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Without naming anyone, because that may end in tears a bit, how many Forum/FABbers would you say are in your circle of trust. I'm going with 3 in my "tight circle", and around another dozen who are close enough to kiss that tight circle quite frequently (ooohh err...kiss my tight circle baby!).
Bonus - I'm disappearing for a couple of hours now, so I can't sabotage ANYTHING you say (until I'm back...obvs  ). |
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By *sWyldWoman 25 weeks ago
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I'm not sure I have one. I've met some wonderful people and some I've been intimate with to the point I share things about real life with them, would chat with them and trust them not to judge etc. However I also know the nature of this site, relationships /situationships/even friendships can be fleeting and only last so long as you're currently in favour. That's part of the deal of being here.
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"I'm not sure I have one. I've met some wonderful people and some I've been intimate with to the point I share things about real life with them, would chat with them and trust them not to judge etc. However I also know the nature of this site, relationships /situationships/even friendships can be fleeting and only last so long as you're currently in favour. That's part of the deal of being here.
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I am singing this too. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Trust is a big word. I do t mean this in anyway against anyone I have met or talk to. But my trust has been broken, and the only way I’d give that to do one again would be if a friendship was built that was more deeper than the surface stuff from fab.
I have spoken to friends here who I’ve shared personal stuff, but to trust fully is a whole different ball Game. And I thought I had established that once/twice.
Trust comes with allsorts combined. Confidence/loyalty/consistency/faith, I don’t have that here in fab at the moment, not to say it doesn’t exist and I might come across it again.  |
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"Trust is a big word. I do t mean this in anyway against anyone I have met or talk to. But my trust has been broken, and the only way I’d give that to do one again would be if a friendship was built that was more deeper than the surface stuff from fab.
I have spoken to friends here who I’ve shared personal stuff, but to trust fully is a whole different ball Game. And I thought I had established that once/twice.
Trust comes with allsorts combined. Confidence/loyalty/consistency/faith, I don’t have that here in fab at the moment, not to say it doesn’t exist and I might come across it again. "
I like that reply! I was trying to think how to word something similar. On here the usual circles are more often associated with gossip rather than true reliable, dependable friendships which have leverage and consequence if broken because they are incorporated in our offline daily lives  |
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"What does a circle of trust involve? They only people who've seen our faces are those we've met. Nobody knows all that much about us. "
That is a remarkably good question, and I don't think I have a succinct answer.
So I'll evade it for now  . |
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"Trust is a big word. I do t mean this in anyway against anyone I have met or talk to. But my trust has been broken, and the only way I’d give that to do one again would be if a friendship was built that was more deeper than the surface stuff from fab.
I have spoken to friends here who I’ve shared personal stuff, but to trust fully is a whole different ball Game. And I thought I had established that once/twice.
Trust comes with allsorts combined. Confidence/loyalty/consistency/faith, I don’t have that here in fab at the moment, not to say it doesn’t exist and I might come across it again. "
I have trusted people on here before and stupidly believed that because I was their friend and supported them through difficult times that they might reciprocate.
Unfortunately, having a great fab profile doesn't make you a decent human and those difficult times were an illusion and my trust was abused and my personal info shared with others.
I have 2 very close friends that I trust fully who are no longer on the site but we met through here.
My best and closest friend is still here and I trust her with all of me and she does likewise. |
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By *eliWoman 25 weeks ago
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Four. Four friendships from Fab that transcend Fab and mean an awful lot to me. That doesn't mean we're in each other's pockets, heck, we sometimes won't message each other for weeks. It takes a loooong time for me to fully trust someone. Even longer to fully open up to them.
But I love them. Even the shovel handed one. They're there for me and vice versa. I'd happily drop everything if needed for them. There's the consistency in actions, the direct communication, the easy joy I feel even when sitting in silence with them.
I'm not going to go on about them too much. |
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"I trust those that I've slept with.
I trust MORE those that I'm platonic with."
You do have the capacity to sometimes say very little and provide an absolute gem within it.
Much more than the sum of its parts this one   . |
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"Trust is a big word. I do t mean this in anyway against anyone I have met or talk to. But my trust has been broken, and the only way I’d give that to do one again would be if a friendship was built that was more deeper than the surface stuff from fab.
