anything less than a relationship then platforms like POF and tinder make sense. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt
I'm not looking to date but why is someone having a kid an issue?
Maybe I should of been more specific, I have sex with a single mother yes but in terms of having a relationshop with one I wouldnt
Can't say I've ever seen it as an issue.
ok so you wont mind that she puts her children first over you (which is understanable), probably have to deal with the real childs father and probably expect you to have some responsibility with the child without the authority?
No issue at all
A woman who puts her kids first and makes her priorities known is a woman with good morals,
It also means that if that mother let you in,
Then It really means something and genuine
I know what it’s like not having a dad growing up
If the guy respects the mother and the child as if it’s his own that kid will grow up seeing a man treat a woman the way they should be treated Ok thats one way of looking at it but what if you and the woman broke up and you had a bond with the child, by definition you won't any parental right to see that child because your not their father biologically"
Yh I do get what your coming from,
But from experience, date knowing there is a kid involved with out actualy getting introduced to that kid
If after 6 months things going well and the guy can cope seeing the woman around the child ( some woman have split custody) then when she things she has a good guy and you both communicate and feel you are both in a good happy and stable place that is likely to last, , then and only then do you get introduced to the child
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. In what way is not dating a single parent attention seeking and neediness? "
Refusing to get involved with someone because they've got commitments that don't involve you. Not something like addiction or criminal records which might make them more volatile as a person and bring you into peril, but a positive thing.
I don't have children, but I'd avoid anyone who doesn't want to date single mothers, because I want to know that the person I'm getting involved with recognises that I have other priorities and commitments. I'm not his mum. He needs to stand with himself and strengthen me, not drag me down - and I'll do the same in return.
This other person could be a perfect 15/10 in any and every other respect of what I'm looking for in a relationship, but anyone over... I dunno, 25? who's willing to rule out single parents is a hard no from me. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. In what way is not dating a single parent attention seeking and neediness?
Refusing to get involved with someone because they've got commitments that don't involve you. Not something like addiction or criminal records which might make them more volatile as a person and bring you into peril, but a positive thing.
I don't have children, but I'd avoid anyone who doesn't want to date single mothers, because I want to know that the person I'm getting involved with recognises that I have other priorities and commitments. I'm not his mum. He needs to stand with himself and strengthen me, not drag me down - and I'll do the same in return.
This other person could be a perfect 15/10 in any and every other respect of what I'm looking for in a relationship, but anyone over... I dunno, 25? who's willing to rule out single parents is a hard no from me."
ok let me flip this would you date a single dad? And if so why? |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. In what way is not dating a single parent attention seeking and neediness?
Refusing to get involved with someone because they've got commitments that don't involve you. Not something like addiction or criminal records which might make them more volatile as a person and bring you into peril, but a positive thing.
I don't have children, but I'd avoid anyone who doesn't want to date single mothers, because I want to know that the person I'm getting involved with recognises that I have other priorities and commitments. I'm not his mum. He needs to stand with himself and strengthen me, not drag me down - and I'll do the same in return.
This other person could be a perfect 15/10 in any and every other respect of what I'm looking for in a relationship, but anyone over... I dunno, 25? who's willing to rule out single parents is a hard no from me. ok let me flip this would you date a single dad? And if so why?"
Yes. I would. I'd also date a single mum.
I'd date them for the reasons I'd date anyone else, with all of my other criteria.
I recognise at the ripe old age of 38, many people my age have had children. It's a fairly normal thing to do. Excluding people for doing something relatively normal (that is constructive in society etc) seems insane to me. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. In what way is not dating a single parent attention seeking and neediness?
Refusing to get involved with someone because they've got commitments that don't involve you. Not something like addiction or criminal records which might make them more volatile as a person and bring you into peril, but a positive thing.
I don't have children, but I'd avoid anyone who doesn't want to date single mothers, because I want to know that the person I'm getting involved with recognises that I have other priorities and commitments. I'm not his mum. He needs to stand with himself and strengthen me, not drag me down - and I'll do the same in return.
This other person could be a perfect 15/10 in any and every other respect of what I'm looking for in a relationship, but anyone over... I dunno, 25? who's willing to rule out single parents is a hard no from me. ok let me flip this would you date a single dad? And if so why?
Yes. I would. I'd also date a single mum.
I'd date them for the reasons I'd date anyone else, with all of my other criteria.
I recognise at the ripe old age of 38, many people my age have had children. It's a fairly normal thing to do. Excluding people for doing something relatively normal (that is constructive in society etc) seems insane to me."
Ok but wouldnt you agree that dating a single parent isnt easy compared to someone without kids? I mean fair enough if you want to date single parents then go for it but as dating is hard already Im not going for the choice thats more complicated |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. In what way is not dating a single parent attention seeking and neediness?
