"Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason? "
In short, no. There would have to be an exceptional reason from my partner for me to stop seeing my bestie.
Then again, I don't really have one best friend, if I'm being honest, so that's probably why that question has never been posed to me. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex) "
Did he actually ask you to stop seeing him..??
Jealousy..??
Controlling..?? |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Wouldn't stop seeing any of my friends because my partner didn't like them , it's your friend doesn't need to be his friend too ..
also sounds like gaslighting to me , alienating someone by trying to taint their view on friends or family is the first step in trying to control someone . Major red flag ! X |
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I did she cut me off isolated me..controled me and drove me to a nervous break down! So please just remember it's not just men who can be narcissistic control freaks.
The worst thing is despite being my ex and all that happening 14 years ago, because of my kids she still has contact and as I discovered can still trigger me even now..
So beware every body please?? |
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I don't have a bestie & my partners would never ask me to stop seeing friends. I wouldn’t partner up with someone so possessive.
If they had an issues with someone we’d talk about it. If a friend disrespected a partner or crossed any lines they would apologise properly and then I’d have to see if we can be friends still |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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If there was not a valid and justifiable reason then absolutely not. If a partner is slowly working through you cutting off friends, soon it would be family and you would be left with no one. Sign of a controlling and possessive person. But there again if a friend or family member was toxic and the partner was looking out for your welfare that is a little different  |
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By *eliWoman 25 weeks ago
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Don't have a "bestie" but...
No I wouldn't. I've dated people before who have said "oh they're only friends with you because they want to fuck you" and I thought it was really weird and rather shitty to say that.
I've never thought that about any of their friends so wasn't sure why anyone would.
Anyway, no. I like my friends an awful lot. Trust them in a very big way. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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My best friend is my wife so buggered if she wants me to stop seeing her haha.
Your partner was shouldnt even ask to you to stop seeing your best friend that’s the issue. |
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No, my ex partner didn't like my best friend it never stopped me & big occasions I'd split it one with her the next with him it was awkward but worked - I was so relieved she came to my graduation with me & he didn't  it was an awesome night & wouldn't have been if the company was the other way.
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By *929Man 25 weeks ago
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No my ex found reason to hate practically everyone I ever associated with for one reason or another, she began to hate one of my closest friends that I grew up with over a ridiculously small thing me and him were out for a few drinks on an afternoon and had called back at my house and she had been making dinner and he snatched a Yorkshire puddiding off the tray and ate it and that was it she hated him for rest of time we were together |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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Unless there was an absolute valid reason for terminating or avoiding the best friend then no, you should never drop your best friend(s). It's often a big red flag that they want to isolate you from friends and family and other people who can see the problem xx |
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"Unless there was an absolute valid reason for terminating or avoiding the best friend then no, you should never drop your best friend(s). It's often a big red flag that they want to isolate you from friends and family and other people who can see the problem xx"
this. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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"Of you partner is creating questions like that, or your having to think of stuff like that, you shouldn’t be together. *just my opinion.
A relationship should be easy, and you should be on the same page. "
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 25 weeks ago
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"Would you stop seeing your best friend if your partner didn't like them for whatever reason?
Yes. Your partner comes first. "
Of course, my partner was my best friend, so it was moot. |
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By *avinaTVTV/TS 25 weeks ago
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Wow, my knee-jerk reaction (based on my own relationship - I trusted my wife implicitly) puts me in a minority of one.  I would have done anything for her, and she for me.
I realise that not every relationship is like that, so I'll modify my answer to - it depends on the relationship and the circumstances.  |
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My bestie has been bestie since I can remember, any woman who tried to come between us frankly would not last long with me. But tbh the partners I've had are not threatened by him, the quality of the bestie is also a thing. Good bestie will not interfere or cause issues in your relationship.
I kinda feel for op where bestie is someone of the opposite sex. A lot of insecure men (unlike me) would be threatened by that. It's about the factors that led them to be insecure, not the bestie per se. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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I had besties but they moved on.
If I was seeing anyone and they told me not to see my friends I be showing them a door
Now go,walk out the door,I will survive.. |
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You should see your best mate(s)
If prevented in doing so, could this is it deemed as “ controlling “ which in my view is not a healthy thing for any relationship.
It’s a fair trade off ? See your mate  |
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"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)
Did he actually ask you to stop seeing him..??
Jealousy..??
Controlling..??"
Yes, he asked me not to see him anymore |
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"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)
Did you fuck best friend?"
We did, once, years before I met the ex husband but we decided we would be better of as friends rather than anything else. |
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"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)
Did he actually ask you to stop seeing him..??
Jealousy..??
Controlling..??
Yes, he asked me not to see him anymore "
The reddest of red flags
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"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)
Did you fuck best friend?
We did, once, years before I met the ex husband but we decided we would be better of as friends rather than anything else."
I understand the dilemma, frankly I am also seeing someone she doesn't like the fact that I have female friends. But it's not her decision whom I see or don't see. It's a red flag that the relationship is not on an even keel if he's placing conditions on who you see. I personally wouldn't tolerate such a difficult person, because even if you obey him, he'll find something else to complain about. It never ends. |
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"My best friend is male, met him when I was 16......my ex husband hated him being my friend (hence ex)
Did you fuck best friend?
We did, once, years before I met the ex husband but we decided we would be better of as friends rather than anything else.
I understand the dilemma, frankly I am also seeing someone she doesn't like the fact that I have female friends. But it's not her decision whom I see or don't see. It's a red flag that the relationship is not on an even keel if he's placing conditions on who you see. I personally wouldn't tolerate such a difficult person, because even if you obey him, he'll find something else to complain about. It never ends."
This isn't an ongoing situation....this was years ago when I was married. |
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By (user no longer on site) 25 weeks ago
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I think it’s a discussion and reassurance situation. Nobody needs to dump anyone, best friend or partner. Just talk it through
Folks don’t talk enough. Life isn’t usually so black and white…  |
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