I have spoken to friends here who I’ve shared personal stuff, but to trust fully is a whole different ball Game. And I thought I had established that once/twice.
Trust comes with allsorts combined. Confidence/loyalty/consistency/faith, I don’t have that here in fab at the moment, not to say it doesn’t exist and I might come across it again.
I have trusted people on here before and stupidly believed that because I was their friend and supported them through difficult times that they might reciprocate.
Unfortunately, having a great fab profile doesn't make you a decent human and those difficult times were an illusion and my trust was abused and my personal info shared with others.
I have 2 very close friends that I trust fully who are no longer on the site but we met through here.
My best and closest friend is still here and I trust her with all of me and she does likewise. "
That's very honest, real, hints of sadness, and good self-protection. |
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"Trust is a big word. I do t mean this in anyway against anyone I have met or talk to. But my trust has been broken, and the only way I’d give that to do one again would be if a friendship was built that was more deeper than the surface stuff from fab.
I have spoken to friends here who I’ve shared personal stuff, but to trust fully is a whole different ball Game. And I thought I had established that once/twice.
Trust comes with allsorts combined. Confidence/loyalty/consistency/faith, I don’t have that here in fab at the moment, not to say it doesn’t exist and I might come across it again. "
Thanks Woody - another well considered contribution.
Thanks to all of you, and any to come.
I won't clog it up with replies to everyone - but I've read everyone's comments xx. |
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Erm… a few.
I’ve got two romantic partners that know me very well indeed. A few friends that I trust to be friends in both life and fab.
I think it’s a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy, if you don’t trust people then you won’t find people to trust, if you’re unwilling to invest yourself in your relationships then they won’t go further than face value.
Ultimately you get out what you put in and if you won’t/don’t/can’t trust people then your relationships will be less for it |
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"Without naming anyone, because that may end in tears a bit, how many Forum/FABbers would you say are in your circle of trust. I'm going with 3 in my "tight circle", and around another dozen who are close enough to kiss that tight circle quite frequently (ooohh err...kiss my tight circle baby!).
Bonus - I'm disappearing for a couple of hours now, so I can't sabotage ANYTHING you say (until I'm back...obvs )."
I trust everyone with the comments I make on here.
I don't trust some of those with questionable values not to talk behind backs.
I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
Would I trust anyone here with my real feelings, gossip, emotions , finances, personal details, favourite type of lettuce ?
NO nada nothing no one.
There are a handful - a small handful - that come across mature and trustworthy enough but I come here for other things.
I sincerely hope that is an answer
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None.
At one point there was one man I completely trusted with absolutely everything. I've realised now that he was full of shit and saying the same thing to all the other women he was chatting and meeting with.
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"None.
At one point there was one man I completely trusted with absolutely everything. I've realised now that he was full of shit and saying the same thing to all the other women he was chatting and meeting with."
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Fåir måiden you've had the rest, now try the best.  |
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"None.
At one point there was one man I completely trusted with absolutely everything. I've realised now that he was full of shit and saying the same thing to all the other women he was chatting and meeting with.
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This exactly. I've been in the exact same situation x |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Trust is something that is built. All I say is keep your trust to your chest. Do not allow anyone to betray you/use you for personal gain or ego."
Trust your gut instinct |
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Thanks again everyone.
A very wide range of within FAB/outside FAB of "Good trust, mild trust, little trust, no trust, and "I don't expect or need trust"" expressed here.
I'll probably get back to knob-cheese jokes now (I'm sure there's one involving Pi if I squint enough), but fill your boots with or without me here. |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
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I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr "
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution  .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me! |
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I would say a couple of people who I definitely trust enough to go to with any issues or worries I have who I know won't judge and who I can speak openly to. They're lovely to have and I like to think they could feel the same about me |
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"None.
At one point there was one man I completely trusted with absolutely everything. I've realised now that he was full of shit and saying the same thing to all the other women he was chatting and meeting with.
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Awww lemony butter boobs lady
Fancy a bum?   |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Oh none.
I'm under no illusion guys message me and befriend me just to try and have sex with me. It isn't anything more.