Refusing to get involved with someone because they've got commitments that don't involve you. Not something like addiction or criminal records which might make them more volatile as a person and bring you into peril, but a positive thing.
I don't have children, but I'd avoid anyone who doesn't want to date single mothers, because I want to know that the person I'm getting involved with recognises that I have other priorities and commitments. I'm not his mum. He needs to stand with himself and strengthen me, not drag me down - and I'll do the same in return.
This other person could be a perfect 15/10 in any and every other respect of what I'm looking for in a relationship, but anyone over... I dunno, 25? who's willing to rule out single parents is a hard no from me. ok let me flip this would you date a single dad? And if so why?
Yes. I would. I'd also date a single mum.
I'd date them for the reasons I'd date anyone else, with all of my other criteria.
I recognise at the ripe old age of 38, many people my age have had children. It's a fairly normal thing to do. Excluding people for doing something relatively normal (that is constructive in society etc) seems insane to me. Ok but wouldnt you agree that dating a single parent isnt easy compared to someone without kids? I mean fair enough if you want to date single parents then go for it but as dating is hard already Im not going for the choice thats more complicated "
Nothing worthwhile is easy
Yes some may get lucky
But someone willing to show time effort and not just want all time to self is a good time of character
Someone who respects boundaries
My dad broke up with one of his ex becusse she wanted to spend time with her kids
In the end it was the kids that forced the mum to split with my dad
I said to him he is stupid
If you can’t learn to love the baggage then she never deserved your love |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. In what way is not dating a single parent attention seeking and neediness?
Refusing to get involved with someone because they've got commitments that don't involve you. Not something like addiction or criminal records which might make them more volatile as a person and bring you into peril, but a positive thing.
I don't have children, but I'd avoid anyone who doesn't want to date single mothers, because I want to know that the person I'm getting involved with recognises that I have other priorities and commitments. I'm not his mum. He needs to stand with himself and strengthen me, not drag me down - and I'll do the same in return.
This other person could be a perfect 15/10 in any and every other respect of what I'm looking for in a relationship, but anyone over... I dunno, 25? who's willing to rule out single parents is a hard no from me. ok let me flip this would you date a single dad? And if so why?
Yes. I would. I'd also date a single mum.
I'd date them for the reasons I'd date anyone else, with all of my other criteria.
I recognise at the ripe old age of 38, many people my age have had children. It's a fairly normal thing to do. Excluding people for doing something relatively normal (that is constructive in society etc) seems insane to me. Ok but wouldnt you agree that dating a single parent isnt easy compared to someone without kids? I mean fair enough if you want to date single parents then go for it but as dating is hard already Im not going for the choice thats more complicated "
Of course it's more complicated.
But dating anyone in my age bracket is complicated. Lives, careers, aging parents, etc. Nephews and nieces and keeping up with friends.
Someone who rules out single parents is someone who doesn't want to deal with the reality of the complexities of life, and wants to make it more about them than is realistic.
You're welcome to seek that. I'm welcome to see that as an unattractive, deal breaking trait. |
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"Would any of you men date single mothers? I wouldnt yeah man. I’m not fussy. I just want sex. Any hole will do
I'm not that fussy, but I won't date someone who wouldn't date single parents. Smacks of attention seeking and neediness. In what way is not dating a single parent attention seeking and neediness?
Refusing to get involved with someone because they've got commitments that don't involve you. Not something like addiction or criminal records which might make them more volatile as a person and bring you into peril, but a positive thing.
I don't have children, but I'd avoid anyone who doesn't want to date single mothers, because I want to know that the person I'm getting involved with recognises that I have other priorities and commitments. I'm not his mum. He needs to stand with himself and strengthen me, not drag me down - and I'll do the same in return.
This other person could be a perfect 15/10 in any and every other respect of what I'm looking for in a relationship, but anyone over... I dunno, 25? who's willing to rule out single parents is a hard no from me. ok let me flip this would you date a single dad? And if so why?
Yes. I would. I'd also date a single mum.
I'd date them for the reasons I'd date anyone else, with all of my other criteria.
I recognise at the ripe old age of 38, many people my age have had children. It's a fairly normal thing to do. Excluding people for doing something relatively normal (that is constructive in society etc) seems insane to me. Ok but wouldnt you agree that dating a single parent isnt easy compared to someone without kids? I mean fair enough if you want to date single parents then go for it but as dating is hard already Im not going for the choice thats more complicated
Nothing worthwhile is easy
Yes some may get lucky
But someone willing to show time effort and not just want all time to self is a good time of character
Someone who respects boundaries
My dad broke up with one of his ex becusse she wanted to spend time with her kids
In the end it was the kids that forced the mum to split with my dad
I said to him he is stupid
If you can’t learn to love the baggage then she never deserved your love "
Thats why I said dating is not easy in general . im just saying Im not going for the most complicated option and nobody is shaming me for that but hold tight to everyone who do date single parents |
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