This lady is smart!"
Yes I am friend Willy. |
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"Oh none.
I'm under no illusion guys message me and befriend me just to try and have sex with me. It isn't anything more.
This lady is smart!
Yes I am friend Willy.
BFF "
You know this might be a completely fucked up way of thinking.
But you can trust people you have sex with. … |
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"Oh none.
I'm under no illusion guys message me and befriend me just to try and have sex with me. It isn't anything more.
This lady is smart!
Yes I am friend Willy.
BFF
You know this might be a completely fucked up way of thinking.
But you can trust people you have sex with. … "
Trust them to have sex with, yes.
Anything else, no.
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"Oh none.
I'm under no illusion guys message me and befriend me just to try and have sex with me. It isn't anything more.
This lady is smart!
Yes I am friend Willy.
BFF
You know this might be a completely fucked up way of thinking.
But you can trust people you have sex with. …
Trust them to have sex with, yes.
Anything else, no.
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I think that’s why people tend to lean more towards hook ups online. You know exactly what you get and expect. Maybe, what do I know? |
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Such an interesting question - trust is a challenging topic for me, rooted back in my childhood!
I think maybe just two in my inner fab circle and maybe two in my wider fab circle
I also realise that some friendships are not always what they seem, and so they get filed i the 'i like you, but i know not to trust' you bucket. Is this even making sense   |
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"Do imaginary friends count ? to be sure "
As a matter of fact I've just had a discussion on "trust" with my own imaginary friends.
So yes - they do very much count.
Especially the green humanoid ones with 3 tits and swishy tails who love a bit of Nicky anal in their lives . |
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"I don't trust anyone as such but on here i have a few that i can talk to, not trust because trust is sacred "
Fred - I trust you this way. I know that when you would eventually let me down, I'd still have a massive smile on my face and be thankful for everything that went before.
I'd probably even enjoy the letdown itself on a couple of levels . |
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"Oh none.
I'm under no illusion guys message me and befriend me just to try and have sex with me. It isn't anything more.
This lady is smart!
Yes I am friend Willy.
BFF
You know this might be a completely fucked up way of thinking.
But you can trust people you have sex with. …
Trust them to have sex with, yes.
Anything else, no.
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Exactly this. Trust comes in many levels. Trust is built in time, in person. Not over the Internet IMO |
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By *lder.Woman 25 weeks ago
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There are 3 people Ive trusted enough to know everything about my life, and share time with over about the 7 years Ive been here. 2 of those connections have faded but they will always be dear to me. Funny to think there are people out there, where you know everything about their lives and thoughts and desires and such, but you know longer really talk. |
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By *lder.Woman 25 weeks ago
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"There are 3 people Ive trusted enough to know everything about my life, and share time with over about the 7 years Ive been here. 2 of those connections have faded but they will always be dear to me. Funny to think there are people out there, where you know everything about their lives and thoughts and desires and such, but you know longer really talk. "
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"There are 3 people Ive trusted enough to know everything about my life, and share time with over about the 7 years Ive been here. 2 of those connections have faded but they will always be dear to me. Funny to think there are people out there, where you know everything about their lives and thoughts and desires and such, but you know longer really talk. "
It is definitely an odd thing. Does it have a tinge of wistful sadness, but also a good enough and strong enough memory which is "good, tasty" enough in their absence? It sounds like it does because they're still "dear to you".
Mine are mostly (overwhelmingly, probably) in that bracket - which is fortunate and helpful. I'm talking overall life, not just FAB.
Conversely, broken trusts where the person is no longer approachable can be life-damaging for decades (and other broken trusts overlay more pain on that still-open wound).
And, just to square that circle, untrustworthy people who won't disappear are probably even worse.
(I've "disappeared" them all myself, apart from one. But she's old and mad so I can fake it rather than "disappear" her and add to her woes). |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr "
What interested you about it ?
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
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Hang on - just getting the popcorn . |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
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The reasoning behind, why you added about your own integrity! Not disclosing what others have disclosed to you. |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me! "
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others"
Nice try Granny - but I'm not the show, I'm in the audience for your show that may be just about ready to start xx |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
The reasoning behind, why you added about your own integrity! Not disclosing what others have disclosed to you. "
The thread was about being trustworthy. I see no reason to not mention that i'm as tight as a ducks arse and tend to dislike gossip and tedium though I will listen and never repeat.
What is your reasoning behind it making you feel uncomfortable and indicating that it made my contribution less valuable ? |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others"
Baby gems. they’re just the perfect size for sandwiches or ceaser salads. |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others
Baby gems. they’re just the perfect size for sandwiches or ceaser salads. "
I like little gem but Romaine all the way for texture flavour and nutrition and now I have gone and said what my favourite lettuce is and I feel open and vulnerable |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others
Baby gems. they’re just the perfect size for sandwiches or ceaser salads. "
And kinky-bum-food stuff Woody . |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
The reasoning behind, why you added about your own integrity! Not disclosing what others have disclosed to you.
The thread was about being trustworthy. I see no reason to not mention that i'm as tight as a ducks arse and tend to dislike gossip and tedium though I will listen and never repeat.
What is your reasoning behind it making you feel uncomfortable and indicating that it made my contribution less valuable ?"
I didn't mention feeling uncomfortable, that is a big assumption to make. Now your doing my thinking and feeling for me, which you can not do.
The thread is about trusting others, not if we're trustworthy, there is a big difference between the two in my view. |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others
Baby gems. they’re just the perfect size for sandwiches or ceaser salads.
I like little gem but Romaine all the way for texture flavour and nutrition and now I have gone and said what my favourite lettuce is and I feel open and vulnerable"
Iceberg gets a bad rap. Nobody like iceberg and that the OG. |
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By *lder.Woman 25 weeks ago
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others
Baby gems. they’re just the perfect size for sandwiches or ceaser salads.
I like little gem but Romaine all the way for texture flavour and nutrition and now I have gone and said what my favourite lettuce is and I feel open and vulnerable"
Everyone here just shaking their lettuce. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"My circle is very small ha!
Probs 4 at the most that's about it
You will probably now get many messages from FABmen offering to, ahem, "make your circle bigger"..
Good luck!
x
Haha "
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
The reasoning behind, why you added about your own integrity! Not disclosing what others have disclosed to you.
The thread was about being trustworthy. I see no reason to not mention that i'm as tight as a ducks arse and tend to dislike gossip and tedium though I will listen and never repeat.
What is your reasoning behind it making you feel uncomfortable and indicating that it made my contribution less valuable ?
I didn't mention feeling uncomfortable, that is a big assumption to make. Now your doing my thinking and feeling for me, which you can not do.
The thread is about trusting others, not if we're trustworthy, there is a big difference between the two in my view."
You make me smile.
As you can't or won't give me your reasoning. I won't press for it. |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others
Baby gems. they’re just the perfect size for sandwiches or ceaser salads.
I like little gem but Romaine all the way for texture flavour and nutrition and now I have gone and said what my favourite lettuce is and I feel open and vulnerable
Everyone here just shaking their lettuce. "
Lettuce Trust. Worst Prime Minister ever? Discuss....
(PS - have you got your popcorn yet? I think Granny might give us a good show soon. She might not...bit too canny to fall for my tricks that one ) |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
Oh come on. Granny wouldn't even tell us her favourite lettuce.
It wasn't that valuable a contribution .
Mine's Iceberg, shredded in a baguette. Some other fillings...but you're not getting those out of me!
You have let yourself down. It should always be romaine - they are more nutritious than others
Baby gems. they’re just the perfect size for sandwiches or ceaser salads.
I like little gem but Romaine all the way for texture flavour and nutrition and now I have gone and said what my favourite lettuce is and I feel open and vulnerable
Everyone here just shaking their lettuce.
Lettuce Trust. Worst Prime Minister ever? Discuss....
(PS - have you got your popcorn yet? I think Granny might give us a good show soon. She might not...bit too canny to fall for my tricks that one )"
It's lettuce Truss.....
Show ? as in let you see my seed beds ? |
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
The reasoning behind, why you added about your own integrity! Not disclosing what others have disclosed to you.
The thread was about being trustworthy. I see no reason to not mention that i'm as tight as a ducks arse and tend to dislike gossip and tedium though I will listen and never repeat.
What is your reasoning behind it making you feel uncomfortable and indicating that it made my contribution less valuable ?
I didn't mention feeling uncomfortable, that is a big assumption to make. Now your doing my thinking and feeling for me, which you can not do.
The thread is about trusting others, not if we're trustworthy, there is a big difference between the two in my view.
You make me smile.
As you can't or won't give me your reasoning. I won't press for it. "
I find what you said, to have polarities to it, that's what made me curious about it. On hand it you said about trusting others, then bought in your levels of integrity...
With some reflection, what made me curious was my identification with what you said about people trusting you, and never repeating that, as I listen to many people's deepest and darkest, what they tell me will go to my grave with me.
So the curiosity wasn't a bad thing, it was one bourne out of resonance is all....
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
The reasoning behind, why you added about your own integrity! Not disclosing what others have disclosed to you.
The thread was about being trustworthy. I see no reason to not mention that i'm as tight as a ducks arse and tend to dislike gossip and tedium though I will listen and never repeat.
What is your reasoning behind it making you feel uncomfortable and indicating that it made my contribution less valuable ?
I didn't mention feeling uncomfortable, that is a big assumption to make. Now your doing my thinking and feeling for me, which you can not do.
The thread is about trusting others, not if we're trustworthy, there is a big difference between the two in my view.
You make me smile.
As you can't or won't give me your reasoning. I won't press for it.
I find what you said, to have polarities to it, that's what made me curious about it. On hand it you said about trusting others, then bought in your levels of integrity...
With some reflection, what made me curious was my identification with what you said about people trusting you, and never repeating that, as I listen to many people's deepest and darkest, what they tell me will go to my grave with me.
So the curiosity wasn't a bad thing, it was one bourne out of resonance is all....
Mr "
Thank you. That is crystal. BUT...... you said it made my contribution less valuable. You haven't explained WHY it does.. and let's face it , it does to you , from your perspective and way of thinking. From my perspective it enhances a dialogue on trust
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I can honestly say that the very many people who confide in me have never had those words repeated to anyone by me.
I do find it intreasting as to why needed to add this little section, to what was otherwise a really valuable contribution....
Mr
What interested you about it ?
The reasoning behind, why you added about your own integrity! Not disclosing what others have disclosed to you.
The thread was about being trustworthy. I see no reason to not mention that i'm as tight as a ducks arse and tend to dislike gossip and tedium though I will listen and never repeat.
What is your reasoning behind it making you feel uncomfortable and indicating that it made my contribution less valuable ?
I didn't mention feeling uncomfortable, that is a big assumption to make. Now your doing my thinking and feeling for me, which you can not do.
The thread is about trusting others, not if we're trustworthy, there is a big difference between the two in my view.
You make me smile.
As you can't or won't give me your reasoning. I won't press for it.
I find what you said, to have polarities to it, that's what made me curious about it. On hand it you said about trusting others, then bought in your levels of integrity...
With some reflection, what made me curious was my identification with what you said about people trusting you, and never repeating that, as I listen to many people's deepest and darkest, what they tell me will go to my grave with me.
So the curiosity wasn't a bad thing, it was one bourne out of resonance is all....
Mr
Thank you. That is crystal. BUT...... you said it made my contribution less valuable. You haven't explained WHY it does.. and let's face it , it does to you , from your perspective and way of thinking. From my perspective it enhances a dialogue on trust
The End ..... of everything "
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"I don't trust anyone as such but on here i have a few that i can talk to, not trust because trust is sacred
Fred - I trust you this way. I know that when you would eventually let me down, I'd still have a massive smile on my face and be thankful for everything that went before.
I'd probably even enjoy the letdown itself on a couple of levels ."
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"I don't trust anyone as such but on here i have a few that i can talk to, not trust because trust is sacred
Fred - I trust you this way. I know that when you would eventually let me down, I'd still have a massive smile on my face and be thankful for everything that went before.
I'd probably even enjoy the letdown itself on a couple of levels .Trust me I'm a friend for life to some even the ones that use that chemical cleaner that takes the glue off "
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